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Thinking about my day with my mom and step dad yesterday; I said I wouldn't let him get to me, but I did. After about 3 offhand(but were they) comments about my hubby, who was at work...I finally lost it. I gathered myself, stopped dad in midsentence and said "Listen to me now. He has been here for 23 years, and MORE than proved himself. I'm sick of you talking *kitten* about him, and I don't want to hear another word, or I'm not coming back."
My stepdad acted all taken aback, like he didn't mean any offence, when it was obvious be was goading me.
Glad I didn't take it now. Hopefully next week, while I act the maid and nurse for him, he's a little nicer and more gracious.4 -
LiftingLady5 wrote: »JustMissTracy wrote: »Thinking about my day with my mom and step dad yesterday; I said I wouldn't let him get to me, but I did. After about 3 offhand(but were they) comments about my hubby, who was at work...I finally lost it. I gathered myself, stopped dad in midsentence and said "Listen to me now. He has been here for 23 years, and MORE than proved himself. I'm sick of you talking *kitten* about him, and I don't want to hear another word, or I'm not coming back."
My stepdad acted all taken aback, like he didn't mean any offence, when it was obvious be was goading me.
Glad I didn't take it now. Hopefully next week, while I act the maid and nurse for him, he's a little nicer and more gracious.
Good for you.
I had promised myself I wouldn't say anything to him that could be adversarial...as he's really sick...but he pushes, like he wants to start issues...then acts all confused like he didn't say anything...he's old, I get it...but I was tired, overworked at that point, and I think PMSy as I was crying...lol0 -
Next week will be better I think. I think they will have appreciated what I did, and they must know they obviously need the help...0
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littlemissbgiff wrote: »JustMissTracy wrote: »LiftingLady5 wrote: »JustMissTracy wrote: »Thinking about my day with my mom and step dad yesterday; I said I wouldn't let him get to me, but I did. After about 3 offhand(but were they) comments about my hubby, who was at work...I finally lost it. I gathered myself, stopped dad in midsentence and said "Listen to me now. He has been here for 23 years, and MORE than proved himself. I'm sick of you talking *kitten* about him, and I don't want to hear another word, or I'm not coming back."
My stepdad acted all taken aback, like he didn't mean any offence, when it was obvious be was goading me.
Glad I didn't take it now. Hopefully next week, while I act the maid and nurse for him, he's a little nicer and more gracious.
Good for you.
I had promised myself I wouldn't say anything to him that could be adversarial...as he's really sick...but he pushes, like he wants to start issues...then acts all confused like he didn't say anything...he's old, I get it...but I was tired, overworked at that point, and I think PMSy as I was crying...lol
Good on you! Sometimes a doormat can no longer be a doormat.
I've had to do it many times in life, usually estranging myself for years on end. I'm only back now because they are so sick, and I don't want to have regrets again, if you know what I mean..I love my mom dearly and will be destroyed when she goes, but he's not ever been the nicest stepdad, he makes it hard to want to go there...lol..Im even paranoid someone will see this and tell him....ugh....lol0 -
JustMissTracy wrote: »Thinking about my day with my mom and step dad yesterday; I said I wouldn't let him get to me, but I did. After about 3 offhand(but were they) comments about my hubby, who was at work...I finally lost it. I gathered myself, stopped dad in midsentence and said "Listen to me now. He has been here for 23 years, and MORE than proved himself. I'm sick of you talking *kitten* about him, and I don't want to hear another word, or I'm not coming back."
My stepdad acted all taken aback, like he didn't mean any offence, when it was obvious be was goading me.
Glad I didn't take it now. Hopefully next week, while I act the maid and nurse for him, he's a little nicer and more gracious.
