Most annoying "advice" anyone has given you?
erinsaarela
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I have been on MFP for years. Succeeded in 2012-2014 (5'9" was 145 pounds) and then I got pregnant and let myself go, so here I am again (185 pounds, 9 months post-partum). Anyways, I have a guy friend who is in good shape and tells me "you know it's just as easy losing weight as it is putting it on." No, I'm sorry - that isn't the case for me. It's way easier for me to get fast food for lunch than to plan my meals ahead of time and weigh my food. I told him I've been under my calorie goals too which I was proud of myself for and he said "if you want to eat something, just eat it." Which is true in a sense, but it's still hard trying to ignore all my old favorites. I just feel like he doesn't understand. Ok, I'm done ranting 
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The one that drives me crazy is the "you should try x diet, so and so lost a ton of weight on it!". I'm always tempted to ask, "Yes, but how long did they keep it off?". I'm not interested in making my weight loss temporary and I'm not going to cut out carbs, meat, etc. for the rest of my life so no extreme diets for me.10
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I saw this and not much to contribute, but I would like to know who the "he" is.. Just a guy friend? It seems something may be there that you take to heart and that his guy friend is making you think a a lot about things that really may not matter in the scheme of things..
Most people either do not know or do not care and I see this as wanted comments. I don't think in your case it up to debate, not warranting a heated conversation that needs to move in a direction other than to say, "ok, I see your point of view".
Why try to explain anything to anyone other than yourself about why and what you are doing.
And if you gained it back, you know you can loose it, and if you don't want to gain it all, just don't eat it and make choices you know that will not end up on waistline.. This is not rocket science even to the guy friend who is fit and in shape.. he knows what is really going on, he is trying jerk some kind of chain for some reason..
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In my opinion, it's much harder to lose weight than to put it on. But I love to eat. I love to eat whatever and how much I want. I love to not have to think about stopping because I might go over my allotted calories. It amazes me how some people have a hard time gaining. But it's all dependant on the person. If someone told me I had to eat 3,000 calories a day, I'd be in heaven. But if I want to stay at my current, maintenance weight I know I have to eat no more than 1,900 calories. Reality bites.
Worst advice: Hmmm, I've had lots. I think the one about having to eat very low carb to lose weight. I lost 50lbs by drinking beer, wine, eating ice cream and bread and kept it off for almost 4 years. But somehow people believe they are "special snowflakes" and science just doesn't work for them.1 -
kristen6350 wrote: »In my opinion, it's much harder to lose weight than to put it on. But I love to eat. I love to eat whatever and how much I want. I love to not have to think about stopping because I might go over my allotted calories. It amazes me how some people have a hard time gaining. But it's all dependant on the person. If someone told me I had to eat 3,000 calories a day, I'd be in heaven. But if I want to stay at my current, maintenance weight I know I have to eat no more than 1,900 calories. Reality bites.
Worst advice: Hmmm, I've had lots. I think the one about having to eat very low carb to lose weight. I lost 50lbs by drinking beer, wine, eating ice cream and bread and kept it off for almost 4 years. But somehow people believe they are "special snowflakes" and science just doesn't work for them.
Worst advice for me? Moderation? I don't do low-carb because I'm a special snowflake, I do it because I'm insulin resistant. It gives me appetite control. Yeah, I lost lots of weight eating ice cream and bread when I did it that way, but I was ALWAYS HUNGRY. It never lasted. Now, I'm no longer hungry. Low carb works for us who are diabetic/prediabetic/insulin resistant.6 -
DelilahCat0212 wrote: »kristen6350 wrote: »In my opinion, it's much harder to lose weight than to put it on. But I love to eat. I love to eat whatever and how much I want. I love to not have to think about stopping because I might go over my allotted calories. It amazes me how some people have a hard time gaining. But it's all dependant on the person. If someone told me I had to eat 3,000 calories a day, I'd be in heaven. But if I want to stay at my current, maintenance weight I know I have to eat no more than 1,900 calories. Reality bites.
Worst advice: Hmmm, I've had lots. I think the one about having to eat very low carb to lose weight. I lost 50lbs by drinking beer, wine, eating ice cream and bread and kept it off for almost 4 years. But somehow people believe they are "special snowflakes" and science just doesn't work for them.
Worst advice for me? Moderation? I don't do low-carb because I'm a special snowflake, I do it because I'm insulin resistant. It gives me appetite control. Yeah, I lost lots of weight eating ice cream and bread when I did it that way, but I was ALWAYS HUNGRY. It never lasted. Now, I'm no longer hungry. Low carb works for us who are diabetic/prediabetic/insulin resistant.
I guess I forgot to mention about people that actually "should" eat that way for health reasons. Sorry. I meant general public, not people that have health issues. Go on with your bad self and I wish you the best of luck!1 -
Any advice at this point is really annoying. Even though I've lost close to 80 pounds, people still feel like they know more than I do about my body.
It's really hard to listen to people when they say to eat more to lose weight. Go crazy at a buffet once a week. It doesn't work for me, unfortunately! And definitely now that I'm at the home stretch. I could definitely out-eat my deficit with one big meal!2 -
I don't like much advice by random people but the most annoying advice is advice given in the guise of trying to relate or normal conversation. "Oh, I did something similar too (describing something not similar) and have you tried (insert type of behavior)."1
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Telling me I should try a detox to lose weight faster.
