My parents are obsessed with trying to stop my weight loss
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I'm 34 & 5ft 0 & depending on bone structure I don't think it's unreasonable to lose more...people that are 5 ft with a small bone structure can look really healthy at around 100lbs. My goal for now is 105-115 (haven't been that weight as an adult) and when I told my mom that she was very adamant that I looked good when I got down to 125 abt 4 yrs ago. When I had gotten down to 125 I wasn't happy with how my body looked...I still had quite a bit of belly fat (always been a place I hold weight) and saddlebags (got those during/after pregnancy:/ ) so I know I definitely would've wanted to drop anywhere from 10-20more lbs at that point. On the other hand, when I look in the mirror I see the same stomach and thighs that I started with @ my high weight and only in a side by side picture can I see the real difference that has taken place. Maybe you should give your head a chance to catch up with your body, eat at maintenance for a little while, and work on tightening up the areas you're still unhappy with. Good luck...overly concerned parents can be hard, but being a parent myself I promise it's equally hard if not harder- it's been mom's job to keep you safe for a long long time putting you before herself over and over throughout the years. So, I know it's hard but until you worry about your own children it's hard to know what kind of responsibility you feel for your children and their wellbeing;)2
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LaauraLoses wrote: »If I do a recomp thing can I do my weight loss both together so I can be lighter and reducing body fat at the same time because I would like to do that and I don't really want to lie to my parents because they would just know anyway and it is just more arguments and comments if I do even if it's not a bad thing I am doing
The point of a recomp is to become thinner (and stronger) *not* lighter. At your weight, the number on the scale shouldn't matter; it doesn't need to go down. You don't need to get lighter; you want to lose fat. Which is probably fine - but if you can lose fat without getting lighter, that ought to be okay with you. If it isn't, you have to ask yourself why not.14 -
cassandrarodriguez89 wrote: »I had these issues with my step mother. She is morbidly obese, to the point her doctor begs her to stop eating just so she does not kill herself. She absolutely HATES me for being skinny. She brings it up a hundred times every time I visit. My father says he jealously obsesses about my weight.
Family is weird. I think I'd get sick of it and bring her some funeral planning materials, attached to an article like this one: https://www.boston.com/culture/health/2014/07/09/obesity-cuts-life-expectancy-by-up-to-14-years-study-shows0 -
A BMI of 22 sort of puts you in the normal category but it wouldn't be out of the ordinary for you to lose another 10 or 20 lbs depending on your height and weight. I'd take your mother with you to your health professional and get a check up and have the doctor speak with her. The worst thing you can do is fight with and get upset with your mother over this. She's only concerned about you but isn't very skilled at showing it in a productive, compassionate way. Maybe a health professional telling her you are doing ok and that it's ok to lose another 10 or 15 lbs will help to calm her down a bit.1
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Dang. Maybe get your mom into your meal plan. LOL That's what I did and she's always interested in what I cook when she visits. My dad on the other hand wants me to do weight training with him.. hehehhe1
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fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »So everyone that exercises alone is "grimly exercising"???
No, my child grimly exercising in isolation would be concerning to me. My child cheerfully exercising independently would not be.
I suspect you can tell when your kid is independent vs isolated, and when your kid is grim vs cheerful. None of us know for sure which of those the OP's mom is seeing.
Where did the OP talk about exercising behind closed doors, anyway? Guess I missed that.0 -
My mum doesn't want to join with me she is not really friendly like that she just says comments like I am too thin or I look bad or I need to stop because off my weight loss etc maybe she is trying to control I think that she definitely wants to tell me what things I have to do and if I don't agree she doesn't listen or talk to my opinion and explaining at all and my dad just always agrees with her always even if she is wrong and he just says that I have to listen to her but it is really frustrating because when she is wrong she just doesn't listen to me only what she thinks is true..
