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Why do people overeat and/or become obese? Is it harder than average for some to lose weight?

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  • Bonny132
    Bonny132 Posts: 3,617 Member
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    Why did I overeat? A mixture of things really, as a child I had to finish my plate, no matter what. My mother would tell me how lucky I was to have food and that children were starving in Africa. How would they feel knowing I wanted to throw away food that could save their lives? It has taken me to THIS year, well into my adulthood to not feel guilty for leaving food on my plate. Even now I can hear my mothers voice in my head at times, reminding me of those poor starving children in Africa.

    I also suffered with depression for a while, and ate anything in sight that was not nailed down. Food was a comforter and I craved comfort. I would defrost food to eat it, sometimes eat half frozen food as I could not wait till it defrosted. Once I sorted out my mental state, the above behaviour stopped, I pulled myself together and could not understand why I was not loosing when I cut my daily calories from the recommended 2000 a day to 15-1800 a day. I was still putting on weight. It took time to realise that us shorties (I am 5'2) need less calories than a 5'10 woman.

    I thought I was doing good, following the government guidelines, after a while I gave up dieting.

    After re-educating myself and realising where I went wrong, here I am on a paltry 1200 calories a day (MFP guideline based upon a max loss of 1lbs a week)

    Does CICO work? Yes, but does it keep me full? That depends on what I eat. Proteins and non diet products works for me, carbs simply makes me hungry again after an hour or so.
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,268 Member
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    lemurcat12 wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    SezxyStef wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    SezxyStef wrote: »
    I googled it..and got to page 8 of articles stating "no one knows where the 1200 calorie myth came from..."

    If googled doesn't know we are doomed.

    What is the myth?

    that a good amount of calories for women to lose weight on is 1200...and no this has nothing to do with the previous posts about Deb's current calorie goal of 1200.

    Well, most women would probably lose on that number, the same could be said for 1100 or 1000. Or do you mean that people just blindly prescribe 1200 calories to all women? That would be ill-advised. Or do you mean the that 1200 calories being the line drawn where people think it is safe?

    Yeah, I thought people were talking about it being the default recommendation, as with old diet plans (which I did not know, so found interesting) or doctors just saying "eat 1200" without any real analysis.
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    SezxyStef wrote: »
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    DebSozo wrote: »
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    lexbubbles wrote: »
    SezxyStef wrote: »
    your post is irrelevant to the op and this isn't a discussion on individuals but those who overeat and those who say it's harder for them to lose that normal people.
    JaneSnowe wrote: »
    I think we've lost sight of the original topic of discussion. It was not about the population in general, but about those individuals who say they have a harder time than most to lose weight and what drives them to eat even knowing the harm it's doing to them.


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    I asked a few clarifying questions so what. You seem angry that I went that route
    Because when someone says "Hi, I maintain on less than 2k" and your immediate response is ARE YOU LOGGING ARE YOU TINY YOU MUST BE SEDENTARY that doesn't imply "I would like clarification" that implies disbelief. If you actually believed Deb when she said she maintained <2k you wouldn't have asked for clarification in the first place. I could question your apparent maintenance because it doesn't line up with my personal experience, but I didn't. Because I believe you, on account of human variance being... varied.
    And what evidence did you provide your bmr so...mine is 50 above that...proves nothing neither does an arbitrary calculation of 1.3 against it a study of 1 is not gospel.

    But your study of 1 is. (Also multiple people on this thread have now pointed out that they maintain on sub-2,000. The only thing I did was back it up with actual numbers as a "hey, look, totally possible to maintain on this number without being a tiny sedentary person")

    I mean I also have the evidence of "using that number I am losing exactly the amount of weight I should be losing with the deficit I have against said number" as I'm sure the other low maintainers do also (except that's not my BMR. Mine's below that as I pointed out last time I posted in this thread. I was providing stats for a person my height/age/weight without a metabolic issue)

    This just in though: BMR and TDEE calculations prove nothing and are useless.
    As well you haven't responded once in the 16 pages...seems odd you jump in to post about something that is irrelevant to the OP...

    I mean, I have. But I've just been reading for a while because I only post when I have something to contribute to the conversation as it currently stands. The conversation as it stood was about maintenance cals.

