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    Older lady glared at me at the gym!!!

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    • Posts: 133 Member
      I would of walked over said "Hello" and started small talk about how great it is that she is working out! Sometimes a little kindness goes a long way!
    • Posts: 79 Member
      My reference to older was meaning she was older then me . I am 30.
    • Posts: 26,044 Member
      TavistockToad wrote: »
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      ladies and gentlemen, we have a winner.

      +1

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      BruinsGal_91 wrote: »
      I'd love to know what OP's definition of 'older lady' is. The poor woman is probably no more than 45, and was more than likely just concentrating on her workout.

      Probably. Probably wasn't even looking at the OP.
    • Posts: 79 Member
      Whoa whoa hey now .... I guess my reference to older has some people's panties in a bunch. Wasn't asking for advice just talking about an experience I had. Next time I am will go say hi! I would love to make gym friends! Oh by the way...my gym partner is my 55 year old mother in law ...FYI
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      JourneeAfter0704 wrote: »
      Whoa whoa hey now .... I guess my reference to older has some people's panties in a bunch. Wasn't asking for advice just talking about an experience I had. Next time I am will go say hi! I would love to make gym friends! Oh by the way...my gym partner is my 55 year old mother in law ...FYI

      and was the 'older' lady older than your MIL?
    • Posts: 18,885 Member
      edited March 2017
      I'm still trying to work out why the go-to assumption was she was glaring because you're not "ridiculously overweight"
    • Posts: 79 Member
      TavistockToad wrote: »
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      and was the 'older' lady older than your MIL?

      Yup
    • Posts: 5,864 Member
      Alatariel75 wrote: »
      I'm still trying to work out why the go-to assumption was she was glaring because you're not "ridiculously overweight"

      I must of missed that, I'm guess that's where the edit came in to the opening post?

    • Posts: 79 Member
      Alatariel75 wrote: »
      I'm still trying to work out why the go-to assumption was she was glaring because you're not "ridiculously overweight"

      I removed that part of my post. I have been having alot (mostly family and friends) fit shaming me lately. Saying things like ..that's all your eating...didn't you just go the gym yesterday.... I wouldn't lose to much more weigh. Maybe I was projecting a little but she was defiantly glaring lol
    • Posts: 8,578 Member
      If it happens again, why not just ask her?
    • Posts: 3,498 Member
      JourneeAfter0704 wrote: »
      I have no idea what her problem was

      Constipation probably.

    • Posts: 79 Member
      msf74 wrote: »
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      Constipation probably.

      Maybe the opposite maybe she was glaring maybe she had to go the bathroom and was holding it in.
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      JourneeAfter0704 wrote: »
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      Maybe the opposite maybe she was glaring maybe she had to go the bathroom and was holding it in.

      Maybe it burns when she pees.

      Poor lady.

      And here you are judging her. How dare you!
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      msf74 wrote: »
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      Maybe it burns when she pees.

      Poor lady.

      And here you are judging her. How dare you!

      For shame on me!! Never again!!
    • Posts: 1,794 Member
      deputy_randolph wrote: »
      Some old people are just mean...or maybe you were on her machine, who knows?

      Seriously? This made me laugh. Get off my lawn!
    • Posts: 79 Member
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    • Posts: 1,530 Member
      A couple of things. First, why are you focused on her? Your workout should be your focus. Next, are sure you weren't unwittingly committing some offense? You may have violated some unspoken etiquette. Maybe you had a bat in the cave. Maybe your pants were see through and you didn't know it. Maybe you look like someone she hates like her daughter-in-law. The possibilities are endless!
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      ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken wrote: »
      A couple of things. First, why are you focused on her? Your workout should be your focus. Next, are sure you weren't unwittingly committing some offense? You may have violated some unspoken etiquette. Maybe you had a bat in the cave. Maybe your pants were see through and you didn't know it. Maybe you look like someone she hates like her daughter-in-law. The possibilities are endless!

      It is a small gym, you never know!
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      JourneeAfter0704 wrote: »
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      Maybe the opposite maybe she was glaring maybe she had to go the bathroom and was holding it in.

      maybe she was loading her depends.
    • Posts: 3,498 Member
      ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken wrote: »
      Maybe you had a bat in the cave.

      A what now?!?

      I cannot tell you how much this thread has made me laugh.

      Thank you, OP.

      Thank you.

      On a more serious note, I guess the point here is obvious. In the absence of any compelling evidence either way the OP can choose to perceive this incident in any way she chooses, no one else. Therefore perceiving it in a funny or positive light is clearly in her interests and strongly recommended.
    • Posts: 455 Member
      I find a "can I help you?" goes a long way. Use your words!
    • Posts: 11 Member
      I think they are just jealous of your figure wishing they could somehow try to do some workout like yours. Even though your a newbie, just don't mind them. Be proud of who you are, no matter what shape you have for as long as you believe in yourself then nobody can ever let you down.
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      cherrypalmosa wrote: »
      I think they are just jealous of your figure wishing they could somehow try to do some workout like yours. Even though your a newbie, just don't mind them. Be proud of who you are, no matter what shape you have for as long as you believe in yourself then nobody can ever let you down.

      Lol
    • Posts: 133 Member
      For the record I get looks from all. Did not get caught up in the number thing but I get where you were going
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      I get where you are coming from because it never feels good to think someone is judging you, but you have to remember that EVERY person you interact with has their own sh** happening. I finally realized this when my Mom died and I went through weeks and weeks of being in a fog. I never smiled. It took a long time to smile again. I'm sure people thought I was dumb, mean, rude or other things but I was just in my own world and not paying attention to anything. I cried in public, I dropped things, I stood on the elevator too long, all kinds of stuff. I even stared as old ladies thinking about how they reminded me of Mom.

      This lady could have been thinking anything so until you KNOW someone intends to diss you, don't assume the worse. You will be a much happier person that way. Some older people can't see very well, some (like me) get lost in their thoughts and may look like they are staring but are just spaced out. Maybe she was admiring your leggings or thinking that your hair looked good for someone at the gym. Impossible to know!
    • Posts: 912 Member
      I vote NO on giving a crap what gym randos think, elderly or otherwise. I have enough friends. As long as you were polite, you get an A+ in people skills.
      Side note, my 93 year old uncle gets extremely angry at me when I refuse to open him a Snickers to "share" with my Chihuahua. So who knows?
    • Posts: 12,942 Member
      JourneeAfter0704 wrote: »
      Had an extremely awkward experience at the gym. I had an older lady glaring at me as I working out. I just joined the gym this week and I am gym newbie. I have no idea what her problem was but she was giving me this look like what are you doing here!

      That's how you are interpreting her look, when it was most likely not at all about you. ;)
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