WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2016
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Up early. But then, I fell asleep early too.
Soon to take DH up his cup of tea. That first one in the morning is sooooooo good. :bigsmile:
He seems to have recovered from yesterday's collapse. He is an adopted child who never felt fully part of his adoptive family. His adoptive mother was bipolar, ( a terrible thing in those unenlightened days). Goodness knows what went on in the nursing home where he was separated from his twin sister and left behind before the local doctor asked his potential parents to take him out of religious duty. They were young and went on to have two natural children. His father was a Baptist Minister, who was not the happiest of men and went into it more as a career choice after the war than from conviction.
Consequently, a raised voice, criticism or the lightest put down can affect him badly. He is aware of it and does daily mindfulness meditation with a CD. I would say he is much improved from earlier days when he would run out of the house. It's like he is having a panic attack and has become three years old again.
I came from a more robust, free for all, household. Sometimes I forget myself. And sometimes I just don't want to reign back. But it's actually good for me as I am inclined to steam roll other people, given half a chance. I am grateful that he doesn't let me.
Yesterday I was annoyed that he was applying his very good, Oxford educated brain, to some light hearted remarks I was making about the national characteristics of the Norwegians. So I let him have it with both barrels.
Whoops!
Kim - you are right about the 80/20 thing. There are times when he is my rock.
90% of the time we have a wonderful marriage.
Time for tea!
Heather UK0 -
Janitr - I was thinking the same thing about Lenora yesterday. Hope everything is OK and she'll be on soon.0
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morning ladies~
I am up and having my cup of tea , I think I overdid it at the gym yesterday, I am quite sore, but dont you worry I will be there again today just easing it up a bit..
I got on the scale and have not even lost an ounce but I guess even what I have been eating must have sodium in it, or maybe it is I am gaining muscle..0 -
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I am so jealous that those chickens have a hot tub of their own!0
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CJ - I LOVED that hot tub! :laugh:
Heather UK0 -
Good morning everyone! Happy Thursday!
CJ- I am still giggling over the chicks in the hot tub! I also have to agree with Barbie, the bold text is easier on the eyes!
Heather-My DH and I are the same way, he comes from a more reserved, yet more stressful background and has become much more emotional as he has gotten older; whereas I am from a loud and in your face kind of family. I have gotten more emotional also, but it is more anger or justification than tears from me. We do bump heads, but I have found that we still compliment each other nicely. He is the Yin to my Yang...or maybe I am the Yin and he is the Yang?
Kristan- Sorry about your kitty! You mentioned he was "weird". Do you have a story about his weirdness?
Katie- I asked about the purple pants. You are definitely ready for the next size (or two) smaller, as they are way too big for you! Way to work it!
Chris in MA- Hang in there! BAby steps! Exercise is a move in the right direction. When you are ready to tackle a little more, it will happen! Love and hugs to you!
Irish Terri- Beautiful poem! Thank you for sharing!
Anne from WI- Stay healthy! Clorox wipes get me through the winter; although, I managed to get "the bug" even with a daily wipedown of all surfaces. I blame the kiddos. The quotes sound like a great idea! Kind of like daily affirmations. There is a really great quote site called quotegarden. It has all kinds of quotes and you can choose based on type (holiday, inspirational, humorous, religious, etc.) I go on the humorous page, just to give myself a lift every now and then. Hugs to you!
Cheri- Yea! New babies! Now, did you just post recently a pic of your brother at a bris? If so, he must be experiencing a baby boom! Lots of babies!
Karen- Hope you are feeling better!
Linellal- 12 pounds! Whoot! That is AWESOME!!!
DJ- hope your back is feeling better!
Becca- I would have to agree with you on the introduction of religion in a TOPS meeting. They are running the risk of alienating some of their members by doing this. It may be well intentioned; but if some one is looking for help from God or from like minded people, most churches offer this kind of weight loss/ healthy living classes. I think you definitely need to take this up with the leaders of your group.
Katla- I can't even count the number of times I have accidentally thrown files away! Nice save!
Lenora- Where are you friend! Hope all is well! Sending good thoughts, vibes, and prayers your way!0 -
Morning, all... reading everything, as always. Hugs to those who need them, kudos to you who deserve them, and you do.
Trying to just go on with life as normal while waiting for the results of the interview... being fairly unsuccessful at that, but still. I advise others all the time--push it to the side! Taking my own advice is not so easy.
