Disturbing

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  • WinoGelato
    WinoGelato Posts: 13,454 Member
    Making unsolicited, blanket statements about what others are doing wrong, without even specifying who you are referring to, is is never a good idea OP....

    While I think there are a lot of people on MFP who could be eating more calories and losing weight, but making comments that 1300 or 1500 is "nothing a day" is a bit of a stretch. For petite, sedentary women, 1300-1500 is an appropriate net, or maybe even gross goal, if someone isn't exercising much.

    I'm 5'2 and my maintenance cals are 2200, but I'm a bit of an anomaly because I'm very active.
  • enterdanger
    enterdanger Posts: 2,447 Member
    queenliz99 wrote: »
    jester13 wrote: »
    This has been the best discussion I've had on here so far. Again I'm not bashing anyone's diet. You do you. All about learning from others and growing. Don't be offended because of the title or take it personal. It's just harder for me and I'm sure other 200lb males to understand it because I can eat 3000 calories and be in a deficit.

    La ti fricken dah

    lol. This is why we are friends...and because you love beer too.
  • abitofbliss
    abitofbliss Posts: 198 Member
    I lost 60lbs on a VLCD - I was on top of the world. I met a guy and we fell in love and went out for eats/drinks just about every night. It took a while for me to gain all the weight plus some back but I did eventually. Now I am losing the weight in what people consider 'the healthy way' and while I am super impatient, I still feel like I am going to be able to keep the weight off easier this time. Who knows what my future holds but I believe I will have better habits and relationship with my body overall to maintain my new weight when I reach it.
  • cerise_noir
    cerise_noir Posts: 5,468 Member
    edited July 2016
    jester13 wrote: »
    What is with voicing what works for yourself that drives the fitness world crazy. Do what you want I'm not here to stop you from eating 1300 calories a day. I simply said it is disturbing to me. Because 1500 or 1300 calories is nothing a day. Just my opinion. Everyone gets so offended so easy. I to need help to lose and always look for what might have worked with others. You do you. Just throwing my 2 cents and experience in.

    For me, 1500 Gross/NET is losing less than 1lb per week (400 deficit)....and I have 50lbs to lose. I'm not starving at all, not am I harming my body.
    griffinca2 wrote: »
    jester, I'm with you and totally agree. Folks don't realize that under eating is the worst thing you can do to try and lose weight (your body ends up gaining it all back and then some). I'm older than most of you, and do my best to eat enough to fuel my body (as well as my workouts) by mostly eating REAL FOOD, watching the portion sizes and cutting back on the sugar. Don't get me wrong, I still enjoy cake, pizza, chocolate, etc., but in moderation. My diary is open for anyone to view if they want. B)
    Stopping the VLCD or just LCD does not weight gain, not maintaining the loss by eating continuously over maintenance does. Many never learn how to maintain their loss and believe "YEAH, I've lost all the weight! Now I can eat what and as much as I want" or just resume 'eating normally' and gain the weight back on.
  • 3bambi3
    3bambi3 Posts: 1,650 Member
    zyxst wrote: »
    jester13 wrote: »
    This has been the best discussion I've had on here so far. Again I'm not bashing anyone's diet. You do you. All about learning from others and growing. Don't be offended because of the title or take it personal. It's just harder for me and I'm sure other 200lb males to understand it because I can eat 3000 calories and be in a deficit.

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    Yet you're going around snooping in diaries and making posts about it in general chat. You're not just doing you, you're trying to do everyone else.

    1. Giggity
    2. Agree. OP, I am still not understanding the point of your post. You seem to think most of us aren't eating enough. What calorie goal would you give a 5'4" woman who lifts 3x a week and runs a few miles 2x a week? Hint: It's nowhere near 3000 calories a day.
  • janejellyroll
    janejellyroll Posts: 25,763 Member
    jester13 wrote: »
    What is with voicing what works for yourself that drives the fitness world crazy. Do what you want I'm not here to stop you from eating 1300 calories a day. I simply said it is disturbing to me. Because 1500 or 1300 calories is nothing a day. Just my opinion. Everyone gets so offended so easy. I to need help to lose and always look for what might have worked with others. You do you. Just throwing my 2 cents and experience in.

