how to find a girl friend when you a fat mess like me :(

Seriously man don't scare ppl if you don't actually feel that way because folks will take it seriously. A friend of mine killed herself last weekend after posting some stuff on FB about wondering "if ppl would be better off without her." A whole bunch of people reached out to her, but she did it anyway.

MRbigGUYXXL wrote: »

im 300LBs no not much to look at , ive been told im funny and have a good sense of humor , but i just think im weird ,

i suppose im not a great person ether , i try my best but all ways mess up , im a loyal friend to my friends id die for any one of them , but i suppose that is because there life is worth living .....

im just looking for someone i dont care about looks weight or any of that , i just want some one who is nice no me that is all.

i mean how do i go about getting a nice women ,

tbh i dont feel i should go out with any girl i mean any women on the plant could do better than me .

i suppose this is more of a rant but a little help would be nice ..... thank you

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ude you need to up your self esteem. I know it's hard to be confident when you can't get past the negatives you see in yourself, but most of the time they pale in comparison to all the positives others see. That's what you need to focus on. Confidence is attractive and sexy to everyone. By being confident and also aware of improvements you need to make, you're going to attract the right type of woman who will appreciate you and also support you in achieving your goals. Getting into the dating scene with a low self esteem is only going to attract the wrong type of women. Now go out and find yourself a woman!

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_MistahJ_ wrote: »

NorthCascades wrote: »

It's enough to restore your faith in humanity.

Really? Several people have clicked "Awesome" on the original post where the kid talks about wanting to die and one guy posts a number and your faith in humanity is restored? If the original poster is truly suicidal, he needs the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255). Not some guy's cell from a Chit-Chat forum.

I called Suicide Hotline and the woman sounded like a dick so i hung up

That doesn't really work honestly

Find things you like to do and go do them. Learn a language, Play a game, take a walk, travel, draw a picture, write a song, listen to music, read 50 books. All of these things will take your mind off yourself and give you a broader outlook. You will become interesting both to yourself and then to others. And in the meantime you won't have time to wallow. GO. DO. Now.

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Tsartele wrote: »

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LiaMatilda wrote: »

It doesn't matter what you look like if you're a genuinely good guy; a girl will still fall for you☺️ I don't think you've met the right ones because looks really aren't that important (to the good girls I guess haha)

Will you date him?

No, because I am already in a relationship. I didn't think people would get so caught up in what I said

I read your post and I think you are a sweet person for trying to encourage this guy but more times than not nice guys finish last. I have see it so many times that it has become a cliché. Most women say they want a nice guy who will treat them good but what they end up dating is a guy on a motorcycle with tattoos, and a criminal record,who drinks heavy and teats them like crap.

Rubbish, this is such a baseless stereotype that helps nobody. "Most girls" are just regular old functional human beings with a wide variety of preferences. Just because a girl doesn't like a "nice" guy, doesn't mean she doesn't like all nice guys- it means that particular guy does not meet her personal preferences in a partner. The majority of women are by no means attracted to alcoholic criminals who treat them like crap, because believe it or not we aren't stupid, we are regular people who would, in general, rather be treated decently.

It seems to me that OPs problem is that he appears to be depressed, and dealing with some personal emotional issues that need to be addressed. He could look like Brad Pitt- it doesn't matter in this case because most people don't want to begin a relationship who is carrying around a whole bunch of unaddressed issues. As sad as it is people like this are extremely difficult to have a partnership with.

OP- please talk to a therapist. Getting a girlfriend is not going to magically fix your problems right now. Adress your issues first, stay focused on your weight loss and physical health and learn to like yourself- because if you don't, how can anybody else?

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