    If you think maintenance cals are irrelevant to the OP about why certain individuals may have a harder time (or believe they do) than other people then... er...

    Whatever, I'm done here.

    Those two top statements say the same thing...this is not about individual in this topic posting about themselves per say it's about those who say they have a harder time losing then others...

    To your 2nd point...I did ask questions...note the question marks at the end of the sentences to indicate I was asking if she was smaller and/or sedentary etc...and me saying "I have to ask...."

    and I have to ask if you gain on 2k a day are you totally sedentary? exceptionally short (under 5ft tall) and a very tiny woman?

    and I have to ask if you use a food scale and are you sure you only eat 1200 and gain on 2k...
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    @DebSozo and @lexbubbles es Maintenance calories have nothing to do with why people over eat...or are obese or find it harder to lose weight lack of understanding of what maintenance calories are and how to achieve maintenance maybe but I said that on page 1...lack of education not know how to lose but mostly not knowing how to maintain. Not understand CICO or even what calories/servings mean.

    but again not going to further this debate with non on topic debates with how people interpret text with prejudice due to their own issues.

    Hunh? You missed the point which is that if a person believes that their maintenance level is higher than it is that the pounds will gradually add up. The overeating is not on purpose. It happens under the radar.

    no I didn't...how can you think your maintenance is higher than it is if you understand maintenance? How can someone who knows what maintenance is think it's higher? If they eat over it they gain weight that's a sure sign they are eating above maintenance....

    There is a very simple calculation for it...total calories consumed+(lbs lost x 3500)/#days and if you aren't losing but staying the same or gaining you adjust the calculation...hence my statement of lack of knowledge and education...

    I know my maintenance within 50-100 calories (nothing is perfect) now that I am educated...4 years ago...had no clue...and guess what I was fat...as soon as I understood what it was and how to calculate it the weight fell off...and I have maintained wonderfully.

    Do I understand your posts correctly that you believe most people think they are gaining weight without overeating? That they literally have no clue that they could lose weight if they ate less?

    no not at all...

    They have no clue how much they can eat to lose/maintain or how many calories are in what they are eating or what a serving size is even tho it's on the package...or what an appropriate serving size is...and if they know that they don't really know how to get an accurate count of calories.

    You see it here all the time...I am eating 1200 calories and not losing help...when in fact they are eating about 2000 but because they can't judge portion size are not in a deficit.

    Okay, got it.

    I don't know where the whole 1200 calories thing came from but that seems to be a real problem IMO. I'd actually never heard that women should eat 1200 calories when losing before joining MFP. I wonder where that started.

    My mother told me about 1200 calories long before I joined MFP - 300 for breakfast, 400 for lunch, 500 for dinner. It's a very common guideline in older diet programs. My wild-kitten guess is that it got so much traction because in the 60s/70s/early 80s women lost weight when self-reporting consuming 1200 calories. They were eating more because they weren't weighing and measuring everything (so in the 1400-1600 cal range). Then as food evolved further into calorie-dense, nutrient-sparse products, the amount people self-report to be 1200 increased... Thus why people don't lose eating "1200" calories.

    Also keep in mind that during that time frame the Internet didn't exist, nutrition labels were not required, and the little books you could look up calories counts of common foods were hardly comprehensive - if you ate something that didn't have a label and wasn't in that little book, you were SOL. Calorie counting back in the day was done by guess and by golly, and to get any degree of accuracy it was terribly cumbersome, tedious, and not particularly sustainable. True calorie counting, MFP-style (weighing and measuring and having access to huge databases of every food item imaginable, with algorithms to do all the math for you), hasn't been around very long.... Maybe twenty years.

    I think these are great points. Back in the day even figuring out TDEE would have been a pain -- no easy estimates from plugging numbers into a calculator online, and 2000 was generally thought of as a standard maintenance number. Add to that that it makes sense to aim low if you can't be that accurate (as with the tools allowed) and it's not surprising. Also not surprising that things like WW became popular.

    I never ran into the 1200 number personally pre MFP. My mom dieted, but I don't think she ever did a calorie based plan, and I didn't have weight issues as a teen or read a lot of women's magazines that talked about it. (I did, weirdly, read the Beverly Hills Diet Book, of all silly things.)

    yes this.
  • moe0303
    moe0303 Posts: 934 Member
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    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?
  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,576 Member
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    moe0303 wrote: »
    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?

