Anyone on here on Fetlife?
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How can I find some one safe to train me?
@Angela937
Fetlife is a good resource for finding events near your location. Look for munches or other educational workshops. Meet people in the community. Finds someone you respect and ask if they will mentor you. No, not someone who makes your girly parts wet. Preferably someone of the same sex if you are hetero, opposite sex if you are queer. Basically someone you have no sexual interest in.
Do not buy into the idea of "trainers" or "mentors" who want to play with you. These are almost always people who want to prey on newbies.
Do not play online, do not go play with people you just met online. People, (especially women), new to this often get caught up in a frenzy and make decisions that put their safety at risk.
Your safest option in the early stages of exploration is to play in a public setting with persons you can get community references for. Once you have a better understanding of your desires and safety protocols, then start to seek out a partner(s) for more private and intimate exploration.
And mostly, please always remeber that all the standard rules for relationships and communication apply. They don't go out the window simply because a fetish is involved.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
Thanks!0 -
You also don't need to jump into a specific fetish role. Go to events and explore what you like. Try different things.0
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How can I find some one safe to train me?
@Angela937
Fetlife is a good resource for finding events near your location. Look for munches or other educational workshops. Meet people in the community. Finds someone you respect and ask if they will mentor you. No, not someone who makes your girly parts wet. Preferably someone of the same sex if you are hetero, opposite sex if you are queer. Basically someone you have no sexual interest in.
Do not buy into the idea of "trainers" or "mentors" who want to play with you. These are almost always people who want to prey on newbies.
Do not play online, do not go play with people you just met online. People, (especially women), new to this often get caught up in a frenzy and make decisions that put their safety at risk.
Your safest option in the early stages of exploration is to play in a public setting with persons you can get community references for. Once you have a better understanding of your desires and safety protocols, then start to seek out a partner(s) for more private and intimate exploration.
And mostly, please always remeber that all the standard rules for relationships and communication apply. They don't go out the window simply because a fetish is involved.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
Thanks!
be careful tho i dont take that site seriously at all because it is just saturated with psychopaths
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salembambi wrote: »
How can I find some one safe to train me?
@Angela937
Fetlife is a good resource for finding events near your location. Look for munches or other educational workshops. Meet people in the community. Finds someone you respect and ask if they will mentor you. No, not someone who makes your girly parts wet. Preferably someone of the same sex if you are hetero, opposite sex if you are queer. Basically someone you have no sexual interest in.
Do not buy into the idea of "trainers" or "mentors" who want to play with you. These are almost always people who want to prey on newbies.
Do not play online, do not go play with people you just met online. People, (especially women), new to this often get caught up in a frenzy and make decisions that put their safety at risk.
Your safest option in the early stages of exploration is to play in a public setting with persons you can get community references for. Once you have a better understanding of your desires and safety protocols, then start to seek out a partner(s) for more private and intimate exploration.
And mostly, please always remeber that all the standard rules for relationships and communication apply. They don't go out the window simply because a fetish is involved.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
Thanks!
be careful tho i dont take that site seriously at all because it is just saturated with psychopaths
Some of them are really scary. It's not a fetish, but something much more threatening. When they contact me, I block them. I have an account, but not active, and I don't share much at all.0 -
salembambi wrote: »
How can I find some one safe to train me?
@Angela937
Fetlife is a good resource for finding events near your location. Look for munches or other educational workshops. Meet people in the community. Finds someone you respect and ask if they will mentor you. No, not someone who makes your girly parts wet. Preferably someone of the same sex if you are hetero, opposite sex if you are queer. Basically someone you have no sexual interest in.
Do not buy into the idea of "trainers" or "mentors" who want to play with you. These are almost always people who want to prey on newbies.
Do not play online, do not go play with people you just met online. People, (especially women), new to this often get caught up in a frenzy and make decisions that put their safety at risk.
Your safest option in the early stages of exploration is to play in a public setting with persons you can get community references for. Once you have a better understanding of your desires and safety protocols, then start to seek out a partner(s) for more private and intimate exploration.