The last interview was yesterday, the senior manager that interviewed me goes on paid time off tomorrow, so the decision should be handed down today. *sigh* I am an impatient soul--and the world never, ever works at the speed I believe it should. Unless, of course, it's to hand out bad news, in which case it works at the speed of light.
Going to go try to write something.
Warmest regards from the newest superhero, the Thumb Twiddler!
and her alter ego, Lisa in West Texas
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Lisa hoping you get the job.
Heather sounds like DH knows himself well that really helps.
One of the turning points for me was when I practice being my own parent to myself. I know my parents had a hard time of it because of their own backgrounds and we as a family suffered as a result. Now I can make choices that hopefully will lead to healing for myself and for my family.
Like the Dalai Lama says compassion, compassion, compassion.
The poem The Guest House by Rumi is also helpful to me in handling my darker thoughts. I like to think that behind each dark thought the sun is shining ready to bring healing. One of the meditations I do is to sit quietly and image a pure light that starts at the top of my head letting it travel through my body. I give extra attention to those parts of me that are hurting. When I finish I send that light back out as a prayer for those who need it.
The Guest House: A Poem
This poem by Rumi would have to be one of the most frequently recited poems in mindfulness retreats and courses around the world.
The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
— Jellaludin Rumi,
translation by Coleman Barks Margaret 0 -
Morning everyone. Enjoying my last couple of days where I am "foot loose and fancy free." Next week is spring break for the schools and I watch a couple of grandchildren when they are off from school. In addition, without consulting the calendar I offered to watch my son's children for six days when he and his wife are on a trip that he was given by his company for being the top achiever in his group. They were given a fully paid trip to Banff National Park in Canada. Quite exciting for them. Quite exhausting for me.... because
Next week I will have SIX children in my care. SIX. Now I had four of my own but it's been a long time since I've dealt with six kids at the same time. I'm not too worried about the four oldest, but the two youngest. Oh my.
Ages I'll be having are 9, 8, 8, 6, 2, 1.
Pretty sure I'll be burning the calories chasing kids.0 -
Marcelynh - Wow! We thought we were being Supergrandparents when we had our two for 36 hours! :noway: Do you have any help?
Margaret - Thank you for the Rumi poem. Lovely. :flowerforyou:
Cooking a curry for tonight, though I don't know how much room DH will have for it as he is out, having lunch with his cricket friend. How nice that two guys can just meet up for a chat over lunch.
It's much too wet underfoot for their normal walking.
I'm cooking butternut squash, cauliflower and spinach, then adding the remains of the guinea fowl from last night.
For lunch I made myself a very low calorie Asian soup, with miso broth from a packet (I used two), rehydrated seaweed, stuff from the fridge like cucumber and scallions , fresh chilli , a bit of the guinea fowl and shiritaki noodles. That was around 110 calories for a HUGE bowlful. High in sodium, but otherwise v healthy.
Do the newbies know about shiritaki noodles? They are made from vegetable and a packet is around 40 calories. I don't often use them as pasta, but they make a great filler for soup.
Love to all, Heather UK0 -
My name is Debbie. Very new to this and have no idea if I am doing it correctly! I only read a few of these posts (is that what they are called??) I am 57 and have gained 17 pounds in the last 7 months and struggling to lose. It sure doesn't come off like it used to! I sit at a desk all day and love to snack-any suggestions??0
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Margaret - That is one of the poems I have saved. Love it!
I've had some sort of strange "bug" this week that seems to be making the rounds. Some headache and some stomachache but in general just feeling like I just couldn't move. I described it to my daughter as feeling like I had the "feeling bad" of strep or something similar but without the other symptoms. I think I had the same thing last year.
I don't really have a lot to say so I'm also going to share a poem. This guy is one of my absolute favorites!Beannacht/Blessing
by John O'Donohue
On the day when
the weight deadens
on your shoulders
and you stumble,
may the clay dance
to balance you.
And when your eyes
freeze behind
the grey window
and the ghost of loss
gets in to you,
may a flock of colours,
indigo, red, green,
and azure blue
come to awaken in you
a meadow of delight.
When the canvas frays
in the currach of thought
and a stain of ocean
blackens beneath you,
may there come across the waters
a path of yellow moonlight
to bring you safely home.
