Only one in the house eating healthy

kimberly2402
kimberly2402 Posts: 33 Member
edited December 4 in Motivation and Support
My partner didn't think I would stick with this but here I am down 28lbs! She has always has been able to eat whatever she wants & not gain but it snuck up on both of us. While I'm being very serious on eating healthy & exercising she is just buying bigger clothes.
What do I do?? I drink my water & keep on walking... Because I'm finally smaller than her for once! wzf82c4vqe15.jpeg
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  • kimberly2402
    kimberly2402 Posts: 33 Member
    Thank you both! I'm hoping that this app will help me with the motivation & push I need sometimes.
  • jess427
    jess427 Posts: 36 Member
    Kimberly I am only one in the house seeing the need for change also. Congrats on your 28lb loss so far I'm at almost 8 lbs but it gets hard having things in the house that I really crave and want like cookies, chips n stuff but my husband says well you can't punish us all by getting rid of it. And he constantly offers me ice cream and other thi ng s because I think he still hasn't taken me seriously yet about me really being on board with staying with it
  • kimberly2402
    kimberly2402 Posts: 33 Member
    Jess, congrats on the 8lbs! I remember my 8lbs mark I was like I'm past 5lbs so I'm serious about this. Ice cream was always my down fall because every night they all eat their ice cream. What I started doing is sugarfree jello & cool whip or pudding. Kind felt like ha I can eat with y'all also.
    I also found sonic ice was a big help with my water intake. I knew I had to drink all the water to be able to eat the ice.
    Good luck!
  • leanjogreen18
    leanjogreen18 Posts: 2,492 Member
    Congrats on the 28lbs. Just keep going. Sometimes the other half feels left out or maybe even jealous so be sure to reassure her too.
  • shagerty777
    shagerty777 Posts: 185 Member
    edited September 2016
    It has to be her choice to change. We are down to me eating what I know is good for me and her still eating junk food and candy. I do hope and pray she'll see the light some day before she ends up house bound with her health.

    It's much better than fighting about it...
  • kimberly2402
    kimberly2402 Posts: 33 Member
    johunt615 wrote: »
    Congrats on the 28lbs. Just keep going. Sometimes the other half feels left out or maybe even jealous so be sure to reassure her too.

    I think a little of it is jealousy. I'm trying to include her but she keeps saying I'm watching what I eat. I'm thinking to myself cookies & ice cream is not watching what you eat.
  • jess427
    jess427 Posts: 36 Member
    Good idea with the cool whip and jello sounds good! & need to try the water w.sonic ice also! Love their Ice and hv trouble drinking anywhere near enough water..
  • bocedos2
    bocedos2 Posts: 13 Member
    I have the same situation at home so i understand. While both my boyfriend and i are over weight i have finally gotten serious about making the change and while I wish he would also, i know that you need to have the mentality otherwise you will not stick with it. Sometimes it's just hard bc he's like oh let's go out to eat and I have to remind him that I can't be doing that right now because i want to be eating healthy and because im still getting in a routine, going out to eat will only mess it up. I turn to MFP for motivation and support if I need it. Add me if you would like!
  • cbusnightowl
    cbusnightowl Posts: 132 Member
    Congrats on the weight loss so far! :) I'm also the only one in the household on a calorie restriction. My SO is one of those lucky people who have never had to worry about weight or dieting...thus far anyway. I am also the only one that cooks so that makes it easier for me to log. He's supportive of me and hasn't brought any fast food or ben & jerry's home since I've started counting calories and going to the gym. I've heard of a new ice cream on the market called Halo Top (and had to try some the to see what all the fuss was about...it was soooo good!!!!) and the whole pint is ~270 calories. It's sweet, creamy, rich & absolutely no watery aftertaste. I promise I don't work for the company (lol)...just trying to spread the joy in being able to have my ice cream and meet my calorie goals too.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    edited October 2016
    How does she feel about this thread with her photo etc.? I'm thinking of my own relationship, and how I'd feel....
  • kimberly2402
    kimberly2402 Posts: 33 Member
    Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »
    How does she feel about this thread with her photo etc.? I'm thinking of my own relationship, and how I'd feel....

    How does she feel? She said herself that she looks over weight in the picture. She has asked that I don't post comments about her being over weight on facebook because she doesn't want to hear her mother comment about her weight. Her own mother is even on her about her weight.
    Personally who else am I to turn to about what's going on? Our personal friends? Sometimes it's nice to be able to get a strangers advice. Can't speak to my gf about it because it just starts a fight
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    edited October 2016
    kimberly2402 wrote: »
    Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »
    How does she feel about this thread with her photo etc.? I'm thinking of my own relationship, and how I'd feel....