Yay good for you Tracy.1 -
I just read a story on CNN about a girl.who killed herself over cyberbulling. This breaks my heart not only because a family just lost a child but also because this could have been my daughter a few months ago. Not going into detail but kids are so good at hiding emotions. I talk to my daughters about actions and how they affect other people. We as parents are so wrapped up into our own issues and think only because our kids are home and safe that everything is okay and in many cases is not as I found out. Parents have so much influence in how kids treat others. I see it here and we're adults. I have much to say about this issue but I rather not. I just hope parents know that this all starts at home and all we can do is guide our children to be better human beings.LiftingLady5 wrote: »I saw this headline in a story "For the first time, adolescent suicide rates have now surpassed the number of young people being killed in car accidents." And I think it's sad. I know a lot of news stories I've seen lately talk about cyber bullying. I wonder if sometimes helicopter parents make life too good and too easy for their children so when they start to see the real world (hard as it is) they can't handle it due to them being raised in a "let's make everything about you and give you a trophy just for being here" environment. Perhaps some of those same kids are the ones being the cyber bullies because, since they are used to life being all about themselves and what makes them feel good, they don't actually understand how their words and actions can cut another....as they've always been sheltered in their little bubbles. I try to talk to my kids about the world. I let them know that life is not going to be easy out in the "real" world. I tell them they will face mean people who are mean for no reason. I also tell them that their family is always there for them, so if ever they go out in the world and get knocked down, we will be here to help pick them up and be supportive. I tell them they are responsible for themselves and their actions and if anytime any problems or situations seem so dark and unsolvable, I tell them to remember that they are their own light, and we the family, will always be a light for them as well. Every single problem has more than one solution...there is ALWAYS a way to make it better...sometimes a person needs help to find solutions. I try to talk to them about this stuff to help build their foundation so that when they go out in life or real life starts happening to them, they will feel strong and know there is always a way. It's the best I can do I think, to help them grow up in this world. Perhaps being aware will help them avoid being a headline.
Just my deep thoughts on Friday morning
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I think often it's undiagnosed mental illness. My brother recently was part of an emergency transport for a boy who had stepped in front of a truck on the highway. His dad and aunt said he was just a little depressed...his uncle told my brother he'll be arranging help because he needs more help than his aunt and father are willing to admit.
Maybe parents because they aren't around their kids much just don't see the problems? It's tough but that's a really sad statistic.2 -
That I am sad my workout was short today as I had to take a friend to the airport.... BUT and have no problem spending Friday evening at the job.... maybe I should get a life? LOL0
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My mom's crazy friend is insisting on driving me and btw boy to visit my mom. I'm a bit scared haha1
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littlemissbgiff wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Why are stupid people allowed to have kids?!
After struggling with infertility for the last few years, I am faced with this question more often than not
I so get this. As we have talked before, my first pregnancy ended horribly at full term. For no valid reason. I did everything right. Then struggled with infertility with both of my next two pregnancies. Hence why my kiddos are 8 years apart. But why do child molesters, abusers, drug addicts, people that plain just don't care about their kids seem to pop them out left and right?1 -
JustMissTracy wrote: »LiftingLady5 wrote: »JustMissTracy wrote: »Thinking about my day with my mom and step dad yesterday; I said I wouldn't let him get to me, but I did. After about 3 offhand(but were they) comments about my hubby, who was at work...I finally lost it. I gathered myself, stopped dad in midsentence and said "Listen to me now. He has been here for 23 years, and MORE than proved himself. I'm sick of you talking *kitten* about him, and I don't want to hear another word, or I'm not coming back."
My stepdad acted all taken aback, like he didn't mean any offence, when it was obvious be was goading me.
Glad I didn't take it now. Hopefully next week, while I act the maid and nurse for him, he's a little nicer and more gracious.
Good for you.
I had promised myself I wouldn't say anything to him that could be adversarial...as he's really sick...but he pushes, like he wants to start issues...then acts all confused like he didn't say anything...he's old, I get it...but I was tired, overworked at that point, and I think PMSy as I was crying...lol
Age isn't an excuse to act like a kitten.
If anything, one should be wiser and more tempered with age.
Hang in there2
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