I don't understand why I should be okay not to lose fat and be lighter even though that is what I need to be happy with my body at the moment? I need to lose fat but why is it bad that I need to be lighter to? some people comment that it is good but some that I should be okay not to? I can do both off them to have my goal.0 -
Why is it important for you to be lighter to be happy? Why wouldn't having less fat and looking trim and toned, while at the same weight, make you happy?
To be honest, OP, I am wondering if you have an eating disorder. Maybe your mom is jealous or controlling, or maybe she is worried for totally justifiable reasons.13 -
fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »So everyone that exercises alone is "grimly exercising"???
No, my child grimly exercising in isolation would be concerning to me. My child cheerfully exercising independently would not be.
I suspect you can tell when your kid is independent vs isolated, and when your kid is grim vs cheerful. None of us know for sure which of those the OP's mom is seeing.
Where did the OP talk about exercising behind closed doors, anyway? Guess I missed that.
She didn't. But even if she did, it's not like being an introvert is a character flaw.
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As a Mom of 3, worry is what we do, it is who we are... as a person who has been working with a nutritionist for the past 5 months to make a lifestyle change I have learned that just because you lost weight it does not necessarily equate to Healthy. I have a friend who lost weight and she is no where close to being healthy, hair falling out, she looks pale, her nails are a mess and she is constantly fatigue. She is at her goal weight but no where near healthy. Best advice to you is to see a professional. Speak with your Dr. talk to a nutritionist, then you can tell your Mom what they said and how they gave you the thumbs up on being healthy. It may not stop your parents from "parenting" but in the end you will know where you are and if in fact you still need to lose weight, start maintenance and are indeed healthy. Good luck to you!3
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JohnnyPenso wrote: »A BMI of 22 sort of puts you in the normal category but it wouldn't be out of the ordinary for you to lose another 10 or 20 lbs depending on your height and weight. I'd take your mother with you to your health professional and get a check up and have the doctor speak with her. The worst thing you can do is fight with and get upset with your mother over this. She's only concerned about you but isn't very skilled at showing it in a productive, compassionate way. Maybe a health professional telling her you are doing ok and that it's ok to lose another 10 or 15 lbs will help to calm her down a bit.
Sort of? It's a quarter point above the middle of the normal range.2 -
fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »So everyone that exercises alone is "grimly exercising"???
No, my child grimly exercising in isolation would be concerning to me. My child cheerfully exercising independently would not be.
I suspect you can tell when your kid is independent vs isolated, and when your kid is grim vs cheerful. None of us know for sure which of those the OP's mom is seeing.
Where did the OP talk about exercising behind closed doors, anyway? Guess I missed that.
She didn't. As I explained upthread, it was a comment that @allyphoe made about a possible way to differentiate between a healthy mindset about weight loss and potentially disordered thinking about weight loss. It wasn't a suggestion that anyone who exercises alone has disordered thinking. It was a suggestion that there may be some warning signs that someone close to the OP may be seeing that don't come across in the information she is sharing here.
I'm not sure why you and others are trying to turn this into something it's not. It was a casual comment related to the OP and concern for her overall well being - both physical and emotional. Not a negative judgement against others, so I'm not sure why the attempt to suggest otherwise.
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WinoGelato wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »So everyone that exercises alone is "grimly exercising"???
No, my child grimly exercising in isolation would be concerning to me. My child cheerfully exercising independently would not be.
I suspect you can tell when your kid is independent vs isolated, and when your kid is grim vs cheerful. None of us know for sure which of those the OP's mom is seeing.
Where did the OP talk about exercising behind closed doors, anyway? Guess I missed that.
She didn't. As I explained upthread, it was a comment that @allyphoe made about a possible way to differentiate between a healthy mindset about weight loss and potentially disordered thinking about weight loss. It wasn't a suggestion that anyone who exercises alone has disordered thinking. It was a suggestion that there may be some warning signs that someone close to the OP may be seeing that don't come across in the information she is sharing here.
I'm not sure why you and others are trying to turn this into something it's not. It was a casual comment related to the OP and concern for her overall well being - both physical and emotional. Not a negative judgement against others, so I'm not sure why the attempt to suggest otherwise.
