Any other women hate having periods

kshama2001 wrote: »

soulofgrace wrote: »

Machka9 wrote: »

kshama2001 wrote: »

emmooney235 wrote: »

So much hate!! My husband and I have no desire at all for kids. We don't hate them, but we certainly don't like them either. I have medical issues that make child bearing almost impossible, I'm also on blood thiners. Trust me, you don't want to know what that's lik! My GYN won't back a permanent solution because we are "too young", I'm in my 30's and at this point I don't see either if us magically wanting children. She did prescribe mirena (LOVE IT!) I'm not completely period free but it's better than it ever has been before.

Has your husband talked to his doctor about getting a vasectomy? Maybe he would be taken more seriously >.<

What would a permanent solution for you look like - a hysterectomy? That's a far bigger deal than a vasectomy so I can see where your GYN is coming from.

They don't like to do hysterectomies anymore. Back in my mother's day, they were done quite regularly, but not now.

That all depends on the doctor, in my experience. Kshama was saying that it's a bigger deal than a vasectmy, which it is. I had what looked like on ultrasound to be a fairly large polyp. Surgical gyno was all over using his new surgical toy to yank my uterus, and made it sound like " all the women are doing it." Damned if he wasn't disappointed when I only consented to the exploratory camera thingy. Turns out it was a shadow or something. He even seemed disappointed that I wouldn't let him cut out a fibroid. Nope. Could be cancer in there and it could have spread. Women just need to do homework on what is best and not completely depend on the advice of one doctor.

Ya, my new GYN and my last GYN both recommended a hysterectomy to remove my fibroid (which is too big for the less drastic methods.) I'm 49 and am trying to hold out for the lower estrogen levels menopause will bring to reduce it naturally.

I need to see your Drs!

I was there, pen in hand, ready to sign up to have mine removed ... but nope. They don't do that here unless it is a real life or death situation.

Anyway, I'm 48 and my GYN decided that a natural menopause will (hopefully) solve everything. He figures another 2-3 years ... maybe longer.

Jesusjohnjames wrote: »

God gave you your period for a reason I don't think it's unnecessary

There are a lot of women on this thread who don't want children... for them, it IS unnecessary.

After a decade of being in extreme pain for 10+ days/month, after being done with childbirth, and after trying every other medical and nonmedical intervention to relieve the monthly pain, I had a partial hysterectomy. Best. Decision. Ever.

emmooney235 wrote: »

Machka9 wrote: »

emmooney235 wrote: »

So much hate!! My husband and I have no desire at all for kids. We don't hate them, but we certainly don't like them either. I have medical issues that make child bearing almost impossible, I'm also on blood thiners. Trust me, you don't want to know what that's lik!

I do know what that's like ... I went onto Warfarin in August 2009 after developing DVT and was on it for a year. In that time I also discovered that the same genetic mutation that causes me to form blood clots also makes it next to impossible for me to have a child. That explains a few things from my younger days.

But what the Warfarin did for my periods was to shorten them to the most astoundingly intense 2-3 days ... and then they were done. It was amazing! I didn't much like those 2-3 days, but loved that it was over and done in such a short time. Oh, and no cramping either ... just Niagara Falls.

Of course, the whole blood clot thing means no hormone replacement therapy (i.e. birth control pills) ever again.

I'm a "super clotter" so Warfarin for life. My periods became 7 days of pure hell! Niagara Falls with the most intense cramps I've ever had! I also can only take Tylenol for pain control. I was seriously changing feminine products every 30-45 minutes, even having to set my alarm for same time frame for the over night hours. I almost called an ambulance one day at work because I thought I was bleeding out at my desk. It was so bad I was starting to think I might have to rock the adult diapers so that I had the coverage I needed. I suffered through work because, well, who can take a week off every month?

As for the permanent solution, I begged for anything that could make it stop! I didn't care how "extreme" the solution was, I just wanted to be able to live a normal life. I can't take anything orally or inject-able that has hormones because if the clotting problem. I have to watch the amount of greens I have, including green and/or herbal teas. So if the Minrena hadn't worked I would have been out of luck. And a vasectomy fixes the no kids thing, but not my awful periods.

If I didn't work from home, I might take the hysterectomy for my own Niagra Falls. I'm (barely) managing nights with the European OB Ultra, which is bigger than the North American Ultra.

I just learned last month that the Mirena would have been an option for me when my fibroid was smaller, but it is too big now >.<

I find it creepy that men are reading this thread, let alone commenting on it. What's with that?

I hate it because it's sooooooo inconvenient. It's like "hey babe, you now how I said later tonight we... yeah, no. Sorry!"

I would be totally fine losing mine forever. Ruins my good panties every time and sometimes it comes 2x a month. So much money on tampons and the cramps.....OMG.

This fall I started a birth control pills that I only get my period every three months... so four times a year. I HATE my doctor for not telling me about it earlier. It has been awesome!!!

emmooney235 wrote: »

Machka9 wrote: »

emmooney235 wrote: »

So much hate!! My husband and I have no desire at all for kids. We don't hate them, but we certainly don't like them either. I have medical issues that make child bearing almost impossible, I'm also on blood thiners. Trust me, you don't want to know what that's lik!

I do know what that's like ... I went onto Warfarin in August 2009 after developing DVT and was on it for a year. In that time I also discovered that the same genetic mutation that causes me to form blood clots also makes it next to impossible for me to have a child. That explains a few things from my younger days.

But what the Warfarin did for my periods was to shorten them to the most astoundingly intense 2-3 days ... and then they were done. It was amazing! I didn't much like those 2-3 days, but loved that it was over and done in such a short time. Oh, and no cramping either ... just Niagara Falls.