    I think both. It's a default for MFP for most women if they say they want to lose 2 lbs per week.

  • moe0303
    moe0303 Posts: 934 Member
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    moe0303 wrote: »
    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?

    I think both. It's a default for MFP for most women if they say they want to lose 2 lbs per week.

    So that would mean it is the cap. In other words, anybody with a BMR estimated to be at 2199 or lower will have a 1200 calorie goal. That's one of the things I don't like about MFP. I don't think it does a good job of communicating that.
  • llbrixon
    llbrixon Posts: 964 Member
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    For me...I got heavier and stayed that way because:
    1. I loved food, it tastes good and it brings me comfort.
    2. I did not weigh myself, I knew I was over weight, so why should I weigh myself.
    3. I was content to be where I was at the time (overweight).
    4. If I wanted to lose weight, it would take a lot of sacrifices to make it work. And, I was not prepared to make the sacrifices.
    5. I ate because I was bored, lonely, or stressed.
    6. I ate because I was happy (birthdays, holiday, vacations).
    7. I over ate because I did not care! I loved food and I will eat whatever I want to eat.
    8. I am overweight because I hate to exercise. I hate getting sweaty and then I have to shower and get all cleaned up again. It was a waste of time for me.
    9. I am overweight because high calorie food is cheap compared to high nutritional foods.
    10. I am overweight because as soon as you walk into a store all to see is junk food. It is on sale, it is cheap. The junk food is every where.

    I challenge you to walk into a food store and notice all the junk food compared to high nutritional foods.
  • chocolate_owl
    chocolate_owl Posts: 1,695 Member
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    moe0303 wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?

    I think both. It's a default for MFP for most women if they say they want to lose 2 lbs per week.

    So that would mean it is the cap. In other words, anybody with a BMR estimated to be at 2199 or lower will have a 1200 calorie goal. That's one of the things I don't like about MFP. I don't think it does a good job of communicating that.

    Agree with this for sure. Of course I picked 2 lbs/week when I first signed up - why would I choose anything lower? I only had 30 lbs to lose and had no idea 2 lbs/week was a far too aggressive goal. Then I'd close out my diary and it would tell me I'd weigh ___ in 5 weeks, so I ate as little as I could to make that number lower... Yeah I was not good at this when I started. I'd bet a LOT of people do exactly what I did, and they fall off the wagon fast because it's so unsustainable.

    Can we add "Bad MFP Instructions" to reasons why people struggle to lose weight?
  • queenliz99
    queenliz99 Posts: 15,317 Member
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    moe0303 wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?

    I think both. It's a default for MFP for most women if they say they want to lose 2 lbs per week.

    So that would mean it is the cap. In other words, anybody with a BMR estimated to be at 2199 or lower will have a 1200 calorie goal. That's one of the things I don't like about MFP. I don't think it does a good job of communicating that.

    Agree with this for sure. Of course I picked 2 lbs/week when I first signed up - why would I choose anything lower? I only had 30 lbs to lose and had no idea 2 lbs/week was a far too aggressive goal. Then I'd close out my diary and it would tell me I'd weigh ___ in 5 weeks, so I ate as little as I could to make that number lower... Yeah I was not good at this when I started. I'd bet a LOT of people do exactly what I did, and they fall off the wagon fast because it's so unsustainable.

    Can we add "Bad MFP Instructions" to reasons why people struggle to lose weight?

    Post it in the debate section!! LOL
  • chocolate_owl
    chocolate_owl Posts: 1,695 Member
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    llbrixon wrote: »
    For me...I got heavier and stayed that way because:
    1. I loved food, it tastes good and it brings me comfort.
    2. I did not weigh myself, I knew I was over weight, so why should I weigh myself.
    3. I was content to be where I was at the time (overweight).
    4. If I wanted to lose weight, it would take a lot of sacrifices to make it work. And, I was not prepared to make the sacrifices.
    5. I ate because I was bored, lonely, or stressed.
    6. I ate because I was happy (birthdays, holiday, vacations).
    7. I over ate because I did not care! I loved food and I will eat whatever I want to eat.

