What do you look for in a person? (dating, etc)

myssjaxson
myssjaxson Posts: 89 Member
edited November 28 in Chit-Chat
So for fun, what're you into? What are your preferences? Be picky, be loose, whatever. Either realistic or not, what's ideal? What's okay? Cosmetic and/or personality-wise.

Think it'd be fun to discuss. One thing everyone on MFP knows is everyone is different ;)
«1

Replies

  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,024 Member
    edited January 2016
    Age appropriate.
    Doesn't live with parents.
    Employed.
    Has a car.
    Never been in jail.
    Doesn't drink a lot.
    Doesn't smoke.
    Smart.
    Funny.
    Cultured.
    Positive.
    Bonus: has a child.

    Those are the big ones for me.
  • __Wolf__
    __Wolf__ Posts: 137 Member
    - Takes care of herself
    - Smart
    - Has aspirations beyond just a relationship
  • michellemundi
    michellemundi Posts: 1,223 Member
    Loyalty
  • ThatFatAsianNerd
    ThatFatAsianNerd Posts: 1,415 Member
    edited January 2016
    Goal-oriented, low-key, down-to-Earth, and great with kids. Nothing makes me want to get up and leave more than "I hate kids" type of comments.
  • firead
    firead Posts: 56 Member
    My biggest thing is honesty. I can work with a lot of stuff in a relationship, but I can't handle being lied to. A good sense of humor, or at least can appreciate my sometimes twisted/off-kilter sense of humor & personality. Has things in life he's passionate about and/or goals he's actively working towards reaching. Has a sense of adventure.

    And this isn't stuff I actively look for, but almost every man I've dated or been interested in has been southern, had dark hair and blue eyes, current/former military or emergency services (firefighter, emt, search & rescue, police) experience, driven/ridden a Jeep and/or Harley, and owned a dog. Most were also very interested in history, and several were studying it in college.
  • Radiated_JK
    Radiated_JK Posts: 165 Member
    edited January 2016
    A woman who can be passionate and affectionate. Who will hold my hand in public and be ok with letting me kiss her in the middle of a crowded street. Show compassion in a time when I am at my lowest and hold me when I break down. Supports me in my choices. A woman who dresses with class, but looks at me like I'm the only one in the room no matter how many heads turn. A woman who is adventurous and naughty behind closed doors. A hopeless romantic who believes in true love. An open minded woman who is open to different ideas other than her own. A competitive nature, with a love for the thrill of adventure. Focused in her dreams and follows them. A willingness to listen to other's perspectives and a soft heart with patience to talk and find compromise. A woman who loves my goofiness and sense of humor and doesn't get embarrassed or judged when I am silly in public. All of these things make a relationship work in my opinion. But these same attributes are what I have found I can display with a woman who does the same for me. I love who I have become and I've never thought I could have deserved or found this type of love.
  • Alanakrahenbil
    Alanakrahenbil Posts: 811 Member
    edited January 2016
    Radiated_JK wrote: »
    A woman who can be passionate and affectionate. Who will hold my hand in public and be ok with letting me kiss her in the middle of a crowded street. Show compassion in a time when I am at my lowest and hold me when I break down.

    This!

    I'll add that I need someone who can handle my sensitivity. Someone who doesn't give up when it's hard. A guy as crazy as me with a great sense of humor. A must is someone who isn't afraid of my kids. I'm a package deal and it scares a lot of guys. Also a non smoker, biggest turn off ever.
  • grandslam1965
    grandslam1965 Posts: 830 Member
    Confidence
  • ThatFatAsianNerd
    ThatFatAsianNerd Posts: 1,415 Member
    edited January 2016
    I was told on two different occasions that they liked that I'm kind of a "rooster"-head around my friends and some people but they liked that cuz I'm supposedly a totally good guy when it's only us and shyt.

    I think girls like that. Act bad when out in public but when alone with her, you're a f'n cherub playing the harpsichord and trumpets and shyt.