    My calorie goal to maintain is 1,460 if I am sedentary for the day. I typically eat more because I move around a bit -- but if I wasn't, 1,500 calories wouldn't be "nothing" for me. It would be slightly above what I need.
  • bagge72
    bagge72 Posts: 1,377 Member
    jester13 wrote: »
    This has been the best discussion I've had on here so far. Again I'm not bashing anyone's diet. You do you. All about learning from others and growing. Don't be offended because of the title or take it personal. It's just harder for me and I'm sure other 200lb males to understand it because I can eat 3000 calories and be in a deficit.

    So you offer unsolicited advice, where you say you are disturbed with people's choice of diet, and then tell them not to get offended by it? Ok...

  • cerise_noir
    cerise_noir Posts: 5,468 Member
    zyxst wrote: »
    jester13 wrote: »
    This has been the best discussion I've had on here so far. Again I'm not bashing anyone's diet. You do you. All about learning from others and growing. Don't be offended because of the title or take it personal. It's just harder for me and I'm sure other 200lb males to understand it because I can eat 3000 calories and be in a deficit.

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    Yet you're going around snooping in diaries and making posts about it in general chat. You're not just doing you, you're trying to do everyone else.

    Phrasing.
  • fishshark
    fishshark Posts: 1,886 Member
    im 5'2 with barely anything to lose. I AM sedentary most days i am in school (getting doctorate) as in 3k steps. my BMR is only 1350 and on those days my tdee is like 1500 l. Eating 1200 calories only gives me a 300 deficit which is nothing. Ps my calories and diet is non of your business or concern.. worry bout yo self.
  • jester13
    jester13 Posts: 408 Member
    Again. Wasn't ment to offend or target a group. I am sorry if this post was seen as that. Not trying to bash just understand.
  • bagge72
    bagge72 Posts: 1,377 Member
    jester13 wrote: »
    Again. Wasn't ment to offend or target a group. I am sorry if this post was seen as that. Not trying to bash just understand.

    I think next time it would probably be easier just to ask about it then if you want to understand it, because there weren't any questions at all about it in your op, just that it disturbs you, and then some advice on why not to do it. I would maybe even ask the people who's diaries you went into why that is the diet they chose.

  • 100df
    100df Posts: 668 Member
    Unless you know how many calories a person burns you can't reliably know how many calories they should be eating. I moan about how little 1200 calories is all the time, but I can't deny that my body doesn't lose weight if I eat more. Better to accept it than continue on the overweight train.

    Glad my diary is private.
  • mrsgoodwine
    mrsgoodwine Posts: 468 Member
    jester13 wrote: »
    What is with voicing what works for yourself that drives the fitness world crazy. Do what you want I'm not here to stop you from eating 1300 calories a day. I simply said it is disturbing to me. Because 1500 or 1300 calories is nothing a day. Just my opinion. Everyone gets so offended so easy. I to need help to lose and always look for what might have worked with others. You do you. Just throwing my 2 cents and experience in.

    I don't know why people get so grouchy... I personally commend you for wanting to help. You're very kind.
  • fitmom4lifemfp
    fitmom4lifemfp Posts: 1,572 Member
    I too find VLCD disturbing...something I define as eating less than 1200 calories for women and 1500 calories for men. I personally don't think it's sustainable..and I believe that it could lead to an unhealthy relationship with food... That said: everyone is on their own path here. How they go about their personal weight loss journey is really not up to me. That said: I do not keep those who choose to follow this path on my friend's list. For me, MFP is about surrounding myself with those who are on the same journey and have similar goals as I have: It simply means that they are on a different path. So to each their own. In my opinion: the one who eats the most and STILL LOSES consistently: That's the winner.

    Actually a VLCD is considered to be one that provides *up to* 800 calories a day.

    https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-topics/weight-control/very-low-calorie-diets/Pages/very-low-calorie-diets.aspx

    http://clinicalnutrition.ucla.edu/body.cfm?id=32


    1200 calories a day is FAR from a "low calorie" diet, and is for many people, a normal daily diet.
  • JC77721
    JC77721 Posts: 65 Member
    rainbowbow wrote: »
    JC77721 wrote: »
    rainbowbow wrote: »
    define this please.

