Is this a gym or a high school?
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Gaygirl2120
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So when I go to the gym I keep to myself & just focus on my workout. If someone says Good Morning to me of course I'll reply. There are maybe 2 people that I will chat with briefly. I avoid most other people because they spend more time standing around & talking than they do working out. Hey if that's your thing then fine, but don't expect everyone else to have to be a part of it. So I just focus on my workout & go home. The other day one of the only people who I will talk to comes up to me & tells me that this other guy at the gym asked him why I don't like him & wont talk to him. Really? This is your focus at the gym? How is me speaking to you the least bit relevant to you or your workout? Please get your priorities in order. Sorry just had to do a quick rant.
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I totally understand what you're saying. Some people also get the wrong idea when you actually take time to talk and then that just creates a awkward feeling, but yeah I can relate.3
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Most gyms are the equivalent of a high school social scene. lol4
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Dang, at my gym nobody speaks or looks at anyone else. Its like standing at the urinal in the men's room.. it's like taboo.22
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futureicon wrote: »Dang, at my gym nobody speaks or looks at anyone else. Its like standing at the urinal in the men's room.. it's like taboo.
I want to go to your gym5 -
The weight room I frequent, at the time I frequent it there are only serious people in there. We may chat, or exchange a joke, but only if we're both between sets. There is very little goofing around. Guess I'm lucky in that regard. I think the High School like crowd moved to the Planet Fitness that just opened up.2
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Awwwww, he likes you!!!10
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I'm really not a mean person, but I do get super annoyed when some random person walks right up me in the middle of a lift, signals for me to take my ear plugs out so I can hear them, and then proceeds with boring chit chat, random personal questions and sometimes an awkward request for a date. Excuse you, I'm working here. Now is NOT the time. I've even had people stop me while I'm running - which completely destroys my groove - acting like they have some important thing to say, and it's always just B.S. Maybe I'm too polite. They aren't picking up my bad vibes...
I avoid eye contact for this reason. I also put on my B-face. I don't want to encourage interaction. It would be great if you could smile or wave or say hi to folks, but doing that just opens you up to a whole lot of unwanted socializing. Ugh. I'm not there to "hang out." I've got things to do. Thankfully, this doesn't happen all the time, or I might snap on someone.
Wow, I sound like a huge jerk, but I promise I'm usually pretty friendly. I have a friendly face. But just because I have a friendly face and I'm polite doesn't mean I'm looking to make a connection. It's totally uncool to interrupt someone who is "in the zone" and focused on their workout.
I am totally unfazed about other people socializing at the gym. That's cool. They can do what they want. It's only a problem if they are sitting around hogging equipment and wasting other people's time while they're doing it.
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I hit the gym at 5am and the only people there are serious about getting in, working out and getting out... that is why I go at that hour!
I will nod to the other regulars but that is about as far as it goes.8 -
I'm that person! lol1
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Maybe I've got the right gym or maybe I'm just oblivious at my age but my gym seems to have a good balance between friendliness (saying good morning, exchanging brief pleasantries & occasionally spotting each other) but it may just be a refection of the fact that the 6AM regulars appear to be 40+ and are there to work out. (I hate going to my gym after work as it seems to be a younger crowd more interested in socializing...) But then again I'm just a cranky old anti-social curmudgeon.8
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I'm really not a mean person, but I do get super annoyed when some random person walks right up me in the middle of a lift, signals for me to take my ear plugs out so I can hear them, and then proceeds with boring chit chat, random personal questions and sometimes an awkward request for a date. Excuse you, I'm working here. Now is NOT the time. I've even had people stop me while I'm running - which completely destroys my groove - acting like they have some important thing to say, and it's always just B.S. Maybe I'm too polite. They aren't picking up my bad vibes...
I avoid eye contact for this reason. I also put on my B-face. I don't want to encourage interaction. It would be great if you could smile or wave or say hi to folks, but doing that just opens you up to a whole lot of unwanted socializing. Ugh. I'm not there to "hang out." I've got things to do. Thankfully, this doesn't happen all the time, or I might snap on someone.
Wow, I sound like a huge jerk, but I promise I'm usually pretty friendly. I have a friendly face. But just because I have a friendly face and I'm polite doesn't mean I'm looking to make a connection. It's totally uncool to interrupt someone who is "in the zone" and focused on their workout.
I am totally unfazed about other people socializing at the gym. That's cool. They can do what they want. It's only a problem if they are sitting around hogging equipment and wasting other people's time while they're doing it.
I am right there with you. I feel the same way.1 -
Some days I chat with the people, some days I don't. No one interrupts during workouts though, it's usually before or after or when I am moving from the free weight section to another area of the gym. I'm good with it. Somehow I became actual friends with some of the people at the gym and socialize with them outside of the gym...something I never expected.2
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I'll never get the whole "He/She won't talk to me so they don't like me."
And...? They're obligated to talk to you because you want them to?
That's some needy, entitled, egocentric crap right there. Yes, I'm judging.11 -
Maybe you can work it out during science lab.6
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i don't mind pleasantries or chit chat between sets, but i can't stand when someone interrupts a lift - it totally takes my focus away from what i'm doing. i had to tell a really nice guy at the gym that if he wants to comment to please wait until i've finished a set. also, laughing mid-squat is kind of dangerous i've learned.
but - imo - just as bad as that is having SUPER loud blue tooth conversations next to someone. the gym i go to has no soundtrack 90% of the time but we do have a girl who talks at full volume on the treadmill with her headphones in. i can't tell if she knows how loud she is or not, but i know almost everything else about her.4 -
jessiferrrb wrote: »i don't mind pleasantries or chit chat between sets, but i can't stand when someone interrupts a lift - it totally takes my focus away from what i'm doing. i had to tell a really nice guy at the gym that if he wants to comment to please wait until i've finished a set. also, laughing mid-squat is kind of dangerous i've learned.
but - imo - just as bad as that is having SUPER loud blue tooth conversations next to someone. the gym i go to has no soundtrack 90% of the time but we do have a girl who talks at full volume on the treadmill with her headphones in. i can't tell if she knows how loud she is or not, but i know almost everything else about her.
I simply cannot imagine going back to the gym. I feel for all of you!0 -
This NEVER happens to me. I chat up my favorite desk guy because my husband and I really like him but that's it. I go about my merry way.1
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I don't really like people talking to me at the gym because it's "my time". I have bitchy resting face so that probably stops people from talking to me thankfully. Good morning is fine etc but I don't really want to talk when I'm concentrating plus puffing!
However I do like people watching as the same people come every day, I give them nick names and speculate on their lives haha.3 -
The weight room I've been going to lately only ever has 1 to 3 other people in it. It's awesome.1
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TrishSeren wrote: »I don't really like people talking to me at the gym because it's "my time". I have bitchy resting face so that probably stops people from talking to me thankfully. Good morning is fine etc but I don't really want to talk when I'm concentrating plus puffing!
However I do like people watching as the same people come every day, I give them nick names and speculate on their lives haha.
Yeah that's how I am too. It's my "me time" to destress, focus & do something for myself.1
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