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Okay guys, whats up with all these negitive comments, your P***sing me OFF!! :explode:

YOU are the real losers, not Rebel. Very immature!! I know its not my place, but can not stand when hes being put down like this!!

Negativity breeds negativity. If you have a negative attitude then generally people will be negative back.....it's a fact of life. It annoys me and a lot of people who work hard and try hard and try to have a positive attitude.......if the poster wanted motivation and support and inspiration then he could ask and it would come flooding in by the bucket load.......oh and for the record all of us who have worked hard and lost weight and got fit and healthy we are not losers (at least not in the sense you intended ) we are just people who made a choice....the right one

you are right you made the right choice and congrats to all of you who have lost but sometimes people who have been sad and depressed all they know is negativity sometimes they need strangers to help and be nice. and good for all of you who have lost weight but sometimes it's not that easy to decide. sometimes losing weight can be the hardest decision someone can make. i does take a lot of effort to totally make a new with your life. but there are SOOOO many ways to say things without belittling and ridicule. i am just saying that some of you mean people may have forgotten how hard it is since you are so healthy now.

After reading though this very long post I am very happy that you have decided not to quit.... Take the positive from this post and see all the people that are here right along side you with a whole lot of support.... We can all do it together :flowerforyou:

kariank, I didnt read all the posts, too many, but I did look at Rebels diary and it looked a lot like mine, when I use to weigh 359 lbs..........

I didnt know his diary was public when I posted my reply to him, but now I have and I will say that his diet is LOADED WITH SODIUM, and then he ate today , and that has tons of sodium, yet he has ZERO for the sodium content of his sausage egg biscuit breakfast entry............hmm, I avoid sausage like the plague, its LOADED WITH SODIUM, and that is his problem

also, there are NO vegetables and fruits in his plan...............just PROCESSED, SODIUM ladened store bought, processed stuff............
again, I know the hell of having to lose weight its not fun........we all know that, but again, if youre just going to quit from gaining weight from moving blocks, then maybe you really dont want to lose weight.........maybe he was doing it just so he could not have people harping on him to lose weight

I dont know what his situation is, but I gotta say, if he keeps eating what hes been eating, he will never , ever lose weight.........

Id say he may need to go to Over Eaters, or maybe talk to a counsellor..............He was drinking beer yesterday, and its hard to lose pounds when you consume alcohol...............again, he needs to make the choice ,

Im not an expert here, but if he wants to message me, Ill talk to him, Im older and it was harder, but I did it, and would really want to help him, but hes got to make the first move ,and that is to change his diet......................Best wishes to everyone.........Lloyd

i know i looked at the food log too, but i just know how it feels when i use to feel down and looking to help and if someone told me im pathetic or a failure because i quit or something. it hurts, and looking at the log it shows that more knowledge on nutrition is in order, but you learn from mistakes and whether or not we agree with him quitting, we shouldn't be mean.

wow some of you are really harsh. i thought this website was to enable and encourage .

IMO there is far too much enabling and not nearly enough truth on this website.

So you quit after a week? You're just looking for an excuse to stay fat. Period. We've all had ups and downs here, but stuck with it. In all likelihood, you are dehydrated and your body is storing water to make up for it. Working like that CAN cause weight gain, and to run away so quickly is just cowardly....

AMEN!!

