Valentine's Day chocolate if she's overweight?

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  • stealthq
    stealthq Posts: 4,298 Member
    wdf375 wrote: »
    Quality over quantity. Buy a four piece box from a high end chocolatier like John Kelly out of LA (they ship). It's a one off shop, you can't get it anywhere else that I know of, so it shows you put some thought into it. Plus it's some of the best chocolate you'll ever have, so maybe get a second box to stash for yourself.

    They sell John Kelly at Central Market, or at least they had them at Christmas. Central Market sells a lot of high end hard-to-find food products like that. I've not been lately to see what they've stocked for Valentine's. They're doing a chocolate showcase this week.
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    Anybody is welcome to give me any of these for Valentine's Day (or any other day for that matter.)
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    Long stemmed roses and diamonds should do it
  • peleroja
    peleroja Posts: 3,979 Member
    edited February 2016
    Absolutely not! If she was an alcoholic would you buy her a bottle of booze?! Personally I think chocolates as a gift are a cop-out - not much thought goes into grabbing a load of sugar-laden cr@p off the shelf. I'd go for flowers if you really can't think of anything 'special' but something a bit more thoughtful and personal to her would win you endless brownie-points. Women like to be noticed as individuals, not treated generically. Has she got a hobby? Does she wear a certain perfume? How about treating her to a nice meal out? Or a pretty item of jewellery (doesn't have to be expensive) or a pretty scarf or top in her style. Try and think of a gift that would really MEAN something, particularly if it's a valentines gift. Chocolates are the worst present imaginable, particularly if you're trying to lose a few pounds. X

    ummmmm i love chocolates. but not the cheap ones you can buy in stores. not for something special. The ones i want, youve got to order.

    80 pounds down says i can still have some flipping chocolate ;)

    everyone is different.....

    Haha! Ok, ok, you can haz your posh choccies!

    I might be just hatin' on chocolates b/c I'm jealous that I can't have any!

    Still though, in my mind, a special present is something that shows you notice her 'likes' n quirks, like a few posters above said. I love those presents, however small or 'silly', that makes me think "hey, this guy really pays attention - he gets me!".

    Or, you could book a table in a fancy restaurant, and take her shopping earlier in the day for a sexy dress and heels, or some lingerie, or a pretty item of jewellery that she could wear on your romantic date and feel special. I felt like a princess when my OH did this when we first got together.


    Everyone is different though. I feel that going to a restaurant on Valentine's Day is the worst...we call it "amateur night" (Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Father's Day, and NYE all get this designation) because all the people who don't get out much are there and it's packed, obnoxious, overpriced, and the servers and kitchen are overworked. I don't think going out for a meal is particularly romantic and I do NOT want my husband participating in my clothing, shoes, or jewelry decisions. None of that would be something I would especially appreciate (other than being pleased that my husband did something) so I think it's kind of crazy to tell someone "nooo, don't get chocolate, do THIS instead" because, um, what if that's what she likes? Why are we judging the chocolate idea?

    I say this as someone who hates the holiday and will not be acknowledging it in any way, but jeez. If I was into it I'd just be happy my husband tried, you know? For other stuff like my birthday and Christmas I'm always just happy that he cares about me and wants to do something for me, regardless of what it is. I'm not going to be that spoiled brat complaining that what he did wasn't good enough, you know?

    (For the record, I'm on Team Get-The-Fancy-Chocolate-In-The-Little-Box because even someone losing weight can fit a portion-controlled quantity of chocolate into their diet...)
  • Carlos_421
    Carlos_421 Posts: 5,132 Member
    Got my wife a new dress.
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    Carlos_421 wrote: »
    Got my wife a new dress.

    Don't you know that's the universal code for "Your clothes are ugly. Here, wear this."?
  • I asked my husband not to get me chocolate this year unless it was a bag of Hershey's Bliss dark chocolate squares. I eat one, sometimes 3, of those a night. If you're in doubt don't do it, or get her one of those small heart shaped boxes that has like 4 pieces in it and when she gets it explain to her your thoughts behind not getting her a bigger box.

    Flowers are always a good idea... so's jewelry :D
  • fitmom4lifemfp
    fitmom4lifemfp Posts: 1,572 Member
    _Waffle_ wrote: »
    With Valentine's Day approaching I'm sure many guys here feel the pressure to buy your sweetheart flowers or chocolate. Should I still get her chocolate if she is struggling to lose weight? I know she loves chocolate but I think I should just get flowers and skip that part of the event.


    Do you ladies mind if we don't send chocolate or is that calling you fat without saying the word?