Because a closed door in and of itself is not a warning sign, it's a personal preference.1 -
heiliskrimsli wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »So everyone that exercises alone is "grimly exercising"???
No, my child grimly exercising in isolation would be concerning to me. My child cheerfully exercising independently would not be.
I suspect you can tell when your kid is independent vs isolated, and when your kid is grim vs cheerful. None of us know for sure which of those the OP's mom is seeing.
Where did the OP talk about exercising behind closed doors, anyway? Guess I missed that.
She didn't. As I explained upthread, it was a comment that @allyphoe made about a possible way to differentiate between a healthy mindset about weight loss and potentially disordered thinking about weight loss. It wasn't a suggestion that anyone who exercises alone has disordered thinking. It was a suggestion that there may be some warning signs that someone close to the OP may be seeing that don't come across in the information she is sharing here.
I'm not sure why you and others are trying to turn this into something it's not. It was a casual comment related to the OP and concern for her overall well being - both physical and emotional. Not a negative judgement against others, so I'm not sure why the attempt to suggest otherwise.
Because a closed door in and of itself is not a warning sign, it's a personal preference.
And no one said that it was. It was the "grimly" adverb that is something to focus on, not the closed door. The person who made the comment didn't even mention a door. It's about a frame of mind, not a physical environment.8 -
Sort of, yes. There is no single number that is "normal" and the OP might feel more normal at a BMI of 20 or 21 or some other figure. I know when I was losing weight and hit the normal range I wasn't satisfied with my progress at that point and knew I could do better and would feel and look better at a lower BMI. I was right.heiliskrimsli wrote: »JohnnyPenso wrote: »A BMI of 22 sort of puts you in the normal category but it wouldn't be out of the ordinary for you to lose another 10 or 20 lbs depending on your height and weight. I'd take your mother with you to your health professional and get a check up and have the doctor speak with her. The worst thing you can do is fight with and get upset with your mother over this. She's only concerned about you but isn't very skilled at showing it in a productive, compassionate way. Maybe a health professional telling her you are doing ok and that it's ok to lose another 10 or 15 lbs will help to calm her down a bit.
Sort of? It's a quarter point above the middle of the normal range.
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WinoGelato wrote: »heiliskrimsli wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »So everyone that exercises alone is "grimly exercising"???
No, my child grimly exercising in isolation would be concerning to me. My child cheerfully exercising independently would not be.
I suspect you can tell when your kid is independent vs isolated, and when your kid is grim vs cheerful. None of us know for sure which of those the OP's mom is seeing.
Where did the OP talk about exercising behind closed doors, anyway? Guess I missed that.
She didn't. As I explained upthread, it was a comment that @allyphoe made about a possible way to differentiate between a healthy mindset about weight loss and potentially disordered thinking about weight loss. It wasn't a suggestion that anyone who exercises alone has disordered thinking. It was a suggestion that there may be some warning signs that someone close to the OP may be seeing that don't come across in the information she is sharing here.
I'm not sure why you and others are trying to turn this into something it's not. It was a casual comment related to the OP and concern for her overall well being - both physical and emotional. Not a negative judgement against others, so I'm not sure why the attempt to suggest otherwise.
Because a closed door in and of itself is not a warning sign, it's a personal preference.
And no one said that it was. It was the "grimly" adverb that is something to focus on, not the closed door. The person who made the comment didn't even mention a door. It's about a frame of mind, not a physical environment.
That person combined grim and alone and cheerful and with a group as if those are the two possibilities. You wanna see me grimly exercise? Drag me to a damn Zumba class.8 -
LaauraLoses wrote: »My parents are obsessed with my weight at the moment and it's making me so frustrated my mum constantly says I am too thin and I need to stop losing weight and things like that and my dad just always agrees with whatever she says. I lost a lot of weight since last january about 22kg so I know it's a big change but she has been saying these things since I was BMI 27 and it's gotten a lot worse now I am just about BMI 22.
