women, do you dress for men or for women?

suzycreamcheese
suzycreamcheese Posts: 1,766 Member
edited September 28 in Chit-Chat
apart from the obvious answer (myself/yourself) who do you think you dress to impress mostly?

Guys, or other women?


I think in reality, i prefer the approval of other women in the way i dress, if anyone.
I dont generally think men normally notice clothes, apart from to think either sexy or not sexy, but nothing really inbetween (apart from very occasional very style conscious men that are few and far between)
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  • Helice
    Helice Posts: 1,075 Member
    i dont dress to empress anyone... lol
    i have 1 pair of jeans... 1 pair of shoes.. 2 jumpers... and about 3 vest t-shirts..
    So im not really equipped for it..
    But on posh occasions when i have to go out and buy a dress. then i try to impress everyone.
  • BigBoneSista
    BigBoneSista Posts: 2,389 Member
    To be honest it use to be for men & women back before I gain all my weight. I was in college and it was just a fashion show on campus.

    Now I dress for 1 man's approval and that's my hubby. Every time I shop I try to imagine how he would like what I'm wearing. The smile it would bring to his face. The approval he would get from other men because he has me on his arm. I want to make sure I come correct for him.
  • unsuspectingfish
    unsuspectingfish Posts: 1,176 Member
    I dress for geeks. Pretty much all my shirts are extremely geeky in nature.
  • 90210UK
    90210UK Posts: 81
    I never dress for men.... I love fashion and love clothes so I buy and wear what I like. A lot of the time my boyfriend doesnt like what I wear as it may be too fashion forward but no way would I dress for men.... they dont dress for us do they :) And if they did they wouldnt be wearing ill fitted jeans and shabby trainers :)
  • Robin1117
    Robin1117 Posts: 1,768 Member
    I guess even though I'm super casual during the day, and still try to look my best even when I do not leave the house, I dress to impress myself.

    I hate looking in the mirror and seeing something frumpy back.

    If I do go out, it's just a matter of feeling proud of how I look-regardless of whether it's men or women who will see me. But overall, I guess you are right, women are much better judges of style and are better with compliments when they are warranted. I know men just see women as attractive or not, and are happy when we wear jeans and t-shirts. My husband is terrible like that--he doesn't see much of a difference sometimes when I just wake up vs. after I'm all ready and dressed.


    Desirai--your picture/progress is amazing!! congrats!!
  • _Aimée_
    _Aimée_ Posts: 190
    I dress for everyone! I love sexy feminine clothes. People compliment me all the time on what I'm wearing so I must be doing something right! Just a shame my wardrobe isn't very varied atm as I'm dropping sizes all the time!
  • helloiloveukitty
    helloiloveukitty Posts: 448 Member
    I def. dress for my preference with is simple but sexy...skirts, dresses, leggings, like to show lots of cleavage, everything must be tight and showcasing the curves so...men I suppose, not into all the super high fashiony and imo silly looking crap most women seem to like.
  • purplepollypops
    purplepollypops Posts: 323 Member
    I don't dress for anyone!
    I don't care what other people think about what I'm wearing!
  • stephanielynn76
    stephanielynn76 Posts: 709 Member
    Unless a woman is wearing something overtly sexy I don't think men notice or care too much honestly. When I was out shopping the other day I was watching these two couples in the store next to me. In one of these pairs the guy looked like he was trying to be helpful when it was obvious he was clueless. In the other the guy just looked bored... in fact his wife turned around and showed him something and said excitedly, "Isn't this so cute!!!" to which he replied, "It's the cutest thing I've ever seen in my whole life" quite sarcastically.
    ...I wouldn't even bother bringing my husband shopping.... I'm certain he'd prefer a root canal.

    For me personally... I'd want the women to think, "Omgosh what a cute outfit.... I love the colors and her accessories... and the shoes are to die for...." .... and I'd want the men to think... "She's hot." .... LOL
  • Foofyknickers
    Foofyknickers Posts: 37 Member
    On a day to day basis, I wear what's practical. I work with children in a play setting, so I turn up in jeans and trainers and a hoody mostly. There would be no point in me turning up in a dress with heels as I wouldn't be able to do my job properly.
    However, if I am going out I will wear something that makes me feel good about myself, and that makes my man proud to be with me. It's nice when my friends compliment what I'm wearing on a night out, but I don't go in for that competetive thing that alot of girls/women do. Sad though it is, I like to be comfortable and warm! :ohwell: :wink:
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    I dress for myself and don't think at all about what others might think of it.

