Bbws....fetish or preference?
Biggirlondiet
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I've always had a hard time trying to understand why being attracted to a bigger woman is classified as a fetish rather than a preference. For example blonde vs brunette is based on preference, so why is big vs thin a fetish?....i have a few ideas why, but your thoughts?
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Steep_Burrito wrote: »Why? You like big women? That's nothing to be ashamed of.
HAHA! Nooo...I am one. Lol I'm just not comfortable being in the same category as feet! Lol5 -
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Biggirlondiet wrote: »Steep_Burrito wrote: »Why? You like big women? That's nothing to be ashamed of.
HAHA! Nooo...I am one. Lol I'm just not comfortable being in the same category as feet! Lol
That's funny.
I never thought of it as a fetish but more a preference. I guess I need to get out more0 -
Maybe it's where I'm from, but it seems like it's almost taboo and I'm just thinking to myself why!? Obviously being healthy and fit is ideal, but big girls are beautiful too!4
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I have been with both types of men, those who choose big and those who fetishize. I find the fetishers kinda weird. They wanted to do weird stuff to my belly. I had one who rubbed his face all over it and worshipped it.
Most of the guys I have been with just genuinely prefer big women.3 -
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Very good point...I feel like sometimes you can just spot the fetishers a mile away, which is great for my workouts so I have the motivation to run another mile away! Haha0
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Steep_Burrito wrote: »How big are you OP?
I have about 100 to lose....I lost 26 before I started MFP, and 33 to date.2 -
Biggirlondiet wrote: »Steep_Burrito wrote: »How big are you OP?
I have about 100 to lose....I lost 26 before I started MFP, and 33 to date.
way to go!!!
Sorry you have to deal with men like this but hey if they provide motivation for working out great!2 -
Biggirlondiet wrote: »Maybe it's where I'm from, but it seems like it's almost taboo and I'm just thinking to myself why!? Obviously being healthy and fit is ideal, but big girls are beautiful too!
I don't view it as taboo. I have met bigger women who, in my opinion, are sexier than skinny women because of their confidence. If a woman is confident in herself and her sexuality, that is more of a turn on than being skinny, but that is just my opinion.3 -
Guy I talked to said he prefers it bc it gives him something to grab while doing the dirty deed!2
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I don't have a body type preference, I just have a personality preference. However I understand, how it might be a fetish; due to this comment:ValerieMartini2Olives wrote: »I had one who rubbed his face all over it and worshipped it.
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nitromaniac wrote: »Biggirlondiet wrote: »Maybe it's where I'm from, but it seems like it's almost taboo and I'm just thinking to myself why!? Obviously being healthy and fit is ideal, but big girls are beautiful too!
I don't view it as taboo. I have met bigger women who, in my opinion, are sexier than skinny women because of their confidence. If a woman is confident in herself and her sexuality, that is more of a turn on than being skinny, but that is just my opinion.
Absolutely. Confidence is key no matter what.1 -
Steep_Burrito wrote: »Biggirlondiet wrote: »Steep_Burrito wrote: »How big are you OP?
I have about 100 to lose....I lost 26 before I started MFP, and 33 to date.
That's not bad, sounds like you're on a nice path to meet your goals. Pretty soon, if not already, you won't have to worry about the difference between attraction and fetish.
That's the plan!1 -
Preference. Big girls need love too1
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think what you're asking is: Is there a subset of men who honestly prefer overweight women to fall in love with and to take seriously and commit to? Or am I, as an overweight woman, generally going to be regarded as fodder for a cheap, secretive, perverse hobby known as a fetish? Will I be loved or will I be fetishized and be the last to know which one it really is?
Read my comment above! You'll know, if it's a fetish or preference!0 -
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I'd say it kinda depends.
Let me put it this way using your example of blonde/brunette. If it's a fetish, that means that what gets you off is the fact that they're blonde. You love banging blondes because they're blondes. You typically place other things like personality, similar tastes, etc. behind that fact.
However, with a preference, you'd LIKE the person you're interested in to be a blonde, but if they're not, it's not a deal breaker, because it's just a factor you find attractive, not THE factor.
For instance, I have a fetish for milfs, but I have a preference for non-white women. If I'm banging a milf, it's because she's a milf, but if I'm wanting to bang a woman who's white, it's whatever, because, despite my preference, it's not what I'm really interested in. I just think interracial couples are *kitten* adorable and would like to be in one.
At least, that's what I think.5 -
After considering it for a while, I don't think there is much of a difference between preference and fetish. All attraction, whether it is a fetish or preference is based on an emotional and psychological reference. The only difference to me is that a person with a fetish cannot find the same enjoyment or satisfaction with anything outside of their fetish, while a person with a preference would rather have what their particularly attracted to but not having that particular trait is not a deal breaker. For example, I'm attracted to women that are have a little more meat on them than what societal norms deem is "beautiful". That can be a woman that is larger because of a few extra pounds or that is more athletically muscular. I'd prefer the latter before the former but I can find the former just as attractive. Maybe it's because women that are larger seem more durable to me from a sexual perspective and not as fragile. Maybe it's because women that have larger proportions seem like they'd bear children easier, if my thought processes come from base instinct. However, I can find a smaller woman just as attractive as a larger woman, so the attractions I have would be a preference and not a fetish.0
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Biggirlondiet wrote: »Steep_Burrito wrote: »Why? You like big women? That's nothing to be ashamed of.
HAHA! Nooo...I am one. Lol I'm just not comfortable being in the same category as feet! Lol
I just spit out my food on this one.1 -
I'm sure for some people it's preference...and for others it's a fetish.2
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How about just HE-double-hockey-sticks NO !!1
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Personally I always appreciated women of many different shapes sizes and colors. Beauty comes in a rich variety.0
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Any extreme (I use that word loosely) preference, especially in regards to sexuality- is going to be considered a fetish.
Big, small, straight, bald, purple, furry... It's all relative.2
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