I am at a more healthy weight now than I have ever been and I have a small frame so I still think I want to lose a little more to be really happy with my size. How can I make her listen to me and understand and know it is my decision and that I am healthy and to stop constantly telling me what my body looks best like when it's not even hers?
Just gonna leave this right here.
I wonder if your mom is more concerned with your weight loss behaviors, but maybe isn't a great communicator and it sounds to you like she's telling you she doesn't like how you look.
Is that out of the question?
As a parent of a child who recovered from an ED, there are some spidey senses we have, but we love and care for you so much that sometimes how we express our concerns comes out wonky.
You could have a normal weight/BMI and still have problems with disordered eating.
If THAT'S what this is really all about, I would strongly recommend working with your parents to seek professional help.16 -
heiliskrimsli wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »heiliskrimsli wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »So everyone that exercises alone is "grimly exercising"???
No, my child grimly exercising in isolation would be concerning to me. My child cheerfully exercising independently would not be.
I suspect you can tell when your kid is independent vs isolated, and when your kid is grim vs cheerful. None of us know for sure which of those the OP's mom is seeing.
Where did the OP talk about exercising behind closed doors, anyway? Guess I missed that.
She didn't. As I explained upthread, it was a comment that @allyphoe made about a possible way to differentiate between a healthy mindset about weight loss and potentially disordered thinking about weight loss. It wasn't a suggestion that anyone who exercises alone has disordered thinking. It was a suggestion that there may be some warning signs that someone close to the OP may be seeing that don't come across in the information she is sharing here.
I'm not sure why you and others are trying to turn this into something it's not. It was a casual comment related to the OP and concern for her overall well being - both physical and emotional. Not a negative judgement against others, so I'm not sure why the attempt to suggest otherwise.
Because a closed door in and of itself is not a warning sign, it's a personal preference.
And no one said that it was. It was the "grimly" adverb that is something to focus on, not the closed door. The person who made the comment didn't even mention a door. It's about a frame of mind, not a physical environment.
That person combined grim and alone and cheerful and with a group as if those are the two possibilities. You wanna see me grimly exercise? Drag me to a damn Zumba class.
This was the original quote that set you off. You misinterpreted her comment and chose to focus on the "isolation" piece rather than the grimly piece. It was a hypothetical comment about some ways to assess the motivation of a teenager. I'm not sure why you are so against the idea that a parent might have concerns about the mindset of their child when it comes to weight loss, and that there may be warning signs to watch out for in a young adult.You have about the same BMI as my kid, who has probably achieved her adult height and who unsurprisingly looks entirely weight-height appropriate to me. A BMI of 22 is right about 50th percentile for 18yos. So I have no complaint with that size. My concern has more to do with mental state than physical size.
"I want to lose a little more to be really happy with my size" is an enormous red flag for me. There's no size that causes happiness.
Additionally, I would be less concerned with weight that fell off due to cutting back sugar, increasing vegetables, and picking up an active hobby than I would be with weight that fell off due to skipping breakfast and lunch, cutting out as much fat as possible, and grimly exercising in isolation.
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heiliskrimsli wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »heiliskrimsli wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »So everyone that exercises alone is "grimly exercising"???
No, my child grimly exercising in isolation would be concerning to me. My child cheerfully exercising independently would not be.
I suspect you can tell when your kid is independent vs isolated, and when your kid is grim vs cheerful. None of us know for sure which of those the OP's mom is seeing.
Where did the OP talk about exercising behind closed doors, anyway? Guess I missed that.
She didn't. As I explained upthread, it was a comment that @allyphoe made about a possible way to differentiate between a healthy mindset about weight loss and potentially disordered thinking about weight loss. It wasn't a suggestion that anyone who exercises alone has disordered thinking. It was a suggestion that there may be some warning signs that someone close to the OP may be seeing that don't come across in the information she is sharing here.
