Friend requests without messages: Creepy or nah?
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I like then better with a small msg..0
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I am really torn on this. I prefer FR with messages but only if they are creepy. The creepier the better.0
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risingstar89 wrote: »Do you ever receive friend requests without messages? Well one user requested in their bio that no one send them a friend request without a message because it is "creepy". At first I didn't get it and I thought it was just that person, but I've seen others saying the same thing. I would like to start a discussion about this because I am curious to see what people think. Some questions to consider: Do you think it's creepy to receive a request without a message? Why or why not? Do you send friend requests with messages? Why or why not? Lets converse.
Most of the requests I get are without messages...I don't find it creepy, but I generally don't accept them either because they obviously didn't bother to read my profile.0 -
Do you ever receive friend requests without messages? Yes, more often than not.
Do you send friend requests with messages? Always so they know how I found them and tell them a little about me always stating to accept or decline as they see fit based on the info I give them.
Do you think it's creepy to receive a request without a message? Creepy – no. I think many newer folks don’t think too much about it.
I had it listed in my profile for a long while. However, it requires people to look at your profile to be beneficial. I now list it in my “Your Page Title” in hopes that someone will actually see it.
Some cases it works, some cases it doesn’t. In cases where I don’t receive a message, I do a quick search to ensure I’m not acquiring a creep or a friend collector.
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I think we overall put a lot of fences demanding others pay their dues to have to right to be our friends.
I personally like it better when we are more open, friendly and accepting (as in accepting FRs)
There's a "remove friend" button and I don't think they charge to use it.
I accept all requests with or without message and if it doesn't work some people may get removed.
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Not creepy but I do ask people to tell me a little about themselves as I don't want to be 'collected' I will accept without a message if we have friends in common - I am more selective now - I spend time actively supporting and have no time for people who never both to interact, what's the point?0
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I accept everyone...... then delete. we are all special and unique in our own way. no judging.0
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I've been here for almost three years, so I've gotten picky about who I have as friends. I don't want to have a list of friends I know nothing about since I talk about personal and family anecdotes on my wall. I have a great group of friends here now. I don't want to be collected by someone for their massive friend collection. If a person can't be bothered to put a few words down about why they're friending me or saying something about themselves, why should I accept the FR? I don't go up to random people in real life and try to silently make them my friend. The best are those who send blank FR and have a locked private profile. LOL!
I've found that people who send blank FR and also have a blank wall description of themselves aren't as active here or as supportive as people who take the time to fill out their profile.0 -
Jacwhite22 wrote: »I am really torn on this. I prefer FR with messages but only if they are creepy. The creepier the better.
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It doesn't bother me; this isn't really like fb where you might know the people from work, school, etc. It is nice, though, to add friends with common goals for mutual support and encouragement. That being said, I'm a 50ish working wife, mom & grandma wanting to lose about 20lb. If you're similar, friend me...I don't mind!0
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Nah...ain't nobody got time for that!0
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I expect a message with a FR.... But I'm the douche that sends FR with no message... And at least I can admit it0
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I tried sending messages and do not hear back. Discouraging.
Sending messages feels awkward.0 -
lawandfitness wrote: »I expect a message with a FR.... But I'm the douche that sends FR with no message... And at least I can admit it
I don't know about this, I liked the message you sent me
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lawandfitness wrote: »I expect a message with a FR.... But I'm the douche that sends FR with no message... And at least I can admit it
I don't know about this, I liked the message you sent me
Lol shhhhhh... Don't go telling all my secrets ️lmao0 -
All the time. But I accept everyone. I delete them if I see no usage for a month.
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Do I ask that people send a message with their FR? Yep.
I won't add some rando that I have never interacted with in forums or seen on friends' walls. Why? Because I post personal things here. I like to know that my friends are like-minded - that we actually have something in common other than the fact we both work out. If I'm inviting someone into my personal space, I don't want it to be some stranger that can't even bother to say so much as "hello".0 -
I use the app so don't get to see the person's actual about me and all of that. I usually add everyone who sends a request - message or not. After a few days/weeks, If they seem annoying or just don't get along etc then I'll unfriend. No big deal. I just look at it as having more space for those people who actually interact, log, and are serious about getting rid of the weight or gaining/bulking.0
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When sending a friend request, I either send it with a message or I have just messaged on their forum topic saying I will send one. In that case I don't add a message cuz I already warned the person it was coming, LOL.
When receiving it, I view it the same way. Other times I see a request but I recognize the name through someone else or from the forum where I recently posted. I can usually sense a creeper, lol. So far I can't say I have really received any creepy ones, I usually just check out their profile and see they are similar age or something to me.
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Here's a fun story. There used to be a certain user here who grossed me out in every way and he knew my disdain for him. I got a request from someone with a little note that seemed okay and accepted. Turns out to be this guy using a different account. Therefore, I barely accept anyone unless I've seen you on around on my other friends' walls or in the forums giving non-derp advice. Note, no note, doesn't matter.0
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I always send a message and I generally will accept any FR; that said, I prefer a message or some indication on why I was sought out. I've been burned a couple of times by automatically accepting a blank request, but I've also gotten to be fairly interactive with a couple of FPs that started out that way.
However, I WILL occasionally go through my FL and purge people that don't log in regularly, or don't interact at least a little, or won't seek treatment for eating disorders, or continually whine about their situation while ignoring the advice they've been given.
TL;DR - Less 'no' up front, more 'no' on the back end.0 -
I accept all the requests I get. With or without message.
What I find odd, annoying, is the fact that you add here for support and they never comment/like any of your posts, nor send you a message..
So what for then?0 -
This is helpful - was not aware that no message might be a breach of etiquette. I'll be sure to add messages to FRs from now on.
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I accept .. It doesn't matter if I get a message or not .. Although I do enjoy a good conversation .. I get along with pretty much anyone0
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Not creepy, just rude
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I'm not fussed to be honest. There are many people who may not know what to write initially and thats fine by me. However if there comes a point where I'm not receiving any motivation or encouragement then maybe i'll get rid
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I usually look to see if i have a mutual friend and if i have then i usually accept them. Sometimes i think people are just friend collectors and are not very supportive so i usually decline then, esp if they do not include a message.0
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Most of my mfp buddies didn't send a message with their friend request... what I personally don't accept are requests from persons without a pic, I add most persons however if u are not supportive I won’t hesitate to delete.0
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risingstar89 wrote: »Do you ever receive friend requests without messages? Well one user requested in their bio that no one send them a friend request without a message because it is "creepy". At first I didn't get it and I thought it was just that person, but I've seen others saying the same thing. I would like to start a discussion about this because I am curious to see what people think. Some questions to consider: Do you think it's creepy to receive a request without a message? Why or why not? Do you send friend requests with messages? Why or why not? Lets converse.
I don't mind but like to converse after accepting one. If not it's no fun
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