it's not cowardly, it's hard, people get scared, and are afraid of failure and when you are trying and see results that you think are wrong it sucks and instead of being mean you should encourage following through, and it's not ok to call names. being 200, 300, 400 lbs or what ever it's hard to move every day when you have been sitting for years. it's hard to eat healthy when all you eat is junk for years. this person that you decide to call a cowardly may not be ready to do this now. and you know what that is ok. we are and should be here for support and advice not ridicule and belittling. and the people who think that this is the way to motivate people shouldn't be on this site. it is sad to see so many post to this original comment that are rude and disrespectful. and it should hurt more then just my feelings that people are writing this way to this person. now here's my advice do it when you feel ready, yes finding motivation is hard, yes it sucks watching what you eat and working out everyday, but you are worth it and need to to know that there will be set backs. i starting working out and i didn't lose any weight at first because i jumped in head first quit smoking, working out, eating healthy , my body was in shock mode for about 2 weeks and then boom lost weight. your body has been so unhealthy that maybe it needed to hang on to those pounds, but just remeber that nothing starts out being easy when it comes to weight lose patience is important and acceptance of yourself no matter what. good luck with your journey and MFP will be here when or if you try to lose again. sorry if i am harsh but i have been fat all my life and people who call names and are mean get under my skin. have a great day

No its not cowardly, It's an excuse not to try.

it may be an excuse but he doesn't need to be called names

Saying his ACTION is cowardly is not calling him NAMES. There is a difference. The fact of the matter is, many of us on here have fought hard to lose the weight we gained over the years. People watch shows like the Biggest Loser and get so disillusioned about how much weight they can lose - and how fast. He's lost 10 pounds in like a week, and is upset about that? C'mon. People think weight should just melt off, even though it took a LONG time to gain it. I tell it like it is - but I NEVER called him names. period....

HGC, Lap Band, Phen Phen, Hydroxycut ect. all lead to the SAME THING - unhealthy weight loss and generally weight gain and health issues later. Lose weight with a good program of healthy foods, calorie counting, and exercise. THIS will work, and will last.

No offense... But I looked at your diary and you are eating like s*it. Everything you eat is processed, fried, take out...

Just because you stay under your calories for the day doesn't give you license to keep eating whatever the heck you want! For instance... Not sure what day it was but you ate two grilled cheese sandwiches for breakfast. Who the heck can eat that and expect to loose weight? You are mis using this site and completely looking at this the wrong way.

Do whatever you want. I guarantee that people on this site will not miss you one bit.

Um--not to be argumentative, but I can eat two grilled cheese sandwiches for breakfast and expect to lose weight. Of course, I make mine with low fat cheese (45 cals per slice), light (45 cals per slice) bread, and the pan grilling is done with either a VERY light skiff of butter or, more likely, a butter flavored, no-cal cooking spray. Total calories for two sandwiches? 360-400 calories. I don't do it often, but sometimes I DO do it. It makes me happy, it satisfies a craving, and it's marvelously fiber and protein rich.

I do get your point, and I was very frustrated and put off by his "I'm QUITTING!" approach, but I'd rather teach the OP how to do things in a way that isn't a diet-buster rather than condemn him for doing them wrong. As for not missing him? I think I would--I want to see him succeed. I'm not a big coddler, I tend toward "tough love," but I'm absolutely rooting for him. I hope he makes the changes he needs to make, even if they're only small steps right now. After all, very few of us came into this knowing how to make eating healthier a practical and doable thing.

I hope he gets some Sara Lee Delightful Wheat or Multi-grain bread today. So that the next time he has a couple of sandwiches, he's knocked 260 calories off just by switching breads.

If he doesn't know how to do these things, what better place for him to learn?

Edited to say that I've just spent some time going over the OP's food diary. There are changes that must be made if sustainable loss is the goal. Portion size is out of control--a 15 oz steak? Cut that in half (or even better, a third) for starters, and fill up the space on your plate with fresh steamed broccoli, spinach, sugar snap peas, zucchini, or whatever veggie captures your fancy. A baked potato is fine now and then--make it a smaller red potato rather than a giant russet. Ditch as many of the processed foods as possible, replace them with home-cooked alternatives. There are many recipe sites out there with great, healthier alternatives to favorites. Kill the daily juice---it's not healthy, it's only slightly better than soda. Instead, have half an orange. Replace sweet, processed snacks with fresh fruits. Make absolutely certain that you're not "numbers shopping" on MFP--choose the listing that most accurately matches your intake, not the one that shows the lowest calories. Lying on a food listing is like cheating at solitaire--who are you hurting, really? This will likely mean reading your packaging and entering values. Do not make entries without sodium and other nutrients listed. It gives you a false sense of what you're doing.

