Good-bye MyFitnessPal
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I don't know what to tell you. Seems to me that in your picture you are holding a very good reason to try to figure out what is going on instead of giving up because you don't understand what is going on.
I looked through your diary and can't see your exercise but am curious on how you are calculating your exercise calories, over 3,000 calories burned in one day is impressive and I'm very curious how those numbers so regularly come to show up in your diary. If you're not using a hrm, how do you know that is accurate?
You made the statement that you eat at least half your calories, that's not much. Also looking through your diary your calorie sources are kind of crap. I see lots of mayo and bread and processed foods. Yeah, you're falling within your calorie goals, but your sources also play a huge roll in how your body processes the food.
Seems to me that you may want to continue logging, save up a few bucks and take your self to a nutritionist (one that's also a trainer would be your best bet) to evaluate your diet and exercise routine.
Edit: the first 30 days were the most difficult for me. I didn't have the challenge that you have set in front of you, but the first 30 days were the most difficult for me.0 -
Kinda confusing why this guy wants to quit. Lost 10 lbs in a week and his pants are getting so loose that they were falling down?!? Sounds like its working to me.0
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hope you dont quit either...........its been hell for 14 months for me, but Ill take that hell over the feeling that I used to have for the last 14 months being morbidly obese
I will say, although it was tuff, it gets easier to make choices about what you do eat and the commitment that it takes to work out and eat healthier.................
it does get better, youll feel so much better as you lose the weight...........you will lose, just dont quit.0 -
Ten pounds is 10 percent of the way to your goal. That's awesome! Keep it up, and you'll lose 10 more, and so on, and so on. If you quit now, how well do you think that is going to work for you?So I say this "GOOD-BYE MyFitnessPal" thanks for helping me lose ten pounds of the one-hundred I wanted I am now completely done with dieting it is no use anymore to me I am just going to stay fat0 -
I've read bits and pieces of this incredibly long thread, and I have to admit something to the OP. Thank you. Thank you for being brave enough to say what I assume some of us have at least thought. I've had my fair share of bad days, especially WI days when you expected things to go better than they did. But, you can't quit. If that encouragemnt comes from other people (here or elsewhere) or from within, as long as you stay on track, that's what's important. You have quite a journey ahead of you, as do a good deal of us, and we've all got eachother's backs for the good, bad and in-between.
Here's to you and all of us struggling :drinker: We've got this!0 -
This diet/liftestyle thing is pretty simple if you remember these two things;
1. You can try
2. You can give up
Attention paid to you by members of this board (positive OR negative) won't change that.0 -
Quitting isn't going to get you anywhere.
If what you're doing isn't working - don't be afraid to tweak things until you hit on what works. MFP should be a starting point in this journey - somewhere to help get you off the couch and moving forward. You can't expect everything it recommends to work for every single person. Instead of throwing in the towel, grab ahold of your life and figure out what you need to do to be successful (and quittin' .. it isn't it!).
MFP has my calories for the day set WAY too low. I wasn't losing any weight, so I started doing research (google.. it's a beautiful thing!). I read articles, message boards, etc until I figured out that I may not be eating enough. That between my job and my workouts, I was basically pushing my body into starvation mode. I upped my calories and lost weight again.
Failure isn't the answer.0 -
Dude i've reached a stage where I've lost about 10 pounds in 6-7 months. Boo ****ing hoo. You just keep going because if you don't you'll just end up 100lb MORE than you started with! What's the point in quitting?! I'm still losing weight but slowly. And to be honest, i'm thankful for anything I lose. But despite the extremely slow losses, I just keep on going and using this tool because it DOES help and I REFUSE to be the fat girl anymore.
Quitting after a week is just pathetic.0 -
STOP!!!! Don't give up. I have struggled up and down with my weight for over 40 years. I gain, lose, gain, lose...and sometimes I give up. When I give up, though I gain. Please...you may have gained because of muscle mass. You stated that your pants were falling off so something is happening! You don't talk about your eating habits, and although I wish it wasn't true, eating is important to weight loss. Please..hold on and keep trying. I'm back after a year. I've gained, but ready to try again. I haven't gained it all back but I did gain some. Contact is important.0
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Don't give up!! You need to do this for you. I never calculate on eating my additional calories from exercise. You should look at what you are eating. This is the hardest thing changing how u eat and not dieting.0
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"If quitting is an option, you never intended to succeed."