I'm not sure why you and others are trying to turn this into something it's not. It was a casual comment related to the OP and concern for her overall well being - both physical and emotional. Not a negative judgement against others, so I'm not sure why the attempt to suggest otherwise.
Because a closed door in and of itself is not a warning sign, it's a personal preference.
And no one said that it was. It was the "grimly" adverb that is something to focus on, not the closed door. The person who made the comment didn't even mention a door. It's about a frame of mind, not a physical environment.
That person combined grim and alone and cheerful and with a group as if those are the two possibilities. You wanna see me grimly exercise? Drag me to a damn Zumba class.
the poster didn't say that there were only two alternatives, i think that maybe you are reading too much into that. it's pretty common to use two things in a comparison, but it's not logical to assume that the person making the comparison thinks they are the only two things that exist.5 -
jessiferrrb wrote: »heiliskrimsli wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »heiliskrimsli wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »So everyone that exercises alone is "grimly exercising"???
No, my child grimly exercising in isolation would be concerning to me. My child cheerfully exercising independently would not be.
I suspect you can tell when your kid is independent vs isolated, and when your kid is grim vs cheerful. None of us know for sure which of those the OP's mom is seeing.
Where did the OP talk about exercising behind closed doors, anyway? Guess I missed that.
She didn't. As I explained upthread, it was a comment that @allyphoe made about a possible way to differentiate between a healthy mindset about weight loss and potentially disordered thinking about weight loss. It wasn't a suggestion that anyone who exercises alone has disordered thinking. It was a suggestion that there may be some warning signs that someone close to the OP may be seeing that don't come across in the information she is sharing here.
I'm not sure why you and others are trying to turn this into something it's not. It was a casual comment related to the OP and concern for her overall well being - both physical and emotional. Not a negative judgement against others, so I'm not sure why the attempt to suggest otherwise.
Because a closed door in and of itself is not a warning sign, it's a personal preference.
And no one said that it was. It was the "grimly" adverb that is something to focus on, not the closed door. The person who made the comment didn't even mention a door. It's about a frame of mind, not a physical environment.
That person combined grim and alone and cheerful and with a group as if those are the two possibilities. You wanna see me grimly exercise? Drag me to a damn Zumba class.
the poster didn't say that there were only two alternatives, i think that maybe you are reading too much into that. it's pretty common to use two things in a comparison, but it's not logical to assume that the person making the comparison thinks they are the only two things that exist.
I actually can't find a reference to exercising alone vs in a group in this thread. There was a reference to exercising in grim isolation, with no alternative, and then later when challenged on it, there was a reference to grim isolation vs cheerful independence. In both of those statements, I imagine the individual to be exercising alone, but it is again, the mindset and motivation driving that person that indicates whether it is something to be concerned about, when we are talking about an 18 year old girl who has made other comments that suggest there may be some underlying disordered thinking.
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WinoGelato wrote: »jessiferrrb wrote: »heiliskrimsli wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »heiliskrimsli wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »So everyone that exercises alone is "grimly exercising"???
No, my child grimly exercising in isolation would be concerning to me. My child cheerfully exercising independently would not be.
I suspect you can tell when your kid is independent vs isolated, and when your kid is grim vs cheerful. None of us know for sure which of those the OP's mom is seeing.
Where did the OP talk about exercising behind closed doors, anyway? Guess I missed that.
She didn't. As I explained upthread, it was a comment that @allyphoe made about a possible way to differentiate between a healthy mindset about weight loss and potentially disordered thinking about weight loss. It wasn't a suggestion that anyone who exercises alone has disordered thinking. It was a suggestion that there may be some warning signs that someone close to the OP may be seeing that don't come across in the information she is sharing here.
I'm not sure why you and others are trying to turn this into something it's not. It was a casual comment related to the OP and concern for her overall well being - both physical and emotional. Not a negative judgement against others, so I'm not sure why the attempt to suggest otherwise.
Because a closed door in and of itself is not a warning sign, it's a personal preference.