Don't lie to yourself. Your caloric intake is excessive. The foods you're eating are breathtakingly unhealthy in many cases. Many of these foods have healthy and delicious alternatives that satisfy the desire without destroying the body. Start making the changes that will make you healthier for you and for your family. Insulting yourself and hating yourself isn't going to do it--I did that for years and years, and it never took one ounce off me. I would walk past a mirror and cry, "Oh, you fat, ugly slob!" Didn't inspire even a bit of loss. Instead of calling yourself 'the fat guy," take that negative energy and make it positive--instead of telling yourself you're awful, tell yourself you're capable. And then prove it to yourself. Instead of focusing on how big you are, focus on the pounds lost, the changes made, and the physical changes that may not show on the scale but are real all the same.


You have to want this enough to do it. You have to be honest enough with yourself to recognize that you MUST make serious, sincere changes. Not just eating a few fewer Funyuns, but replacing them with home-baked versions. You cannot reach your goal weight by doing what you've already been doing--you know that.


Kris

dont quit. I'm close to you in age. 31. I started @ 480. I am now 340's. had diabetes II. on lots of meds. now I no longer take meds. also reveresed the diabetes and no longer have it. I still have another 130-140 to lose but I've come too far to stop now. as others stated you have a daughter. it doesnt happen overnight. but it will happen if you stick to it.

Ask yourself this "If I really wanted to give up, would I have posted that last message?" You have 12 pages (so far) of people who want you to succeed. Some are offering support and encouragement and others are offering a kick in the *kitten* or a slap upside the head, but each in their own way WANTS YOU TO SUCCEED! Including me. If you change your mind and want another friend on your side, please take me up on it.

I do have a suggestion for a place to start... I looked at your diary and there are lots of days where your sodium is very high. Sodium makes you retain water and that makes you gain weight (even though it's water weight). Cutting back on your sodium and drinking more water is a place to start. I also HIGHLY recommend making small changes that you can incorporate into your life without making you feel deprived or "on a diet". I started with just eating more veggies. That's all, for the first couple of weeks. Then I cut back on my condiments. Then started making my portions a little smaller and choosing healthier side dishes. Then breakfast, then better snacks, etc.

Every other time I've tried to diet I went whole hog and lasted for about a day before my brain got in my way by rebelling and telling me I was miserable and hungry. I did it completely differently this time and it's working great. I would HAPPILY help you to come up with ideas for making the same types of changes THAT YOU CAN LIVE WITH to help you get started.

Don't give up - life is worth LIVING. Take the help being offered by those that are offering it. And you can even take the kick in the *kitten* from those that are offering that. Take em both and learn to do this, your way, one step at a time. I'm holding out a hand.. ya just gotta take it.

Check out my inspiration post...hopefully by reading the messages you can get some inspiration to keep you forging along. This isn't a short term thing. I sit here sometimes and think "MY GOD! I'm gonna have to do this the rest of my life" but you know what...I'd rather do this and be healthy/fit than to be like the people I was once jealous of who can eat totally crap/not exercise who may be thin but they aren't healthy!

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/256183-need-some-inspiration-operation-inspiration-pic-heavy

No offense... But I looked at your diary and you are eating like s*it. Everything you eat is processed, fried, take out...

Just because you stay under your calories for the day doesn't give you license to keep eating whatever the heck you want! For instance... Not sure what day it was but you ate two grilled cheese sandwiches for breakfast. Who the heck can eat that and expect to loose weight? You are mis using this site and completely looking at this the wrong way.

Do whatever you want. I guarantee that people on this site will not miss you one bit.

