The diet sabatogers
cshinton1
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Maybe not for everyone, but many have a friend or loved or even a coworker who constantly tries to purposely tank your diet/life style change by offering sweets when they know you are watching what you eat, or making something really fattening and telling you its not that fattening or making excuses for you to eat unhealthy or leaving out unhealthy things or make negative comments about why its unhealthy to diet or offer dieting advise that is bound to fail.....how do you handle the diet sabatogers in your life?
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Say thanks and then prove them wrong.12
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Sit down and have a serious talk with them. Tell them that you appreciate that they want to do nice things, but since you are trying to lose weight you could use some support. Give them some ways that they can make things easier on you, like not bringing you treats and keeping negative comments to themselves. If they can't support you it might be time to rethink your friendship or cut them out.3
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I think that is just regular life. People offer me food if I'm not trying to lose weight, or I am. I think we just realize it more when we are, and we get mad about it. Just say no and go about your business, nobody can actually sabotage you if you don't want them to.19
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Take control over your own food intake. No foods are "fattening" or "unhealthy", diets are more or less healthy, and you gain weight by consistently eating more than you burn. Understanding these simple things made me immune to "sabotage".17
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By knowing that I'm responsible for my own actions and no one else can influence those actions, unless I give them the power to do so. The comments and 'advice' was background noise to me and I focused on doing what I know I needed to do. Now that I'm a few years into maintenance people leave me alone.11
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My boss does this. He buys chocolates from a candy shop for the office and tries to push the last one one me. We go to lunch and he tries to push dessert on me. It's super annoying. I finally had to get pissed at him and say "Stop. If I want something I'll eat it. It's super annoying when you try to push food on me". I was blunt about it. Didn't hurt his feelings, but let did let him know he's pissing me off.
Sometimes you have to be blunt and say No means No. You (me anyways, not you personally) also need to show restraint and stick to your guns.4 -
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they are not holding you down and shoving it down your throat.
if you dont want it, dont eat it. eventually, theyll get the message and stop offering.
if they are really stupid, it might take awhile.
people dont offer me food. and if they do, its simply to be polite - everyone knows i (1) dont eat food other people made (2) count every calorie i put in my mouth and (3) dont eat food other people made
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Most people aren't out to intentionally "sabotage" you. Honestly, it is a bit needy to think everyone around you must always comply with your particular needs in order for you to meet your goals. And it's particularly egotistical to think that they put a enough of an importance and making sure you fail your goals to spend their time and energy planning ways to "sabotage" you. Must people are just doing what makes themselves happy and trying to make the people around then happy the best they know how. Instead of assuming ill-will, just assume they are doing the best they can and move on.15
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Nothing you can do. Just gotta get it into their head you're not gonna eat it lol. Eventually they will stop pressuring you or at least do it less. Good luck to you1
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Look_Its_Kriss wrote: »I think labeling people as sabotagers is kind of pointless... Just because you've made it a point to announce weight loss goals and plans doesn't mean everyone has to not offer you things or keep their mouth shut on opinions they have no matter how wrong we think they are. Thats life, you're going to find those traits anywhere, any choice you choose to make with your own body, someone else is going to think you should do it differently.
In the end you just say "oh okay" to what they say and carry on doing what youre doing.
They dont need to know if you actually took their advice, you don't need to try and convince them of different, you also don't need to eat what they offer you. Most times i say no to things and say im not hungry and maybe if i am hungry later i will come and ask them for some.. or just say maybe another time.. its all choice at this point right, i could have people knocking on my door offering me chocolates at valentines day, i could take those boxes, doesn't mean i have to open them and eat them, or i could say thank you for thinking of me but no thanks all the same.
My aunt truely is a sabotager XD i asked for a black coffee-went to pee- she got me a triple triple...They exist xD0 -
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yeah no shes been truely trying to sabotage me since i started XD she also rubs butter on my food when i go to pee when we go to restaurants i had to stop drinking water before we go out just to stop her lol
Iv told her to stop and she hasnt xD0 -
I realize that I am responsible for me. If I choose to eat something that I don't know the nutritional content of, that is my choice. No one makes me do it. I can ask family, friends about the content of a meal I did not prepare.Maybe not for everyone, but many have a friend or loved or even a coworker who constantly tries to purposely tank your diet/life style change by offering sweets when they know you are watching what you eat, or making something really fattening and telling you its not that fattening or making excuses for you to eat unhealthy or leaving out unhealthy things or make negative comments about why its unhealthy to diet or offer dieting advise that is bound to fail.....how do you handle the diet sabatogers in your life?
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good point!
Like the guy in my office (who is only in the office a few hours once or twice a week) who brings treats from home after any holiday because he wants to get them out of his house. He's done this for the 10+ years I've worked with him. He didn't change because I lost weight, but my perception of the world around me is different now.I think that is just regular life. People offer me food if I'm not trying to lose weight, or I am. I think we just realize it more when we are, and we get mad about it. Just say no and go about your business, nobody can actually sabotage you if you don't want them to.
