Valentine's Day chocolate if she's overweight?

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  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    edited February 2016
    Is she paranoid ? I'm not bothered by getting chocolate while losing weight but I wouldn't think there was some message behind getting a different gift either.
    Get her something she likes if you typically exchange gifts. She probably likes something other than just food. Chocolate, jewelry or flowers are okay but aren't very creative or personal gifts. I love it when my dh gets me something unique like artwork or some great book because he knows I love to read. A couple of years ago he got me a print that was done on an antique book page. One year he made a recording him reading of a special poem for me.
  • CassidyScaglione
    CassidyScaglione Posts: 673 Member
    @3dogsrunning he doesn't have to ask what she wants specifically. But he knows she's trying to lose weight, she knows she's trying to lose weight, I see no harm in asking if she wants candy or something else.
  • Gisel2015
    Gisel2015 Posts: 4,181 Member
    edited February 2016
    _Waffle_ wrote: »
    With Valentine's Day approaching I'm sure many guys here feel the pressure to buy your sweetheart flowers or chocolate. Should I still get her chocolate if she is struggling to lose weight? I know she loves chocolate but I think I should just get flowers and skip that part of the event.


    Do you ladies mind if we don't send chocolate or is that calling you fat without saying the word?

    You can skip the chocolate my dear because I don't care for it. Just bring me the flowers and a nice bottle of wine.

    Seriously, my husband never buys me chocolate or sweets because he fears for his life. I really don't like the stuff. I prefer just going out to dinner the two of us and enjoying an evening together. And I do prefer the flowers to a plant, because I have too many plants and it is more work for me.
  • MaryMoCla
    MaryMoCla Posts: 40 Member
    Here's my 2 cents - stop the crazy consumerism around this fake holiday - forget the chocolate - sign the both of you up for dance lessons or something that you can experience together. Far more "romantic".
  • macchiatto
    macchiatto Posts: 2,890 Member
    I appreciate something less cliche than flowers and chocolate ... that said, I do still eat chocolate but it's 85% dark chocolate now, not the more sugary stuff.
  • MamaMc3
    MamaMc3 Posts: 213 Member
    I always appreciate chocolate! I just eat smaller portions when I am trying to lose weight.
  • robot_potato
    robot_potato Posts: 1,535 Member
    If it's important to her, then do it. I personally wouldn't be upset if I got no chocolate for V-Day. He did the cheesy flowers and chocolates when we were younger, nowadays we have other things to celebrate, no weird holiday needed.
  • finneyjason218
    finneyjason218 Posts: 166 Member
    BecomingBane wrote: »
    If VDay is important to her, then for the love of dog,

    Love this, going to use it all the time now

  • piggysmalls333
    piggysmalls333 Posts: 450 Member
    Yes I think she will read between the lines and might feel bad. You know her best after all. How about instead of a box of them, melting some and doing a little Fondu with strawberries and fruits you can dip a little in and feed them to her? Just a few - very romantic!
  • CoconuttyMummy
    CoconuttyMummy Posts: 685 Member
    Absolutely not! If she was an alcoholic would you buy her a bottle of booze?! Personally I think chocolates as a gift are a cop-out - not much thought goes into grabbing a load of sugar-laden cr@p off the shelf. I'd go for flowers if you really can't think of anything 'special' but something a bit more thoughtful and personal to her would win you endless brownie-points. Women like to be noticed as individuals, not treated generically. Has she got a hobby? Does she wear a certain perfume? How about treating her to a nice meal out? Or a pretty item of jewellery (doesn't have to be expensive) or a pretty scarf or top in her style. Try and think of a gift that would really MEAN something, particularly if it's a valentines gift. Chocolates are the worst present imaginable, particularly if you're trying to lose a few pounds. X
  • CoconuttyMummy
    CoconuttyMummy Posts: 685 Member
    DrEnalg wrote: »
    Last year I got the GF a Groupon for a massage. She works hard and I felt like she needed to pamper herself.

    That's a great one! A massage, manicure, pedicure or facial gift voucher would be a gift you would never forget. So thoughtful. X

  • KareninLux
    KareninLux Posts: 1,413 Member
    How about some nice individually wrapped chocolates that can be eaten one at a time?
  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
    juggernaut1974 wrote: »
    Get her a head of cauliflower.

    It sorta looks like a flower, has "flower" in it's name, and it's healthy!

    You can thank me later ;)



    On a more serious note, I'm not a fan of the cliche flowers and chocolate for Valentine's Day. I like to get Mrs. Juggernaut romantic, but not traditional gifts - a massage gift certificate, something off her Christmas list that she didn't get, an overnight getaway, etc.

    I remember back in college my friends got me a box of tomatoes for my birthday (knowing how much I love them) with all of their signatures and cute little messages written all over it, and I looked silly carrying around a box of tomatoes to remaining lectures. It was one of the best gifts I received that year, even though it was 9 broke college kids splitting a $3 gift. The fact that it showed they cared about me personally as if they were saying "we know your quirks and we love you for them" was more than enough to make me happy. So who knows, maybe a cauliflower is not as bad of an idea as it sounds for the right person.

