Anyone celibate?

Maxematics wrote: »

sunnybeaches105 wrote: »

Maxematics wrote: »

Thank you @mskessler89. Everything you've written has been spot on thus far. I wasn't going to comment again because, yes, it gets annoying when someone thinks they're the first person in life to suggest I "try" something to see if I like it as if I'm simply choosing not to try a certain flavor of ice cream. Sadly, it is usually men that have this position and it happened several times in this thread alone.

As for the current exchange, I'm usually not this direct on the forum but I'm not an idiot. Your "fun" from page 3 that ended when comments were made on the next page was when I first commented. Sorry that a person who is actually celibate had the nerve to enter a thread that specifically asked if anyone was celibate to state they were celibate and why. There was a thread on the front page about sex at the same time. I could understand the disdain had I posted there about a sex-obsessed culture, but that didn't occur. I never said anything bad about sex in general or people who enjoy it, although I did mention why I understand people who choose celibacy in a sex-obsessed culture. You're whining that your sexual innuendo fun ended due to comments in a thread about celibacy and you think that the comments were derogatory in some way and somehow targeted your private life? That's a leap across the Grand Canyon right there. The lack of self-awareness is astounding.

Stop trying to be a vicitm. You're not the OP and the OP was a bit fun with the post. It was bound to invite a variety of views. If you want to be celibate then embrace it. No one really cares (or should care) what anyone else is doing there, but yes it's fun to discuss. As for your "sex obsessed culture" comment, guess what? I don't respect you because you refuse to respect others.

Never once did I claim to be a victim nor do I consider myself one. I read every comment in this thread and none of them affected me if they didn't address me directly, even ones that said they didn't get why anyone would want to be celibate. Actually, I found them to be humorous and agreed to a point. I really don't see how you made the erroneous connection that I look down upon people who like sex. I do embrace my celibacy which is why I commented about it and continued to defend my stance when it directly came into question by posters a few times in this thread. Other than that, it's live and let live which is exactly what I stated when I said I have friends who want to know what this is like for me and I equally want to know how their feelings are for them.

I couldn't care less if you don't respect me; we don't know one another so there is no respect to be established between us. Stating that a culture is, on a whole, sex-obsessed doesn't mean I do not respect people and their choices. I have friends and family who all have varying degrees of sex lives and I don't judge any of them because I have no right or reason to. I don't even think negatively of them; they are people doing what they enjoy. Sex is a basic human function and I wouldn't be alive without sex.

Declaring a culture as sex-obsessed is stating what is evident in society. As Mskessler stated earlier, everywhere you turn sexual innuendo is present. I can understand and make jokes of that nature myself and that's not part of what I consider to be a detriment about it. It's how far some people go just for a sexual experience, potentially hurting the feelings of others in the process and having all of their judgment fly out the window, that make me think "Okay, maybe now I can see why some people would actually be celibate by choice." I really don't get the level of anger and disconnect.