And mostly, please always remeber that all the standard rules for relationships and communication apply. They don't go out the window simply because a fetish is involved.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
Thanks!
be careful tho i dont take that site seriously at all because it is just saturated with psychopaths
There are psychos on a fetish website? I guess I really mean, "there are psychos on a website?" Who knew?2 -
This interests me...0
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How can I find some one safe to train me?
@Angela937
Fetlife is a good resource for finding events near your location. Look for munches or other educational workshops. Meet people in the community. Finds someone you respect and ask if they will mentor you. No, not someone who makes your girly parts wet. Preferably someone of the same sex if you are hetero, opposite sex if you are queer. Basically someone you have no sexual interest in.
Do not buy into the idea of "trainers" or "mentors" who want to play with you. These are almost always people who want to prey on newbies.
Do not play online, do not go play with people you just met online. People, (especially women), new to this often get caught up in a frenzy and make decisions that put their safety at risk.
Your safest option in the early stages of exploration is to play in a public setting with persons you can get community references for. Once you have a better understanding of your desires and safety protocols, then start to seek out a partner(s) for more private and intimate exploration.
And mostly, please always remeber that all the standard rules for relationships and communication apply. They don't go out the window simply because a fetish is involved.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
This. All of this. When I met my mentor it was in a public place and he brought his vanilla wife along so I could feel more at ease. I brought my roommate along for safety too.
We never played, he just let me go places with him and watch sessions and meet the community he was a part of and I became a part of. Through him I met others and everyone took me under their wings. It was very safe as the club was private and had security and you had to be interviewed before being let in and could only be invited by a member.
If I had a question like how a whip crack felt he'd show me but strictly as a demonstration, one shot there you go now you know. Never play, just teaching with someone safe.
His wife and I usually hung out together and watched. We're all still great friends.
But never crossed the line with my mentor.
Great advice up above.2 -
sunnybeaches105 wrote: »salembambi wrote: »
How can I find some one safe to train me?
@Angela937
Fetlife is a good resource for finding events near your location. Look for munches or other educational workshops. Meet people in the community. Finds someone you respect and ask if they will mentor you. No, not someone who makes your girly parts wet. Preferably someone of the same sex if you are hetero, opposite sex if you are queer. Basically someone you have no sexual interest in.
Do not buy into the idea of "trainers" or "mentors" who want to play with you. These are almost always people who want to prey on newbies.
Do not play online, do not go play with people you just met online. People, (especially women), new to this often get caught up in a frenzy and make decisions that put their safety at risk.
Your safest option in the early stages of exploration is to play in a public setting with persons you can get community references for. Once you have a better understanding of your desires and safety protocols, then start to seek out a partner(s) for more private and intimate exploration.
And mostly, please always remeber that all the standard rules for relationships and communication apply. They don't go out the window simply because a fetish is involved.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
Thanks!
be careful tho i dont take that site seriously at all because it is just saturated with psychopaths
There are psychos on a fetish website? I guess I really mean, "there are psychos on a website?" Who knew?
youve obviously never been on fetlife before
its cool to be a psychopath there i mean that literally
literally killing things for pleasure2 -
not me.... ppl try to get me to join but I hear ppl's stories and I am like NOPE I do not want to get hit on by random people who don't appeal to me at all! That's not to say I have no.... interesting interests lol... but I've got a husband for all that.1
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salembambi wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »salembambi wrote: »
How can I find some one safe to train me?
@Angela937
Fetlife is a good resource for finding events near your location. Look for munches or other educational workshops. Meet people in the community. Finds someone you respect and ask if they will mentor you. No, not someone who makes your girly parts wet. Preferably someone of the same sex if you are hetero, opposite sex if you are queer. Basically someone you have no sexual interest in.
Do not buy into the idea of "trainers" or "mentors" who want to play with you. These are almost always people who want to prey on newbies.
Do not play online, do not go play with people you just met online. People, (especially women), new to this often get caught up in a frenzy and make decisions that put their safety at risk.
Your safest option in the early stages of exploration is to play in a public setting with persons you can get community references for. Once you have a better understanding of your desires and safety protocols, then start to seek out a partner(s) for more private and intimate exploration.
