married chit-chatters?
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DarleneReid577 wrote: »Redbeard333 wrote: »I wish my wife was more independent. Granted, she has a bit of social anxiety, but I would love if she could clean up after herself more, join a club, get out and socialize, etc. She only works part-time seasonal, so I find I sometimes I need alone time when I get home since I'm around students all day, where she craves human interactions.
Find out what she likes to do and then research what is in the area. Maybe volunteer work at a nursing home, knitting club,pole dancing classes
Believe me, I've tried. She's just not big on meeting new people, and a lot of our close friends who used to live close have moved away (and, admittedly, we did, too). I'm trying to be more supportive emotionally without offering solutions, but my mindset is to solve a problem when it's presented.1 -
JenniferSchaffer1 wrote: »@mangamaday No I am not joking! I am a stay at home wife that is my job and a do it with happiness. The house is to be kept neat and tidy at all times and me wait on him after all he does work hard all day. Not to say he does not do the same for me at times because he does I am very spoiled. But, I get left A list every morning and everything on that list is to be done when he gets home unless I am not feeling well or something comes up and I just can't get it done. But I am very devoted to my husband and most of the time get everything done.
You mean he doesn't even trust you to know what needs to be done around your own house?1 -
Do you have to rotate the cans in the pantry categorically and so the labels are displayed perfectly?
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CatMoves2718 wrote: »JenniferSchaffer1 wrote: »@mangamaday No I am not joking! I am a stay at home wife that is my job and a do it with happiness. The house is to be kept neat and tidy at all times and me wait on him after all he does work hard all day. Not to say he does not do the same for me at times because he does I am very spoiled. But, I get left A list every morning and everything on that list is to be done when he gets home unless I am not feeling well or something comes up and I just can't get it done. But I am very devoted to my husband and most of the time get everything done.
You mean he doesn't even trust you to know what needs to be done around your own house?
Left a list ?!?!?!?!?! What the *kitten*!?!?!?! I am not Knocking being a stay at home mom , For me if I was left a every morning I would be pissed. It almost seems like he does not think you are capable of doing things unless he tells you and a tad controlling
But that is just my opinion and if it works for you and your husband hey that is awesome !0 -
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CatMoves2718 wrote: »JenniferSchaffer1 wrote: »@mangamaday No I am not joking! I am a stay at home wife that is my job and a do it with happiness. The house is to be kept neat and tidy at all times and me wait on him after all he does work hard all day. Not to say he does not do the same for me at times because he does I am very spoiled. But, I get left A list every morning and everything on that list is to be done when he gets home unless I am not feeling well or something comes up and I just can't get it done. But I am very devoted to my husband and most of the time get everything done.
You mean he doesn't even trust you to know what needs to be done around your own house?
My Sister was married to a guy like this. He was a cop, and found out lots of cops were like this, not all but quite a few.
My Daughter went to visit with my Grandson, when she left. Sisters Husband made her wash all the wall and furniture that was baby level.
So glad when she dumped his sorry butt.1 -
CatMoves2718 wrote: »JenniferSchaffer1 wrote: »@mangamaday No I am not joking! I am a stay at home wife that is my job and a do it with happiness. The house is to be kept neat and tidy at all times and me wait on him after all he does work hard all day. Not to say he does not do the same for me at times because he does I am very spoiled. But, I get left A list every morning and everything on that list is to be done when he gets home unless I am not feeling well or something comes up and I just can't get it done. But I am very devoted to my husband and most of the time get everything done.
You mean he doesn't even trust you to know what needs to be done around your own house?
The situation does sound potentially a little off and controlling. But, she also mentioned that she has traumatic brain injury. And that's why she needs a list reminding her of her daily tasks.1 -
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BinaryPulsar wrote: »CatMoves2718 wrote: »JenniferSchaffer1 wrote: »@mangamaday No I am not joking! I am a stay at home wife that is my job and a do it with happiness. The house is to be kept neat and tidy at all times and me wait on him after all he does work hard all day. Not to say he does not do the same for me at times because he does I am very spoiled. But, I get left A list every morning and everything on that list is to be done when he gets home unless I am not feeling well or something comes up and I just can't get it done. But I am very devoted to my husband and most of the time get everything done.
You mean he doesn't even trust you to know what needs to be done around your own house?
The situation does sound potentially a little off and controlling. But, she also mentioned that she has traumatic brain injury. And that's why she needs a list reminding her of her daily tasks.
Okay no judgement. ...remember we all live in glass houses.
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We're back to the list maker. It's come full circle!
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My comment wasn't meant to offend, just making a jape of Sleeping with the Enemy.1
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I think sometimes sarcasm and humor can get lost without the tone of voice. I don't think anyone meant any offence. I always think as long as the spouse is not abusive and everyone is happy....what the heck3
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My anger was misdirected this morning and I told my husband "I won't be home when you get there, so make your kids dinner"...so, now that I'm cooled off, I still have to stick to my word and I decided I'm going hiking after work. Anyone else have step-kids and all the drama that creates?0
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perkymommy wrote: »It seems like the Chit-Chat section is designed only for singles. Some of us are happily married. I would love to meet some other married MFP!
Super married to my superman. RAWR! @WJPthe3rd2 -
Guns_N_Buns wrote: »My anger was misdirected this morning and I told my husband "I won't be home when you get there, so make your kids dinner"...so, now that I'm cooled off, I still have to stick to my word and I decided I'm going hiking after work. Anyone else have step-kids and all the drama that creates?
Not me....thank goodness. ...I have watched to many friends become second partner and have to deal with steps and ex's. Not something I ever want to do. But some people deal with drama way Beyer than others.1 -
perkymommy wrote: »It seems like the Chit-Chat section is designed only for singles. Some of us are happily married. I would love to meet some other married MFP!