    NO CHOCOLATE!!!! Definitely SKIP it.
  • fitmom4lifemfp
    fitmom4lifemfp Posts: 1,572 Member
    cross2bear wrote: »
    What about a chocolate diamond?!

    http://levian.com/chocolatediamond/

    Those are SO ugly.
  • kimmydear
    kimmydear Posts: 298 Member
    I have told my husband for many years to please not get me chocolates on Valentine's Day, but he always ignores the request, I think in an effort to not make a mistake and offend me. So I give him points for being super loving. But this year, I'm prediabetic and really really watching the sugars, so he said he will finally support me and not get chocolate. I prefer flowers anyway. I buy dark chocolate every now and then when I've just got to have it, but I never buy myself flowers.
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
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  • smiles4jo
    smiles4jo Posts: 202 Member
    DH and I are on this weight-loss journey together, so he's been told no chocolates for me. And then, told him again so he was clear that I really meant it and wouldn't be upset lol He also knows that roses are not my thing, but tulips will make my day :)

    On the other hand, I have no idea what to get him. Usually, I bake his favourite cookies. Those are definite no-nos this year as neither of us can eat just one!
  • MommyMeggo
    MommyMeggo Posts: 1,222 Member
    We dont "do" Vday really but...

    Cook me steak- buy me wine- rub my feet.

    Flowers die- and id rather get them as a surprise randomly any other day.

    Chocolate is so readily available and if he KNOWS im working hard to not get off track, please dont get it for me. If he does, I love him, so I wont throat punch him and Ill share with co-workers, etc.
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,506 Member
    The gift i love the most is the the fact my husband took over doing the dishes. It was something I hated and he didn't mind. Best gift ever and every time he does them I truly adore him for doing them.
  • FitGirl0123
    FitGirl0123 Posts: 1,273 Member
    I couldn't care less about any gift, including chocolate.
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    Absolutely THE best chocolates you will buy, and one piece at a time is more than enough (i usually eat half at a time).

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  • Carlos_421
    Carlos_421 Posts: 5,132 Member
    jemhh wrote: »
    Carlos_421 wrote: »
    Got my wife a new dress.

    Don't you know that's the universal code for "Your clothes are ugly. Here, wear this."?

    Nah, just "Hey look! I paid attention when you showed me a picture of this dress and told me how much you love it." lol

    I can pick up on hints if they're anti-subtle enough. lol
  • fishshark
    fishshark Posts: 1,886 Member
    said it before and il say it again.. im extremly appreciative of whatever my husband gets me. Dont care if its a snickers from the gas station. its valentines day. not a big deal
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    rabbitjb wrote: »
    Long stemmed roses and diamonds should do it
    cross2bear wrote: »
    What about a chocolate diamond?!

    http://levian.com/chocolatediamond/

    Those are SO ugly.


    not a diamond fan and the brown ones are HIDEOUS lol

    now.... a good sapphire or emerald, on the other hand ......
  • snikkins
    snikkins Posts: 1,282 Member
    auddii wrote: »
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    And if she's not a Deadpool fan, you could always buy her a spatula.

    I have it on good authority that this is the #1 RomCom this Valentine's Day! ;)

    PS: That's what we're doing.
  • auddii
    auddii Posts: 15,357 Member
    snikkins wrote: »
    auddii wrote: »
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    And if she's not a Deadpool fan, you could always buy her a spatula.

    I have it on good authority that this is the #1 RomCom this Valentine's Day! ;)

    PS: That's what we're doing.

    I turned down the idea only because I hate opening weekend crowds (I don't think the holiday will thin out enough people to make me not want to stab everyone).
  • snikkins
    snikkins Posts: 1,282 Member
    auddii wrote: »
    snikkins wrote: »
    auddii wrote: »
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    And if she's not a Deadpool fan, you could always buy her a spatula.

    I have it on good authority that this is the #1 RomCom this Valentine's Day! ;)

    PS: That's what we're doing.

    I turned down the idea only because I hate opening weekend crowds (I don't think the holiday will thin out enough people to make me not want to stab everyone).

    That's fair. I'm OK with the crowds and dinner and a movie was our first date. At this point, it's tradition! :)
  • CassidyScaglione
    CassidyScaglione Posts: 673 Member
    Now OBVIOUSLY ask... since you've heard from dozens of ladies and gotten an different answer from each of them... "Yes!", "No!", "Absolutely", "Absolutely NOT!", "get flowers", "No chocolates", "No flowers", "No, nothing, Valentines sucks!", "Buy her a jet!", "Kill her!", "Buy her vegetables!" lol. ASK!!! We are all too crazy to come to a consensus.
  • kirstengeffen
    kirstengeffen Posts: 103 Member
    Depends how serious she has been?
    If she's like me..... I'm super strict n slight deviation causes a binge cycle.. so if my boyfriend bought my choc, as sweet as his intentions, I would cry lol
  • debrakgoogins
    debrakgoogins Posts: 2,033 Member
    I don't mind if I don't get chocolate but she might. Personally, I would prefer a day at the spa - massage, mani/pedi and eyebrows or something along those lines. I like being pampered and don't usually take the time to do it so when it is given as a gift, I appreciate it even more.