Just got a rude comment on the street : (

trp1978
trp1978 Posts: 20
edited September 29 in Motivation and Support
I was just out walking my dog, and some older guy came up behind me riding his bike. I think he was trying to warn me that he was there, but his method for doing so was to say, "Watch out, big girl!" I have actually seen this guy around before, and I think he might have some sort of mental illness, but, nonetheless, this made me want to cry. So I thought I'd come and post here for moral support. Thanks for listening.
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  • red_hatorade
    red_hatorade Posts: 166
    Wow, mental illness or not I would have went off on him. He comments to the wrong person and he is going to get shot.
  • squishyjenn
    squishyjenn Posts: 245 Member
    What an *kitten*! You don't deserve that. I'd throw a stick in the spokes of his wheels next time lol :p
  • ebramlett
    ebramlett Posts: 306 Member
    Mental illness or not, what a jerk! Dont worry, chivalry is still alive and well with MOST of us! Stay positive!!
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    Dude's an *kitten*. 5'5" and your weight is not "big".

    Next time push him off his bike.
  • Kelly_Wilson1990
    Kelly_Wilson1990 Posts: 3,245 Member
    I would not listen to a thing he has to say!!
  • beverlyl64
    beverlyl64 Posts: 381
    Ugggg, I really hate that for you. Some people are so insensitive! Please remember that you are your best friend, make a list of all the things you like and love about yourself and forgive him for his ignorance. Next time you see him say something incredibly nice to him. Kill them with kindness!
  • JennLifts
    JennLifts Posts: 1,913 Member
    I'm so so sorry. No one deserves to be talked at like they're less. You're beautiful, and worth a lot. Prove him wrong, and go find something that's a personal self esteem booster :-)
  • abbz17
    abbz17 Posts: 39
    Sorry to hear that :( Some people can be so hurtful and don't even realize how deep their words can cut! Don't let it get you down though. You are here doing something positive for YOU and even though you may no be where you want to be, you're not where you were yesterday. Keep your head up and focus on your health. You're on an amazing journey, keep up your hard work :)
  • mikihainesy
    mikihainesy Posts: 98
    hey i've just seen this. I hope you're feeling ok now and have totally disregarded his comment. I'm not sure what your heritage is as you have no picture, but in some countries that's seen as a complimant. Maybe just maybe that's how he meant it???
    I used to get called thunder thighs alot and when I was younger it seemed a bad thing, but now I love having big strong legs. take it with a pinch of salt girl, he doesn't know you or your struggle. move on from it and just focus on your own personal goal
  • fridayjustleft04
    fridayjustleft04 Posts: 851 Member
    The term "big girl" should never be used in reference to someone over the age of 5. That sucks that he said that, and I know it never feels good, but don't let it get to you. If you're out walking, you're already shrinking, so just ignore him. If that doesn't work, keep a stick handy so the next time he rides by, you can hit him with it..or throw it under his tire. Haha
  • kathrynkatana
    kathrynkatana Posts: 90 Member
    Not sure what he was thinking. Some people are just mean about things and if he was mental ill, then you can excuse him for not understanding. But don't let it get you down. Shake it off like water off a duck's back. :)
  • Hanna82
    Hanna82 Posts: 138 Member
    I'm sorry that happened. People are always going to have something negative to say. It's the horrible nature of the world but the main thing is that you have people who support you and
  • pauljsolie
    pauljsolie Posts: 1,024 Member
    What an *kitten*! You don't deserve that. I'd throw a stick in the spokes of his wheels next time lol :p
    LOL, a chain works much better! Seriously, don't worry about what others say. MLK once said and I'm paraphrasing here, "It's not important what people call you, what's important is what you answer to".
  • Msaip
    Msaip Posts: 482 Member
    I was just out walking my dog, and some older guy came up behind me riding his bike. I think he was trying to warn me that he was there, but his method for doing so was to say, "Watch out, big girl!" I have actually seen this guy around before, and I think he might have some sort of mental illness, but, nonetheless, this made me want to cry. So I thought I'd come and post here for moral support. Thanks for listening.