And mostly, please always remeber that all the standard rules for relationships and communication apply. They don't go out the window simply because a fetish is involved.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
Thanks!
be careful tho i dont take that site seriously at all because it is just saturated with psychopaths
There are psychos on a fetish website? I guess I really mean, "there are psychos on a website?" Who knew?
youve obviously never been on fetlife before
its cool to be a psychopath there i mean that literally
literally killing things for pleasure
I know what you are talking about. I am thinking of one person in particular. I would never repeat what he had listed as fetishes. They were serious crimes that would destroy multiple lives with life long consequences. It doesn't matter if he was "full of it". It was still sick.
There are people on fetlife that will openly display their psychopathic selves. I think he was implying psychopaths are on every website, they just don't openly display it.1 -
salembambi wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »salembambi wrote: »
How can I find some one safe to train me?
@Angela937
Fetlife is a good resource for finding events near your location. Look for munches or other educational workshops. Meet people in the community. Finds someone you respect and ask if they will mentor you. No, not someone who makes your girly parts wet. Preferably someone of the same sex if you are hetero, opposite sex if you are queer. Basically someone you have no sexual interest in.
Do not buy into the idea of "trainers" or "mentors" who want to play with you. These are almost always people who want to prey on newbies.
Do not play online, do not go play with people you just met online. People, (especially women), new to this often get caught up in a frenzy and make decisions that put their safety at risk.
Your safest option in the early stages of exploration is to play in a public setting with persons you can get community references for. Once you have a better understanding of your desires and safety protocols, then start to seek out a partner(s) for more private and intimate exploration.
And mostly, please always remeber that all the standard rules for relationships and communication apply. They don't go out the window simply because a fetish is involved.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
Thanks!
be careful tho i dont take that site seriously at all because it is just saturated with psychopaths
There are psychos on a fetish website? I guess I really mean, "there are psychos on a website?" Who knew?
youve obviously never been on fetlife before
its cool to be a psychopath there i mean that literally
literally killing things for pleasure
Is this the let's humble brag about our fetish experience portion of the program?0 -
Interesting. I guess I should consider myself lucky. I've yet to come across a psychopath. A few jerks, but no true crazies.0
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i haven't met a psycho yet either....wait, does that mean I am the psycho?
But I have found them on other sites. Maybe I'm a little more careful on FL.
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Is there a group for mostly vanillas? Maybe for vanillas with a cherry on top for when they're feeling 'venturous?
Seriously, for those who are inclined to categorize themselves and/or meet others with the same sort of sexual proclivities, it's nice that they have a place to gather and converse about the merits of the square knot versus the slipknot or whatever they're into.
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On there, but not very active. There is a lot of bs on that site, and I just can't do all the drama.1
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sunnybeaches105 wrote: »salembambi wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »salembambi wrote: »
How can I find some one safe to train me?
@Angela937
Fetlife is a good resource for finding events near your location. Look for munches or other educational workshops. Meet people in the community. Finds someone you respect and ask if they will mentor you. No, not someone who makes your girly parts wet. Preferably someone of the same sex if you are hetero, opposite sex if you are queer. Basically someone you have no sexual interest in.
Do not buy into the idea of "trainers" or "mentors" who want to play with you. These are almost always people who want to prey on newbies.
Do not play online, do not go play with people you just met online. People, (especially women), new to this often get caught up in a frenzy and make decisions that put their safety at risk.
Your safest option in the early stages of exploration is to play in a public setting with persons you can get community references for. Once you have a better understanding of your desires and safety protocols, then start to seek out a partner(s) for more private and intimate exploration.
And mostly, please always remeber that all the standard rules for relationships and communication apply. They don't go out the window simply because a fetish is involved.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
Thanks!
be careful tho i dont take that site seriously at all because it is just saturated with psychopaths
There are psychos on a fetish website? I guess I really mean, "there are psychos on a website?" Who knew?
youve obviously never been on fetlife before
its cool to be a psychopath there i mean that literally
literally killing things for pleasure
Is this the let's humble brag about our fetish experience portion of the program?
i dont typically get offended on this website
but you implying that i am one of those people is offensive as hell0 -
salembambi wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »salembambi wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »salembambi wrote: »
How can I find some one safe to train me?
