Men would you date a pretty 200 pound woman?

2

Replies

  • gramarye
    gramarye Posts: 586 Member
    They do. I started dating my current husband when I was 240, and I've been 200 for most of our time together (including when we got married). I was even heavier dating and married to my first husband. (We broke up for reasons unrelated to my (or his) weight.)

    I've also dated men on a wide spectrum of sizes. Size is an attracting factor for some people, yes, but it's not nearly as big a deal as you'd fear.
  • Daleykai
    Daleykai Posts: 3 Member
    I'm afraid not. We all have our likes and dislikes and that is a deal killer for me.

  • Raptor2763
    Raptor2763 Posts: 387 Member
    It's what's on the INSIDE that matters. As far as I'm concerned, a woman's looks and weight account for about 35% of her overall attractiveness. The other 65% lies inside.
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    confident, intelligent, vibrant, funny, eloquent, great to be with

    trumps

    insecure, dumb, dull, dull, dull, dull to be with

    weight is immaterial in this. The first makes sexy, the second makes millstone

    also in for sausage
  • KrystinaMTL
    KrystinaMTL Posts: 1,338 Member
    SideSteel wrote: »
    Hypothetically since I'm married and no longer able to date, (much to the disappointment of all of the women at my gym, who are obviously swooning over my every move).

    (For example, just the other day this very attractive lady said this to me:

    "Are you done using this bench press?"

    I mean my god woman, can you make it any more obvious that you yearn for my loins?)



    (And then there's the senior center where they put out the coffee.

    Gertrude was pouring her coffee while watching CNN and she said "Cold out there today!"

    Jeez woman control yourself. I know I'm a strapping bearded hunk of ginger manliness but come on, this is a family oriented building).

    Where was I....

    Oh yes, back to the original question

    Yes, I absolutely could. I do think I would need to have some amount of attraction (just being honest here) but that's entirely possible and I certainly wouldn't have some sort of weight standard.

    You need your own talk show.
    Go get it, now.
  • mskimee
    mskimee Posts: 228 Member
    SideSteel wrote: »

    Just the other day, I was eating some cheddar habanero mango chicken sausages.

    Oh my lord where did you get that sausage?? It sounds amazing!!!!
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    Sued0nim wrote: »
    confident, intelligent, vibrant, funny, eloquent, great to be with

    trumps

    insecure, dumb, dull, dull, dull, dull to be with

    weight is immaterial in this. The first makes sexy, the second makes millstone

    also in for sausage

    This is what my husband said actually..(except in for sausage)

    I was 185 when we met...lost 10lbs for the wedding...gained up to 210...currently 150lbs

    he said his attraction to me was due to the fact i was a confident sexy women...which has nothing to do with my weight...cause confident and sexy is a mindset....

    we are still married...still very very much in love and he shows me how much a lot...;)
  • vikinglander
    vikinglander Posts: 1,547 Member
    I have always been into women who are round and soft and curvy in all the right places, regardless of their weight, or my own weight, and I have had some amazing relationships in my life, for which I am grateful. It's all good...
  • solieco1
    solieco1 Posts: 1,559 Member
    SideSteel wrote: »
    Hypothetically since I'm married and no longer able to date, (much to the disappointment of all of the women at my gym, who are obviously swooning over my every move).

    (For example, just the other day this very attractive lady said this to me:

    "Are you done using this bench press?"

    I mean my god woman, can you make it any more obvious that you yearn for my loins?)



    (And then there's the senior center where they put out the coffee.

    Gertrude was pouring her coffee while watching CNN and she said "Cold out there today!"

    Jeez woman control yourself. I know I'm a strapping bearded hunk of ginger manliness but come on, this is a family oriented building).

    Where was I....

    Oh yes, back to the original question

    Yes, I absolutely could. I do think I would need to have some amount of attraction (just being honest here) but that's entirely possible and I certainly wouldn't have some sort of weight standard.

    OK so you're just freaking funny :D
  • solarpower03
    solarpower03 Posts: 12,161 Member
    I might sound shallow but I won't.
  • _dixiana_
    _dixiana_ Posts: 3,262 Member
    SideSteel wrote: »
    Hypothetically since I'm married and no longer able to date, (much to the disappointment of all of the women at my gym, who are obviously swooning over my every move).

    (For example, just the other day this very attractive lady said this to me:

    "Are you done using this bench press?"

    I mean my god woman, can you make it any more obvious that you yearn for my loins?)



    (And then there's the senior center where they put out the coffee.

    Gertrude was pouring her coffee while watching CNN and she said "Cold out there today!"

    Jeez woman control yourself. I know I'm a strapping bearded hunk of ginger manliness but come on, this is a family oriented building).

    Where was I....

    Oh yes, back to the original question

    Yes, I absolutely could. I do think I would need to have some amount of attraction (just being honest here) but that's entirely possible and I certainly wouldn't have some sort of weight standard.

    This just made my whole day.
  • citylife4eva
    citylife4eva Posts: 9 Member
    why not?
  • hope516
    hope516 Posts: 1,133 Member
    solarpower03 wrote: »
    I might sound shallow but I won't.

    You are not shallow. You can't *kitten* someone you are not attracted to.