    I'm not saying bad like slap the shyt out of your friend's milkshake, rather more like be all sarcastic but in a good way.
  • jenmar222
    jenmar222 Posts: 9,271 Member
    edited January 2016
    Funny
    Nice to people (respectful of everyone, not judgy)
    Funny
    Not too into himself/cocky/superficial
    Funny
  • kchuskey
    kchuskey Posts: 882 Member
    Money.
  • kchuskey
    kchuskey Posts: 882 Member
    Nah... I'm kidding. :)
  • kchuskey
    kchuskey Posts: 882 Member
    edited January 2016
    Looks aren't as important to me as, attitude, sense of humor, kindness, and intelligence. Don't get me wrong.. I admire beauty in women, but it's not a determining factor.




    Disclaimer: My wife is smokin hot.
  • MelissaJane90xo
    MelissaJane90xo Posts: 88 Member
    Good moral compass (honesty, loyalty etc)
    Good to his family and friends
    Sense of adventure
    Sense of humour
    Somebody I can call my best friend and partner in crime!
  • Unknown
    Unknown
    This content has been removed.
  • myssjaxson
    myssjaxson Posts: 89 Member
    Agreed with all of you guys :)

    For me the most important things are things that stick. (Looks fade, souls don't) so:
    -Cares about his health
    -Is focused on the future but doesn't live in the thought of it (living in the moment when its appropriate)
    -Can make me laugh like a hyena, cry like a baby and smile like Ted Bundy during a psychotic break.
    -Doesn't expect me to stay at home, cook, clean and "tend to the children" then rub his feet when he gets home. We can take turns giving foot rubs after the kids are asleep. lol.
    -Loves animals and understands I will never abandon mine. Anyone who loved me wouldn't make me choose, expecting me to choose between him and my best friend is an immediate invitation to the hell away from me.
    -Isn't snobby. I hate people who only talk to those who fit their criteria. You don't have to be best friends with everyone, you don't have to like everyone, but you have to treat every human being with an equal amount of kindness, every soul matters.
    -Is happy. I can't be around people who are incapable of looking on the bright side. I have trouble with that and I need someone who can show me the sun when all I see are the clouds.
  • JeffreyMGiron
    JeffreyMGiron Posts: 3,582 Member
    myssjaxson wrote: »
    Agreed with all of you guys :)

    For me the most important things are things that stick. (Looks fade, souls don't) so:
    -Cares about his health
    -Is focused on the future but doesn't live in the thought of it (living in the moment when its appropriate)
    -Can make me laugh like a hyena, cry like a baby and smile like Ted Bundy during a psychotic break.
    -Doesn't expect me to stay at home, cook, clean and "tend to the children" then rub his feet when he gets home. We can take turns giving foot rubs after the kids are asleep. lol.
    -Loves animals and understands I will never abandon mine. Anyone who loved me wouldn't make me choose, expecting me to choose between him and my best friend is an immediate invitation to the hell away from me.
    -Isn't snobby. I hate people who only talk to those who fit their criteria. You don't have to be best friends with everyone, you don't have to like everyone, but you have to treat every human being with an equal amount of kindness, every soul matters.
    -Is happy. I can't be around people who are incapable of looking on the bright side. I have trouble with that and I need someone who can show me the sun when all I see are the clouds.


    i find all of this hard to find in women sometimes, me myself i guess im looking for someone who can be as emotionally attached as i will be, im just an Aquarius like that + all of the above what you listed.
  • owlprincess1234
    owlprincess1234 Posts: 62 Member
    Really it boils down to funny. If they're not funny and don't have a great sense of humour, it's not going to work out. I need fart jokes in my life, really un pc conversations, sarcastic one liners, and someone that can be made fun of.

    Looks wise, pretty into super slim dudes, every dude I've ever dated has been tiny.
  • JustaJoe00
    JustaJoe00 Posts: 777 Member
    Sense of humor...and cares about themselves but not conceited
  • JehTL
    JehTL Posts: 59 Member
    I have 2 requirements for my all time dream girl:
    1. Human
    2. Consent
    if I get really picky, I'd prefer if she knew we were dating as well.
  • Alanakrahenbil
    Alanakrahenbil Posts: 811 Member

    JeffreyMG wrote: »
    myssjaxson wrote: »
    Agreed with all of you guys :)