@Angela937
Fetlife is a good resource for finding events near your location. Look for munches or other educational workshops. Meet people in the community. Finds someone you respect and ask if they will mentor you. No, not someone who makes your girly parts wet. Preferably someone of the same sex if you are hetero, opposite sex if you are queer. Basically someone you have no sexual interest in.
Do not buy into the idea of "trainers" or "mentors" who want to play with you. These are almost always people who want to prey on newbies.
Do not play online, do not go play with people you just met online. People, (especially women), new to this often get caught up in a frenzy and make decisions that put their safety at risk.
Your safest option in the early stages of exploration is to play in a public setting with persons you can get community references for. Once you have a better understanding of your desires and safety protocols, then start to seek out a partner(s) for more private and intimate exploration.
And mostly, please always remeber that all the standard rules for relationships and communication apply. They don't go out the window simply because a fetish is involved.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
Thanks!
be careful tho i dont take that site seriously at all because it is just saturated with psychopaths
There are psychos on a fetish website? I guess I really mean, "there are psychos on a website?" Who knew?
youve obviously never been on fetlife before
its cool to be a psychopath there i mean that literally
literally killing things for pleasure
Is this the let's humble brag about our fetish experience portion of the program?
i dont typically get offended on this website
but you implying that i am one of those people is offensive as hell
Ah yes, the "let's twist words as far as possible to take false offense when I challenge someone and they call me on it" MFP game. Enjoy your umbrage. No fs given.
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I joined just to find out about fun social events (although turns out fetlife isn't necessary for that). Because I like to socialize, dance (obviously), listen to better music than the latest pop tunes (better is my opinion, others might not agree). And it's something my husband can enjoy with me (he didn't want to go to other dance events I used to go to that weren't as fun). I like the events, a lot of people I have met, and a wider age range. Plus other fun aspects. Some people like to socialize, just like people are doing on mfp right now.0
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Noelani1503 wrote: »Interesting. I guess I should consider myself lucky. I've yet to come across a psychopath. A few jerks, but no true crazies.
Majority of people I have seen are fine. Really just one scary person early on that I can specifically think of (wasn't even going to mention it), but it did make an impression. But, I am not active on there.0 -
sunnybeaches105 wrote: »salembambi wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »salembambi wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »salembambi wrote: »
How can I find some one safe to train me?
@Angela937
Fetlife is a good resource for finding events near your location. Look for munches or other educational workshops. Meet people in the community. Finds someone you respect and ask if they will mentor you. No, not someone who makes your girly parts wet. Preferably someone of the same sex if you are hetero, opposite sex if you are queer. Basically someone you have no sexual interest in.
Do not buy into the idea of "trainers" or "mentors" who want to play with you. These are almost always people who want to prey on newbies.
Do not play online, do not go play with people you just met online. People, (especially women), new to this often get caught up in a frenzy and make decisions that put their safety at risk.
Your safest option in the early stages of exploration is to play in a public setting with persons you can get community references for. Once you have a better understanding of your desires and safety protocols, then start to seek out a partner(s) for more private and intimate exploration.
And mostly, please always remeber that all the standard rules for relationships and communication apply. They don't go out the window simply because a fetish is involved.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
Thanks!
be careful tho i dont take that site seriously at all because it is just saturated with psychopaths
There are psychos on a fetish website? I guess I really mean, "there are psychos on a website?" Who knew?
youve obviously never been on fetlife before
its cool to be a psychopath there i mean that literally
literally killing things for pleasure
Is this the let's humble brag about our fetish experience portion of the program?
i dont typically get offended on this website
but you implying that i am one of those people is offensive as hell
Ah yes, the "let's twist words as far as possible to take false offense when I challenge someone and they call me on it" MFP game. Enjoy your umbrage. No fs given.
not sure how you were challenging me but ok bro0
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