Back again with pregnancy weight update, and freaking out.
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TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL. HONESTLY.
About your eating disorder.
about the pregnancy
about freelee the banana girl and all the other nutty ideas you're considering because you have an eating disorder and are pregnant and have all the raging hormones etc.
In other words: TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL. HONESTLY.8 -
IGNORE THIS PERSONMoniela1011 wrote: »Limit your intake of salty foods. It can increase water retention, which could very well be putting on the extra pounds. You can exercise while pregnant. I put on 70 lbs when I was pregnant and all off it came off within a few months after delivery and I didn't breastfeed at all. Just eat the recommended amount of calories for a healthy pregnancy and log what you eat. Just know that if you do decide to breastfeed, you'll have to eat more calories to keep up your milk supply. However WIC will provide you with free formula if you decide not to breastfeed.
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Wait, you can't control eating fast food but you are now considering vegan/raw til 4?
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10380773/raw-til-4-diet-freelee-the-banana-girl#latest
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Moniela1011 wrote: »Limit your intake of salty foods. It can increase water retention, which could very well be putting on the extra pounds. You can exercise while pregnant. I put on 70 lbs when I was pregnant and all off it came off within a few months after delivery and I didn't breastfeed at all. Just eat the recommended amount of calories for a healthy pregnancy and log what you eat. Just know that if you do decide to breastfeed, you'll have to eat more calories to keep up your milk supply. However WIC will provide you with free formula if you decide not to breastfeed.
I have decided to breastfeed. My family keeps telling me it will take up too much of my time though.0 -
ArtsyDarling wrote: »I am 195.5 lbs now, I am going nuts. I am having bad thoughts. I don't want to eat, I want to do things the right way but the pounds won't stop packing on. I'm stuck eating fast food because I do not have control over the money so we eat what we have to to survive. Can't go grocery shopping. I almost wish I wasn't pregnant. I wish I could go back to December and feel like 140 lbs again. It's so embarrassing to go see people I know because the last time they saw me I had lost all this weight and became so pretty and skinny and now I am almost back up to where I was and I am only 25 weeks pregnant. It's not like I have only a month to go, I have a long time to put on probably 50 more lbs.
This is a complete and total cop-out. You need to grow up NOW and take control of the situation. That means:
1. Discuss this issue directly with your doctor.
2. Get on WIC and explore other temporary benefits which can help you in the short term. Here is a link to find out more about WIC: fns.usda.gov/wic/who-gets-wic-and-how-apply This site includes contact information for WIC offices in each state.
3. Buy, prepare and cook real food.
Nobody is ever STUCK with fast food. It is a choice and you are willfully harming your child. That is not OK.
This is not about you, your looks for how your weight effects your social status. This is about your child--what you are doing could cause lifelong health problems for your baby.
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ArtsyDarling wrote: »Moniela1011 wrote: »Limit your intake of salty foods. It can increase water retention, which could very well be putting on the extra pounds. You can exercise while pregnant. I put on 70 lbs when I was pregnant and all off it came off within a few months after delivery and I didn't breastfeed at all. Just eat the recommended amount of calories for a healthy pregnancy and log what you eat. Just know that if you do decide to breastfeed, you'll have to eat more calories to keep up your milk supply. However WIC will provide you with free formula if you decide not to breastfeed.
I have decided to breastfeed. My family keeps telling me it will take up too much of my time though.
Wow! Really!! Listen to you not what other's think.0 -
3dogsrunning wrote: »Wait, you can't control eating fast food but you are now considering vegan/raw til 4?
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10380773/raw-til-4-diet-freelee-the-banana-girl#latest
I tried talking to my boyfriend about it and he said we can't afford it. I just wanted to see what other people thought.0 -
You should seek professional help.
There's a ton of red flags.- You suffered from anorexia pre-pregnancy
- You want to lose weight while pregnant
- You don't want to eat
- You "almost" wish you weren't pregnant
You should be speaking to your OBGYN and a specialist to deal with your anorexia and ED issues.12 -
You should seek professional help.
There's a ton of red flags.- You suffered from anorexia pre-pregnancy
- You want to lose weight while pregnant
- You don't want to eat
- You "almost" wish you weren't pregnant
You should be speaking to your OBGYN and a specialist to deal with your anorexia and ED issues.
Good summary. /end thread.0 -
With 15ish weeks to go, your baby will be developing rapidly and packing on his own pounds. You shouldn't be worried about loosing weight, rather you should be concerned about eating well and gaining steadily, getting fresh air,regular exercise and a reasonable night's sleep.
*My* biggest concern is the comment about money. Who is controlling it? Why are you letting them?
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I guess after reading this, I don't understand why you can afford fast food but not groceries? Lean meats and veggies/fruits are not expensive.