^ I like this.
But honestly, you can't blame a fitness website for you gaining weight. When I gain weight (I usually stop tracking the things I eat) previously I tracked what I ate on paper before moving to the MFP food diary. Sometimes your weight fluctuates...I know in February I had gained 10 pounds nearly over night...I didn't blame MFP. I had a "cheat day" and to boot my sodium intake was in the negative every other day. Actually MFP is a good way to track not only calories but (fat, sodium, carbs, etc.) That's not a bad thing. This website isn't here to do all the work for you...you've got to do that. And this is coming from a person who has been overweight for the majority of their life.0 -
Quit, personally, I don't care. But don't fill up the boards with this "woe is me" BS, Either do it or don't, but don't come whining here.0
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No offense... But I looked at your diary and you are eating like s*it. Everything you eat is processed, fried, take out...
Just because you stay under your calories for the day doesn't give you license to keep eating whatever the heck you want! For instance... Not sure what day it was but you ate two grilled cheese sandwiches for breakfast. Who the heck can eat that and expect to loose weight? You are mis using this site and completely looking at this the wrong way.
Do whatever you want. I guarantee that people on this site will not miss you one bit.0 -
For what it's worth, I'm glad that you decided to stick around. Don't worry so much about what the scale says day-to-day. I've only been doing this since April, but from what I've seen so far my weight-loss chart isn't a nice, even, constant downward progression. It goes up, it goes down. I'll do everything right a week and gain, I'll screw up horribly the next week and lose.
As long as I see it trending the right way month to month, I'm happy. I'd love to weigh in every day knowing that the scale would show me a loss, but I'll deal with slow and steady :drinker:0 -
wow some of you are really harsh. i thought this website was to enable and encourage .0
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Bump.. gonna read every single one of the post. This is good stuff.
This OP comments just reminded me of a guy on a COPS episode that crashed his bike right in front of a police car, of course he's drunk and stoned. then he said something like "thank you (about 50 times) I need to be saved, I need to clean my act."
Some people just feel like getting attention when they let themselves go pretty bad, maybe some wrist slapping can get them back on track.
No need to insult the OP but if you're gonna quit you might as well do it quietly.
My guess he's saying "I need to be saved" and he does not really want to quit.0 -
I'm not going to go through this entire thread and remove all of the inappropriate comments (it would take forever to find them all), nor will I lock it, as there has been a lot of good, informative posts and some great support (both kind and tough).
But I will put in a reminder about forum rules:
4) Do not attack/slam/insult other users. The forums are here so that members can help support one another. Attacks or insults against each other takes away from the supportive atmosphere and will not be tolerated. You can discuss the message or topic, but not the messenger - NO EXCEPTIONS. If you are attacked by another user, and you reciprocate, YOU will also be subject to the same consequences. Defending yourself, defending a friend, etc. are NOT excuses. Violations of this rule are taken very seriously and may result in being banned without warning! If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
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Look at your picture! There's no better reason to not quit than that little girl in your arms. Open up your diary so people can see them and give some pointers. Get some more MFP friends because they are an amazing source of love and support. There are answers and reasons to all of this stuff. Don't just walk away. I was 408 and after a week was ready to quit and continue my unhealthy life, as short as it was gonna be. I'm down to 280 now with the thanks of mfp!!!!!
Absolutely 100% dead on!!! We all got big over time and we need to take it off over time.
We care enough to try to make you understand (however we have too!) that YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Oh, I started at 414! now 331 and still trying
There are tons of people on here that DO NOT WANT YOU TO GIVE UP!
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kariank, I didnt read all the posts, too many, but I did look at Rebels diary and it looked a lot like mine, when I use to weigh 359 lbs..........
I didnt know his diary was public when I posted my reply to him, but now I have and I will say that his diet is LOADED WITH SODIUM, and then he ate today , and that has tons of sodium, yet he has ZERO for the sodium content of his sausage egg biscuit breakfast entry............hmm, I avoid sausage like the plague, its LOADED WITH SODIUM, and that is his problem
also, there are NO vegetables and fruits in his plan...............just PROCESSED, SODIUM ladened store bought, processed stuff............
again, I know the hell of having to lose weight its not fun........we all know that, but again, if youre just going to quit from gaining weight from moving blocks, then maybe you really dont want to lose weight.........maybe he was doing it just so he could not have people harping on him to lose weight
I dont know what his situation is, but I gotta say, if he keeps eating what hes been eating, he will never , ever lose weight.........