    If you don't get to know ppl and be friends with ppl bc of their appearance that makes you shallow ;)

    OP,

    cliche but true...beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My highest weight was 378 pounds, and I had a man who was madly, truly, and deeply in love with me. He was average size and loved every ounce of me. Your weight will only hold you back if you let it. (I am assuming this is where your question stems from)
  • ElevatedBeast
    ElevatedBeast Posts: 28 Member
    I wouldn't but that shouldn't affect your self-esteem.

    Be sure not to use the fact that some men would accept your situation as a reason not to improve yourself. We all get caught up looking for excuses to avoid reality.
  • dawson002
    dawson002 Posts: 170 Member
    My wife is over 200lbs....never seen her size being an issue although I do worry about health implications.
  • Flapjack_Mollases
    Flapjack_Mollases Posts: 218 Member
    This question is so subjective, it's impossible to answer. When you say pretty, what do you mean? Is she 5'2" or 6'1"? What is her general overall shape? Does she have skinny lips or thick lips? Does she have cankles, or is her weight generally well balanced?

    These are important things to consider.
  • lalee115
    lalee115 Posts: 185 Member
    Speaking of my own experience, I have encountered men who dated me at 200+. One married me. We have divorced, due to the fact he is a *kitten*, but I digress. I am now engaged, but when I was single, I would not have looked down on some guy who wouldn't date me because of my weight. That's his right. Just as it was my right not to date a slim guy or a guy with long hair. You can't please all the people all the time, you just have to please the right person ;)
  • mojo75
    mojo75 Posts: 314 Member
    That's an easy question. if there's a mutual attraction i could care less what she weighs and if she is planning to lose or not. i've dated thin tone women that were a train wreck and i'll take a woman with a good head on her shoulders any day!
  • Cifucanguess
    Cifucanguess Posts: 175 Member
    SideSteel wrote: »
    Hypothetically since I'm married and no longer able to date, (much to the disappointment of all of the women at my gym, who are obviously swooning over my every move).

    (For example, just the other day this very attractive lady said this to me:

    "Are you done using this bench press?"

    I mean my god woman, can you make it any more obvious that you yearn for my loins?)



    (And then there's the senior center where they put out the coffee.

    Gertrude was pouring her coffee while watching CNN and she said "Cold out there today!"

    Jeez woman control yourself. I know I'm a strapping bearded hunk of ginger manliness but come on, this is a family oriented building).

    Where was I....

    Oh yes, back to the original question

    Yes, I absolutely could. I do think I would need to have some amount of attraction (just being honest here) but that's entirely possible and I certainly wouldn't have some sort of weight standard.

    This ABSOLUTELY had me cracking up!! :)
  • Cifucanguess
    Cifucanguess Posts: 175 Member
    nutmegoreo wrote: »
    SideSteel wrote: »
    Hypothetically since I'm married and no longer able to date, (much to the disappointment of all of the women at my gym, who are obviously swooning over my every move).

    (For example, just the other day this very attractive lady said this to me:

    "Are you done using this bench press?"

    I mean my god woman, can you make it any more obvious that you yearn for my loins?)



    (And then there's the senior center where they put out the coffee.

    Gertrude was pouring her coffee while watching CNN and she said "Cold out there today!"

    Jeez woman control yourself. I know I'm a strapping bearded hunk of ginger manliness but come on, this is a family oriented building).

    Where was I....

    Oh yes, back to the original question

    Yes, I absolutely could. I do think I would need to have some amount of attraction (just being honest here) but that's entirely possible and I certainly wouldn't have some sort of weight standard.

    :laugh:

    Tell us more about this manliness :blush:

    Not just manliness, but Ginger Manliness!! lol
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    edited December 2016
    I don't think I've ever known the weight of any woman I've ever dated...

    I only know my wife's weight because we use the same scale...
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,028 Member
    If I'm being honest, unless she's an athlete and over 6 feet tall, no.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
    9285851.png
  • TomL19842016
    TomL19842016 Posts: 26 Member
    edited December 2016
    Sure, as long as we clicked well. I mean, I'm 264 myself, so I might not be the target of this question, but I would, no problem. Though I would advise her against losing all of her weight, because then she wouldn't exist anymore, and I would no longer be able to date her.
  • chemtrailz
    chemtrailz Posts: 43 Member
    yes i would
  • Unknown
    Unknown
    This content has been removed.
  • fastingrabbit
    fastingrabbit Posts: 90 Member
    I like the answers of the men who say they wouldn't, because anyone considering the question -- especially phrased as it is -- can see what the "right" answer is. It takes some courage to say what you really think.

    Having said that, many people find themselves dating (and marrying) people they didn't think were their type!
  • everher
    everher Posts: 909 Member
    I don't want anyone who wants me to be a certain weight or look a certain way. Been there, done that, and left his sorry *kitten*.

    Newsflash: looks fade. Yes, physical attraction is important, but some people act as if you have to be a certain height, have certain color eyes, and weigh only x amount of pounds and not a pound more. No thanks.

    I'd rather the guy who squinches his face up when I tell him I'm trying to lose weight and asks me why. He's supportive, but he thinks I look fine how I am. That's the guy I want.
This discussion has been closed.

Categories