    How does she feel? She said herself that she looks over weight in the picture. She has asked that I don't post comments about her being over weight on facebook because she doesn't want to hear her mother comment about her weight. Her own mother is even on her about her weight.
    Personally who else am I to turn to about what's going on? Our personal friends? Sometimes it's nice to be able to get a strangers advice. Can't speak to my gf about it because it just starts a fight

    That wasn't quite my question. I'm wondering how she feels about you (her loving partner) posting her image on the world wide web and saying she's over weight (and you're thinner), and she's eating wrong, and basically just letting herself go.

    Again, thinking of my own relationship, yeah, I'd be pretty unhappy if my spouse posted about my weight on Facebook. But if he posted my photo and discussed his frustration with my weight on here, I'd be equally UNHAPPY with HIM. Thus, my question.

    She doesn't mind? Okay.

    Well, good luck with your journey. Thanks for the reply.
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    edited October 2016
    kimberly2402 wrote: »
    Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »
    How does she feel about this thread with her photo etc.? I'm thinking of my own relationship, and how I'd feel....

    How does she feel? She said herself that she looks over weight in the picture. She has asked that I don't post comments about her being over weight on facebook because she doesn't want to hear her mother comment about her weight. Her own mother is even on her about her weight.
    Personally who else am I to turn to about what's going on? Our personal friends? Sometimes it's nice to be able to get a strangers advice. Can't speak to my gf about it because it just starts a fight

    I think you need to stop seeking anyone and everyones advice and let her decide if and when she wants to lose weight, as frustrating as that might be for you.

    Did you have anyone on at you to lose weight? Did it work? I'm guessing no, you came to the decision herself.

    I would be so upset and angry if my husband posted pics of me on a public forum to boast how well he was doing whilst I remained fat and ate ice cream Come on, this is NOT how you treat someone you love!!
  • kimberly2402
    kimberly2402 Posts: 33 Member
    Well I'm glad I didn't come onto your post & just say that's not how you treat someone. Y'all have no clue what goes on in our house. By the looks of it I'm not the only one that wishes their spouse would eat healthier with them.
    Please don't post back on any of my post.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    kimberly2402 wrote: »
    Well I'm glad I didn't come onto your post & just say that's not how you treat someone. Y'all have no clue what goes on in our house. By the looks of it I'm not the only one that wishes their spouse would eat healthier with them.
    Please don't post back on any of my post.

    Best of luck with your journeys.
  • kimberly2402
    kimberly2402 Posts: 33 Member
    Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »
    kimberly2402 wrote: »
    Well I'm glad I didn't come onto your post & just say that's not how you treat someone. Y'all have no clue what goes on in our house. By the looks of it I'm not the only one that wishes their spouse would eat healthier with them.
    Please don't post back on any of my post.

    Best of luck with your journeys.

    This should be a place people feel free to ask & seek advice, along with words of encouragement. Even on the days that our frustrating. Not tell people that's not how you treat your spouse.
  • randibum3
    randibum3 Posts: 13 Member
    I completely understand where you're coming from!! My boyfriend shovels in junk food all day/everyday without gaining a pound. We go grocery shopping and that's all he throws in the cart, so I go shopping separately now. I've lost 20lbs since June but have recently lost my motivation and started eating whatever he's eating again. I still have 50lbs to lose and need to get back on track! Feel free to add me as a friend and we can hold eachother accountable! You can do it!
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  • tinamarie6624
    tinamarie6624 Posts: 182 Member
    You are doing everything that you can. Unfortunately we cannot give our motivation to someone else. I remember back to when I was not doing anything for my health and no one could get me up out of the chair. I had to decide for myself that I wanted to do something for myself and I haven't looked back since then and 10 months later I have lost 122 lbs and am almost at my half-way loss goal, only 10 more lbs and I will be half-way.

    I have a brother that is very overweight and I am racking my brains to think of a way to "entice" him out of the house to doing something active and healthier but I know from my own experience that until someone wants to get healthier, there is nothing I can say that will motivate my brother. I'm still hopeful that my success will help him to understand that we can do anything we set our minds to and that it is never too late.

    I hope your success will motivate your partner. Good luck!
  • kimberly2402
    kimberly2402 Posts: 33 Member
    The picture I posted is more of a wow I can actually lose weight while my partner still is eating unhealthy. I've never been thinner than her. Going from 200lbs down to 169lbs while someone is in front of you enjoying their pizza. Kind of like trying to quit smoking while someone else smokes in front of you. This is my before picture qktfxucc655n.jpeg

    I'm freaking proud of myself
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    You do you and let her do her.
    kimberly2402 wrote: »
    Well I'm glad I didn't come onto your post & just say that's not how you treat someone. Y'all have no clue what goes on in our house. By the looks of it I'm not the only one that wishes their spouse would eat healthier with them.
    Please don't post back on any of my post.

    Part of posting a thread is accepting that anybody can respond and that you are unlikely to enjoy all responses.