    However, if a woman thought what I was wearing looked nice I think I'd like that more than if a man had said it, IMO men don't really notice much or know much about clothes in general so I'd rather take the woman's opinion.
    When my bf tells me he likes what i'm wearing, I feel happy that he likes it and love the compliment, but it won't make me think it's a great looking outfit if I'm undecided, I'd just think it's a great outfit - in his opinion! haha
  • BigBoneSista
    BigBoneSista Posts: 2,389 Member
    I guess even though I'm super casual during the day, and still try to look my best even when I do not leave the house, I dress to impress myself.

    I hate looking in the mirror and seeing something frumpy back.

    If I do go out, it's just a matter of feeling proud of how I look-regardless of whether it's men or women who will see me. But overall, I guess you are right, women are much better judges of style and are better with compliments when they are warranted. I know men just see women as attractive or not, and are happy when we wear jeans and t-shirts. My husband is terrible like that--he doesn't see much of a difference sometimes when I just wake up vs. after I'm all ready and dressed.


    Desirai--your picture/progress is amazing!! congrats!!

    Thank you Robin.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I dress for myself, first and foremost. If I don't feel good in what I'm wearing, then there's no point. But beyond that, I dress with men in mind (at least more so than women). I don't dress slutty or trampy at all, I just try to look feminine with a little bit of sex appeal. Yes, I like when women tell me they love my shoes or ask where I got my top, but I don't want to spend all my weekends hanging out with chicks, so overall, I'm not all that concerned with what they think about how I look.
  • bakebunny
    bakebunny Posts: 253
    I dress for comfort and what I expect to be doing. I used to dress to impress men mostly but since meeting my boyfriend, I dress just for him now.
    I pick my lingerie with ME in mind, what makes me feel sexy, and when I feel sexy and good, my day seems to go better.
  • Flossycat100
    Flossycat100 Posts: 103
    I dress for ME :bigsmile:

    If I think I look nice, I am much happier and more confident. But I don't mind what anyone else thinks!
  • nerdyandilikeit
    nerdyandilikeit Posts: 2,185 Member
    I never dress for men.... I love fashion and love clothes so I buy and wear what I like. A lot of the time my boyfriend doesnt like what I wear as it may be too fashion forward but no way would I dress for men.... they dont dress for us do they :) And if they did they wouldnt be wearing ill fitted jeans and shabby trainers :)

    AMEN! :)
  • thecanface
    thecanface Posts: 1,180 Member
    for women! yes, i want you to notice these Christian Lou Boutin knock offs ;)
  • thecanface
    thecanface Posts: 1,180 Member
    I never dress for men.... I love fashion and love clothes so I buy and wear what I like. A lot of the time my boyfriend doesnt like what I wear as it may be too fashion forward but no way would I dress for men.... they dont dress for us do they :) And if they did they wouldnt be wearing ill fitted jeans and shabby trainers :)

    AMEN! :)


    lmao! sooo true! they sure as hheck don't dress for us, un less we dress them!
  • angryguy77
    angryguy77 Posts: 836 Member
    Unless a woman is wearing something overtly sexy I don't think men notice or care too much honestly. When I was out shopping the other day I was watching these two couples in the store next to me. In one of these pairs the guy looked like he was trying to be helpful when it was obvious he was clueless. In the other the guy just looked bored... in fact his wife turned around and showed him something and said excitedly, "Isn't this so cute!!!" to which he replied, "It's the cutest thing I've ever seen in my whole life" quite sarcastically.
    ...I wouldn't even bother bringing my husband shopping.... I'm certain he'd prefer a root canal.

    For me personally... I'd want the women to think, "Omgosh what a cute outfit.... I love the colors and her accessories... and the shoes are to die for...." .... and I'd want the men to think... "She's hot." .... LOL

    The only honest answer here. I've heard enough talk from women and seen enough looks to know how judgmental they are about fashion. It's not a bad thing or a criticism, but I don't buy women "dressing for themselves".
  • missbp
    missbp Posts: 601 Member
    I dress for me. My objective is to feel good about myself. I think that is what most people find attractive anyway.

    Michelle
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
    i think i really used to dress for men

    now i am dressing more for myself, and i find that i am pleasing somebody in that process
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
    I dress for geeks. Pretty much all my shirts are extremely geeky in nature.

    i love this

    i recently saw a woman, total bombsell, wearing a shirt saying

    i *picture of heart* you > than i *picture of heart* statistics
  • Stefani74
    Stefani74 Posts: 448 Member
    I dress for me! I wear what I like and what I am comfortable in. Don't care what other women think...don't care what men think! When I walk out of the house I want to feel good about ME!
  • Voncreepy2
    Voncreepy2 Posts: 1,450 Member
    I think it's mostly for my kids now!!!!! Whatever i don't mind getting dirty or that won't show stains as i enevitably end up wearing my baby's food. Sounds bad, I know, but i still clean up nice.
  • ChantalGG
    ChantalGG Posts: 2,404 Member
    I dont like to have any men stare at me, it is just creepy. I want to look good but not exposed. I dress fro myself i guess, i want to feel pretty.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    Unless a woman is wearing something overtly sexy I don't think men notice or care too much honestly. When I was out shopping the other day I was watching these two couples in the store next to me. In one of these pairs the guy looked like he was trying to be helpful when it was obvious he was clueless. In the other the guy just looked bored... in fact his wife turned around and showed him something and said excitedly, "Isn't this so cute!!!" to which he replied, "It's the cutest thing I've ever seen in my whole life" quite sarcastically.
    ...I wouldn't even bother bringing my husband shopping.... I'm certain he'd prefer a root canal.

