Anyone celibate?
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I wish.0
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I am celibate. I'm sure sex is fun, but I don't care to find out2
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It's called marriage for me4
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RachelElser wrote: »I'm waiting until I get married. I know it's somewhat unusually and I certainly don't expect my future spouse to have waited.
I too am waiting for marriage. At the moment I'm not even dating and focusing on my kids. I even made a vow to not be in the same room with a man that I don't plan on marrying. Again it's helpful to have kids they are good man repellent lol1 -
Nope !0
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There's another thread going on in chit chat, "what did you want to be when you grow up?" And then "Anyone celibate?" No.0
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Maxematics wrote: »Chrisjuvers wrote: »Without a medical reason,who in their right mind would choose to be celibate.EVER. That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Have an orgasm, that'll give you some clarity
I'm not sure if having Asperger's constitutes as a "medical" reason, but after looking all around me and seeing how desperate many people get in the name of sex and how pathetic hook up culture is to me, it's really not that hard to see the appeal of celibacy. I have nobody to answer to but myself, as well as no emotional complications to deal with such as people expecting feelings out of me that I just don't have. Besides, as someone else stated, it doesn't take the presence of another to achieve an orgasm.
You should come out of your shell and find a dude who will make you happy and keep you busy. Hookup culture is pathetic but you don't need to hook up to get laid. You can fall in love, right?
Thanks for your insight, but why is it assumed I have a shell as if I never have fun or have never even explored that realm of possibilities? I'm definitely already busy, as I have hobbies, a career, friends, and family to spend time with; I've just never seen sex as an area of interest/priority. In 31 years of life, I've been able to figure myself out in that regard. Besides, if I were to fall in love with someone, who says it would be a dude?10 -
Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Maxematics wrote: »Chrisjuvers wrote: »Without a medical reason,who in their right mind would choose to be celibate.EVER. That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Have an orgasm, that'll give you some clarity
I'm not sure if having Asperger's constitutes as a "medical" reason, but after looking all around me and seeing how desperate many people get in the name of sex and how pathetic hook up culture is to me, it's really not that hard to see the appeal of celibacy. I have nobody to answer to but myself, as well as no emotional complications to deal with such as people expecting feelings out of me that I just don't have. Besides, as someone else stated, it doesn't take the presence of another to achieve an orgasm.
You should come out of your shell and find a dude who will make you happy and keep you busy. Hookup culture is pathetic but you don't need to hook up to get laid. You can fall in love, right?
everybody deserves not to be celibate? that's unbelievably ignorant for you to say. everybody deserves to make THEIR OWN choices about their body and their sex lives (or lack thereof). if maxematics does not desire sex, there is no reason to respond that way, it's disrespectful in the extreme.
aspies and other neurodiverse people process the whole world differently. our relationships often resemble those of neurotypical people (and often involve a neurotypical partner as in my case) but not necessarily so. max's love life and sex life are two different things, and it's perfectly FINE to have neither if that is what feels right. don't force your narrow beliefs onto those who are not the same as you.9 -
Im not but my Hand is.0
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Did I say anything wrong other than telling people they don't need to give up on love and sex citing some over-imagined so-called hookup culture?!
Is the heat making everyone crazy?
You didn't say anything wrong per se, but there is a disconnect between what you think it is that I am trying to convey and what it is that I am actually attempting to convey. Just because someone processes information differently than you do doesn't make them "crazy", either.
As stated so well by mykaylis, neurodiverse people process the whole world differently. Whereas someone who is neurotypical has an innate desire for sex or even the closeness of a hug when they're lonely, I lack those feelings. It's not a choice that I'm making, it's not me "giving up" on love; I truly do not have those feelings. I've made wonderful friends in life who wanted more from me beyond friendship and I just could not reciprocate in that way. I never once think to myself "I'm really lonely, I wish I could cuddle with someone". It never even crosses my mind, but I have friends who are single and feel that way. They're curious what it's like to not feel that way while I'm curious what it's like to actually have feelings like that; we learn from one another every day.
Furthermore, we must not live in the same universe if you think citing a very real hookup culture is over-imagined. I see you live in Connecticut which, to my understanding, is pretty tame in comparison to a place like New York City. Regardless, you are familiar with apps like Tinder, are you not? What do you think that is classified as? Most people move to New York City for that "fast-paced, what they see in the movies" type of lifestyle where they're carefree and live wildly. There is a reason why you get 460,000 results when you search for "NYC hookup culture" on Google. There is a reason why there are ads all over our transit system encouraging people to get tested for STDs. There is a reason that there are at least five places within walking distance from me that have free condoms up for grabs, including local bars. The term 'Hookup culture' in and of itself has its own Wikipedia entry. To ignore the fact that we live in a society that, overall, seeks instant gratification would be inane.
Finally, I never said I was celibate because of hookup culture. I made an observation that when I look around and see how pathetic people can be in the name of sex and the state of hookup culture itself, I can understand the appeal of celibacy. As in, people who decide to make that choice, not people who are born not having those desires to begin with like myself. For example, the poster above who was scared after reading an article about HPV and scaled back his sexual encounters. There are many other people like him out there who are now starting to grow wary of whom they choose to sleep with and/or how frequently.9 -
There are people that are asexual. And people that are demisexual (it's a low sex drive). And sometimes (definitely not all) people with aspergers can fall into that category. Some asexual people want non-sexual companionship with other asexual people. And others don't. People are diverse and free to live in the way that makes them happy. Being aware and upfront. So, they know what they want and what they don't want. And to connect (or not connect) with compatible people. Just like you wouldn't encourage a gay man to meet a woman or a lesbian to meet a man.5
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I'm not, but I think all the girls that I know are....0
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Not by choice. Just too fat to get the attraction.1
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I am celibate. I have been celibate for a total of 8 years... well 5 at one time and now I'm going on 3 years. I want to wait until I'm married. We shall see.4
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I have been celibate for almost 20 years, and it's been working fine for me.3
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Yes I'm celibate by choice1
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No flippin' way...I love giving my wife a good poke and in turn she likes riding me like a cowgirl...3
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Maxematics wrote: »Thanks for your insight, but why is it assumed I have a shell as if I never have fun or have never even explored that realm of possibilities? I'm definitely already busy, as I have hobbies, a career, friends, and family to spend time with; I've just never seen sex as an area of interest/priority. In 31 years of life, I've been able to figure myself out in that regard. Besides, if I were to fall in love with someone, who says it would be a dude?
Have you ever tried it? Sometimes people are surprised by what they enjoy. Other times, people are surprised that an activity isn't what they expected it to be like. Still other times, they learn that they were right all along.0 -
I'm not celibate. I just have toddlers.2
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