Of course, the whole blood clot thing means no hormone replacement therapy (i.e. birth control pills) ever again.

I'm a "super clotter" so Warfarin for life. My periods became 7 days of pure hell! Niagara Falls with the most intense cramps I've ever had! I also can only take Tylenol for pain control. I was seriously changing feminine products every 30-45 minutes, even having to set my alarm for same time frame for the over night hours. I almost called an ambulance one day at work because I thought I was bleeding out at my desk. It was so bad I was starting to think I might have to rock the adult diapers so that I had the coverage I needed. I suffered through work because, well, who can take a week off every month?

As for the permanent solution, I begged for anything that could make it stop! I didn't care how "extreme" the solution was, I just wanted to be able to live a normal life. I can't take anything orally or inject-able that has hormones because if the clotting problem. I have to watch the amount of greens I have, including green and/or herbal teas. So if the Minrena hadn't worked I would have been out of luck. And a vasectomy fixes the no kids thing, but not my awful periods.

Sorry to hear you went through all that! But glad you found a solution.

When I was on warfarin, I had to be careful about the greens too. I could eat all the chocolate I wanted, but I really had to watch the broccoli intake.

I've been told I'll likely have to go on it again at some point, but hopefully not soon. Meanwhile, I have to do Clexane injections every time I travel, and that seems to trigger a heavy period in the first week or so of my trip, and again when I return home.

emmooney235 wrote: »

So much hate!! My husband and I have no desire at all for kids. We don't hate them, but we certainly don't like them either. I have medical issues that make child bearing almost impossible, I'm also on blood thiners. Trust me, you don't want to know what that's lik! My GYN won't back a permanent solution because we are "too young", I'm in my 30's and at this point I don't see either if us magically wanting children. She did prescribe mirena (LOVE IT!) I'm not completely period free but it's better than it ever has been before.

You need to tell your OB/GYN in no uncertain terms it is not her decision to make, a referral is expected if she cannot maintain professional objectivity over ridiculous personal hangups, and fired if she refuses.

Well, a person can dream anyways. (:

So very tired of reading about physicians refusing to sterilize women over irrational fear of an imaginary malpractice suit that has never once actually happened. Or simply being arrogant enough to think they know better than their patients what the patients really want. Ugh. Much Gross. /:

ValerieMartini2Olives wrote: »

Alatariel75 wrote: »

kshama2001 wrote: »

emmooney235 wrote: »

So much hate!! My husband and I have no desire at all for kids. We don't hate them, but we certainly don't like them either. I have medical issues that make child bearing almost impossible, I'm also on blood thiners. Trust me, you don't want to know what that's lik! My GYN won't back a permanent solution because we are "too young", I'm in my 30's and at this point I don't see either if us magically wanting children. She did prescribe mirena (LOVE IT!) I'm not completely period free but it's better than it ever has been before.

Has your husband talked to his doctor about getting a vasectomy? Maybe he would be taken more seriously >.<

What would a permanent solution for you look like - a hysterectomy? That's a far bigger deal than a vasectomy so I can see where your GYN is coming from.

They wouldn't do a hysterectomy as a birth control measure (and I read permanent solution as a birth control one, not a period one), or even as an optional thing, it would need to be medically necessary.

I had my tubes tied after only 1 child at 28 years old. I had to BEG my doctor for it. After my kid was born, up to 11 months post partum, my periods were unbelievable. I would soak through a super plus tampon in 20 minutes. I went back to my ob/gyn to see what my options were. I tried to get him to give me a hysterectomy. His response was "No doctor in their right mind would do a hysterectomy on a woman under 30 in good health. It is a very invasive procedure."

I had a procedure called a D&C in 2009 to lighten my period. 11 months post partum I got a 2nd procedure called a D&C with hysteroscopy and endometrial ablation. This can only be done for women who are done having children but I get little to no period now. If I so get one, it's really just pink water that comes out and only need to wear a panty liner. Best thing I ever did.

Was the heavy bleeding related to having given birth so has since resolved?

Oh boy, for those who just hate their period, wait for perimenopause to start....

lorrpb wrote: »

I find it creepy that men are reading this thread, let alone commenting on it. What's with that?

Sadly, men are often more aware of what's going on than women are.

I'm floored by the number of women who come in here asking questions like, "I seem to gain weight just before my period starts ... does anyone else experience this?" and "I seem to get really hungry just before my period starts ... does anyone else experience this?". It's like they've just discovered they are a woman.

I am well aware of all these thing and have been since I was a little girl, even before I started my periods, because thankfully my mother took the time to teach me. But my husband can usually tell me the exact date on which my next period will start. Not 4 weeks out or anything because it's anybody's guess at that point, but usually about 3 or 4 days before I start, he'll say something like, "You're due to start your period on Saturday" or whatever. I've asked him how he knows, and apparently it is things like ... my mood changes a little bit, my little pooch becomes a bit rounder, I look a little puffier, I want to eat a little bit more ... you know, the whole gaining weight and feeling hungrier thing.

So if he, a man, knows ... and other men here know ... how is it so many women don't know their own bodies and cycles?

Machka9 wrote: »

lorrpb wrote: »

I find it creepy that men are reading this thread, let alone commenting on it. What's with that?

I'm floored by the number of women who come in here asking questions like, "I seem to gain weight just before my period starts ... does anyone else experience this?" and "I seem to get really hungry just before my period starts ... does anyone else experience this?". It's like they've just discovered they are a woman.

I have wondered this so many times.

lorrpb wrote: »

I find it creepy that men are reading this thread, let alone commenting on it. What's with that?

Why? It is a natural thing that happens to our bodies. Men have every right to read and comment and some can offer a lot of information on the subject.