    8. I am overweight because I hate to exercise. I hate getting sweaty and then I have to shower and get all cleaned up again. It was a waste of time for me.
    9. I am overweight because high calorie food is cheap compared to high nutritional foods.
    10. I am overweight because as soon as you walk into a store all to see is junk food. It is on sale, it is cheap. The junk food is every where.

    I challenge you to walk into a food store and notice all the junk food compared to high nutritional foods.

    This all reminds me of the WW ad:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mWMsezS1SN4

    I do notice the junk food, but sale prices are never appealing. To fit in my grocery budget, I'd have to give up something else I want. I'm not an impulse buyer though - I think through my purchases, and I plan my meals. Not planning before going to the grocery store can definitely be a recipe for disaster for some.
  • chocolate_owl
    chocolate_owl Posts: 1,695 Member
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    queenliz99 wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?

    I think both. It's a default for MFP for most women if they say they want to lose 2 lbs per week.

    So that would mean it is the cap. In other words, anybody with a BMR estimated to be at 2199 or lower will have a 1200 calorie goal. That's one of the things I don't like about MFP. I don't think it does a good job of communicating that.

    Agree with this for sure. Of course I picked 2 lbs/week when I first signed up - why would I choose anything lower? I only had 30 lbs to lose and had no idea 2 lbs/week was a far too aggressive goal. Then I'd close out my diary and it would tell me I'd weigh ___ in 5 weeks, so I ate as little as I could to make that number lower... Yeah I was not good at this when I started. I'd bet a LOT of people do exactly what I did, and they fall off the wagon fast because it's so unsustainable.

    Can we add "Bad MFP Instructions" to reasons why people struggle to lose weight?

    Post it in the debate section!! LOL

    Hahaha. With all the derp across the forums today, do I really need to add more?
  • lemurcat12
    lemurcat12 Posts: 30,886 Member
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    moe0303 wrote: »
    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?

    Apparently it's often handed out as a default (not talking MFP) -- eat 1200 to lose weight.

    Another common misunderstanding re MFP is that exercise calories aren't included and often should be eaten back. Few women are going to have a TDEE of above 2200 before exercise is included. Yet because you put in your exercise plans people often assume it's included in the calorie goal.
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,268 Member
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    moe0303 wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?

    I think both. It's a default for MFP for most women if they say they want to lose 2 lbs per week.

    So that would mean it is the cap. In other words, anybody with a BMR estimated to be at 2199 or lower will have a 1200 calorie goal. That's one of the things I don't like about MFP. I don't think it does a good job of communicating that.

    If they choose a higher rate of weight loss...

    When I came I had 30lbs to lose and was content with 1lb a week...I got 1460 as my goal...

    If MFP could it should set the weekly goal in accordance with total weight loss desired....and not let those with 10lbs to lose to choose 2lbs a week.
  • DebSozo
    DebSozo Posts: 2,578 Member
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    moe0303 wrote: »
    SezxyStef wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    SezxyStef wrote: »
    I googled it..and got to page 8 of articles stating "no one knows where the 1200 calorie myth came from..."

    If googled doesn't know we are doomed.

    What is the myth?

    that a good amount of calories for women to lose weight on is 1200...and no this has nothing to do with the previous posts about Deb's current calorie goal of 1200.

    Well, most women would probably lose on that number, the same could be said for 1100 or 1000. Or do you mean that people just blindly prescribe 1200 calories to all women? That would be ill-advised. Or do you mean the that 1200 calories being the line drawn where people think it is safe?

    MFP won't let us go below 1200
  • moe0303
    moe0303 Posts: 934 Member
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    SezxyStef wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?

    I think both. It's a default for MFP for most women if they say they want to lose 2 lbs per week.

    So that would mean it is the cap. In other words, anybody with a BMR estimated to be at 2199 or lower will have a 1200 calorie goal. That's one of the things I don't like about MFP. I don't think it does a good job of communicating that.

    If they choose a higher rate of weight loss...

    When I came I had 30lbs to lose and was content with 1lb a week...I got 1460 as my goal...

    If MFP could it should set the weekly goal in accordance with total weight loss desired....and not let those with 10lbs to lose to choose 2lbs a week.