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I should try "clean eating" to which I replied "I wash my fruit before eating it, does that count?" Surprisingly, that person doesn't talk to me about nutrition advice anymore.7
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That I could just stop being lazy and start exercising whenever I wanted. Yes, I'll be on my way to marathon once I'll find proper depression meds...2
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Watching Dr. Oz and buying so called magic pills.2
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My friend told me if I start to eat "whole food" I no longer have to count calories. She has lost 80 pounds following a super strict diet that lays out how much of everything she eats every day. There is no gluten, no dairy, all organic, no gmo, no sugar...blah blah blah. I give her credit for doing that and losing the weigh but she doesn't understand that she is following a specific diet that keeps her calories under so yes, she is losing. She posts so called studies that support her claim to her FB page. It drives me nuts. I want to say NO NO NO. You still have to pay attention to calories!!!2
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Any variant of "That doesn't work" which I hear surprisingly often when people ask me what I'm doing to lose weight and I tell them I'm calorie counting. Theoretically, if they've noticed I'm losing weight, it's working
Any variant of "this will definitely make you lose weight" when people tell me what works for them/their friend/some guy on the internet. I've tried enough things and failed enough times that when I say "nope, not for me" it's probably the voice of experience speaking
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All the detoxes and the WRAPS. Oh, the wraps. So annoying.2
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kristen6350 wrote: »DelilahCat0212 wrote: »kristen6350 wrote: »In my opinion, it's much harder to lose weight than to put it on. But I love to eat. I love to eat whatever and how much I want. I love to not have to think about stopping because I might go over my allotted calories. It amazes me how some people have a hard time gaining. But it's all dependant on the person. If someone told me I had to eat 3,000 calories a day, I'd be in heaven. But if I want to stay at my current, maintenance weight I know I have to eat no more than 1,900 calories. Reality bites.
Worst advice: Hmmm, I've had lots. I think the one about having to eat very low carb to lose weight. I lost 50lbs by drinking beer, wine, eating ice cream and bread and kept it off for almost 4 years. But somehow people believe they are "special snowflakes" and science just doesn't work for them.
Worst advice for me? Moderation? I don't do low-carb because I'm a special snowflake, I do it because I'm insulin resistant. It gives me appetite control. Yeah, I lost lots of weight eating ice cream and bread when I did it that way, but I was ALWAYS HUNGRY. It never lasted. Now, I'm no longer hungry. Low carb works for us who are diabetic/prediabetic/insulin resistant.
I guess I forgot to mention about people that actually "should" eat that way for health reasons. Sorry. I meant general public, not people that have health issues. Go on with your bad self and I wish you the best of luck!
Ok good, whew. It has helped me so much. Thanks. :-)0 -
"Don't get too skinny!" (after losing over 200 pounds)7
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To eat breakfast because it will boost my metabolism. What? No. I hate breakfast. I despise breakfast. I don't want to eat breakfast. Not only that, there has been no research to show it does anything to your metabolism. So leave my breakfastlessness alone!11
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That carbs make you fat and you have to eat low carb to lose weight.6
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smcrimmon84 wrote: »All the detoxes and the WRAPS. Oh, the wraps. So annoying.
Yes, the wraps! Why is it that whenever I see a vehicle driving around with all that advertising for the wraps, it's an overweight person in the driver's seat? I mean not that I care about a person's weight, but when you're touting a weight-loss product, shouldn't the seller be a ringing endorsement?2 -
To eat breakfast because it will boost my metabolism. What? No. I hate breakfast. I despise breakfast. I don't want to eat breakfast. Not only that, there has been no research to show it does anything to your metabolism. So leave my breakfastlessness alone!
Haha! +1 for this! Leave my breakfastlessness alone! Lol, made my day.3 -
To attain a certain number on the scale, regardless of what the body looks like.1
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An idiot once told me to eat clay.1
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To eat breakfast because it will boost my metabolism. What? No. I hate breakfast. I despise breakfast. I don't want to eat breakfast. Not only that, there has been no research to show it does anything to your metabolism. So leave my breakfastlessness alone!
THIS!!! I do way better when I start eating at noon then when I force myself to eat calories I don't want.4 -
that i need to eat/do XYZ to detox my body from all the toxins.0
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To eat breakfast because it will boost my metabolism. What? No. I hate breakfast. I despise breakfast. I don't want to eat breakfast. Not only that, there has been no research to show it does anything to your metabolism. So leave my breakfastlessness alone!
THIS!!! I do way better when I start eating at noon then when I force myself to eat calories I don't want.
YES!! I HATE breakfast!3 -
As accurate as it may be, I hate it when people tell me to just be patient. I'm not an idiot, I know it takes time, but if I'm asking for advise/fitness tips don't blow me off.2
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As accurate as it may be, I hate it when people tell me to just be patient. I'm not an idiot, I know it takes time, but if I'm asking for advise/fitness tips don't blow me off.
Please be patient, @dwulet130 we can't rush good advice.2 -
To eat breakfast because it will boost my metabolism. What? No. I hate breakfast. I despise breakfast. I don't want to eat breakfast. Not only that, there has been no research to show it does anything to your metabolism. So leave my breakfastlessness alone!
This is the one that bugs me most as well. My friends say it ALL the time. Not only does breakfast usually involve the least appetising foods for me personally (cereal, ewwww), it makes no sense to force myself to have breakfast when I'm not hungry. I'd much rather have a more substantial lunch and dinner.3 -
"You should treat yourself, you earned it" or " You should give yourself a break on counting calories for a bit, you don't want to over do it."
I have worked so hard for a reason, stop telling me to "treat myself" because I don't need to. I don't deprive myself of things I want. I eat them in moderation within my calories/macros.7 -
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