Id say he may need to go to Over Eaters, or maybe talk to a counsellor..............He was drinking beer yesterday, and its hard to lose pounds when you consume alcohol...............again, he needs to make the choice ,
Im not an expert here, but if he wants to message me, Ill talk to him, Im older and it was harder, but I did it, and would really want to help him, but hes got to make the first move ,and that is to change his diet......................Best wishes to everyone.........Lloyd0 -
So you quit after a week? You're just looking for an excuse to stay fat. Period. We've all had ups and downs here, but stuck with it. In all likelihood, you are dehydrated and your body is storing water to make up for it. Working like that CAN cause weight gain, and to run away so quickly is just cowardly....
AMEN!!
it's not cowardly, it's hard, people get scared, and are afraid of failure and when you are trying and see results that you think are wrong it sucks and instead of being mean you should encourage following through, and it's not ok to call names. being 200, 300, 400 lbs or what ever it's hard to move every day when you have been sitting for years. it's hard to eat healthy when all you eat is junk for years. this person that you decide to call a cowardly may not be ready to do this now. and you know what that is ok. we are and should be here for support and advice not ridicule and belittling. and the people who think that this is the way to motivate people shouldn't be on this site. it is sad to see so many post to this original comment that are rude and disrespectful. and it should hurt more then just my feelings that people are writing this way to this person. now here's my advice do it when you feel ready, yes finding motivation is hard, yes it sucks watching what you eat and working out everyday, but you are worth it and need to to know that there will be set backs. i starting working out and i didn't lose any weight at first because i jumped in head first quit smoking, working out, eating healthy , my body was in shock mode for about 2 weeks and then boom lost weight. your body has been so unhealthy that maybe it needed to hang on to those pounds, but just remeber that nothing starts out being easy when it comes to weight lose patience is important and acceptance of yourself no matter what. good luck with your journey and MFP will be here when or if you try to lose again. sorry if i am harsh but i have been fat all my life and people who call names and are mean get under my skin. have a great day
No its not cowardly, It's an excuse not to try.0 -
I know that you are upset over the weight gain, I see it in your face when you step off the scale (I'm his wife BTW).
You may not be losing the pounds but you are loosing inches. I notice a difference when you take your shirt off and when you asked me for a belt this weekend! Plus I think you have a sensitive metabolism, we don't eat out normally and we did 2 days this three day weekend.
Don't listen to the people putting your down, maybe they are the ones seeking the motivation. I can't make you do anything, but I notice changes in you and so do our families. I will still be cooking light so you can still eat healthy and I hope you still go for runs with F and I. I love you!
Rebel! You've got such a great support system! Lean on your wife for strength now! (She may need the support later!). Disregard this weigh in - it's post holiday. I had a bad weigh in today, too, after a very active 5 days. I think the weekend's sodium and a couple drinks were standing on the scale with me! I'm not even going to step on the scale until Friday. Remember, it's the tortoise that wins this race.0 -
Okay guys, whats up with all these negitive comments, your P***sing me OFF!! :explode:
YOU are the real losers, not Rebel. Very immature!! I know its not my place, but can not stand when hes being put down like this!!
Negativity breeds negativity. If you have a negative attitude then generally people will be negative back.....it's a fact of life. It annoys me and a lot of people who work hard and try hard and try to have a positive attitude.......if the poster wanted motivation and support and inspiration then he could ask and it would come flooding in by the bucket load.......oh and for the record all of us who have worked hard and lost weight and got fit and healthy we are not losers (at least not in the sense you intended
) we are just people who made a choice....the right one
you are right you made the right choice and congrats to all of you who have lost but sometimes people who have been sad and depressed all they know is negativity sometimes they need strangers to help and be nice. and good for all of you who have lost weight but sometimes it's not that easy to decide. sometimes losing weight can be the hardest decision someone can make. i does take a lot of effort to totally make a new with your life. but there are SOOOO many ways to say things without belittling and ridicule. i am just saying that some of you mean people may have forgotten how hard it is since you are so healthy now.0 -
So you quit after a week? You're just looking for an excuse to stay fat. Period. We've all had ups and downs here, but stuck with it. In all likelihood, you are dehydrated and your body is storing water to make up for it. Working like that CAN cause weight gain, and to run away so quickly is just cowardly....
