why is losing weight so hard

Why is it so hard? Being patient is hard.

Agree with queenliz99!! Also, it is counter-cultural to delay self-gratification. Human eating habits are heard to break!! We have so much food available, that there are countless decisions to be made about what we eat each day!! You have to really really commit to the process to make it work.

Because the calorie deficit is hard. It is corrective action to fix a health problem we all got into. This is why they say if it was easy everyone would do it. Sometimes it's because people focus too much on the results and not enough on the process or the healthy lifestyle and all the NSV's.

“You would only fail to accomplish something if you were focused on the outcome.” If you continue to focus on the outcome and results, it may not be what you expected. Once you let go of that, you have accomplishment.

You have passion.

You will go do great things.

Every day.

You will have a PRIZEFIGHTER VICTORY day every day.

-Tips from “Own Your Success” by Ben Newman

It is hard because we have an overabundance of food. Humans were meant to eat when stressed and when food was available, well that is all the time now in the last 100 years of modern society, so obesity climbs.

So we have to find ways to get comfort from things other than food. We have to retrain ourselves. Sometimes when we think we are hungry we really need some other primal comfort; warmth, coolness, human touch, sleep. A hot bath, a cool dip in the pool, a nap or just go to bed, a hot cup of tea, a big drink of water, a massage, a hug, talking to someone who cares and listens, writing in a journal.

Next time you think you are hungry, try one of those other things. You might learn something about your hunger, if you just listen.

gastro bypass does not help you train yourself in these things, so it might not end up helping you in the end. I know several who have it permanently and they gained all their weight back and then some. It does not really fix the problem.

The problem is there is too much food available. You can fix it by going somewhere in the world where you won't have all the food and living there. Or, you can learn to navigate all the too much food - which is essentially like swimming up stream for our lives, but you can adapt and relax about it and retrain yourself.

I have a friend who had gastric bypass and gained lots of weight back. Her and I are part of a health plan that has created health in all aspects of our lives she lost 70lbs and I lost 117. The first thing you have to change is not what you eat but your mindset. There is a solution that doesn't include surgery!!!

I agree, it's in the head, not the stomach. And it's hard because, if you had had ancestors who could easily pass up food when it was over-available, they'd have starved to death in the next famine and you would never have been born. This business of everyone having lots and lots more food than they need all the time is brand-new to your body. Your mind, however, is a lot more adaptable: it can learn in one lifetime how to deal with conditions that human beings have never experienced before. Put your head in charge!

Because if it were easy, there wouldn't be people that are overweight. The body is great at storage and not at releasing it. It takes commitment and discipline for it to happen.

As for gastric bypass, that may not solve your issue. Your issue is control of your calories. Getting a procedure done rarely addresses the problem of CONTROL and it's NOT uncommon for people who do GB to not lose weight after 6 months or so.

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Don't worry about eating "clean" or sticking to any resolutions or diet plans.

Just worry about eating under your calorie limit.

You can make room for what you desire the most with a little planning.

This doesn't all have to be too complicated.

Life is hard in general. But you have to stand strong and fight back, to get your health back. Gastric bypass will not teach you to exercise nor good eating habits. I'm struggling with my weight as well but be persistent, DON'T ever give up, and push through those mental road blocks that keep telling you that you can't. My aunt had the bypass, and gained 150 lbs after having it done because she didn't improve on anything.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

The good news is, once you do manage to change your behavior, it wants to stick, not revert.

Yurie222 wrote: »

I totally agree. I haven't lose weight at all.... It passing almost two weeks.....bleh

See this is the issue^^^^ Almost 2 weeks? PATIENCE. You can't expect things to happen instantaneously.

@boyter77 It's a process...it takes time is the bottom line and the first step is learning Calories In/Calories Out. Give this site a try. Log everything. Be honest when you have bad days as well as good. Seek help from the MFP community. Read the Success Stories. It can be done. This is your first step. I wish you well. You can do this!

Not to put this particular guy on the spot but this is how he started. he is one of my MFP friends so I see him constantly putting in the effort, blogging, updating, and he is yielding results....the healthy way through the ups and downs of trying to figure this new way of life. You should message him and follow his progress. It may give you a little motivation. This was his initial post when he started 2 months ago.

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10317755/560lbs-long-way-to-go-who-has-my-back/p1

surgery isn't easy. If you don't have the willpower now to resist temptation, then surgery will be a nightmare for you. I have a friend going through it and I honestly couldn't live like that post op. I can be honest with myself.

Just be patient. I have to tell myself that I have to repeat good days more than twice to see results.

Losing weight is actually easy. It's the maintaining that's hard - at least, that's been my experience.

Think long and hard before surgery. I've seen videos on youtube and there have been people who had a lot of problems post-surgery such as, diarrhea and basically felt I'll when overeating or eating a high fat meal. I personally would prefer to learn new healthy eating/lifestyle, than put myself at risk for future lifelong complications, not to mention some people come out of surgery don't know proper eating habits and don't even lose much because they end up stretching out their stomachs again from overeating.