Secondly, BREASTFEED. It's cheap (free!), and yeah, it takes up some of your time, but there is nothing - NOTHING - that is better for your baby in the first year than your breastmilk. As your baby gets older, they nurse less frequently, and the bonding is INCREDIBLE. Please don't deprive yourself of this opportunity.4 -
Bethie_ess wrote: »With 15ish weeks to go, your baby will be developing rapidly and packing on his own pounds. You shouldn't be worried about loosing weight, rather you should be concerned about eating well and gaining steadily, getting fresh air,regular exercise and a reasonable night's sleep.
*My* biggest concern is the comment about money. Who is controlling it? Why are you letting them?
my boyfriend, it's not that he's controlling it, he just handles the finances to keep our heads above water.0 -
I guess after reading this, I don't understand why you can afford fast food but not groceries? Lean meats and veggies/fruits are not expensive.
Secondly, BREASTFEED. It's cheap (free!), and yeah, it takes up some of your time, but there is nothing - NOTHING - that is better for your baby in the first year than your breastmilk. As your baby gets older, they nurse less frequently, and the bonding is INCREDIBLE. Please don't deprive yourself of this opportunity.
Fast food is more affordable because we can't both afford separate meals at the grocery store. He's a picky eater. I am not trying to make him sound like a monster because he's not. He does his best and he is trying to make the right decisions for us right now.0 -
ArtsyDarling wrote: »I guess after reading this, I don't understand why you can afford fast food but not groceries? Lean meats and veggies/fruits are not expensive.
Secondly, BREASTFEED. It's cheap (free!), and yeah, it takes up some of your time, but there is nothing - NOTHING - that is better for your baby in the first year than your breastmilk. As your baby gets older, they nurse less frequently, and the bonding is INCREDIBLE. Please don't deprive yourself of this opportunity.
Fast food is more affordable because we can't both afford separate meals at the grocery store. He's a picky eater. I am not trying to make him sound like a monster because he's not. He does his best and he is trying to make the right decisions for us right now.
Tell him to grow up. Seriously. It sounds like you BOTH need to grow up a lot, very quickly.
You're about to be 100% responsible for a totally dependent human life.
You need to be ready and thinking about that.
And what we're reading is: a child, and a pregnant lady with an ED.
See a professional.7 -
Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »
IGNORE THIS PERSONMoniela1011 wrote: »Limit your intake of salty foods. It can increase water retention, which could very well be putting on the extra pounds. You can exercise while pregnant. I put on 70 lbs when I was pregnant and all off it came off within a few months after delivery and I didn't breastfeed at all. Just eat the recommended amount of calories for a healthy pregnancy and log what you eat. Just know that if you do decide to breastfeed, you'll have to eat more calories to keep up your milk supply. However WIC will provide you with free formula if you decide not to breastfeed.
Why should she ignore it? Woman can exercise while pregnant if the doctor agrees with it. I think that @Moniela1011 posted a solid and fair comment so I don't understand your concern.3 -
Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »I guess after reading this, I don't understand why you can afford fast food but not groceries? Lean meats and veggies/fruits are not expensive.
Secondly, BREASTFEED. It's cheap (free!), and yeah, it takes up some of your time, but there is nothing - NOTHING - that is better for your baby in the first year than your breastmilk. As your baby gets older, they nurse less frequently, and the bonding is INCREDIBLE. Please don't deprive yourself of this opportunity.
Fast food is more affordable because we can't both afford separate meals at the grocery store. He's a picky eater. I am not trying to make him sound like a monster because he's not. He does his best and he is trying to make the right decisions for us right now.
Tell him to grow up. Seriously. It sounds like you BOTH need to grow up a lot, very quickly.
You're about to be 100% responsible for a totally dependent human life.
You need to be ready and thinking about that.
And what we're reading is: a child, and a pregnant lady with an ED.
See a professional.
I've already heard the advice see a professional quite a few times now. Nothing I can do at 9 pm. I know I am young, I know I have problems, never said I was perfect. I know exactly what you are seeing. I'm not stupid. I know what I look like to you. I'm not exactly proud over here of my situation. Do you think I am happy about this? Do you think I haven't even thought, "wow my life is complete *kitten*, I am 20 years old and having a baby. I have no idea what I am going to do." I'm not asking you to tell me to grow up or to tell me how much of a bad mother I am. I am asking you for advice on way I can help my weight and the notes have been taken.0 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »I am 195.5 lbs now, I am going nuts. I am having bad thoughts. I don't want to eat, I want to do things the right way but the pounds won't stop packing on. I'm stuck eating fast food because I do not have control over the money so we eat what we have to to survive. Can't go grocery shopping. I almost wish I wasn't pregnant. I wish I could go back to December and feel like 140 lbs again. It's so embarrassing to go see people I know because the last time they saw me I had lost all this weight and became so pretty and skinny and now I am almost back up to where I was and I am only 25 weeks pregnant. It's not like I have only a month to go, I have a long time to put on probably 50 more lbs.
This is a complete and total cop-out. You need to grow up NOW and take control of the situation. That means:
1. Discuss this issue directly with your doctor.
2. Get on WIC and explore other temporary benefits which can help you in the short term. Here is a link to find out more about WIC: fns.usda.gov/wic/who-gets-wic-and-how-apply This site includes contact information for WIC offices in each state.