May the nourishment of the earth be yours,
may the clarity of light be yours,
may the fluency of the ocean be yours,
may the protection of the ancestors be yours.
And so may a slow
wind work these words
of love around you,
an invisible cloak
to mind your life.
Carol in NC0 -
So all of you who are single and cook for themselves only no kids at home etc what do you make. I need stuff that is not to difficult to make. Dinner time has been the worst for me. If it is not easy I just don't eat.
Anne from Wisconsin0 -
I don't really have a lot to say so I'm also going to share a poem. This guy is one of my absolute favorites!Beannacht/Blessing
by John O'Donohue
On the day when
the weight deadens
on your shoulders
and you stumble,
may the clay dance
to balance you.
And when your eyes
freeze behind
the grey window
and the ghost of loss
gets in to you,
may a flock of colours,
indigo, red, green,
and azure blue
come to awaken in you
a meadow of delight.
When the canvas frays
in the currach of thought
and a stain of ocean
blackens beneath you,
may there come across the waters
a path of yellow moonlight
to bring you safely home.
May the nourishment of the earth be yours,
may the clarity of light be yours,
may the fluency of the ocean be yours,
may the protection of the ancestors be yours.
And so may a slow
wind work these words
of love around you,
an invisible cloak
to mind your life.
Carol in NC
LOVE! A definite keeper so I copied it into a Word Doc to print out and put on my mirror. Thanks for sharing it. Feel better!
Cheri
Rainy Fairlawn, oHIo0 -
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Good morning! ... My aren't we philosophical today? I'll add my two cents worth!
Some days you're the bug; some days you're the windshield!
Beth0 -
Cheri snd Beth love them both.
Carol that is for sure is a keeper. I too will be saving it. Thank you.
Janetr okc0 -
Good morning all! I'm just getting back to trying to lose weight and get healthy after being off the wagon for WAY longer than I want to admit. I'm new to this group and frankly, I'm looking for some support and encouragement - and hoping to be able to support and encourage others.
A little about me - DH (darling hubby) and we have 5 cats...yes, it's an addiction, I know. I am a government bureaucrat....very sedentary and stressful. In my free time I really like to paint with either pastels or acrylics, make jewelry and sew a little. Fortunately, I do like to cook and try new recipe's, when I have time.
My biggest weight loss problem -- I AM A STRESS EATER!!!!!!! There it is.
So, my goals for (the rest of) March:
1) use the mobile app to log what I eat. Every day.
2) walk at least 15 minutes twice a day. Every day.
Not big goals, but it's about the discipline and getting in the habit - right?
Thanks you all -- have a great day!
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beginning56 wrote: »My name is Debbie. Very new to this and have no idea if I am doing it correctly! I only read a few of these posts (is that what they are called??) I am 57 and have gained 17 pounds in the last 7 months and struggling to lose. It sure doesn't come off like it used to! I sit at a desk all day and love to snack-any suggestions??
yes, my suggestion, don't snack0 -
beginning56 - lololol. welcome, l'm sorry, I had to say it, you left yourself open... I'm a kidder, I joke. put water by your desk and drink it as much as you can. if you like hummus that is always a good dipper for carrots or celery. chop a bunch up and put them in the frig then the night b4, pack some into smaller batches w/some hummus in a small container and go. I leave stuff in the frig at work so I don't have to pack it. I have a 7lb bag of steel cut oats that I'm working on and I bring a weeks worth of milk to work every Monday and leave it there. it just dawned on me, i'll be 57 too in may, awwww we'll be twinzies !!0
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morning peeps -
well, Purdy soon we are going to loose an hr so I'm going to start riding to and from work a lot more often now. that means more 1000 cal. burn days!
this will be the 3rd Friday w/o PT. starting next Friday she'll be back. I've been dedicating Thursdays to doing shoulder stretches on my own.
have a good one peepsters0 -
I intentionally did the all bold :0)0
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Thanks Carol!
Our time change doesn't happen until the last Sunday in March. That'll be Easter I think.
