having a lot of trouble committing

zorbaru
zorbaru Posts: 1,077 Member
really having trouble losing weight. i want to lose weight. i know how to lose weight in terms of food and excercise. my issue is actually getting the body to do what the mind needs it to do.

every day i wake up saying "today is the day, im going to do this" and by lunch time im scoffing and iced coffee and eating crap again. if you look through my history on here, you will see that i have "restarted" many times.

it is really starting to get me down. i dont know what to do.
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  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    You have to want it more than you don't or more than you want the "crap". But if you can make the iced coffee and crap fit your calorie goals it will be a lot easier to commit. I drink iced coffee every single day.
  • size102b
    size102b Posts: 1,370 Member
    It all in our heads
    Sort your head out the rest will follow

    I have many times stuck to plan for over a year then bam I've lost that willpower and resort to old
    Just gradually make changes don't do the all or nothing start with calorie reduction then do a walking plan don't go full steam into something that you know isn't manageable forever
  • FoxyMars25
    FoxyMars25 Posts: 112 Member
    size102b wrote: »
    It all in our heads
    Sort your head out the rest will follow

    I have many times stuck to plan for over a year then bam I've lost that willpower and resort to old
    Just gradually make changes don't do the all or nothing start with calorie reduction then do a walking plan don't go full steam into something that you know isn't manageable forever

    I completely agree with this. It is all in your head. I tried to lose weight for years and then I had a silly "a ha" moment and finally decided I was going to lose weight no matter what. You don't want to try to make a lot of changes all at once because it is too overwhelming. Just make one healthy decision at a time and build upon that. When I first started losing weight, I told myself I was going to workout 5 times a week. That was it. Nothing with my diet or anything else. Once I started working out 5 days a week, I felt so good, I then added the rule of only having alcohol on weekends and not during the week. I stuck with JUST those two rules for several months and lost 30 pounds. Then I bought a heart rate monitor and started counting calories and eating a lot less processed food and went on to lose 66 pounds total. It did take about 2 years but as everyone here says, it is a marathon not a race. And yes, I gained about 20 pounds back over the last few years (due to being in a relationship with someone with unhealthy habits, a medication I went on, and quitting smoking) but I am back at it again and have only lost about 4 pounds since the beginning of February but I can't let myself get down because it will mess with my head and I will fail. I know I just need to get back to how my lifestyle was when I lost weight before and once I get used to it, it will be second nature. It is hard at first making changes and getting used to doing something differently than you are used to (eating differently, counting calories, working out, etc) but it DOES get easier.
  • Stella3838
    Stella3838 Posts: 439 Member
    You need to find your 'why'. Until you do that it'll always be half hearted and will never really work

    ^^^ This. This was the only thing that got me started, finding my "why". I didn't want the change enough last year, even though I hated how I looked, hated how I felt. It clicked for me this past New Years Eve and I've been on the good path since. Find your "why".
  • iofred
    iofred Posts: 488 Member
    It is only you that can control this, a virtual kick does not hurt. To prevent excuses, work out when you wake up if that will be part of your program, which will set you up for the day, and make you feel like you can conquer the world, and make your own lunch to bring to work, to cut out the crap food. But the only one that can convince you is you
  • lthames0810
    lthames0810 Posts: 722 Member
    I'm a serial starter too. I know that point in the day when I would feel like this was a bad day to start because (fill in the blank) so I'll just eat what I really want right now and start over tomorrow or next week or next month.

    For me it was high stress and depression and insomnia that were making it hard for me to take on yet another big project...that project being to lose weight. Taking steps to deal with those disrupters helped me to focus on the bigger picture and my goals instead of medicating my despair in the moment.

  • HealthyVitamins
    HealthyVitamins Posts: 432 Member
    Don't take your wallet to work if possible. I would bring well thought out and prepared meals, eat them, and eat chips and chocolate from the canteen anyway. Once I stopped bringing cash I stopped eating from there and broke the bad habit. Now I can bring my wallet to work and not feel the need to buy anything
  • mxchana
    mxchana Posts: 666 Member
    edited March 2017
    Try hypnosis or - better yet - EFT ... if you know what you need to do and just aren't doing it, the mental / emotional arena is likely where you need to work.
  • amtyrell
    amtyrell Posts: 1,447 Member
    I can only make small changes at a time. It takes me about 2 months to make that small change stick as a habit then I can do another small change. So why don't you start with one small habit change. Now today start logging everything everything that you eat and drink. Give yourself a few weeks then add another good habit maybe packing lunch and snacks or having plain coffee instead of fancy coffee dessert .
  • Jthanmyfitnesspal
    Jthanmyfitnesspal Posts: 3,522 Member
    It really helps to have a weight-loss partner. Someone with whom you can be honest. Share your diaries and have at it again.

    Yes, and plan your eats. If you want an iced coffee every day with a snack, then have it. Find a way to make it work in your daliy budget.

    And take your time. No need to lose weight quickly.

