Can a 19 year old guy be with 38 years old woman

Of course. 19 goes into 38 twice.

cee134 wrote: »

Weird, some guy just said the same thing as this post.

I was gonna say the same thing and has a similar profile pic, hummm.

Nope. I'm 38 and couldn't imagine being with someone much younger than 30-35. But I guess it has to do with maturity level too..

My husband is 15 years older, so I suppose it's a bit ironic, but in my experience, men do mature more slowly than women... (I know, going to get flamed for that one, lol).

canadianlbs wrote: »

eugh, not for me. i've got a son in his 20's; couldn't possibly.

it's working great for a 30's friend of mine though. his wife is about 18 years older than him and they seem really happy. but no not nope never for me. it's got nothing to do with their maturity level individually. having a kid of my own has perma-mommed me towards anyone more than a couple years younger than me.

tl;dr: if i'm old enough to be your mother, then i'm going to feel like your mother, whoever you are. then it's all way too icky for me.

tl;dr: if i'm old enough to be your mother, then i'm going to feel like your mother, whoever you are. then it's all way too icky for me.

Yup.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it IF there is a physical attraction from both sides, im 28 and personally I prefer older men and have never been with younger

Shana67 wrote: »

I mean.... before I met my 2nd husband and I was out a lot I was in my late 30s and probably ended up with a few youngens. Those were the days.

(Not really. My best days are now, with my super wonderful husband. Who actually is 10 years younger. )

Ok, pop quiz. How many insightful conversations did you have with the young ones? Sheesh, I couldn't deal with talking to them WHEN I was that age.

I want to weigh in on the "PRO" side of this debate. I have had two experiences in my life dating older women, once when I was in fact 19 and dating a 38 year old lady, and again when I was 26 and dating a 42 year old. Both relationships were amazing, the sex was phenomenal, and we had a ton of fun going out together. Yes both of these ladies showed me things I had never seen, foods I had never eaten, interests I never knew I had, culture I probably never would have come across, and for that I am still grateful. For example, I wouldn't be the Parrot Head I am today if my 42 y/o lover hadn't seduced me on her living room couch with "Why Don't We Get Drunk And Screw" playing on the cassette deck!

I used to work part-time in a retail setting with a bunch of young guys between 17 and 25, with a large client base of 40ish, wealthy housewives. I would engage with these women in a totally natural way, always professional, and got a lot of flirtation. My younger co-workers would tease me and ask me why I never 'made a move'. My answer was that "...some things require the strength, the stamina, and the enthusiasm of youth; but some things required the patience, the wisdom, and the finesse of experience..."

So I say go for it. If all you're looking for is the sexual experience, there are websites out there that cater specifically to that particular proclivity. But don't overlook the possibility that an older woman and a younger man can have a much more meaningful relationship than just f**king each other silly.

Of course, the same thing applies to older men and younger women, although society gets caught up in the whole 'trophy wife' thing, which I utterly reject. My girlfriend is 6 years younger than me, but in our 50s, that's not a wide gulf. I do sometimes wonder, though...maybe when she turns 54, I can trade her in on two 27 year olds...

projectsix wrote: »

As a 39 year old man, I say yes, all the power to them! I intend to trade my spouse in for 2 x 20 year olds once she turns 40.

Would like to believe you posted this as a joke!!

You are just being used as arm candy and perhaps a few good other useful things as well..

Wait till you have kids..

Dated a younger girl and it wasn't all that great. Better to stay with people around your age.

My husband is 5 years younger than me and even that is borderline too young.

Heartisalonelyhunter wrote: »

I think that any relationship with an age gap of more than 10 years (regardless of its the man or woman who's older) has big issues. A lot of young people have mommy/daddy issues and there are older men and women who get a kick out of having a much younger spouse. I think it's effed up in all cases.

i'm not good at second-guessing what goes on inside any serious relationship, so usually i just let people be. if it works for them i assume there must be stuff i don't know, or things i don't know about their private dynamic together, which is as it should be really. ain't nobody got time to play dr phil on every random couple they come across in their lives.

my friend with the much older wife seems really happy. definitely way happier than he was at any point in the two or three years that i knew him before they met. i'm very fond of him myself and consider him a real friend - and his wife's within a year or two of my age. i don't have space in my bandwidth for 'friendship' with people i don't genuinely get along with and feel comfortable around, and he passed from the start. so i guess i reckon there's no reason why the two of them can't click as well as he and i did, and if they're good for each other - which they clearly seem to be - then why not.

i was a little worried about both of them when they got together, but i can't dismiss either of them as just having 'issues'. they seem to be having a ball.

I mean, legally, yes. It depends on the maturity of both parties. If the 19 year old is immature, you probably shouldn't be grooming them. Otherwise, whatever, yeah.

I'm 35 and have dated men ten years younger than me recently. It depends on the maturity, but I don't think I'd ever be interested in a 19 year old.