AMEN!!
it's not cowardly, it's hard, people get scared, and are afraid of failure and when you are trying and see results that you think are wrong it sucks and instead of being mean you should encourage following through, and it's not ok to call names. being 200, 300, 400 lbs or what ever it's hard to move every day when you have been sitting for years. it's hard to eat healthy when all you eat is junk for years. this person that you decide to call a cowardly may not be ready to do this now. and you know what that is ok. we are and should be here for support and advice not ridicule and belittling. and the people who think that this is the way to motivate people shouldn't be on this site. it is sad to see so many post to this original comment that are rude and disrespectful. and it should hurt more then just my feelings that people are writing this way to this person. now here's my advice do it when you feel ready, yes finding motivation is hard, yes it sucks watching what you eat and working out everyday, but you are worth it and need to to know that there will be set backs. i starting working out and i didn't lose any weight at first because i jumped in head first quit smoking, working out, eating healthy , my body was in shock mode for about 2 weeks and then boom lost weight. your body has been so unhealthy that maybe it needed to hang on to those pounds, but just remeber that nothing starts out being easy when it comes to weight lose patience is important and acceptance of yourself no matter what. good luck with your journey and MFP will be here when or if you try to lose again. sorry if i am harsh but i have been fat all my life and people who call names and are mean get under my skin. have a great day
No its not cowardly, It's an excuse not to try.
it may be an excuse but he doesn't need to be called names0 -
After reading though this very long post I am very happy that you have decided not to quit.... Take the positive from this post and see all the people that are here right along side you with a whole lot of support.... We can all do it together :flowerforyou:0
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I should have read through all the posts before I made mine. I'm glad you've decided not to quit! :flowerforyou:0
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kariank, I didnt read all the posts, too many, but I did look at Rebels diary and it looked a lot like mine, when I use to weigh 359 lbs..........
I didnt know his diary was public when I posted my reply to him, but now I have and I will say that his diet is LOADED WITH SODIUM, and then he ate today , and that has tons of sodium, yet he has ZERO for the sodium content of his sausage egg biscuit breakfast entry............hmm, I avoid sausage like the plague, its LOADED WITH SODIUM, and that is his problem
also, there are NO vegetables and fruits in his plan...............just PROCESSED, SODIUM ladened store bought, processed stuff............
again, I know the hell of having to lose weight its not fun........we all know that, but again, if youre just going to quit from gaining weight from moving blocks, then maybe you really dont want to lose weight.........maybe he was doing it just so he could not have people harping on him to lose weight
I dont know what his situation is, but I gotta say, if he keeps eating what hes been eating, he will never , ever lose weight.........
Id say he may need to go to Over Eaters, or maybe talk to a counsellor..............He was drinking beer yesterday, and its hard to lose pounds when you consume alcohol...............again, he needs to make the choice ,
Im not an expert here, but if he wants to message me, Ill talk to him, Im older and it was harder, but I did it, and would really want to help him, but hes got to make the first move ,and that is to change his diet......................Best wishes to everyone.........Lloyd
i know i looked at the food log too, but i just know how it feels when i use to feel down and looking to help and if someone told me im pathetic or a failure because i quit or something. it hurts, and looking at the log it shows that more knowledge on nutrition is in order, but you learn from mistakes and whether or not we agree with him quitting, we shouldn't be mean.0 -
you're really cutting off your nose to spite your face as the saying goes.....you're frustrated so you're going to hurt yourself? Really think about what you are saying and doing and feeling.
I've been at the frustration point many a time, with myself, and it doesn't feel good. I've spent most of my mid-20s-mid-30s yo-yoing and gaining and losing and it's not fun.
What I've learned is that you need perserverance to make the changes until it is the way you live, what's the alterative, health problems, low self-esteem, feeling like you're not living to your potential, and self-consciousness and poor discipline. And it's a journey and frustrating as you undo years of poor habits and beliefs.
If you really want something you need to be willing to put in the work....consistently, even when you're frustrated. And stop weighing yourself, it's only messing with your head. If you are eating right, exercising and doing it 90% of the time, it will come off, not in any way you can chart out, so get over that. But it will happen!0 -
wow some of you are really harsh. i thought this website was to enable and encourage .
