I'm afraid of being stronger than men.
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gamerbabe14 wrote: »In college, I loved being stronger than men. It was a fun party trick to put someone on your back and squat them with a beer in your hand. I also got laid a lot.
I love your posts! You always make me giggle!3 -
livingleanlivingclean wrote: »Are there no men at your gym? They lift, don't they?
If you associate with like minded people, with similar hobbies, you'll meet people who enjoy similar things to you. Perhaps join a different gym with a focus on powerlifting or bodybuilding...
This was my thought. I'm happily married (19 years) to a guy who lifts, but if I wanted to find a date at my gym, I think I easily could (that sounds vain ).5 -
Or wear crazy high heels and ask him to carry you at the end of the night. If he can't then just hobble off to a cab and go your separate way.3
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quiksylver296 wrote: »livingleanlivingclean wrote: »Are there no men at your gym? They lift, don't they?
If you associate with like minded people, with similar hobbies, you'll meet people who enjoy similar things to you. Perhaps join a different gym with a focus on powerlifting or bodybuilding...
This was my thought. I'm happily married (19 years) to a guy who lifts, but if I wanted to find a date at my gym, I think I easily could (that sounds vain ).
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quiksylver296 wrote: »livingleanlivingclean wrote: »Are there no men at your gym? They lift, don't they?
If you associate with like minded people, with similar hobbies, you'll meet people who enjoy similar things to you. Perhaps join a different gym with a focus on powerlifting or bodybuilding...
This was my thought. I'm happily married (19 years) to a guy who lifts, but if I wanted to find a date at my gym, I think I easily could (that sounds vain ).
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Weight lifting shows a level of dedication and accomplishment. Being attracted to that is definitely NOT superficial.
You rock, and don't settle for someone that doesn't (in your eyes.)
I don't entirely agree with this. Dedication and accomplishment is something to be judged after the first date. Someone could be dedicated and accomplished in other areas but simply have no interest in this particular activity, or they could be a lifter who happens to be a lifter just because they are a control freak. Although having preferences (including aesthetic) is normal, choice of activity says little about a person.7 -
Never, ever dumb down for a man. Do your thing and the right man will come along!8
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Seriously? If you really want to meet lots of men who will be stronger than you, get yourself into the strength sports.4
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Rephrase your thoughts. "I'm afraid of being the best version of myself that I can be because of what other people might think." It sounds kinda silly when you put it like that, doesn't it?13
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If you're stronger than a potential mate, then you need to move on to someone else.
I have seen some very attractive girls incline pressing with 35-45lbs dumbells. Michelle Obama used 45lbs. Unfortunately, a lot of guys struggle with that weight on an incline press.
Women who lift and don't take hormones have the best bodies and overall aesthetic in my eyes.1 -
gamerbabe14 wrote: »In college, I loved being stronger than men. It was a fun party trick to put someone on your back and squat them with a beer in your hand. I also got laid a lot.
I used to win a LOT of suckers bets that way too! More beer money!!6 -
Um. It doesn't matter. Husband and I are stronger than each other in different ways. I lift, he doesn't.
And why would you bring stronger limit the dating pool unless you specifically introduced yourself as being strong? That's silly. "Hi, I'm xxxx and I'm most likely stronger than you". See? :laugh:2 -
I do have this nagging fear of like, being stronger than men.
You already are, you always were and you always will be.
That's nature, no matter how weak you are there will always be someone weaker, or stronger, when we come to that.
The solution to your problem is quite easy:
- Premise 1: You love strength training
- Premise 2: You want a mate that has more physical power than you
- Solution: Aim higher, look for heavyweight-boxers
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If I trained weight lifting as a full time job, I would never be as strong as my husband of 25 years. Even if he still only trained 3-5 hours a week. Biology is real and men are stronger than women by nature. I am stronger today than my 17 yo who just started lifting, but by the end of the year, he will blow me away. Biology is real. Testosterone matters in muscle development.
I'm content to be able to carry my children out of a burning building if I need to and be able to change the tire on my own car. Keep at it and don't worry about the guy in your life. If lifting creates a rift, maybe he's not the guy for you.7 -
If any man you're attracted to is intimidated by your strength, just club him over the head and drag him back to the cave.
You know. Paleo dating.29 -
My gym is pretty small, the men around my age who lift there generally say they are there to "get them off the couch" and are not competitive (so not powerlifters, basically regular people who enjoy going to the gym). I will never be as strong as them, they bench press more than I squat.
I imagine when I ask for a spot they might think "wow I've never seen a girl at this gym lift that much" but it's nowhere near what they lift lol.
^ And I'd have to agree, asking for a spot can be a good way to strike up a conversation. Or ask if they're done using something, a question about their training, etc. It's pretty much the same as talking to men who aren't at the gym, except sweatier.
My husband doesn't lift and I do, but I'll gladly take him to the store with so he can carry the dog food and carry all the groceries in the house.10 -
I think you're being pretty black and white about this. And you're worrying about something that hasn't even happened.
You're assuming you'll be stronger than Mr. Right.
You're assuming that he would care.
You're assuming that you would care...maybe you wouldn't if he doesn't care.
This also sort of falls into the "what if I'm taller than my date" issues. What if your Mr. Right is shorter? Does that really matter in the scheme of things? I'd pick Mr. Short and Right over Mr. Tall But A Jerk any day.
Seems to me Mr. Right would accept you as physically strong anyway.7 -
I'm female obviously. I recently started strength training after making tons of excuses not to haha. Guess what? I love it!!! LOVE it! It feels great and I'm looking great, and I love the whole lifestyle!
However, I do have this nagging fear of like, being stronger than men. Wouldn't that severely limit my dating pool? Because personally, I wouldn't want to date a man weaker than me. The guy I'm currently somewhat interested in doesn't have any muscle and I feel like now that I'm into lifting squatting and pressing, he's pretty much off the table. I feel like I need a guy who lifts, but I don't know ANY. What should I do?
PS I know people will call me superficial but I can't help but love a big strong man. it's some primal instinct in me.
How will you know that you are stronger...are you going to quiz them on the numbers? Also, chances are that it will be quite awhile, if ever (unless you're actually power lifting training) that you will be stronger than most men. I do know women who are stronger than I am (as per body weight to how much they can lift ratio)...but they are power lifters, I am not...I lift for general fitness and athleticism, not to squat a gazillion pounds...I'm a cycling enthusiast, not a strength athlete. If I trained like a power lifter, I'd likely surpass them relatively quickly as I already have more muscle mass than they do and I'd just have to adapt my neural system more than anything.
Really, you're the only one here limiting your dating pool...6 -
I thought the reason I did lift was to be stronger then a man. Silly me.
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do no worry about being stronger than men. keep lifting and get as strong or as big as you like. You probably are stronger than some men already and so what. only weak minded people will mind or not like it and you do not want an insecure man anyway.0
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