    For me personally... I'd want the women to think, "Omgosh what a cute outfit.... I love the colors and her accessories... and the shoes are to die for...." .... and I'd want the men to think... "She's hot." .... LOL

    The only honest answer here. I've heard enough talk from women and seen enough looks to know how judgmental they are about fashion. It's not a bad thing or a criticism, but I don't buy women "dressing for themselves".

    On a base level, we are all dressing for ourselves. I absolutely never dress with the intent of getting compliments from anyone, male or female. Men don't typically offer compliments anyway, unless they're telling their date she looks nice. Women ... sure, I like being complimented on what I'm wearing, but I don't think about that when I get dressed.

    I dress primarily to feel good about what I see in the mirror and secondarily to look hot to members of the opposite sex. The latter part of that may sound shallow and superficial, but when you're a straight, single woman, it's always a consideration, no matter how much you try to deny it; you want guys to think you're hot.

    Why would anyone wear anything they didn't feel good about? Even if you thought other people would like it, if you didn't feel good about how you looked, why would you wear it? So to that extent, I think pretty much everyone dresses first to please themselves.

    And I absolutely do not buy the whole "men don't notice and don't care what women are wearing" theory. They may not care about individual articles of clothing or what color your top is, but they absolutely care about your overall look. I know a lot of men who immediately categorize a woman wearing the latest fashion trends and loaded down with accessories as "high-maintenance" or "superficial." If you're wearing baggy jeans, an oversized t-shirt, and flip-flops, you're not going to get the same attention as a woman wearing tight jeans, a form-fitting tank top, and heels. If you're not trying to get a man's attention, great. But if you are, you better get on board with the idea that men DO care what you look like, and that includes the clothes you have on.
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    I would like to say myself, but if I have to choose, I would probably say women.

    I like wearing Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Betsey Johnson, Marc by Marc Jacobs etc, and women tend to be more familiar with brands...I like to mix girly and sexy...in my experience, there are a lot of mean and insecure women, and dressing well often keeps those ones away. ^.^;;;

    I used to dress to attract men when I was younger. Now I don't, but if I have a boyfriend I will dress to impress him instead...although I honestly, I just dress how I like.

    When it comes to my clothing, I receive an equal amount of compliments from men and women.

    PS: You can always tell when a guy you are first getting to know really likes you when he compliments a piece of clothing and he either asks the cost, or he asks where you bought it, which leads to him asking the cost lol, "Nice scarf! Where'd you get it?" "Louis Vuitton." "...Isn't that expensive?"/"How much was it?" "$150+"
    If he answers:
    A. "I'll buy one of those for you!"
    B. "Expensive...but I guess it's worth it. It looks so cute on you"
    or something that denotes he would pay for a 100000% markup item, he really likes you.

    If he answers:
    C. "What a rip off!"
    D. "Okay..."
    He's not that into you, so leave him.

    I seem to attract the "perfect men," so take it from me. You get back what you put out either way, so it is still important to stay yourself though :)
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    Primarily for me. I'm an artist. Color, pattern, texture and all that makes me happy. Putting together a great outfit is like a little work of art, without having to clean my paintbrushes. Or just a way of showing personality or mood, whether it's something classy, punk, or cute.

    Secondly for my husband. He doesn't care one lick about fashion, but he likes thinking, "My wife looks AWESOME!" I don't have the body proportions to look drop dead, traffic stopping sexy, but I know how to flatter what I got.

    Lastly, everyone else. I like compliments. I don't care if they're from a man or a woman, as long as they're not creepy

    I have no interest at all in brand names. They way I look at it, I shouldn't pay extra for a label. They should be paying me for advertising for them! :laugh:
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    I do not dress for anyone other than myself.I could not care less what anyone else thinks of it or if I impress anyone.If I like something I wear it and do not really worry about what anyone else might think of it.
  • LaPistolaSexola
    LaPistolaSexola Posts: 243 Member
    most of the time i dress for comfort
    sometimes i'm feeling supa sexy and i'll dress for me.

    however...i have been known to take requests from my man from time to time
    ......but that outfit doesn't sty on long. so... yeah.
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