    For me the most important things are things that stick. (Looks fade, souls don't) so:
    -Cares about his health
    -Is focused on the future but doesn't live in the thought of it (living in the moment when its appropriate)
    -Can make me laugh like a hyena, cry like a baby and smile like Ted Bundy during a psychotic break.
    -Doesn't expect me to stay at home, cook, clean and "tend to the children" then rub his feet when he gets home. We can take turns giving foot rubs after the kids are asleep. lol.
    -Loves animals and understands I will never abandon mine. Anyone who loved me wouldn't make me choose, expecting me to choose between him and my best friend is an immediate invitation to the hell away from me.
    -Isn't snobby. I hate people who only talk to those who fit their criteria. You don't have to be best friends with everyone, you don't have to like everyone, but you have to treat every human being with an equal amount of kindness, every soul matters.
    -Is happy. I can't be around people who are incapable of looking on the bright side. I have trouble with that and I need someone who can show me the sun when all I see are the clouds.


    i find all of this hard to find in women sometimes, me myself i guess im looking for someone who can be as emotionally attached as i will be, im just an Aquarius like that + all of the above what you listed.

    I agree with being emotionally attached, also an Aquarius
  • errollmaclean
    errollmaclean Posts: 562 Member
    Intelligent
    Funny
    Stubborn <--although that tends to bite me in the *** in the end
  • PaulHalicki
    PaulHalicki Posts: 576 Member
    Must smell good.
  • JeffreyMGiron
    JeffreyMGiron Posts: 3,582 Member
    Alanakrahenbil wrote: »
    JeffreyMG wrote: »
    myssjaxson wrote: »
    Agreed with all of you guys :)

    For me the most important things are things that stick. (Looks fade, souls don't) so:
    -Cares about his health
    -Is focused on the future but doesn't live in the thought of it (living in the moment when its appropriate)
    -Can make me laugh like a hyena, cry like a baby and smile like Ted Bundy during a psychotic break.
    -Doesn't expect me to stay at home, cook, clean and "tend to the children" then rub his feet when he gets home. We can take turns giving foot rubs after the kids are asleep. lol.
    -Loves animals and understands I will never abandon mine. Anyone who loved me wouldn't make me choose, expecting me to choose between him and my best friend is an immediate invitation to the hell away from me.
    -Isn't snobby. I hate people who only talk to those who fit their criteria. You don't have to be best friends with everyone, you don't have to like everyone, but you have to treat every human being with an equal amount of kindness, every soul matters.
    -Is happy. I can't be around people who are incapable of looking on the bright side. I have trouble with that and I need someone who can show me the sun when all I see are the clouds.


    i find all of this hard to find in women sometimes, me myself i guess im looking for someone who can be as emotionally attached as i will be, im just an Aquarius like that + all of the above what you listed.

    I agree with being emotionally attached, also an Aquarius

    its like they are forcing Aquarius to date themselves
  • totaldetermination
    totaldetermination Posts: 1,184 Member
    has to love dogs !
    (I have 3)
  • Lucknawi
    Lucknawi Posts: 21 Member
    Most important to me:
    Honesty
    Integrity
    Understanding
    A good sense of Humor

    Otherwise they'd just have to be OK with me having a daughter and understand that she is very important to me, that they would need to have some sort of Career or be working towards one and wouldn't be opposed to playing video games or board games with me once in a while.

    Haha... I feel like I sound hard to please...
  • JeffreyMGiron
    JeffreyMGiron Posts: 3,582 Member
    Lucknawi wrote: »
    Most important to me:
    Honesty
    Integrity
    Understanding
    A good sense of Humor

    Otherwise they'd just have to be OK with me having a daughter and understand that she is very important to me, that they would need to have some sort of Career or be working towards one and wouldn't be opposed to playing video games or board games with me once in a while.

    Haha... I feel like I sound hard to please...

    pretty much what everyone should have haha.
  • MelissaJane90xo
    MelissaJane90xo Posts: 88 Member
    MelissaJane90xo wrote: »
    Good moral compass (honesty, loyalty etc)
    Good to his family and friends
    Sense of adventure
    Sense of humour
    Somebody I can call my best friend and partner in crime!

    I'm adding nice smile and smells good to the list :grin:
  • jlisa24
    jlisa24 Posts: 305 Member
    kchuskey wrote: »
    Money.

    Girl, green looks good on you.
  • mfermo
    mfermo Posts: 102 Member
    sense of humor
This discussion has been closed.

Categories