    I, personally, would like to see them be able to override it somehow and take responsibility for themselves. But then again, I have strange viewpoints on personal responsibility and freedom.
  • queenliz99
    queenliz99 Posts: 15,317 Member
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    moe0303 wrote: »
    SezxyStef wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?

    I think both. It's a default for MFP for most women if they say they want to lose 2 lbs per week.

    So that would mean it is the cap. In other words, anybody with a BMR estimated to be at 2199 or lower will have a 1200 calorie goal. That's one of the things I don't like about MFP. I don't think it does a good job of communicating that.

    If they choose a higher rate of weight loss...

    When I came I had 30lbs to lose and was content with 1lb a week...I got 1460 as my goal...

    If MFP could it should set the weekly goal in accordance with total weight loss desired....and not let those with 10lbs to lose to choose 2lbs a week.

    I, personally, would like to see them be able to override it somehow and take responsibility for themselves. But then again, I have strange viewpoints on personal responsibility and freedom.

    I agree
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,268 Member
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    moe0303 wrote: »
    SezxyStef wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?

    I think both. It's a default for MFP for most women if they say they want to lose 2 lbs per week.

    So that would mean it is the cap. In other words, anybody with a BMR estimated to be at 2199 or lower will have a 1200 calorie goal. That's one of the things I don't like about MFP. I don't think it does a good job of communicating that.

    If they choose a higher rate of weight loss...

    When I came I had 30lbs to lose and was content with 1lb a week...I got 1460 as my goal...

    If MFP could it should set the weekly goal in accordance with total weight loss desired....and not let those with 10lbs to lose to choose 2lbs a week.

    I, personally, would like to see them be able to override it somehow and take responsibility for themselves. But then again, I have strange viewpoints on personal responsibility and freedom.

    with awareness they do....take me for example I knew that 1lb was enough based on what I had read...

    Most think 2lbs is good...get it over quick...get back to regular life...
  • DebSozo
    DebSozo Posts: 2,578 Member
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    SezxyStef wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    SezxyStef wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    moe0303 wrote: »
    Is 1200 the default or is it just the cap that everybody ends up at due to their desire to lose weight faster?

    I think both. It's a default for MFP for most women if they say they want to lose 2 lbs per week.

    So that would mean it is the cap. In other words, anybody with a BMR estimated to be at 2199 or lower will have a 1200 calorie goal. That's one of the things I don't like about MFP. I don't think it does a good job of communicating that.

    If they choose a higher rate of weight loss...

    When I came I had 30lbs to lose and was content with 1lb a week...I got 1460 as my goal...

    If MFP could it should set the weekly goal in accordance with total weight loss desired....and not let those with 10lbs to lose to choose 2lbs a week.

    I, personally, would like to see them be able to override it somehow and take responsibility for themselves. But then again, I have strange viewpoints on personal responsibility and freedom.

    with awareness they do....take me for example I knew that 1lb was enough based on what I had read...

    Most think 2lbs is good...get it over quick...get back to regular life...

    I started out with 20 pounds to lose and originally set 2 pounds a week as a goal because I thought I could be done with it in 5 weeks. It was impossible for me to do that. I ended up losing 10 pounds over 3 months. I spent time in turmoil when I didn't need to.

    Now that I'm down to the last 10 pounds I'm recalculating so I can lose 0.5 pounds a week so I'm not so stressed out. I plateaued for a while but just started losing weight again this week. I think that it is easier to keep the weight off when weight comes off more slowly. It is a permanent change, and I'll never be able to eat as hearty as I once did if I want to keep it off.

    (Edited for Typo)
  • Enjcg5
    Enjcg5 Posts: 389 Member
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    One of the things I came across in the forums when I first started MFP was the old chestnut 'Weight loss is simple, but it's not easy'. The concept of CICO isn't rocket science; people need to be aware that there are individual variations to both sides of the CICO equation - but still, with a little determination, pretty simple.

    The hard part for me, and I suspect quite a few that argue that weight-loss isn't as simple as just CICO, was the emotional component that triggered overeating. There are many such triggers, and until the individual becomes aware of their specific trigger(s), understands their impact, and is able to formulate a plan to address them, it will remain difficult.

    So while I get that 'put down the fork' is technically all that needs to be done, if there's an underlying emotional component, putting down the fork won't be easy.

    Weight-loss is 90% mental.

    Nailed it!