IMO there is far too much enabling and not nearly enough truth on this website.0 -
Wow. I came into this thread a bit enraged as well, and I couldn't figure out why...now I think I understand...I'm furious because in that first post, I saw a me that existed before...a me who gave up and then was kicking herself when she woke up months later because then she had to start from an even higher weight. I believe that others are reacting in the same way. They are angry because they have been in your shoes and they wish they would have kept going, or started going, before they got to their max weights. I think, like me, they want to save others from the same mistakes.
I'm glad you opened up your diary and that you have a strong support system in real life. As others have said, there is lots of room for improvement in your diet, but there's no law saying that you have to flat-out change it right off the bat! Start making healthier choices here and there: add a handful of veggies to a lunch here, drink one less ale there, choose a baked food instead of fried another time. Small steps are the best way to make lifestyle changes STICK and make you feel less deprived. I personally find that the more healthy food I force myself to eat, the more I start to crave it. Tastes really do change. So long as you're taking steps in the right direction, they can be as big or as small as you feel comfortable with.
Another key is to be perfectly honest with yourself in terms of calories logged...and granted, sometimes it's hard to know that, but it's all about learning to get better and better at approximating. For example, when it comes to exercise, marathon runners expend ~3000 calories during their entire marathon runs, and that's one of the more gruelling feats the human body can endure (well, Ironman athletes are laughing at this right now but it's definitely up there), and so it's very unlikely that you'd be spending that much energy in one day, let alone a few days in a row! Borrowing an HRM for a day might be a helpful way to determine how many calories you're actually burning. If not, asking around the forums for suggestions about how to log exercises -- or just to double-check that your calories logged are accurate -- is a fantastic way to get close. We are here as a resource for you! We are here to help!
It can be hard to stick to a journey when we want the goal so badly that we can taste it, but impatience can either be a motivator (I'm going to stick through this and get there as quickly as possible!) or something that sabotages us (I'm frustrated because I'm not where I want to be...I give up!) Embrace that impatience! Use it to fuel yourself! And don't forget to celebrate the steps along the way. 13 lb is a huge step in the right direction! YOU CAN DO THIS!!0 -
So you quit after a week? You're just looking for an excuse to stay fat. Period. We've all had ups and downs here, but stuck with it. In all likelihood, you are dehydrated and your body is storing water to make up for it. Working like that CAN cause weight gain, and to run away so quickly is just cowardly....
AMEN!!
it's not cowardly, it's hard, people get scared, and are afraid of failure and when you are trying and see results that you think are wrong it sucks and instead of being mean you should encourage following through, and it's not ok to call names. being 200, 300, 400 lbs or what ever it's hard to move every day when you have been sitting for years. it's hard to eat healthy when all you eat is junk for years. this person that you decide to call a cowardly may not be ready to do this now. and you know what that is ok. we are and should be here for support and advice not ridicule and belittling. and the people who think that this is the way to motivate people shouldn't be on this site. it is sad to see so many post to this original comment that are rude and disrespectful. and it should hurt more then just my feelings that people are writing this way to this person. now here's my advice do it when you feel ready, yes finding motivation is hard, yes it sucks watching what you eat and working out everyday, but you are worth it and need to to know that there will be set backs. i starting working out and i didn't lose any weight at first because i jumped in head first quit smoking, working out, eating healthy , my body was in shock mode for about 2 weeks and then boom lost weight. your body has been so unhealthy that maybe it needed to hang on to those pounds, but just remeber that nothing starts out being easy when it comes to weight lose patience is important and acceptance of yourself no matter what. good luck with your journey and MFP will be here when or if you try to lose again. sorry if i am harsh but i have been fat all my life and people who call names and are mean get under my skin. have a great day
No its not cowardly, It's an excuse not to try.
it may be an excuse but he doesn't need to be called names
Saying his ACTION is cowardly is not calling him NAMES. There is a difference. The fact of the matter is, many of us on here have fought hard to lose the weight we gained over the years. People watch shows like the Biggest Loser and get so disillusioned about how much weight they can lose - and how fast. He's lost 10 pounds in like a week, and is upset about that? C'mon. People think weight should just melt off, even though it took a LONG time to gain it. I tell it like it is - but I NEVER called him names. period....
HGC, Lap Band, Phen Phen, Hydroxycut ect. all lead to the SAME THING - unhealthy weight loss and generally weight gain and health issues later. Lose weight with a good program of healthy foods, calorie counting, and exercise. THIS will work, and will last.0
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