    Best of luck. You are counting on you!
  • vingogly
    vingogly Posts: 1,785 Member
    You might want to get a copy of the "Beck Diet Solution" book, which is a cognitive-behavioral approach that will help with the head (cognitive) part.

    http://www.beckdietsolution.com
  • LivingtheLeanDream
    LivingtheLeanDream Posts: 13,342 Member
    You have to really want to change your existing eating habits. Try shouldn't come into it, as the ad goes 'Just Do It' :smile: Set yourself small goals/ pre plan your days meals and don't buy the things that are calorie dense. Little by little you can change how you see food.
  • iofred
    iofred Posts: 488 Member
    the statement in your mind should go "I have to" rather than "I want to" (even if you "really" want to)
  • Rogstar
    Rogstar Posts: 216 Member
    edited March 2017
    Don't take your wallet to work if possible. I would bring well thought out and prepared meals, eat them, and eat chips and chocolate from the canteen anyway. Once I stopped bringing cash I stopped eating from there and broke the bad habit. Now I can bring my wallet to work and not feel the need to buy anything

    Ha, the wallet thing worked for me too! Well, not bringing cash anyway.

    I would bring good things, and eat them, and enjoy them. But I would still grab food from the vending machine. And of course I wouldn't log them because I'm embarrassed (although no one else is looking at my diary!) and then I would eat something else not as good at home out of guilt. When I wouldn't lose weight, I'd just stop working at it for a couple months and have to start over 10lbs heavier.

    So I stopped bringing cash to work, and so I couldn't get my extras, and I got over the habit of doing it. I still struggle with not going out to lunch every day, but since it's still wintry outside, I really don't feel like going out most days. And I don't have a problem when it's nice outside, since I usually go out for a walk at lunch.

    I'm glad I dropped the habit when I did, because they just put a damn credit card reader on the vending machine a couple weeks ago. It makes the (already overpriced) goodies 5 cents more, and darn it if the old me wouldn't have cared. I would have been grabbing 3-4 candy bars and chips each day anyway, perhaps more so since I'm not limited by how much cash I had on hand!

  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    zorbaru wrote: »
    ...my issue is actually getting the body to do what the mind needs it to do...

    I would say your problem is actually the opposite.
    You need to get the mind to do what the body needs it to do. Trouble committing is not a fault of the body. The mind is making the choices here, and the body is just following along.

    You need to figure out why you keep failing. What's your motivation? How badly to you really want this? You have to want this change more than you want the comfort and familiarity of your old ways. Until this becomes a bigger priority than some of your other choices, you aren't likely to change.

    Change can be scary. Are you attempting to make these changes at too fast a pace and either burning out or psyching yourself out? Start gradually, make simple achievable changes, experience some small successes and build on those. Everybody loves to win. So set easier, more attainable goals to start, so you can feel the taste of victory. Once you start winning in small ways, you can set bigger goals.

    This all comes down to getting your head in the game. Without the right mindset, you're just spinning your wheels. Good luck!
  • ditditdee
    ditditdee Posts: 38 Member
    Do not let yourself get too hungry, that's a big pitfall for me. Everything goes out the window if I'm starving.
  • wellthenwhat
    wellthenwhat Posts: 526 Member
    It can be REALLY difficult! That's ok. Its ok to have bad days, its ok to fall. It's ok to not be good enough. It's ok to lose really slowly. It's ok to gain back 1 pound after losing 2. You just get back up and start again. I've done it, too. I was depressed all winter and logging was too hard. I am constantly fighting the munchies! But at the end of the day, I'm a bit fitter, and a bit stronger than the day before. Every little thing helps. On the contrary, it's little things that makes it hard. Sometimes you just gotta try different things and see what works for you. It's all in the baby steps
  • ekim2016
    ekim2016 Posts: 1,199 Member
    For me I just have to keep telling myself WHY I am here and on CICO. I want to be slender and healthy as opposed to morbidly obese. I am half way down to my goal since starting May 2016. It can be difficult but I just have to stay focused on the end game.... good luck you can do it!
  • ramonramirez1975
    ramonramirez1975 Posts: 36 Member
    zorbaru wrote: »
    really having trouble losing weight. i want to lose weight. i know how to lose weight in terms of food and excercise. my issue is actually getting the body to do what the mind needs it to do.

    every day i wake up saying "today is the day, im going to do this" and by lunch time im scoffing and iced coffee and eating crap again. if you look through my history on here, you will see that i have "restarted" many times.

    it is really starting to get me down. i dont know what to do.

    Hello, what I think will work for you is to build your diet around the food you're eating. You have to trick your mind and body into thinking you're eating certain foods, but in actuality your cutting most of the unhealthy carbs. For example, I eat Taco Bell daily, but I modify the food so I can get the best out of it. If I order a chicken burrito i ask to remove any type of dressing, sauce, and cheese, I eat everything inside and throw the giant tortilla in the trash. And I drink lots of water in between bites, also I eat a small bowl of fruit I get at the nearest 7/11. And a cup of coffee with a little French vanilla cream. My cravings for eating a burrito are gone.
  • ramonramirez1975
    ramonramirez1975 Posts: 36 Member
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    I paid $1.00 for 4oz of mixed fruit at 7/11.
    You can eat any foods just make better choices.