After he cancelled our 2nd date....
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Move on.
Take it from a guy.
He wanted the other girl, but it didn't work out.
He still got the itch to scratch, so that's where you come in.
You've dodged a bullet.
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He had a genuine reason for the cancellation.myfavoriteyear wrote: »I met a guy over the weekend and we had a great date on Saturday night. He texted me on Sunday to wish me Happy Mother's Day. Then yesterday morning he texted me saying he wanted me to come over last night. I said ok. But just before I was about to leave he texted me and said "I can't do it tonight." didn't give a reason. I texted back and said "No problem."
But about 15 minutes ago he sent me 4 texts in a row saying how are you, sorry something came up, I wish I could be with you now. Haven't responded yet. Truthfully I'm really interested in him but him cancelling last night was not cool. Just wondering what my next move should be. Would really appreciate any advice. Thanks!
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@myfavoriteyear Yep, I'd do exactly that. He has to make it clear he wants to see you and if it becomes a repeat, then bolt.0
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Play him at his own game don't be overly interested and if he does suggest another date make him wait for a week or so you don't want to seem needy.
I wouldn't look too much into cancelling so what big deal blokes do that all the time it was only the second date and then he was texting asking how you were so obviously is concerned he messed up.
If he keeps doing it then something is up like he has another girlfriend / wife or date...check him out on social media see what his profiles are like you will get a good or bad vibe about him and will know where you stand.0 -
Say you'll meet him for coffee or drink, not in your home that way you'll see if he just wants sex
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My rule 1 of dating - First 3 Dates must be "OUT", meaning I either meet you at a place or you come pick me up and we go somewhere. NO House dates until date 4. That way you weed out men who just want some.
You were either sloppy seconds or he almost got caught (either girlfriend or wife was home). You are better than that. RUN!1 -
Ye two just met . He probably had something come up. His follow up texts indicate that he likes you . One date at a time. The more ye get to know each other the more time ye will make for each other. Hang out and have a laugh and you will find out what he is really like after 2 or 3 weeks.myfavoriteyear wrote: »I met a guy over the weekend and we had a great date on Saturday night. He texted me on Sunday to wish me Happy Mother's Day. Then yesterday morning he texted me saying he wanted me to come over last night. I said ok. But just before I was about to leave he texted me and said "I can't do it tonight." didn't give a reason. I texted back and said "No problem."
But about 15 minutes ago he sent me 4 texts in a row saying how are you, sorry something came up, I wish I could be with you now. Haven't responded yet. Truthfully I'm really interested in him but him cancelling last night was not cool. Just wondering what my next move should be. Would really appreciate any advice. Thanks!3 -
finny11122 wrote: »
Ye two just met . He probably had something come up. His follow up texts indicate that he likes you . One date at a time. The more ye get to know each other the more time ye will make for each other. Hang out and have a laugh and you will find out what he is really like after 2 or 3 weeks.myfavoriteyear wrote: »I met a guy over the weekend and we had a great date on Saturday night. He texted me on Sunday to wish me Happy Mother's Day. Then yesterday morning he texted me saying he wanted me to come over last night. I said ok. But just before I was about to leave he texted me and said "I can't do it tonight." didn't give a reason. I texted back and said "No problem."
But about 15 minutes ago he sent me 4 texts in a row saying how are you, sorry something came up, I wish I could be with you now. Haven't responded yet. Truthfully I'm really interested in him but him cancelling last night was not cool. Just wondering what my next move should be. Would really appreciate any advice. Thanks!
All hail Finny the voice of reason with whom I happen to totally agree. stuff comes up. at least he cancelled and didn't leave you hanging and waiting2 -
finny11122 wrote: »
Ye two just met . He probably had something come up. His follow up texts indicate that he likes you . One date at a time. The more ye get to know each other the more time ye will make for each other. Hang out and have a laugh and you will find out what he is really like after 2 or 3 weeks.myfavoriteyear wrote: »I met a guy over the weekend and we had a great date on Saturday night. He texted me on Sunday to wish me Happy Mother's Day. Then yesterday morning he texted me saying he wanted me to come over last night. I said ok. But just before I was about to leave he texted me and said "I can't do it tonight." didn't give a reason. I texted back and said "No problem."