Um--not to be argumentative, but I can eat two grilled cheese sandwiches for breakfast and expect to lose weight. Of course, I make mine with low fat cheese (45 cals per slice), light (45 cals per slice) bread, and the pan grilling is done with either a VERY light skiff of butter or, more likely, a butter flavored, no-cal cooking spray. Total calories for two sandwiches? 360-400 calories. I don't do it often, but sometimes I DO do it. It makes me happy, it satisfies a craving, and it's marvelously fiber and protein rich.

I do get your point, and I was very frustrated and put off by his "I'm QUITTING!" approach, but I'd rather teach the OP how to do things in a way that isn't a diet-buster rather than condemn him for doing them wrong. As for not missing him? I think I would--I want to see him succeed. I'm not a big coddler, I tend toward "tough love," but I'm absolutely rooting for him. I hope he makes the changes he needs to make, even if they're only small steps right now. After all, very few of us came into this knowing how to make eating healthier a practical and doable thing.

I hope he gets some Sara Lee Delightful Wheat or Multi-grain bread today. So that the next time he has a couple of sandwiches, he's knocked 260 calories off just by switching breads.

If he doesn't know how to do these things, what better place for him to learn?

Edited to say that I've just spent some time going over the OP's food diary. There are changes that must be made if sustainable loss is the goal. Portion size is out of control--a 15 oz steak? Cut that in half (or even better, a third) for starters, and fill up the space on your plate with fresh steamed broccoli, spinach, sugar snap peas, zucchini, or whatever veggie captures your fancy. A baked potato is fine now and then--make it a smaller red potato rather than a giant russet. Ditch as many of the processed foods as possible, replace them with home-cooked alternatives. There are many recipe sites out there with great, healthier alternatives to favorites. Kill the daily juice---it's not healthy, it's only slightly better than soda. Instead, have half an orange. Replace sweet, processed snacks with fresh fruits. Make absolutely certain that you're not "numbers shopping" on MFP--choose the listing that most accurately matches your intake, not the one that shows the lowest calories. Lying on a food listing is like cheating at solitaire--who are you hurting, really? This will likely mean reading your packaging and entering values. Do not make entries without sodium and other nutrients listed. It gives you a false sense of what you're doing.

Don't lie to yourself. Your caloric intake is excessive. The foods you're eating are breathtakingly unhealthy in many cases. Many of these foods have healthy and delicious alternatives that satisfy the desire without destroying the body. Start making the changes that will make you healthier for you and for your family. Insulting yourself and hating yourself isn't going to do it--I did that for years and years, and it never took one ounce off me. I would walk past a mirror and cry, "Oh, you fat, ugly slob!" Didn't inspire even a bit of loss. Instead of calling yourself 'the fat guy," take that negative energy and make it positive--instead of telling yourself you're awful, tell yourself you're capable. And then prove it to yourself. Instead of focusing on how big you are, focus on the pounds lost, the changes made, and the physical changes that may not show on the scale but are real all the same.


You have to want this enough to do it. You have to be honest enough with yourself to recognize that you MUST make serious, sincere changes. Not just eating a few fewer Funyuns, but replacing them with home-baked versions. You cannot reach your goal weight by doing what you've already been doing--you know that.


Kris

Umm... Well, I didn't use the word Quit in my post. I believe those grilled cheese sandwiches reached around 1000 calories. I picked something nice to point out. I am not trying to sound like a complete beoytch. But honestly? You can not expect to loose weight while you are eating the way you are. You are basically over on everything except calories. The MFP tools are not meant to be abused in such a way. Some people need to hear it and I believe you are one of them. I am not trying to be a horrible person but you truly need to look at what you are putting into your body and realize that is what is digging an early grave. Perhaps seeing a nutritionist or dietitian would be helpful. You need to learn about what healthy foods you need to put into your body.

I did not read before that you are going to "stick" with it. Good for you! Honestly you remind me a bit of my husband who has a constant battle with weight loss. He gets extremely frustrated when he does not see results right away. Just keep on trucking.