Partner not helping

You are doing this for yourself. Just do what you need to do for you and when you lose and he doesn't, that's his fault, not yours.

You can only be responsible for what you eat. However much he says he wants to lose weight, if he caves and gets a take away that's on him, you can't fix it or make him change. Keep doing what you're doing and you'll be rewarded by the results! And maybe if he sees you getting great results he'll want to join you!

Keep going, you've got this!

Consider ordering take a ways that will fit into your plan.

There really is nothing that you shouldn't eat, unless you are allergic to it, it's spoiled, fell on the ground, etc. You can eat take out, it's okay. Just try to log it as accurately as possible and stay within your calorie goal. Weight loss is about the amount of calories you eat, not where the calories come from. Having a few pieces of pizza or some sesame chicken is fine, just don't over do it.

Rach0792 wrote: »

It's more that he is trying to pressure me into eating crap and I'm just afraid that one of these days I will crack and just eat something I shouldn't.

What do you consider "crap"?

It's not your partners job to help you. You are only accountable for your own actions.

unless hes shoving the food in your mouth..... what you eat is all on you.

i lost almost 90 pounds living with my ex who eats any and everything and almost always take out.

I ate the same stuff, just less of it, and worked out to compensate for it as well.

dont make excuses, just do what you need to do and dont worry about what hes doing.

Being married for over 10 years has got me into this mess! It's not my husband's fault, it's mine. At first, I figured I could eat what he does. It worked in college, it should work forever right? I didn't realize until a few years ago that I don't need anywhere near the amount of food he does! We're talking a difference of over 1000cals!

You do not need to eat what he eats. If you don't want it, don't eat it. If you want it, eat less. Eat it with a ton of veggies so you are full and can't eat it all. Order something different if you don't feel like cooking!

A few nights ago, he made Mac & Cheese from scratch. In the old days, I'd give him half, and I'd eat the other half. Now, I eat way less of it (i only had 4 bites of it) and ended up making an egg with peppers and onions for dinner instead. I love Mac & Cheese, it tastes great, but I don't think it's worth it to eat too much of it. We still eat together, but we don't eat the same things.

He takes the kids to McDonalds or Culver's Custard after swimming once a week. Every time he calls and asks me if I want something. Sometimes I say yes, sometimes I say no. It depends on what I've eaten already that day and what I can fit in. Custard is hard to pass on so I try to save room! He doesn't get offended if I decline, and I appreciate that he always asks just in case.

Good for you for sticking with your plan for a week. I promise you, it does get easier.

I see this becoming an issue with my boyfriend as well. He also wants to lose weight but we are only about a week into trying to lose weight and he has told me a couple days this week that they were "bad days" or "a cheat day". I know that I have to do this for myself and I think once I start seeing results that he may really fully get on board with this but I also know that I can't make him do it and that he has to do it for himself. I just have to stick to it and do this for myself!

Do your own thing, focus on your goal and most men need more calories compared to women.
Plan accordingly, if u can eat the take away and fit it in then go for it otherwise don't.

Ok well honestly... I lost 80 pounds, while my husband probably gained 15.

If you want it, you'll do it.

this is the second thread where mozilla had hosed my responses and doubled posted... sorry folks..

I understand it may feel difficult at first, but you are two different people who can make individual choices. You will have to learn that nobody is pressuring you to do anything, if you don't want a certain food, don't eat it. It's a part of life to make choices. Last night my boyfriend wanted a root beer float. Man did that sound good, but I literally had no calories left so I did without. It didn't bother me that he wanted it, in fact I made it for him. Today I'm leaving room for some ice cream because I want it. As time goes on find the dynamic that works for you guys, maybe you aren't the type of couple that can easily lose weight together.

For the most part, my SO and I eat the same things but my portions are tweaked to fit my specific needs.

We have the same breakfast, but I eat one piece of toast folded into a half sandwich, while he has 2 pieces of bread.

Lunch time, we have lean meat sandwiches, or chicken salad wraps, or frozen entrees occasionally. He just gets more lunchtime snacks than I do because his job is really physical and he gets super hungry.

At dinner, we split veg and salad 50/50. I weigh out my 100g of rice, and my portion of meat. He plates his own food with however much meat and grains he wants.

Dessert, I have a 90cal ice cream bar, and his might be 180cal.

IF we go to McDonalds, he gets fries but I get a garden salad with my meal. He gets crispy chicken wraps, I go for grilled.

Basically, as long as I'm taking care of my own needs and eating enough for myself, I don't care what he eats. Granted, my SO is careful not to pig out if he thinks I may be out of calories and jealous hahah. He's thoughtful and considerate, so I don't stop him from eating the things HE wants. We went out for 900cal burritos recently because he had a craving, and I just ate half of mine. Compromise .

My one piece of advice is, pre-cook in large batches. That way he can grab takeaway on the way home and you've got a delicious healthy meal that just needs to be heated up. No one wants to cook after a long day, which is why convenience food seems like such a good idea. Try to stop that BEFORE it happens by being prepared. I like cooking up tons of chicken breast pieces in some spice, because it goes great thrown into a tortilla with some toppings and tzatziki. And veg side dishes, like roasted asparagus, take 15 min in the oven tops.