But about 15 minutes ago he sent me 4 texts in a row saying how are you, sorry something came up, I wish I could be with you now. Haven't responded yet. Truthfully I'm really interested in him but him cancelling last night was not cool. Just wondering what my next move should be. Would really appreciate any advice. Thanks!
All hail Finny the voice of reason with whom I happen to totally agree. stuff comes up. at least he cancelled and didn't leave you hanging and waiting
Any well adjusted single guy is going to be working and have things going on . He ain't going to be lazing about. The fact he got in touch with her and wanted to see her again is a good sign. She needs to chill , go on a few dates and see what he is really like .3 -
Keep your guard up. Sounds like he booked a date with you and then someone else called. Easier to cancel with you and go with the other person he may have know longer. I say move on. If you aren't worthy of his trust, he's not worthy of your time.
If a guy can't drop his entire life to be with you after a single date then he's not worth your time. Move on!7 -
Lol
He was practically begging to see me a little while ago. I said I'd let him know.Keep your guard up. Sounds like he booked a date with you and then someone else called. Easier to cancel with you and go with the other person he may have know longer. I say move on. If you aren't worthy of his trust, he's not worthy of your time.
If a guy can't drop his entire life to be with you after a single date then he's not worth your time. Move on!
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What would make YOU happier? Going on another date with him or not? Decide on that basis. You are now still practically strangers and don't owe each other anything yet. I would go out with him. Sounds as if you would enjoy his company, and he would enjoy yours. You pick the place, and split the bill.1
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From a guys perspective, here is a list of the possibilities:
1. Something actually came up and he wasn't comfortable going into detail. It was only the second date after all.
2. He was hoping to get some when he came over but had second thoughts about it. Guys woose out all of the time and he may have not wanted/felt confident enough to put himself in that position. What guy asks a woman to come over to her place on the second date and not have sex in the plans?
3. He made multiple plans with multiple women and the other plans panned out so he had to either cancel with you or decided to go with the other woman instead. Some guys cast a wide net and when they catch more fish than they can eat, some fish have to be tossed back or put in the cooler for later.
4. He is married/has a girlfriend and couldn't get away.
I say, give him a chance to either hang himself or redeem himself. Just pay attention to the signs and if the BS flag starts going up, it's time to move on. Trust your gut.4 -
Well, pry a little bit. Get some info. Maybe he had a good reason... or maybe he'll give you the willies and you'll know he's full of crap.1
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myfavoriteyear wrote: »Lol He was practically begging to see me a little while ago. I said I'd let him know.Keep your guard up. Sounds like he booked a date with you and then someone else called. Easier to cancel with you and go with the other person he may have know longer. I say move on. If you aren't worthy of his trust, he's not worthy of your time.
If a guy can't drop his entire life to be with you after a single date then he's not worth your time. Move on!
if you really like him don't play games. Life is too short for that and you might end up missing out6 -
Maybe he legitimately had something come up/happen. I've eaten too much broccoli before and had to cancel a date...I say chill TFO and not take every little thing a person does personally; go with the flow.3
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peppermintpudgy wrote: »
With age comes wisdom....thank goodness something comes of it3 -
myfavoriteyear wrote: »Lol He was practically begging to see me a little while ago. I said I'd let him know.Keep your guard up. Sounds like he booked a date with you and then someone else called. Easier to cancel with you and go with the other person he may have know longer. I say move on. If you aren't worthy of his trust, he's not worthy of your time.
If a guy can't drop his entire life to be with you after a single date then he's not worth your time. Move on!
if you really like him don't play games. Life is too short for that and you might end up missing out
Look at you being the voice of reason now.
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Peter_Brady wrote: »myfavoriteyear wrote: »Lol He was practically begging to see me a little while ago. I said I'd let him know.Keep your guard up. Sounds like he booked a date with you and then someone else called. Easier to cancel with you and go with the other person he may have know longer. I say move on. If you aren't worthy of his trust, he's not worthy of your time.
If a guy can't drop his entire life to be with you after a single date then he's not worth your time. Move on!
if you really like him don't play games. Life is too short for that and you might end up missing out
Look at you being the voice of reason now.
Look at you all gushy.
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