Heather UK0 -
I have homemade food everyday for every meal, it's healthy and much more economical. I go out to eat when invited by friends but never get fast food anymore. I work late some nights (sometimes until 10 pm) and have to bring my dinner to work along with my breakfast and lunch which I bring every day. I tend to actually cook 1 or 2 days/week and the rest of the week is the leftovers which are packed in individual containers so they are right there when I am ready for a meal.tryingtolive1 wrote: »So all of you who are single and cook for themselves only no kids at home etc what do you make. I need stuff that is not to difficult to make. Dinner time has been the worst for me. If it is not easy I just don't eat.
Anne from Wisconsin
In the winter I tend to make:
Crockpot meals especially turkey chili
Roasted veggies i.e. butternut squash, cauliflower, broccoli. I use these as a "base" since I don't eat many potatoes or rice anymore.
Soups i.e. mushroom or brocholli (not cream of. Very delicious and very low cal)
Sauteed spinach, especially tasty under maple marinated salmon
Shrimp over spiral veggies
Meatloaf
I cut up berries and put them over plain greek yogurt sweetened with stevia for dessert
I always have some Purdue Perfect Portions (I like the Italian) on hand which I can broil and then use as a protein along with veggies or cut up on a salad.
I also have hard boiled eggs handy. Quick protein snack, great for sandwiches with a little mayo or on a salad.
I adjust the veggies in the summer based on what is available, eat less soup, more greens and the same proteins. I don't eat much steak at home because it doesn't reheat to my liking.
I am rarely at a loss to find a wonderful meal in my fridge when I get home from work. I put my recipies in MFP and I know what the calorie count is which helps tremendously. I cook on the weekend or on an evening that I'm not working too late. Usually the more elaborate meals are cooked on the weekend.
This plan has helped me get to my goal and lose over 40 lbs. Unfortunately I have absolutely no will power when I go out (heavy sigh). I hope this helps get you started.
Thanks to all of you for all the kind words. I was afraid that you didn't miss me
Chris in MA
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did I mention how much I hate riding in the wind? 19mph! ok, carry on....0
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Good morning everyone. It said there were 107 new messages this morning, so there's no way I can read them all. I hope everyone is doing well and feeling marvelous!
Last night was a bad night for my son, thus a bad night for the rest of the family. He refused to go to the hospital (again), so he's just trying to suffer through yet another respiratory distress episode. He's so pig headed. So, we had to rush to Wal-Mart to rescue him, then took the kids to dinner and to our house for a while so he could get himself together. He says he is feeling a little better this morning. At least he woke up this morning, so that's something. One of these days he won't. We all know it.
I spent a little more time yesterday searching for the cat with the arrow through it, but still no luck. I'm afraid he's dead. It's hard to just give up though. I think everyone else has.
Next week is spring break and the kids will be out of school all week so we will take them several days, just to give them something to do. We're thinking about taking them to the space museum in Hutchinson Kansas. It's really nice and they would enjoy it.
My cough is easing up at last, and I'm starting to feel human again. One of my friends has come down with it though, so I feel bad about that. She went to the doctor and was tested (positive) for Enfluenza B, so she's getting treatment and feeling better already. I wish I had gone to the doctor earlier. But her symptoms were a little different than mine, so it might not have been the same thing at all.
Well, I'm of to finish some drafting. Have a great day!
Sylvia0 -
Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Morning Ladies,
Cheri, great going on your exercises. Such a loving picture of your brother and his grandchild.
Linnella, wonderful loss in just a month. Keep up the great work.
Chris, so glad this thread has been able to help you keep your head above water. I’m glad you have started exercising again and please remember we are with you. ((((Hugs))))
Katla, I have the sublingual B12 and will admit I forget to take it more than not. My back actually got better as the day went on.
Sue, I hope the doc can help with your breathing. That has to be terrible.
Katla, the purple pants look great and you do too. I’m not good at taking selfies either. Lol
Irish Terri, so good to see you and love the poem. ((((Hugs))))
MsWolf, so sorry for your loss. It is so hard on us and takes a while. ((((Hugs))))
CJ, I enjoyed the chickens in the hot tub. They did look relaxed.
Barbie, I hope Jake’s procedure goes well.
Heather, it does sound like you and your DH are a good match. No matter how great, none of us or our spouses are perfect all the time.
to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.
I had hoped to catch up before I had to leave for the convention but didn’t quite make it. Will read over the next few days but may not post. This afternoon should be in the mid 70’s so I plan to hit the beach for a couple of hours. I hope everyone heals over the weekend as I hate my friends being sick. Hugs to all.
I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.
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Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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