    man you better not be big cause im still a good 20 pounds heavier than you! brush it off you got this!
  • CampinGal34
    CampinGal34 Posts: 84 Member
    So sorry. No one likes to be treated like that! Keep your chin up and know that you are doing great and your doing this for yourself. Screw all the mean people!!!
  • jlpage07
    jlpage07 Posts: 4
    Its ok!! there are plenty of jerks out in the world, all that matters is that you have taken charge of your own life and will succeed!
    P.S. I would have pushed him of his bike....
  • Angela4Health
    Angela4Health Posts: 1,319 Member
    People suck. But the people here saying to push him off his bike and tell him off if he has a mental illness... that's even worst.
  • lkb1025
    lkb1025 Posts: 4
    Ugh! I wish people would think before they speak! I'm sorry you had to have his rude comments a part of your day! Don't take it to heart, though. He has no idea what sort of journey you're on right now. Chin up!! :)
  • Ritamas2
    Ritamas2 Posts: 319
    Wow, some people never cease to amaze me!
    What a jerk..how would he like to be called a retard? :mad:

    I hated even saying that but that is the rudest thing someone can do to
    someone out obviously trying to better their health and physique!!!
    JEEEEEEEEEEEERK!!!!!!! :laugh:

    Keep your head held high, you are awesome and he isn't!!!!! :flowerforyou:
  • katschi
    katschi Posts: 689 Member
    I was mooed at at work last week. :huh:

    Hang in there and consider the source.
  • jeneanebeggs
    jeneanebeggs Posts: 5
    I know that comments like that can take the wind out of you but lets look at the fact that you were out walking which is great. I wish you all the best in your goal to loose weight and know that you can do it. Do not let people with their rude comments bring you down.
  • pauljsolie
    pauljsolie Posts: 1,024 Member
    There is also the classic comeback...nevermind. Revenge is mine sayeth the Lord.
  • beachbumdoug
    beachbumdoug Posts: 171 Member
    mean people suck!!!! pay him no mind.
  • beckyinma
    beckyinma Posts: 1,433 Member
    "walk softly and carry a big stick" so that if he says it again you can accidentally jam it in his spokes...

    what a jerk
  • eeeekie
    eeeekie Posts: 1,011 Member
    Don't let this get you down. Let this be your motivation. I know it hurts. I've had kids stare, point, laugh and make jokes while out doing my workouts. The tears want to stream down my face but I make that my motivation. It makes me walk faster, harder, longer than I did when they first saw me. You can do this, overcome and make that your fire!!!
  • kmanda
    kmanda Posts: 7
    You're not big!! Maybe he does have a mental illness or is just a typical rude jerk. Either way, please don't let him bring you down!! People who find it necessary to make unwarranted comments like that are usually very insecure..
  • vdavis_89
    vdavis_89 Posts: 334
    I would have pushed him off his bike lol but thats just me. I get nervous when I see fit people around when Im working out because I feel like they are going to judge me.... but you have to ignore it. You can't let what other people say determine how you feel or what you do. My grandmother always used to tell me "who makes tori happy??" (tori is me lol) and I would have to say I make me happy because I am in control of my feelings, sure other people says ****ty things but I control how I react to them.... and if you get a rude or pissy person.... KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS!!!! Hope you feel better :)
  • eeeekie
    eeeekie Posts: 1,011 Member
    Don't let this get you down. Let this be your motivation. I know it hurts. I've had kids stare, point, laugh and make jokes while out doing my workouts. The tears want to stream down my face but I make that my motivation. It makes me walk faster, harder, longer than I did when they first saw me. You can do this, overcome and make that your fire!!!
  • HaleyAlli
    HaleyAlli Posts: 911 Member
    *hugs* It happens. You just have to shrug it off and move on. Remember, you won't be "big girl" forever! :smile:
  • kapeluza
    kapeluza Posts: 3,434 Member
    I'm sorry. I would have yelled "F%#^ you" :/
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