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StaciMarie1974 wrote: »good point!
Like the guy in my office (who is only in the office a few hours once or twice a week) who brings treats from home after any holiday because he wants to get them out of his house. He's done this for the 10+ years I've worked with him. He didn't change because I lost weight, but my perception of the world around me is different now.I think that is just regular life. People offer me food if I'm not trying to lose weight, or I am. I think we just realize it more when we are, and we get mad about it. Just say no and go about your business, nobody can actually sabotage you if you don't want them to.
Yes, that's a really good point. It's not necessarily about you (you meaning us, meaning the us who are trying to cut calories) when people offer food or bring in treats.
I just say no thanks and move on. People don't really push food on me or offer diet advice or tell me that what I am doing is unhealthy. I've never given most people (other than my husband) reason to think I care about their opinions on those matters.1 -
In my office the 'treats' go on the kitchen table, so its up to each person to partake or not. No one really pushes. I do sometimes, but in general I don't have a hard time passing up things that have no nutritional information. Though I have had days where a brownie leads to two more brownies and that leads to a 'what the h***' resulting in Arby's on the way home and half a pizza before bed...1
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JaydedMiss wrote: »yeah no shes been truely trying to sabotage me since i started XD she also rubs butter on my food when i go to pee when we go to restaurants i had to stop drinking water before we go out just to stop her lol
Iv told her to stop and she hasnt xD
Wow. Seriously? Boundary issues. When you get mad at her, she doesn't stop?1 -
I've yoyo'd over the last 20+ years and this time I'm losing weight for me. Not an event, occasion or person.
Just losing weight because I want to. This small change had made me give zero cares what anyone else does, says or eats. I can't explain it. On other "diets" I cared. This time not one bit.
I'd simply say thanks but no thanks. If they persists I would very nicely tell them you appreciate it but if you make me take it I'm going to give it or throw it away.
If its chocolate I would make room for it:).
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I do find, "No thanks-- I'm not hungry," works really well. Most people shrug and forget about it. When they KNOW you want it then they will tempt you because they can tell that you won't stick to your plan. My hubby tempted me for a while at first but did give up when he realized I am serious. Most people think diets are fleeting and forget you are even on one.0
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JaydedMiss wrote: »yeah no shes been truely trying to sabotage me since i started XD she also rubs butter on my food when i go to pee when we go to restaurants i had to stop drinking water before we go out just to stop her lol
Iv told her to stop and she hasnt xD
Wow. Seriously? Boundary issues. When you get mad at her, she doesn't stop?
nah when i call her out on it she says shes helping me lose weight by giving me the fat and proteins i need....as if i need butter in my salad and melted in my coffee to lose weight xD ...shes had that arguement with me multiple times thinking her huge buttered fatty deep fried meal loses more weight thn my side salad and black coffee XD Shes not stupid so one has to assume shes sabotaging on purpose lol. Seeing as whenever SHE brings my weight loss up (since i stopped ages ago) she gets mad and grumpy
Screw her i lost healthy i look and feel fabulous shes just jealous XD1 -
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I agree. I just say "No thank you" and it works. I've never felt pressured into eating anything they buy or bake. Most people I work with just responds with "Good, more for me" and I just smile.0
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Jo, I'd make room for chocolate also.
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Honestly i had no idea until my grampa called and told on her. Was atleast a few weeks in of her doing it... Just thought wendys coffee tasted weird XD
I think shed mad that no matter where she took me (places super non dietary) id find a way to keep my senses and just order black coffee while she had zero self restraint. Still not sure why it pisses her off so much youd think itd motivate her or atleast make her happy im getting healthy, Her reaction is truely confusing to me though
Whenever she (very angrily) mentions anything dietary like shes right (do you remember diet coke sticking to her insides forever kriss?) She hears no other side and will argue until the end of time so iv just begun very bluntly ignoring her if she tries and texting on my phone until she shuts up xD
If i didnt need her to drive me to see my grampa weekly i wouldnt put up with her at all.0 -
laceyslabaugh wrote: »I agree. I just say "No thank you" and it works. I've never felt pressured into eating anything they buy or bake. Most people I work with just responds with "Good, more for me" and I just smile.
Good points. A lot of people just want permission to eat in front of you without feeling guilty. If they offer and you say, "no" they've done due diligence. Lol.
I feel a bit conflicted when people give homemade food or a gift food. I don't want to seem unappreciative.1 -
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Jayded, I would pour out the coffee in the restroom or tell her to take it to her home if she complains. Then she can reheat it for herself in microwave the next day. Or just drink a little bit. That is frustrating!
You might want to buy your black coffee for yourself or monitor her while she is ordering before restroom. Lol0
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