Are you ever embarrased?
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nlevesque11887
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Ok, I have a strange question. I've lost 178 lbs since December 2014. I still have about 75 more to go but I know I'll get there. For the first time in my life, I'm doing this for ME and that is what has made a difference. But, that being said, I'm embarrassed to admit to people the exact amount of weight I've lost and still need to lose. My dh knows as do a few other close friends but does anyone else have the same feelings?
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I tell people how much I lose, but never how much I weigh... my boyfriend only found out the other day after a year of us living together. It's nobody's business after all8
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never be embarrassed about something you have done to better yourself31
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Unfortunately, I think I have a character defect where I don't feel embarrassed about anything. Makes things socially awkward sometimes.
That said, I don't know why you need to tell people how much weight you've lost. It's really no ones business but yours. I think you should be proud how much you lost. If someone is rude enough to ask for a number just tell them "some but not all" or my personal favorite "a justin bieber" or something like that.
You are doing great!13 -
I was at first. I didn't want to say out loud that I started at 300lbs. But, as time went on and I got to the 100lbs lost mark, people would be shocked that I've lost that much. I usually answer by saying well I started at 300lbs! Most people are kind enough to act surprised. For me, it's about owning this process and owning what I was and what I will be. As Jen said though, it's truly no one's business and if it makes you uncomfortable, don't share! Congratulations on your continued success! Be proud of that!9
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I don't tell people numbers when they ask, I find it very personal and rude. But I'm one who would prefer not one to notice my losses at all.9
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congrats on your loss, the amount you lost is personal, reveal the amount to people you feel comfortable with4
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It's worth seeing the shock on their faces when I tell them I've lost as much as they weigh. I don't like the attention it brings though, I will say that.5
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Well done on the loss, that is awesome!
For my first year, I would answer questions about "how much" with evasive answers or strange units like "I've lost a toddler" -- made the questioners laugh and change the subject.
When I got up around three toddlers lost, I tried answering truthfully a few times but the reactions were not to my liking. So now I'm back to "quite a lot" or "more than two big bags of dog food".10 -
Thanks for the responses. I am proud of what I've accomplished. I have been overweight most of my life but over the last 15 - 18 years, it really started to get bad. A serious health scare did the trick and I've towed the line ever since. I realized that I didn't want to die young or leave my dh a widower. But I was afraid I wouldn't die, I'd just stroke out or have a heart attack and linger. When you are faced with those thoughts, it's a real wake up call. No one thought I would come this far but I want to live a long happy and healthy life. MFP has been such a huge help in my journey.
I walk 3 - 4 miles every day and I will probably start toning exercises soon. I have never posted on the boards but I get a lot of helpful info from reading the posts. It's a great community of wonderfully supportive people. I guess I'm just embarrassed at where I started from and I feel badly that I let myself get so out of control. Being a sugar addict was a huge part of my problem. I've learned that it's like a drug to me. It's funny that people don't realize food can be so addictive.18 -
I know exactly how you feel. It was embarrassing that I let myself get to 285 pounds. I do share that I've lost 135 pounds with those who I know are cheering me on. Everyone else gets less detailed responses.
I have an extra level of complication to weight loss discussions due to the fact that I had weight loss surgery...not only did I allow myself to become obese but I lost it the "easy" way.
Luckily, my biggest supporters see that it is still work and discipline that have gotten me to the best shape of my life.8 -
amandacanales wrote: »I know exactly how you feel. It was embarrassing that I let myself get to 285 pounds. I do share that I've lost 135 pounds with those who I know are cheering me on. Everyone else gets less detailed responses.
I have an extra level of complication to weight loss discussions due to the fact that I had weight loss surgery...not only did I allow myself to become obese but I lost it the "easy" way.
Luckily, my biggest supporters see that it is still work and discipline that have gotten me to the best shape of my life.
From what I've seen and heard, the surgery is not the "easy" way out. Both choices have pluses and minuses. I was afraid of complications and figured I would get every one possible so I wanted to do it without surgery. So far, it has worked but again, I don't believe anyone that chooses surgery should be looked upon as "cheating the system". We all have to make decisions as to what will work best for us. All that matters is that we are getting healthier and have a great support system here. How we get to that life is a personal choice and shouldn't matter. Congrats on your 135 loss!! That is awesome.6 -
I used to be embarrassed but now I don't care. I don't judge someone because of their size so why was I judging my former heavier self? Acceptance is not just for others but for myself as well. Anyone who looks down on me because of my current or former weight is not a person I would want to be friends with anyway. They are just numbers in my opinion. I get to choose how I feel about them.6
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Im really an open book. Good and bad thing I guess. I don't broadcast my weight on Facebook but every now and then I will post a selfie or body pic of my progress. I have about 300 friends on there so its no secret I'm losing weight. If someone ask how much lost I generally don't have a problem answering. I even told a guy I was seeing I am working to lose weight and we ended up in a conversation about it. Sometime in the conversation I told him I have dropped about 30lbs and started at 235 and hope to get to 130. With that info its not hard to figure out how much I weigh now or how much more I need to lose.
