advice from men please

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  • sloth3toes
    sloth3toes Posts: 2,212 Member
    sloth3toes wrote: »
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    ICH LIEBE DICH!

    ICH LIEBE DICH MEHR !!!
  • novio50
    novio50 Posts: 778 Member
    just tell him...put yourself out there. Worst comes to worst, he won't say it, you break up, ya' move on, cycle repeats....and that's the worst thing....
  • tinuz
    tinuz Posts: 1,123 Member
    edited August 2016
    make sure that he doesn't reply with "i love youtube" that can just be damn awkward
  • Heartisalonelyhunter
    Heartisalonelyhunter Posts: 786 Member
    psencmb wrote: »
    I said it while walking through walmart, it was a sudden realization and i just said it.

    Good for you. Not many people have emotional epiphanies in Walmart. All I can think about when I'm there is how much I wish I was somewhere else.
  • Raptor2763
    Raptor2763 Posts: 387 Member
    when in doubt...don't
  • tinuz
    tinuz Posts: 1,123 Member
    you know the time is right when he's using the sink whilst your on the shitter....... if that point hasn't passed, don't say it.
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    Sugar_Pill wrote: »
    OP deactivated.

    Great advice, guys...

    Some people just aren't ready for he incredibly solid life advice provided by MFP. OP was one of those people.

    (I also suspect she was one of those people who wasn't ready for MFP because she hadn't reached the minimum age yet, but that's just my suspicion.)
  • LaMartian
    LaMartian Posts: 478 Member
    Words are just words. If you feel it, that's all that matters.
  • Ben_there_done_that
    Ben_there_done_that Posts: 732 Member
    edited August 2016
    I agree with LaMartian. Don't buy into the whole game. If you guys are a good match, the protocols shouldn't matter. Plus, if you love him, there's nothing wrong with telling him. You're not proposing or anything.
  • tinuz
    tinuz Posts: 1,123 Member
    Sugar_Pill wrote: »
    OP deactivated.

    Great advice, guys...

    She probably tried the fisting advise from a couple of days ago...
  • bigguyreed
    bigguyreed Posts: 64 Member
    Hey Misscarpainter

    First thing you should ask yourself is do I like everything about this guy. How he act when something bad happens, does he party to much, do you like his friend? Are there a few things that you'd like to change about him? I've seen many relationships go bad because him/or her wants to change that person. If your going into a relationship in the hopes of changing someone into a mold that you want it won't work. Most people don't change unless they chose to.
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  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    Way long time ago she stood on her tippy toes and kissed me. It wasn't my idea. I was neither experienced, suave, nor sophisticated at courting a lass. I'm still not. I was not then, and I am not now, unique in that respect. You may have to take some initiative. If he's not good with that, get away from him.

    aww...way long ago, I stood on my tiptoes to kiss him too, he say "I don't know if this is a good idea?!!"...I said "It is"....that was 24 years ago...today, he's snoring away a few feet away from me. <3

    BE BRAVE, OP! It's worth it!
  • rebel_26
    rebel_26 Posts: 1,826 Member
    rebel_26 wrote: »
    Men rarely say it first even if they feel it.

    That's horse pucky.

    If the whole "never say it first, let him say it" and "men rarely say it" crap was true, we'd all be doomed to wander the earth sad and loveless.

    Tell you what, OP, Rock Paper Scissors it with the guy for who has to say it first.

    I have said MOST men. I told mine I loved her first. Honestly in jest she throws it in my face from time to time and tells me I'm the girl in the relationship because I said it first.
  • llello75
    llello75 Posts: 34 Member
    Actions speak louder than words. SHOW him you love him first and see if he SHOWS you love in-return. Only then will you know, If he doesn't return the love, keep your love in your heart and invest it in yourself. When you meet someone else again drop some pennys of love into him and seen what happens. When you finally meet the guy thats invests his love in you, go all in.
  • Brandstheman
    Brandstheman Posts: 239 Member
    Go for it if you feel that way. He's the right guy then he'll say it back. It's a chance but all relationships are.
  • Debbie_Ferr
    Debbie_Ferr Posts: 582 Member
    edited August 2016
    sloth3toes wrote: »
    sloth3toes wrote: »
    13654156_949439315189795_7927291810831390268_n.jpg?oh=e06eae79852d338b0718963922ed2626&oe=581CDA3D

    ICH LIEBE DICH!