    Joking aside. You know her best, and the others have already covered the chocolate topic. Whatever you end up doing, make sure to put some thought and love into it.
  • wdf375
    wdf375 Posts: 25 Member
    edited February 2016
    Quality over quantity. Buy a four piece box from a high end chocolatier like John Kelly out of LA (they ship). It's a one off shop, you can't get it anywhere else that I know of, so it shows you put some thought into it. Plus it's some of the best chocolate you'll ever have, so maybe get a second box to stash for yourself.
  • LKArgh
    LKArgh Posts: 5,178 Member
    amusedmonkey wrote: »
    juggernaut1974 wrote: »
    Get her a head of cauliflower.

    It sorta looks like a flower, has "flower" in it's name, and it's healthy!

    You can thank me later ;)



    On a more serious note, I'm not a fan of the cliche flowers and chocolate for Valentine's Day. I like to get Mrs. Juggernaut romantic, but not traditional gifts - a massage gift certificate, something off her Christmas list that she didn't get, an overnight getaway, etc.

    I remember back in college my friends got me a box of tomatoes for my birthday (knowing how much I love them) with all of their signatures and cute little messages written all over it, and I looked silly carrying around a box of tomatoes to remaining lectures. It was one of the best gifts I received that year, even though it was 9 broke college kids splitting a $3 gift. The fact that it showed they cared about me personally as if they were saying "we know your quirks and we love you for them" was more than enough to make me happy. So who knows, maybe a cauliflower is not as bad of an idea as it sounds for the right person.

    Joking aside. You know her best, and the others have already covered the chocolate topic. Whatever you end up doing, make sure to put some thought and love into it.

    I thought we were the only ones being weird. My husband is obsessed with tomato paste and canned tomatoes, will add it to everything, and then I end up complaining because I cannot find any when I am trying to cook and often have to modify recipes to replace tomato sauce with white sauce last minute. Plain tomato paste or tomatoes with nothing added. My gift to him one year was a box filled with his favourite cans. He definitely loved it :)
  • angelique_redhead
    angelique_redhead Posts: 782 Member
    I'm a fan of high quality chocolates, gold, and gems but I'm good with any gift. It's the thought that counts with me.
  • lalabrucey
    lalabrucey Posts: 244 Member
    edited February 2016
    We don't really do Valentines Day here in NZ (although retailers still try to get our hard earned $$), but I would do something cute and a bit naughty like paint some melted chocolate on your lips and give her a chocolate kiss.

    "....Honey I know you love chocolate And you love me so I thought I'd combine the two!..."

    Win Win!

    She gets:
    * A taste of chocolate
    * Romance
    * No guilt for wanting chocolate but not wanting chocolate - its a tough emotion
    * Not to feel embarrassed if you brought it up. She knows the score if she is struggling, let her make the decision to go get chocolate but have a small box (4) of high quality ones ready to go if she hints she really feels like chocolate.

    Follow up with a walk at sunset and tell her what she means to you
  • Phrick
    Phrick Posts: 2,765 Member
    wdf375 wrote: »
    Quality over quantity. Buy a four piece box from a high end chocolatier like John Kelly out of LA (they ship). It's a one off shop, you can't get it anywhere else that I know of, so it shows you put some thought into it. Plus it's some of the best chocolate you'll ever have, so maybe get a second box to stash for yourself.

    I was going to suggest along the same lines - a single (or very small box) very high quality chocolate over a Whitman's Sampler, you know? Something delightful and novel and a definite treat is a gift I would love way more than a generic box of chocolates, and I would appreciate that my husband was able to help me indulge without making it feel like I'm pummeled with candies that I would feel almost obligated to eat because they were a gift.
  • ForeverMagnolia
    ForeverMagnolia Posts: 2 Member
    Honestly, if my boyfriend gave me chocolates for Valentine's day, I would see it as the opposite message. Instead of saying "You're fat," I would interpret it as "You're not fat, so I'm not worried about giving you a few chocolates to enjoy."
  • Hope228
    Hope228 Posts: 340 Member
    I love chocolate. I would love a few chocolate covered strawberries...yum!
  • msf74
    msf74 Posts: 3,498 Member
    _Waffle_ wrote: »
    Do you ladies mind if we don't send chocolate or is that calling you fat without saying the word?

    Looooooooooooooool.