I don't mind. If anything I feel like It shows people that I follow up on what I say I will do. To me, being embarrassed by it dosent change the reality that I was once that size. People will judge for anything but at least they cant say I don't accomplish my goals.5 -
Im really an open book. Good and bad thing I guess. I don't broadcast my weight on Facebook but every now and then I will post a selfie or body pic of my progress. I have about 300 friends on there so its no secret I'm losing weight. If someone ask how much lost I generally don't have a problem answering. I even told a guy I was seeing I am working to lose weight and we ended up in a conversation about it. Sometime in the conversation I told him I have dropped about 30lbs and started at 235 and hope to get to 130. With that info its not hard to figure out how much I weigh now or how much more I need to lose.
I don't mind. If anything I feel like It shows people that I follow up on what I say I will do. To me, being embarrassed by it dosent change the reality that I was once that size. People will judge for anything but at least they cant say I don't accomplish my goals.
So true. It's not like I can hide how overweight I was (and still am to a degree). I guess it's denial in myself that I don't want to admit how much it was. I look at pictures and think " wow, why did I let it get to that point?"
I have learned more about myself in the last 2 years than I did in the previous 40 lol. I guess it's a good thing.
And, congrats on your weight loss too. That's great!4 -
Everybody is different as far as this but I guess it's whatever you're comfortable with. By telling somebody it may give them hope. Congratulations and enjoy the journey.3
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I think we all look back and wonder how we managed to get so big. The positive is that we are all doing something about it for whatever reason and by whatever means. That is a huge step and we should all be proud of what we have achieved. We should celebrate the small steps along the way and if you want to tell someone how much you have lost go for it. Be Beautiful, Be Happy, Be Bold.6
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nlevesque11887 wrote: »amandacanales wrote: »I know exactly how you feel. It was embarrassing that I let myself get to 285 pounds. I do share that I've lost 135 pounds with those who I know are cheering me on. Everyone else gets less detailed responses.
I have an extra level of complication to weight loss discussions due to the fact that I had weight loss surgery...not only did I allow myself to become obese but I lost it the "easy" way.
Luckily, my biggest supporters see that it is still work and discipline that have gotten me to the best shape of my life.
From what I've seen and heard, the surgery is not the "easy" way out. Both choices have pluses and minuses. I was afraid of complications and figured I would get every one possible so I wanted to do it without surgery. So far, it has worked but again, I don't believe anyone that chooses surgery should be looked upon as "cheating the system". We all have to make decisions as to what will work best for us. All that matters is that we are getting healthier and have a great support system here. Congrats on your 135 loss!! That is awesome.
Thank you! Less than five pounds to a normal BMI. I think BMI is a crap indicator for individuals but I want to be normal SO BAD.
Be proud of your journey!
You're right. Not much was easy about it...lol, that's why I put it in quotation marks.
Not the decision...it took me two years to decide.
Not the preparation or two week liquids only diet prior to surgery.
Not the wait to find out if I had esophageal cancer after the prerequisite upper endoscopy revealed irregularities.
Not the 5 day hospital stay for pancreatitis and pneumonia 10 days after my surgery...I only stayed one night for surgery!
Certainly not navigating the minefield that is food now! I spend a significantly greater amount of time thinking about what and when I will eat now; unlike before when I could just eat whatever was available to me. Business travel is a huge challenge for me.
The rewards have far outweighed the obstacles. I'd do every bit of it again.5 -
One of the most helpful things I read here was a sentence saying
"enjoy the journey". I have referred back to that many times over the last 18 months. The journey is a learning process and even during weeks (and months) that the scale didn't move, I learned that I need to be happy with what has changed in my life and how far I've come already.4 -
nlevesque11887 wrote: »One of the most helpful things I read here was a sentence saying
"enjoy the journey". I have referred back to that many times over the last 18 months. The journey is a learning process and even during weeks (and months) that the scale didn't move, I learned that I need to be happy with what has changed in my life and how far I've come already.
I like your "why did I get this big" as opposed to "how". Those 3 letters can be life changing!! Like "when" instead of "if"3 -
I do tell people that I've lost 165lbs "so far" - this is a journey that I've committed to and I want to feel proud of myself after so many years of feeling ashamed. Only a few people know my actual weight, and the rest don't ask anyway, but most know that I still have a way to go as I'm waiting for surgery and my BMI has to be a certain point.
Be proud of your achievement, you're doing this for you x6
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