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kerrydensmore
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When I started going to the gym a month ago tmrw I was a few pounds over 200. So doing some of the machines there was/is a challenge. One of my husband's relatives has a boyfriend who personally trains people there so he knows me. Me and my son's girlfriend goes early in mornings. Well it got back to me and her that this guy said "it's funny watching those 2 to watch them struggle" it upset me. I cried that nite. I almost stopped going after going 2 weeks. I thot if he thinks that maybe others are watching and thinking the same thing. It still bothers me knowing that he said that. I'm not a confrontation person so I won't ever say anything. The girl that goes with me had to give me a BIG motivational speech in order for me to go back next day. Just wondered if others have dealt with something like that.
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I'd report it to the gym. If he is doing this to you, what's he saying about other patrons?42
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I'm sorry that happened to you. Keep going back and show him what you're made of!7
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Sorry to hear that, but how reliable is your source as far as "it got back to" you? Either way, does it really matter? If it was said, then that is just plain rude and immature on their part. I AM confrontational and if I heard it first hand I'd speak to them directly about it. This catches people off guard and sometimes prevents them from doing this type of thing again.
If not, you just need to work on not letting the silly words of others upset you. YOU are in control of your life and your feelings. Don't give away your power like that! Take charge, do what you want and need to do and forget others.
BTW, just because that person trains people at a gym doesn't mean they are knowledgeable or better than anyone else that goes there.39 -
Some times people say the most hurtful things, but you have to become thick skin to overcome what is said. How about setting a goal and show the fool what you can accomplish.
We have become too thin skinned - remember the saying: sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
You know what needs to be done, you will not be the first overweight person using the gym and you will not be the last. Concentrate on what needs to be done, visualize how you want to see yourself and work towards that goal and to hell with him and everyone else. Good luck11 -
That's horrible! Don't let anybody drag you down. He obviously has major issues and needs to put others down to feel good about himself. Keep doing you and stay strong! You can do this!! Don't let the opinion of others hold you back. The only thing that matters is that you love yourself enough to keep going and be proud of yourself! That guy prob has no life... Feel sorry for him, pity him, but def do not pity yourself!! It's great you have someone to go with you and support you! Only a few people in this life actually are with us til the end and truly are our closest friends. Remember how lucky you are to have that support and nevermind anybody else. You got this5
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I'm sorry that happened to you. (And honestly, I wouldn't use "professional" to describe that person, in any context.) If that happened to me, I would be hurt and embarrassed, too.
The only thing I can think of to say is that most gym-goers don't think that way. The few people who do tend to get more attention, because rude and immature people tend to stand out wherever they go (and polite, mature people don't), but most people at the gym are focused on themselves and probably haven't ever paid any attention to you. Or if they have, they're happy to see the two of you working hard.
Every single person in the gym was a beginner at one point, and every single person has struggled with something. Most of us remember how it felt to be unsure or to have difficulty doing something, and we don't judge others when we see them in that same situation. (I personally have knocked myself over at the gym, and I've walked all the way across the room only to realize that I picked up a 65# barbell instead of the 35# one I meant to pick up, and then had to walk all the way back to exchange it. You'd think I would've noticed that it was WAY heavier than it should've been, but I'm not always fully awake when I'm in the gym).
You don't need to confront him (and I wouldn't, just because it was hearsay), but you do need to go back, because the gym doesn't belong to jerks. Please make eye contact with him next time you're there (and every other time), because you're not afraid of him or what he might say or think.18 -
Don't listen to gossip and don't assume the story is true unless you saw/heard it happen. I question the motivation of the person who passed along this story to you. In what way did s/he think it was going to help you?35
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Thank y'all for all the encouragement. I am working hard to ignore that comment. It hurt and I was embarrassed but I'm working on overcoming it. Again thanks for all the comments
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Just be the best you can be The End. People who talk sh1t about one person more than likely talk *kitten* about everyone remove them from your life and happiness will follow6
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Don't listen to gossip and don't assume the story is true unless you saw/heard it happen. I question the motivation of the person who passed along this story to you. In what way did s/he think it was going to help you?
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Sorry that happened to you, but don't let it derail you! That gives his words power. You are what matters and you are doing what you need to do for you! Keep it up!2
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Sneak some hi-cal, hi-carb fattening powder into his protein drink! Ha, just kidding. No really, like the others have said: Keep going, girl. The best revenge is living well. So when you lose a bunch of weight (and you will) you can saunter up to him and say, "Gosh, you should try using protein drinks." Also, let his boss know.6
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Don't listen to gossip and don't assume the story is true unless you saw/heard it happen. I question the motivation of the person who passed along this story to you. In what way did s/he think it was going to help you?
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Mean people gossip...think more on the person who passed the story on and what their possible motivation could be11 -
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Eleanor Roosevelt
Ignore the jerk, if he was a worthwhile human being he would have offered constructive advice rather than mockery.9 -
The person who told me was my mother in law. She's pretty reliable. But I'm keeping my head up and not gonna let him or anyone else keep me from getting to my goal. Gonna focus on me and do me. Like all y'all said I need to ignore that kind of talk and just keep on track.7
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WTF? He works there but would "watch you struggle" for entertainment instead of offering some help and advice? Whatever. It definitely sounds like he is the problem, not you.10
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Just my opinion, but I don't think overweight people should go to the gym, especially not those mega-gyms. Oh, the irony! The only time I have felt good there is when I was already in shape. I would never go there in my current state (60 pounds to lose). I don't workout outside for the same reason. People are mean and as hard as you try not to let it get to you, it still will be in the back of your mind. Getting in shape is hard and you need only positive voices around you, either at home or at a small gym with other overweight people.0
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summamumma wrote: »Just my opinion, but I don't think overweight people should go to the gym, especially not those mega-gyms. Oh, the irony!
The overwhelming majority of people in a gym are there to do their own thing and are not paying any attention to anyone else. The irony is that if you're worried about people observing you, then you're likely paying a lot more attention to them than they are to you.
As for the tiny handful of people who are kitten heads, well I just don't allow nasty people to dictate where I will and won't go. Otherwise, they win.
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BrianSharpe wrote: »"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Eleanor Roosevelt
Ignore the jerk, if he was a worthwhile human being he would have offered constructive advice rather than mockery.
honestly, i hate that. it puts all the responsibility on the person it's directed at.
while overall i can be above it all, hurtful words hurt. and mean people suck12 -
I agree with sued0nim. I had something a little similar happen. Years ago I went with a girlfriend to our first aerobics class. We were awkward because we didn't know the moves and struggled to follow. My sisterinlaw's BFF was in the class and told her how we stood out and were obviously new. Apparently they had a little giggle over our awkwardness. No harm done except that my sisterinlaw relayed all of this to me. With relish. In my view it was my sisterinlaw who was the bigger villain in this story. How could it possibly help me to hear that I was discussed in this way? Btw, that was the beginning of about a 10 year "aerobics queen" period in my life. I hope this is the beginning of your "gym rat" phase .11
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