3. Buy, prepare and cook real food.
Nobody is ever STUCK with fast food. It is a choice and you are willfully harming your child. That is not OK.
This is not about you, your looks for how your weight effects your social status. This is about your child--what you are doing could cause lifelong health problems for your baby.
Wow, just wow! You really seem to have always a way with words and how to put a young person down. You must be perfect!1 -
ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »alyssa0061 wrote: »You need to relax
Thanks that helps.
Since you didn't like my original answer, I'll elaborate.
Almost every comment you got on your last thread advised you to talk to your doctor. In this thread you've mentioned twice that your doctor didn't say anything about your weight. Did you ask the doctor about it? Did you talkabout your weight? It's your responsibility to bring up your concerns and worries. They don't read minds.
You said you were anorexic right before you fell pregnant. Does your doctor know that? Have you talked about it? Are you still displaying anorexic tendencies? (I'd say yes to that one but I'm not the doctor).
If you can't go grocery shopping now how are you planning on losing weight while pregnant? Not eating? You need to talk to your doctor. Tell them everything you've said here. Even the things they might already know.
And for your sake and more importantly your baby's,
You need to relax.
Yes my doctor knows I was anorexic, The first thing I told her when I met her.
You ignored all my other questions which leads me to believe that you have not brought it up with your doctor.
If you're looking for approval on losing weight while pregnant you're not going to find it here. Especially for an anorexic. That would just be enabling the behavior.
And heres some advice for you, instead of attacking someone who has some obvious problems and self destructing behavior maybe you could I don't know be a little less harsh. There's a difference between that and honesty. Luckily I am not THAT fragile. Be careful what you say because responding the way you did can enable the behavior. It definitely didn't make me feel good.
How come you're not accusing all these other people who are saying the exact same thing as me of attacking you?
I didn't ask for any advice. You did. I gave you that advice. That's not an attack just because you don't like what I said. I am responsible for what I say, not what you read or understand. If you choose to let my words enable your behavior that doesn't say anything about me. That's you.
Why are you completely bypassing everything that's being said about seeing a professional for help? You seem to be very picky about what "advice" you respond to.4 -
Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »
IGNORE THIS PERSONMoniela1011 wrote: »Limit your intake of salty foods. It can increase water retention, which could very well be putting on the extra pounds. You can exercise while pregnant. I put on 70 lbs when I was pregnant and all off it came off within a few months after delivery and I didn't breastfeed at all. Just eat the recommended amount of calories for a healthy pregnancy and log what you eat. Just know that if you do decide to breastfeed, you'll have to eat more calories to keep up your milk supply. However WIC will provide you with free formula if you decide not to breastfeed.
Why should she ignore it? Woman can exercise while pregnant if the doctor agrees with it. I think that @Moniela1011 posted a solid and fair comment so I don't understand your concern.
limit salt....
thinking of breast feeding as "more calories"
a manifesto.2 -
ArtsyDarling wrote: »Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »ArtsyDarling wrote: »I guess after reading this, I don't understand why you can afford fast food but not groceries? Lean meats and veggies/fruits are not expensive.
Secondly, BREASTFEED. It's cheap (free!), and yeah, it takes up some of your time, but there is nothing - NOTHING - that is better for your baby in the first year than your breastmilk. As your baby gets older, they nurse less frequently, and the bonding is INCREDIBLE. Please don't deprive yourself of this opportunity.
Fast food is more affordable because we can't both afford separate meals at the grocery store. He's a picky eater. I am not trying to make him sound like a monster because he's not. He does his best and he is trying to make the right decisions for us right now.
Tell him to grow up. Seriously. It sounds like you BOTH need to grow up a lot, very quickly.
You're about to be 100% responsible for a totally dependent human life.
You need to be ready and thinking about that.
And what we're reading is: a child, and a pregnant lady with an ED.
See a professional.
I've already heard the advice see a professional quite a few times now. Nothing I can do at 9 pm. I know I am young, I know I have problems, never said I was perfect. I know exactly what you are seeing. I'm not stupid. I know what I look like to you. I'm not exactly proud over here of my situation. Do you think I am happy about this? Do you think I haven't even thought, "wow my life is complete *kitten*, I am 20 years old and having a baby. I have no idea what I am going to do." I'm not asking you to tell me to grow up or to tell me how much of a bad mother I am. I am asking you for advice on way I can help my weight and the notes have been taken.
You can contact a professional tomorrow.
You can say, "hey, I'm freaking out tonight, but will contact professionals to help me figure out this huge thing tomorrow". You can say "I know my BF's meals are his deal, and I'm nurturing a tiny, dependent life". And I'll say: "great!! do some deep breathing tonight. Have a healthy meal tonight. Good luck!! YOU CAN DO THIS! Good luck! We can support you as long as you work HONESTLY with professionals."3
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