Husband keeping junk in house

You know, I have tried many times to lose weight, but it's hard when your hubby is not doing it with you. He will sometimes go with me on some things, but he just keeps eating and it makes me hungry. ugh!

You have probably done this already, so forgive me if I overstep my bounds, but have you talked to him about it? Does he need to lose some weight as well?

I have talked repeatedly to my hubby about this, but last night before we fell asleep I hugged him and asked him to help me. I told him I "needed" his help. Yes, my hubby needs to lose weight as well, but he hates when this topic comes up, so it dawned on me that I have never asked him "why?"...........why does he hate this topic so much? We were both in good shape when we got married, but now we could both stand to lose 50 pounds. So I asked him why he hates the topic so much or why he doesn't want to lose weight? He gave me his answers.

Since he is the love of my life, I told him that I wanted him with me for another 50 years and that it would break my heart if he had a heart attack or something. I told him that I wanted to get healthy for me and for him. People always say "you have to do it for yourself" and I agree with that, but it helps to consider your spouse as well since they are the other 1/2 of your life.

I expressed my love and how I need his help and that I knew that we could do it together, that we can do anything together because we have already over the years and we've been successful, so we could do this as well. I reminded him that it took us a few years to get in this shape, so it might take us awhile to get back into better shape, but that we could help each other and that together we could do ANYTHING!

After all those past conversations I've had with him, this one was better. I think my asking him "why?" helped me understand and allowed him to be heard.............rather than always hearing me talk about how we need to lose weight.

Anyway, I don't know if that helps you or not, but it helped me. Maybe it would help you? I hope so.
Have a great day and hang in there!

@LolaPlant That's pretty much what I did too! One day, I had very open (and emotional) conversation with my husband why I wanted to be healthy together, and the reasons were just like yours: be healthy together so that we can enjoy our lives together when we are much older and don't let the other suffer through a sudden/chronic loss due to a health problem. Fortunately (or not so fortunately), he was diagnosed with a metabolic syndrome (very close to pre-diebetic) not that long after the conversation, and that was the last straw for him.

Now, instead of nagging him to drop that sugary snack, I just hug him and stare his eyes with a puppy face (with a pouty lips). Lol. It works most of the time. Haha.

Firstly, it's your decision to eat a certain way and he is not obligated to jump on that bandwagon. Only eating fruit, veggies, and chicken sounds pretty boring...maybe it will be the perfect answer for you, but to me it sounds like a strict plan that will be way too easy to "break" and then feel that you're off the so-called healthy streak. For most people, it's not going to be that black & white. Make sure you do something that you can keep doing for the long term.

With that said, though...if there are certain items you just can't leave alone, maybe your husband could be persuaded to at least not bring those into the house...eat them at work, buy only 1 serving at a time...stuff like that can really help. In the past I had a partner who loved to eat Little Debbie snack cakes and I didn't want them in the house because I would get a sweets craving and couldn't leave alone the chocolate chip cakes or Valentine ones. We compromised by him bringing home nutty bars and oatmeal crème pies because I didn't like those anyway and they were his favorites. Now, my husband can't stay out of ice cream or ice cream sandwiches so I only get those on road trips. If I had a box of 12 in the freezer I'd eat them like once or twice a week, but he would eat 3-4 at a sitting. So we don't keep them in the house.

@mgodfrey0202 I'm sorry to hear that he was diagnosed with that. So since that was "the last straw for him", you mean it motivated him to make a change right? Awesome! Did he have to go on medication? I ask because I've always heard that "pre"-diabetic means you can turn it around and not become diabetic. Is that true?

And I'm glad you "puppy face" (LOL) works with him............love has a way of conquering.

do what you want to do, and don't eat it then. I wouldn't follow your diet either as it is overly restrictive. I eat plenty healthy and have dropped 45lb, but I also just ate pizza, soda, and a cookie for lunch and I have never been healthier in my adult life. I don't eat stuff my wife wants or brings home, and sometimes I don't eat stuff I bring home myself (despite liking it). Build up your will power muscles and just don't eat it then.

I know it's tough when one is doing something that the other isn't. But I'm gonna give a male perspective, I'll be damned if I'm told I can't have (meat, carbs, beer, donuts, fill in the blank with whatever else) because the wife is on a diet/life style change!

He won't stop ingesting because he's not on the same plan as you. And forcing him into doing it won't end well. Ask him politely, so you won't be tempted, to not eat it in front of you and hide it in the garage so you won't see it. He can still have his vice, you aren't tempted, everyone's happy

heck i buy junk for my OH. i made the decision to eat healthier, not him. I made the decision to eat less, not him. I do not subjugate him to my new eating habits

It took my husband being diagnosed pre-diabetic and our doctor basically ordering him to see a dietitian for him to start looking at his diet issues. (He fired the dietitian- she was insane.) But that was the wake up call to me- How could I go on eating snacks, sugary foods, and other bad things when he was trying to change his habits. Now that we're doing it together, it's so much easier!
He also had this idea that if he had to 'watch what he ate' it meant he was old, failing and turning into his grandfather. He really resented it at first. He was really afraid of becoming one of those people who would go out to dinner and have to order nothing but a green salad.
(I really really hate to be the one to say this, but if your partner isn't being supportive of your desire to make healthy lifestyle changes, what other ways is your relationship unhealthy for you? Maybe it's not just eating habits that need reevaluation. )

I give in a little to see if it's worth it. Yesterday by bf came home with Swedish Fish. I ate two, logged them, and decided they weren't worth 23 calories/fish. That's what it comes down to with most "junk."

i wouldnt want to eat your food either.

but hey- if it makes you happy. have fun.

he does not have to eat like you. nor should he have to not buy the things he wants. i doubt he is making you eat it. you can ask him to keep it out of your sight, perhaps, but othr than that you need to up the self control. youre only 12 days in.