    ICH LIEBE DICH MEHR !!!

    guessing at transalation.....
    Ich = I ( or maybe ick? )
    Liebe = love
    Dich = dik
    Mehr = shitt (or is that merde in french ?)

    this is becoming soooooo complicated.
  • sunnybeaches105
    sunnybeaches105 Posts: 2,831 Member
    rebel_26 wrote: »
    rebel_26 wrote: »
    Men rarely say it first even if they feel it.

    That's horse pucky.

    If the whole "never say it first, let him say it" and "men rarely say it" crap was true, we'd all be doomed to wander the earth sad and loveless.

    Tell you what, OP, Rock Paper Scissors it with the guy for who has to say it first.

    I have said MOST men. I told mine I loved her first. Honestly in jest she throws it in my face from time to time and tells me I'm the girl in the relationship because I said it first.

    Just put her over your knee when she's says things like that
  • belgerian
    belgerian Posts: 1,059 Member
    edited August 2016
    I was the first one to tell my wife I can remember it like yesterday, I am not the smoothest person in the world, it was on the phone she was at work and I said "I think I am falling in love with you" She laughed then hung up.


    Of course she was just really nervous and at work, I would advise in person so you can properly judge the response. That was a very long day for me. Going on our 17 year anniversary. I will be honest does not seem that long.
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  • AskTracyAnnK28
    AskTracyAnnK28 Posts: 2,817 Member
    Ok so I had this boyfriend 4 years ago. We were together for about 6 months and never said the "L" word, but one morning it sort of slipped out of my mouth when we were getting out of bed. He was like "I'm going to go put the coffee on and make you some breakfast!" and I said "thanks, babe! I love ya"

    he said "awe...that's sweet"

    We broke up 2 weeks later.
  • LiftingRiot
    LiftingRiot Posts: 6,946 Member
    Is this an MFP boyfriend or real boyfriend? If its MFP boyfriend, that's love at first sight, he should of already said something. Hes a slacker and this relationship wont last. Youll never get a dpic at this rate.

    If its a real boyfriend, id skip the entire love topic and just tell him your pregnant and want to get married
  • AskTracyAnnK28
    AskTracyAnnK28 Posts: 2,817 Member
    Is this an MFP boyfriend or real boyfriend? If its MFP boyfriend, that's love at first sight, he should of already said something. Hes a slacker and this relationship wont last. Youll never get a dpic at this rate.

    If its a real boyfriend, id skip the entire love topic and just tell him your pregnant and want to get married

    If an MFP boyfriend doesn't tell you he loves you by the 3rd Kik message, it's all over.
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  • enterdanger
    enterdanger Posts: 2,447 Member
    I'm with everyone else, give him oral. He'll just know..

    This worked for me. I had a boyfriend tell me he loved me after oral.
  • Debbie_Ferr
    Debbie_Ferr Posts: 582 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    How many minutes have you two been dating?

    262800.288 minutes and counting [/quote]


    There's 1,440 minutes in a day.
    Do the math.
  • Jonesingmucho
    Jonesingmucho Posts: 4,902 Member
    I get the weirdness out of the way by saying I love you from the first date forward. For example, if he orders classic buffalo wings then I say,"I love you! Classic Buffalo Wings are the best."

    Eventually, if I really love him, I leave off the buffalo wings part and look into his eyes when I say it in a breathy whisper.
  • jaxass
    jaxass Posts: 2,128 Member
    I dated a lady for 2 years and never once did we say I Love You, but we were madly in love. We didn't need words...we had action. She knew I was deeply in love with her and vice versa. It was the most incredible feeling in the world, to know someone loved me that much.

    Do what you feel is necessary for you. But don't say it because you think it's time...do it when it IS time.