Most annoying things people say when your losing weight!!

I was told recently that I had gotten too skinny...by a female co-worker. One of her friends came by later to tell me that the only reason she had said that was because I now weigh less than she does and she can't handle that. Sorry, not sorry.

People that think it's their place to decide when you can and can't fit in the calories to have something calorie-dense. "It's a special occasion, it's my birthday! You can indulge, this doesn't happen every day!" You don't know my schedule - maybe I'm hoarding calories that week and going out of town for the weekend. Maybe my mom's birthday was 2 days ago and I indulged then so I can't now. Maybe the kind of cake you bought just isn't worth the calories to my taste. Maybe I just don't want it as much as I want to maintain my deficit.

No matter what the reason is, it's not their place to decide for me when I can and can't afford to eat calorie-dense food.

therealklane wrote: »

"Wow, you eat a lot, how do you lose weight eating like that?"

I love hearing that. The correct answer is "Yeah. Don't you wish you could, too?"

osche731 wrote: »

When average/thin people complain their fat to me...it's hurtful and discouraging.

I've always hated that.

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osche731 wrote: »

When average/thin people complain their fat to me...it's hurtful and discouraging.

That's your own insecurities. If they don't say anything about you, it has nothing to do with you. If a friend complains about getting grey hair, I don't take offense just because I have a bunch. If a friend complains about feeling so tired because of their kid, I don't feel offended and demean them just because I'm doing it with 3. We all have different levels of comfort and ideas of what our bodies should look like. If I want to lose weight, that's on me, and it wouldn't be right for anyone to tell me I'm being ridiculous, or roll their eyes, or get offended just because they are bigger than I am.

"Don't get too skinny."
Someone said that to me and followed it with: "cuz when a woman loses her curves, that's just unattractive."
As if to say I was fast approaching that point. Um...thanks?
My response was pretty much the same as therealklane:
- I'll stop when I am comfortable with myself and can successfully reach my goals.

I must be surrounding myself with the right people nowadays. I haven't gotten ignorant comments like that in years. Most people tell me my hard work is paying off and that I look great. Sometimes they ask advice or just tell me what they're doing to be healthier. This has been the most positive weight loss experience I've ever had.

It probably helps that a good chunk of my interactions are with other fitness enthusiasts. When I was gaining muscle from lifting, my mom told me I looked "buff" and definitely meant it as a compliment. I think my family has realized that we all struggle, we all have our own goals, and we'll all find health and happiness in our own ways.

I must be lucky too because I didn't/ don't get any kind of negative comments either. I did while back and only from one person and I set her straight right away. But if I did get any negative comments, they would get what they deserve. I don't mince my words, especially with people that doesn't deserve it.

"You don't need to lose any weight." Well, I'm still teetering on the edge of healthy and overweight BMI, so I'm pretty sure I do need to lose at least a little.

"Don't get too skinny!" Losing ain't easy, friend. I'm not going to accidentally waste away.

"You can indulge a little." Or, "Eating bad every now and then won't make you fat." You don't know what my diet looks like. Maybe I have a special event coming up with a lot of good food, maybe I had a big breakfast, maybe I just decided the calorie count in that particular treat is too high for the actual enjoyment I'll get from it.

Though, mostly, these comments come unsolicited from strangers or acquaintances. Fortunately for me, most my family and friends have been really supportive. Most often from them, I get comments like, "Wow, you have such good self control." Or, "You look great, how much have you lost so far?" So I've got that going for me, which is nice.

You are losing weight on purpose? You're not dying or something.....

MzManiak wrote: »

osche731 wrote: »

When average/thin people complain their fat to me...it's hurtful and discouraging.

That's your own insecurities. If they don't say anything about you, it has nothing to do with you. If a friend complains about getting grey hair, I don't take offense just because I have a bunch. If a friend complains about feeling so tired because of their kid, I don't feel offended and demean them just because I'm doing it with 3. We all have different levels of comfort and ideas of what our bodies should look like. If I want to lose weight, that's on me, and it wouldn't be right for anyone to tell me I'm being ridiculous, or roll their eyes, or get offended just because they are bigger than I am.

^^ Yes. Also, why is it discouraging to hear someone else is insecure about their body? They're not comparing themselves to you! They're not passing judgement on your body. If they're insecure then be a supportive friend to them.

"Why are you trying again? You gained back what you lost before, so what's the point?"

As if I don't already struggle with those thoughts. Thanks so much for reminding me.

I just take everything as a compliment. I got the "are you losing weight on purpose or sick" one and just started laughing. Fair concern, but I was really fat, of course it was on purpose. (Not totally true, to be fair -- I have an overweight friend who's lost a bunch of weight due to cancer treatment.) You don't need to lose any more weight, you can afford to indulge, how can you eat that much and not gain -- I just perceive all that as positives.

The only thing I don't like is being asked how much I lost (I'm not going to tell you), and grilled about what secret thing I did to lose the weight (no, I ate more mindfully, and less, and got really active). But even those I think are positives, since they mean I lost a lot.

kandell wrote: »

"If we make it at home it's healthy." Babe...No...that's not how that works.

Hahahaha!