Super married to my superman. RAWR! @WJPthe3rd
Very married, married more than *sigh* half my life.
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »How old are you and how old are they? You look young. Are they like older as in early teens or something?
they're 9 and 11...so, it's hard to separate the "oh, they're just kids and aren't doing it with malicious intent" from the "they know exactly what they're doing and are trying to create a rift".
Once again they told their mother something that was said under my roof and, of course, it was taken (like always) completely out of context, so their mom texts my husband -- as she always does with every little thing -- and says "<kid> said that <me> said bla bla bla"....
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MalcolmX1983 wrote: »Why is it only women that have this sixth sense?
It's unnerving.
I've given up trying to hide anything from my wife, there's no point.
The woman sees stuff in her dreams!!!
Girl at work flirting with me, wife will describe her to me and what happened exactly the way it did.
I plan to do something that she doesn't approve of. She'll have a dream about my plans and tell me not to go ahead.
My mother has this connection with me, I didn't think my wife would.
They could be on the other side of the world and they'd know what's up with me.
Is there a kryptonite for this power or am I doomed forever?
I have this exact same 'gift' it scares the hell out of my husband. He thinks I'm a psychic vampire Lmfao.0 -
sadsongkrysy wrote: »MalcolmX1983 wrote: »Why is it only women that have this sixth sense?
It's unnerving.
I've given up trying to hide anything from my wife, there's no point.
The woman sees stuff in her dreams!!!
Girl at work flirting with me, wife will describe her to me and what happened exactly the way it did.
I plan to do something that she doesn't approve of. She'll have a dream about my plans and tell me not to go ahead.
My mother has this connection with me, I didn't think my wife would.
They could be on the other side of the world and they'd know what's up with me.
Is there a kryptonite for this power or am I doomed forever?
I have this exact same 'gift' it scares the hell out of my husband. He thinks I'm a psychic vampire Lmfao.
I would say doomed forever ... ask my husband of 28 years. ...he says he deals with spooky *kitten*.1 -
Guns_N_Buns wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »How old are you and how old are they? You look young. Are they like older as in early teens or something?
they're 9 and 11...so, it's hard to separate the "oh, they're just kids and aren't doing it with malicious intent" from the "they know exactly what they're doing and are trying to create a rift".
Once again they told their mother something that was said under my roof and, of course, it was taken (like always) completely out of context, so their mom texts my husband -- as she always does with every little thing -- and says "<kid> said that <me> said bla bla bla"....
How long have you been the evil stepmama?0 -
Married, 6 years September, it's been a ride. What do married people do for fun....does anyone vets have a clue?0
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DarleneReid577 wrote: »Guns_N_Buns wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »How old are you and how old are they? You look young. Are they like older as in early teens or something?
they're 9 and 11...so, it's hard to separate the "oh, they're just kids and aren't doing it with malicious intent" from the "they know exactly what they're doing and are trying to create a rift".
Once again they told their mother something that was said under my roof and, of course, it was taken (like always) completely out of context, so their mom texts my husband -- as she always does with every little thing -- and says "<kid> said that <me> said bla bla bla"....
How long have you been the evil stepmama?
6 years....6 long years...
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my cousin ended up divorcing her second husband who was the love of her life because she was the evil stop mom. The son had lots of behavioural issues and it basically became him or her. Of course the dad chose him. She was even arrested one day because the step son embellished some incident0
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I'm sure it really depends on the kids and the other parent. I'm sure some try to make big deals out of things like Guns' seems to do. My cousin's set son was troubled...they stayed at our house while we were away and I found all these notes in my desk informing me he wanted to kill me and such0
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I'm sure it really depends on the kids and the other parent. I'm sure some try to make big deals out of things like Guns' seems to do. My cousin's set son was troubled...they stayed at our house while we were away and I found all these notes in my desk informing me he wanted to kill me and such
Wow that's scary.. did the get him help?0 -
Cutaway_Collar wrote: »^
Perhaps stepmoms should unite with other eligible bachelors
Yeah like they another kid in their life1 -
DarleneReid577 wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »^
Perhaps stepmoms should unite with other eligible bachelors
Yeah like they another kid in their life
Sorry need *0 -
They're not bad like that. They never mouthed off to me or did the dreaded "you're not my mom!" type tantrum. But for whatever reason, at random times, she's texting hubby asking why we did this or said that (it could have been ages ago).
I wish I just knew whether they volunteer that info or if she interrogates it out of them. Regardless, I think she's a moron for not recognizing that a kid can take things out of context and for complaining to my hubby...0 -
Guns_N_Buns wrote: »DarleneReid577 wrote: »Guns_N_Buns wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »How old are you and how old are they? You look young. Are they like older as in early teens or something?
they're 9 and 11...so, it's hard to separate the "oh, they're just kids and aren't doing it with malicious intent" from the "they know exactly what they're doing and are trying to create a rift".
Once again they told their mother something that was said under my roof and, of course, it was taken (like always) completely out of context, so their mom texts my husband -- as she always does with every little thing -- and says "<kid> said that <me> said bla bla bla"....
How long have you been the evil stepmama?
6 years....6 long years...
Wow and the kids still have that much power. Maybe you and husband need to set rules about what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Or hire hit man...lmao.0 -
I have been a step parent for 17+ years... the Stepson was 10 or 11when I met him with extreme ADHD... developmentally delayed.. with an IQ of around 80... He's just smart enough to think he is normal... emotionally he's about 12-14 years old...chronologically he's 29... up until about 5 years ago "fun" for him was playing cops and robbers with the rest of the 10 year olds in the neighborhood... and he has alcoholism and substance abuse issues... of course it is all my fault... As a step parent.. you learn to pick the battles worth fighting and leave the rest in the hands of the Creator.1
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