    I think it goes without saying that most women wouldn't take offence at a well intentioned gift although something in addition to the chocolates may be a nice gesture.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    CoconuttyMummy wrote: »
    Absolutely not! If she was an alcoholic would you buy her a bottle of booze?! Personally I think chocolates as a gift are a cop-out - not much thought goes into grabbing a load of sugar-laden cr@p off the shelf. I'd go for flowers if you really can't think of anything 'special' but something a bit more thoughtful and personal to her would win you endless brownie-points. Women like to be noticed as individuals, not treated generically. Has she got a hobby? Does she wear a certain perfume? How about treating her to a nice meal out? Or a pretty item of jewellery (doesn't have to be expensive) or a pretty scarf or top in her style. Try and think of a gift that would really MEAN something, particularly if it's a valentines gift. Chocolates are the worst present imaginable, particularly if you're trying to lose a few pounds. X

    ummmmm i love chocolates. but not the cheap ones you can buy in stores. not for something special. The ones i want, youve got to order.

    80 pounds down says i can still have some flipping chocolate ;)

    everyone is different.....
  • auddii
    auddii Posts: 15,357 Member
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    And if she's not a Deadpool fan, you could always buy her a spatula.
  • CoconuttyMummy
    CoconuttyMummy Posts: 685 Member
    edited February 2016
    callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »
    CoconuttyMummy wrote: »
    Absolutely not! If she was an alcoholic would you buy her a bottle of booze?! Personally I think chocolates as a gift are a cop-out - not much thought goes into grabbing a load of sugar-laden cr@p off the shelf. I'd go for flowers if you really can't think of anything 'special' but something a bit more thoughtful and personal to her would win you endless brownie-points. Women like to be noticed as individuals, not treated generically. Has she got a hobby? Does she wear a certain perfume? How about treating her to a nice meal out? Or a pretty item of jewellery (doesn't have to be expensive) or a pretty scarf or top in her style. Try and think of a gift that would really MEAN something, particularly if it's a valentines gift. Chocolates are the worst present imaginable, particularly if you're trying to lose a few pounds. X

    ummmmm i love chocolates. but not the cheap ones you can buy in stores. not for something special. The ones i want, youve got to order.

    80 pounds down says i can still have some flipping chocolate ;)

    everyone is different.....

    Haha! Ok, ok, you can haz your posh choccies!

    I might be just hatin' on chocolates b/c I'm jealous that I can't have any!

    Still though, in my mind, a special present is something that shows you notice her 'likes' n quirks, like a few posters above said. I love those presents, however small or 'silly', that makes me think "hey, this guy really pays attention - he gets me!".

    Or, you could book a table in a fancy restaurant, and take her shopping earlier in the day for a sexy dress and heels, or some lingerie, or a pretty item of jewellery that she could wear on your romantic date and feel special. I felt like a princess when my OH did this when we first got together.


  • justynegil
    justynegil Posts: 13 Member
    maybe make a nice home cooked healthy meal, & dark chocolate dipped strawberries?
  • scottish_laura_13
    scottish_laura_13 Posts: 69 Member
    me and hubby don't celebrate as its a waste of money especially so soon after xmas and new year and my jan birthday, his feb birthday and our feb anniversary lol
    but what about a home cooked meal by you? it could be reasonably low cal too
    im making a giant cookie for my hubby for our anniversary similar to - https://www.milliescookies.com/
    but usually I make some sort of treat, cake, brownies etc and make them low cal
    or im not sure if you have boomf? its marshmallow with photos on them - https://boomf.com/
    or like the others say small fancy chocs
    but a gift like a manicure or iceskating date would work just as well and if its exercise it works in with her diet
  • iecreamheadaches
    iecreamheadaches Posts: 441 Member
    If you think she'll want chocolates and you know she's losing weight or struggling with losing weight then be mindful and perhaps buy a dark chocolate instead of a milk chocolate. It;s actually not bad for you in portion sized amounts.

    I personally could careless about getting chocolate, I mean I LOVE chocolate, but that's something I can go out and get myself when I'm feeling it. I do love getting flowers though, but I think I'd rather spend my vday this year laying in bed with my boyfriend playing videogames, waiting for The Walking Dead to come on, perhaps a TWD marathon during the day. Nice lunch or perhaps dinner (at home or out doesn't matter).
  • iecreamheadaches
    iecreamheadaches Posts: 441 Member
    Or if my guy wanted to go out and do something, if he just took me to like petco or a shelter and let me play with all the cats and dogs i'd be *kitten* overjoyed. Until he told me I could adopt all the dogs and cats anyway :(
  • TeamScorpioRI
    TeamScorpioRI Posts: 56 Member
    Both me and the wife agreed this year, no candy. We are both trying to loose weight and tend to go overboard with this sort of thing. We are instead going to "save our calories" for a nice dinner instead.
  • lilithsrose
    lilithsrose Posts: 752 Member
    As much as I like chocolate, I would prefer that my fiance didn't get it for me while I'm struggling to lose weight. I would know that he meant well, but if I don't have it, I can't eat it.

    I would say if she's actively trying to lose weight, skip the chocolate. Or, if you still feel that you need to get chocolate, just get a couple chocolate covered strawberries instead of a huge box of sugar and calories. A lot of grocery stores sell 2-4 large chocolate covered strawberries in a box this time of year.

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