    What he means is that many people believe that eating very low calories is the same as eating a good diet. What they are doing instead is getting at risk of some disease because many people what tend to do is lower their food intake by huge amounts.

    are you him? How do you know what he means?

    Really?

    All this guy is trying to do is wanting to understand why people eat so little and help them with their diets. I don't understand why the many rude comments
  • fishshark
    fishshark Posts: 1,886 Member
    JC77721 wrote: »
    rainbowbow wrote: »
    JC77721 wrote: »
    rainbowbow wrote: »
    define this please.

    What he means is that many people believe that eating very low calories is the same as eating a good diet. What they are doing instead is getting at risk of some disease because many people what tend to do is lower their food intake by huge amounts.

    are you him? How do you know what he means?

    Really?

    All this guy is trying to do is wanting to understand why people eat so little and help them with their diets. I don't understand why the many rude comments

    if he is qualified to help people with their diets then they doesn't need to ask why some "eat so little". pretty simple concept for those who have low bmr's and tdee's. One does not offer help with semi insults and expect positive results. I am one of those who has to eat 1200 calories on my sedentary days and it sucks, but thats my body. I have a masters degree in nutrition and know what I'm doing. Not everyone who eats so little is suffering from an eating disorder.
  • pattyandthemoos
    pattyandthemoos Posts: 79 Member
    Well a couple thoughts. Some people just don't finish their diaries. But, also I agree with you. This is something I have really struggled with. Even though my head knows that I need to eat more, it's just hard to do it sometimes. I just bumped my calories up recently and if it weren't for the support here I don't think I could have done it. I think my food/calorie issues have held me back from reaching my goals and I think you are totally right. I had my son hide the scale from me and I'm not going to be looking at it for a while. I need to get my mind off the numbers on the scale and focused on my goals and eating what my body needs.
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  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 9,282 Member
    jester13 wrote: »
    Again. Wasn't ment to offend or target a group. I am sorry if this post was seen as that. Not trying to bash just understand.

    You are trying to understand why not everyone can eat 3000 calories like you and still be in a deficit??

    Umm, because some of us are smaller, older, less active and female gender.

    That is really so difficult to understand???? :o
  • JC77721
    JC77721 Posts: 65 Member
    edited July 2016
    Where do people post their food diaries? is there a thread or section?
  • queenliz99
    queenliz99 Posts: 15,317 Member
    JC77721 wrote: »
    Where do people post their food diaries? is there a thread or section?

    You make your diary public in your settings. My home/ settings/ diary settings. Scroll to the bottom of the page.
  • rhauser44
    rhauser44 Posts: 43 Member
    BigGuy47 wrote: »
    jester13 wrote: »
    You deprive your muscle, cells and mind of nutrition it goes into starvation mode and survives by holding onto fat.
    Fascinating. Can you tell us more about this "starvation mode".

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    I believe I recently read somewhere that "starvation mode" has been proven to be a myth. I'll try and look back where I read that.
  • peleroja
    peleroja Posts: 3,979 Member
    So, @jester13, do you now understand that you were wrong and that for many people, 1300-1500 calories a day is not at all "very low calories" and might indeed be their maintenance amount? We're not all young, active 200-lb males and so our needs can be very, very different to yours.

    If I ate 3000 calories a day I'd gain like 2 pounds a week, that's well over my maintenance even if I'm running 10k a day. Smaller people need less food, it's not really that complicated.
  • JC77721
    JC77721 Posts: 65 Member
    queenliz99 wrote: »
    JC77721 wrote: »
    Where do people post their food diaries? is there a thread or section?

    You make your diary public in your settings. My home/ settings/ diary settings. Scroll to the bottom of the page.

    I did that but I don't know how to see others' diaries though. Could you be more specific?
  • 3bambi3
    3bambi3 Posts: 1,650 Member
    JC77721 wrote: »
    queenliz99 wrote: »
    JC77721 wrote: »
    Where do people post their food diaries? is there a thread or section?

    You make your diary public in your settings. My home/ settings/ diary settings. Scroll to the bottom of the page.

    I did that but I don't know how to see others' diaries though. Could you be more specific?

    To see others' diaries, go to their profile. If they have an open profile and diary, you will be able to view.