Older lady glared at me at the gym!!!
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You are the one making yourself uncomfortable by dwelling on this.
She may or may not have given you a look. So what? She didn't make nasty comments, dump water on you or anything really unpleasant. Maybe you actually have a less friendly expression on your face when you workout and she was thinking "WTF is her problem."
Maybe if you see her again smile and say hi.3 -
Maybe maybe she liked what you were wearing, maybe it was nothing but perhaps your own perception of what may or may not have been even happening..
What to do? nothing.1 -
What's the relevance of the 'older' in the subject and message? I would be classed as an older gym member (who has a RBF incidentally!) and am interested in why age has cropped up...... should I get paranoid about it? Was it me??? I do a lot of scrunched up faces as I can't wear my glasses in the gym and squint lots to see!4
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Next time I'll blow her a kiss2
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Lately, whenever I have a negative encounter with a stranger that leaves me scratching my head, I say this to them in my head: "May you be well. May you be happy. May you be free from suffering." I believe it's called a loving kindness meditation. It's from a book I'm reading. It really helps to move past situation like this because as others have said, it's hard to know what her problem was. It makes me feel better, at least.
Or if this ever happens again you can ask, "Excuse me, maam. Is there some problem I can help you with?" That's called the kill 'em with kindness. You may not like the answer, but at least you will know what the problem is.0 -
I'm an older lady. I try and keep the glares down to a minimum. As long as you wipe down the equipment after yourself I'm cool.7
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JourneeAfter0704 wrote: »Next time I'll blow her a kiss
inb4 we have a "some lady was making kissy faces towards me at the gym i feel violated" post7 -
I'd love to know what OP's definition of 'older lady' is. The poor woman is probably no more than 45, and was more than likely just concentrating on her workout.7
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What does it matter that she was older? Do you think she was envious of your youth or dislikes you because you're younger? Haha, as one of the "old" people (55) at the gym, I can tell you I never even think about who is there, what they look like, or even what they are doing. Im pretty much intent on what I'm doing. This does make me wonder tho if anyone has ever thought this about me as I'm pretty sure I make "faces" when I get going....5
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Is it just me that would have turned and said "Hi, I'm Suzanne. I'm new to this gym" ? Smile face1
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I would of walked over said "Hello" and started small talk about how great it is that she is working out! Sometimes a little kindness goes a long way!2
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My reference to older was meaning she was older then me . I am 30.1
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TavistockToad wrote: »VintageFeline wrote: »
Or you're projecting because you're still uncomfortable with going to the gym.
ladies and gentlemen, we have a winner.
+1
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BruinsGal_91 wrote: »I'd love to know what OP's definition of 'older lady' is. The poor woman is probably no more than 45, and was more than likely just concentrating on her workout.
Probably. Probably wasn't even looking at the OP.1 -
Whoa whoa hey now .... I guess my reference to older has some people's panties in a bunch. Wasn't asking for advice just talking about an experience I had. Next time I am will go say hi! I would love to make gym friends! Oh by the way...my gym partner is my 55 year old mother in law ...FYI1
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JourneeAfter0704 wrote: »Whoa whoa hey now .... I guess my reference to older has some people's panties in a bunch. Wasn't asking for advice just talking about an experience I had. Next time I am will go say hi! I would love to make gym friends! Oh by the way...my gym partner is my 55 year old mother in law ...FYI
and was the 'older' lady older than your MIL?1 -
I'm still trying to work out why the go-to assumption was she was glaring because you're not "ridiculously overweight"0
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TavistockToad wrote: »JourneeAfter0704 wrote: »Whoa whoa hey now .... I guess my reference to older has some people's panties in a bunch. Wasn't asking for advice just talking about an experience I had. Next time I am will go say hi! I would love to make gym friends! Oh by the way...my gym partner is my 55 year old mother in law ...FYI
and was the 'older' lady older than your MIL?
Yup0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »I'm still trying to work out why the go-to assumption was she was glaring because you're not "ridiculously overweight"
I must of missed that, I'm guess that's where the edit came in to the opening post?
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Alatariel75 wrote: »I'm still trying to work out why the go-to assumption was she was glaring because you're not "ridiculously overweight"
I removed that part of my post. I have been having alot (mostly family and friends) fit shaming me lately. Saying things like ..that's all your eating...didn't you just go the gym yesterday.... I wouldn't lose to much more weigh. Maybe I was projecting a little but she was defiantly glaring lol1
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