worst gym dude of all time?

sparklybelle
sparklybelle Posts: 7 Member
edited December 1 in Fitness and Exercise
Today at the gym:

There's one squat rack. I wait 15 minutes to use it while someone is finishing up. No problem, I fit in some other work. When he's done, I wait a minute, nobody sets up, and so I rack up my warm-up weights for squatting. As I'm starting, a guy shows up and says he was going to use this next but he "had to wee-wee." I say I'll keep it short today and just do a few sets. He says he wants to work in instead. I say OK. I start my first set. WHILE I'M SQUATTING, he throws two 2.5# weights between my legs and they land in front of my feet. He says he needs them for his set. I try to stay calm. During my second set, HE STANDS IN THE SQUAT RACK WITH ME. (btw, I'm female.) He does a set. For my third set I go to change to a higher weight. He gets irritated and sweeps all the weight off one side of the barbell so that it crashes 5 feet to the floor and tells me I shouldn't have changed the weight. I walk away and say it's all his.

I've only been lifting weights for nine months, and every other lifter I've met is kind and lovely. But this guy was truly the worst.

Venting over.
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  • sparklybelle
    sparklybelle Posts: 7 Member
    I did not. I know I should have. I will if I see him again. He's dangerous and a menace.
  • sparklybelle
    sparklybelle Posts: 7 Member
    jemhh wrote: »
    Why would you not say something right then?

    I know, you're right. I think I was sort of dumbfounded so I just left.
  • pichiPurinsesu
    pichiPurinsesu Posts: 776 Member
    Sounds like a tool. What an idiot
  • FitPhillygirl
    FitPhillygirl Posts: 7,124 Member
    That type of behavior used to happen at least once a week at my old gym. Reporting it did little to no good, so I'm now at a new gym. Turns out this new gym has 3 other gyms that I can go to, and everyone is very considerate of everyone else around them. :)
    OP: it may or may not do any good to report that incident to management, but it's worth a shot anyway.
  • xCyanideGirlx
    xCyanideGirlx Posts: 116 Member
    *kitten* like this is why ill NEVER join a gym.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    Report him? For what??? She gave him permission to work in and didn't object when he acted like a complete and total tool. She should have told him to GTFO as soon as he started that childish mess.

    Not gonna lie, the OP kinda lost me when the rack was clear but she still waited a few more minutes to see if someone else wanted to use it before she stepped into it. WHAT EVEN WAS THAT????
  • Anaris2014
    Anaris2014 Posts: 138 Member
    The guy sounds like a jerk to me.

    Although I felt like I was that jerk recently - there was a woman setting between the machine I wanted and then walking off to use some other machine (I assume, I actually have no ide where she went) but she left her town so I knew it was in use. I stepped in to another machine to fill the time. When she left the machine (taking her towel this time), I jumped in. Half way through my set she reappeared. I felt like a jerk. So I finished my set, reset the machine to the weight that she had been using, and apologised profusely, explainng that when she took the towel I thought she was done.

    Fortunately, she accepted the apology and admitted that she'd changed her mind and decided to come back for another set. I spend the rest of my session feeling like a jerk and being exceptionally careful about stepping in on anyone else's machine.
  • ObsidianMist
    ObsidianMist Posts: 519 Member
    VeloRat1969 wrote: »
    DavPul wrote: »
    Report him? For what??? She gave him permission to work in and didn't object when he acted like a complete and total tool. She should have told him to GTFO as soon as he started that childish mess.

    Not gonna lie, the OP kinda lost me when the rack was clear but she still waited a few more minutes to see if someone else wanted to use it before she stepped into it. WHAT EVEN WAS THAT????

    "That" was courtesy above and beyond what was required.

    no doubt, you wouldn't see me potentially passing up a squat rack after already waiting fifteen bloody minutes for it.
  • Meganthedogmom
    Meganthedogmom Posts: 1,639 Member
    xCyanideGirlx wrote: »
    *kitten* like this is why ill NEVER join a gym.

    Most people are not like this... I've never had an experience like that at the gym
  • troytroy11
    troytroy11 Posts: 180 Member
    I am sorry that happened. That was one day though. An interesting thing to look at is whether he continues to go to that gym or if someone else reports other behavior and he ends up getting kicked out or knocked out for doing something like that to someone else.
    The question now is how will he behave when he sees you again. Similar game? Shameful. Keep yourself safe first and foremost.
    Yeah you are right the worst gym dude.
  • aub6689
    aub6689 Posts: 351 Member
    I like to believe I would have said something to him, but I would have probably reacted the same way.

    The only time I was truly angry at the gym is when a guy decided to squeeze my arm during shoulder press. Almost lost it. Even then, I smiled politely while I continued with my set.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    edited May 2016
    aub6689 wrote: »
    I like to believe I would have said something to him, but I would have probably reacted the same way.

    The only time I was truly angry at the gym is when a guy decided to squeeze my arm during shoulder press. Almost lost it. Even then, I smiled politely while I continued with my set.

    You don't have to be angry. Or confrontational. Just use your words.

    "Stop."

    Or

    "Please stop" if that makes you feel more polite.

    Personally, I go with, "I'm going to need you to stop". Usually any of these is enough to get a petulant ahole to cut it out. If they continue to be an *kitten* or get in your face after that, then go get help. But you can't reward their behavior by giving them what they want when they act out.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    edited May 2016
    aub6689 wrote: »
    I like to believe I would have said something to him, but I would have probably reacted the same way.

    The only time I was truly angry at the gym is when a guy decided to squeeze my arm during shoulder press. Almost lost it. Even then, I smiled politely while I continued with my set.

    You can be angry- but you don't need to react in anger- just tell him to stop being a di*k and carry on with your workouts- he's being 100% appropriate.

    He's a douch.

    But you should have handled it right then and there.
    As someone said- 0% chance of changing the behavior if you don't handle it.

    I had an issue a month ago- a guy at the gym has always been a troll about wanting to get with me- he finally crossed the line when he said " I can't wait for my turn to f%%k the *kitten* out of you"

    no joke- he said that- well out loud to me.

    And then he went ot leave and came back and said - "I would tear that f**king *kitten* apart"

    I said- go away- go back to lifting.
    I was literally blown away by how ignorant he was and instead of reacting like I would on the street by telling him he was a *kitten* pig and to leave me alone- I just said "go away- go lift- just go away"

    I wound up telling a friend who works there and she mentioned he'd said some things to her- so we agreed to tell the manager. So- now he doesn't talk to me at all. way to be a dick *kitten* hole.

    It's just easier to handle it there on the spot. I promise you- it's so much easier.
  • MityMax96
    MityMax96 Posts: 5,778 Member
    A guy actually said something like that in public????
    Holy cow!!!!

    Very inappropriate.....
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