    I lost over 50 pounds while my husband did not lose any. His non-loss didn't affect me adversely in any way. He was very supportive of me throughout the process and I can't see where your partner is being less supportive of you. I don't understand what your problem is with her but I can tell you that talking about what you perceive to be her shortcomings with anybody outside of your partnership (outside of a therapy type situation) is a sure way to create problems in your relationship.
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    kimberly2402 wrote: »
    Well I'm glad I didn't come onto your post & just say that's not how you treat someone. Y'all have no clue what goes on in our house. By the looks of it I'm not the only one that wishes their spouse would eat healthier with them.
    Please don't post back on any of my post.

    If I posted on a public forum I would expect all sorts of replies and opinions. You don't get a choice as to who posts.

    I feel sorry for your partner.

  • snickerscharlie
    snickerscharlie Posts: 8,578 Member
    The phrase, "Eyes on your own plate" comes to mind, here.

    Your partner is an adult. She will lose the weight if and when *she's* ready to - just like you did, and even if I feel you might be going about doing so in an unhealthy manner.

    But posting your partner's picture and then running her down in public like this? That crosses a line that should never be crossed. :(
  • kimberly2402
    kimberly2402 Posts: 33 Member
    Showed the Mrs. this post. Quite frankly she says y'all sound like a bunch of chatty women who have nothing better else to do than to talk down to someone who is being honest about how they feel. There for a while she was glad I had this group to vent to & get advice. Because by the end of the day she felt like she wasn't given me the time to talk about my weight loss. Now it's just became a bunch of chatty women who think they are the perfect wife.
    As far as the calorie mofia... With my job I don't have time to sit down & eat a full course meal while I'm running around in the er taking care of patients. Yes, I have been trying to add some calories back to my diet but instead of asking or reading, you jump on the calorie mofia bandwagon.
    A lady in the group told me its best just to get a few friends & not post on this site... Now, I see why!
  • Sira125
    Sira125 Posts: 152 Member
    tinamarie6624 wrote: »

    I have a brother that is very overweight and I am racking my brains to think of a way to "entice" him out of the house to doing something active and healthier but I know from my own experience that until someone wants to get healthier, there is nothing I can say that will motivate my brother.

    Maybe you could ask him to help you brainstorm ideas for you to do (not him to do) that would be easy ways to add some extra activity in. Kind of get him thinking in that direction?
  • cerise_noir
    cerise_noir Posts: 5,468 Member
    edited October 2016
    I eat the same food as everyone else in the house and am still losing weight.

    You do you, and others will take care of themselves when they are ready.
    kimberly2402 wrote: »
    johunt615 wrote: »
    Congrats on the 28lbs. Just keep going. Sometimes the other half feels left out or maybe even jealous so be sure to reassure her too.

    I think a little of it is jealousy. I'm trying to include her but she keeps saying I'm watching what I eat. I'm thinking to myself cookies & ice cream is not watching what you eat.

    Um..you CAN lose weight eating cookies and ice cream, just sayin'...
    kimberly2402 wrote: »
    Showed the Mrs. this post. Quite frankly she says y'all sound like a bunch of chatty women who have nothing better else to do than to talk down to someone who is being honest about how they feel. There for a while she was glad I had this group to vent to & get advice. Because by the end of the day she felt like she wasn't given me the time to talk about my weight loss. Now it's just became a bunch of chatty women who think they are the perfect wife.
    As far as the calorie mofia... With my job I don't have time to sit down & eat a full course meal while I'm running around in the er taking care of patients. Yes, I have been trying to add some calories back to my diet but instead of asking or reading, you jump on the calorie mofia bandwagon.
    A lady in the group told me its best just to get a few friends & not post on this site... Now, I see why!
    That's not very nice at all. You posted on here, and everyone responded with 'you do you'.
    I agree. Even with your last post, you get the help that you needed, yet, you are so ungrateful. I don't think you showed her this post at all. If she saw what you wrote about her....I mean, I would be upset if my husband spoke about me on the internet and included a picture.

    There are people with the exact same job as you, and they manage to count calories. Calorie MAFIA.... oh dear. -_-

    Your missus will be ready when she is ready... That would be like me hounding in on my husband to lose weight. It is his business. He is happy with my progress, but he has his own life.
  • Hornsby
    Hornsby Posts: 10,322 Member
    kimberly2402 wrote: »
    Showed the Mrs. this post. Quite frankly she says y'all sound like a bunch of chatty women who have nothing better else to do than to talk down to someone who is being honest about how they feel. There for a while she was glad I had this group to vent to & get advice. Because by the end of the day she felt like she wasn't given me the time to talk about my weight loss. Now it's just became a bunch of chatty women who think they are the perfect wife.
    As far as the calorie mofia... With my job I don't have time to sit down & eat a full course meal while I'm running around in the er taking care of patients. Yes, I have been trying to add some calories back to my diet but instead of asking or reading, you jump on the calorie mofia bandwagon.
    A lady in the group told me its best just to get a few friends & not post on this site... Now, I see why!

    That's very sweet.
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