And no one said that it was. It was the "grimly" adverb that is something to focus on, not the closed door. The person who made the comment didn't even mention a door. It's about a frame of mind, not a physical environment.
That person combined grim and alone and cheerful and with a group as if those are the two possibilities. You wanna see me grimly exercise? Drag me to a damn Zumba class.
the poster didn't say that there were only two alternatives, i think that maybe you are reading too much into that. it's pretty common to use two things in a comparison, but it's not logical to assume that the person making the comparison thinks they are the only two things that exist.
I actually can't find a reference to exercising alone vs in a group in this thread. There was a reference to exercising in grim isolation, with no alternative, and then later when challenged on it, there was a reference to grim isolation vs cheerful independence. In both of those statements, I imagine the individual to be exercising alone, but it is again, the mindset and motivation driving that person that indicates whether it is something to be concerned about, when we are talking about an 18 year old girl who has made other comments that suggest there may be some underlying disordered thinking.
i stand corrected then, i thought i remembered some comparison, but it may have been a later post. i don't want to derail the thread any further.0 -
LaauraLoses wrote: »My mum doesn't want to join with me she is not really friendly like that she just says comments like I am too thin or I look bad or I need to stop because off my weight loss etc maybe she is trying to control I think that she definitely wants to tell me what things I have to do and if I don't agree she doesn't listen or talk to my opinion and explaining at all and my dad just always agrees with her always even if she is wrong and he just says that I have to listen to her but it is really frustrating because when she is wrong she just doesn't listen to me only what she thinks is true..
I don't understand why I should be okay not to lose fat and be lighter even though that is what I need to be happy with my body at the moment? I need to lose fat but why is it bad that I need to be lighter to? some people comment that it is good but some that I should be okay not to? I can do both off them to have my goal.
My post is assuming that you're 18 and over something tells me you may be younger... my advice to you if you're 18 and over is How about you do whatever you want to do because at the end of the day it's YOUR body and only things you allow occur. People can have their own opinions about things it's okay; however, it's up to the individual to determine if they actually want to listen to it or not. If that was my mother I would just say "thank you for your opinion" and just do whatever I feel like doing. If you're mother has concerns that you have an eating disorder and is genuinely worried about you feel free as others noted to make a doctor appointment and they can let you BOTH know how you're health is progressing. If things are perfect than that should quiet the mother down. If you do have a health condition or you're underweight than you'll be able to get the help you need.
Op at the end of the day it's your life...
If you're under 18 this site isn't for you and try using sparkteens.1 -
LaauraLoses wrote: »I don't understand why I should be okay not to lose fat and be lighter even though that is what I need to be happy with my body at the moment? I need to lose fat but why is it bad that I need to be lighter to? some people comment that it is good but some that I should be okay not to? I can do both off them to have my goal.
The above statements in the context of a young female of normal weight who is the process of dieting and losing weight are spidey sense tingling.
If one of my friends' 16-20 yo normal weight girls walked up to me and said "I want to be lighter to be happy with my body", "yeah, I want to lose some fat; but I am more interested in losing some weight right now to feel good about myself", you bet I would be slightly concerned.
Whether that concern would be justified, or not, remains subject to discussion...14 -
fitoverfortymom wrote: »LaauraLoses wrote: »My parents are obsessed with my weight at the moment and it's making me so frustrated my mum constantly says I am too thin and I need to stop losing weight and things like that and my dad just always agrees with whatever she says. I lost a lot of weight since last january about 22kg so I know it's a big change but she has been saying these things since I was BMI 27 and it's gotten a lot worse now I am just about BMI 22.
I am at a more healthy weight now than I have ever been and I have a small frame so I still think I want to lose a little more to be really happy with my size. How can I make her listen to me and understand and know it is my decision and that I am healthy and to stop constantly telling me what my body looks best like when it's not even hers?
Just gonna leave this right here.
I wonder if your mom is more concerned with your weight loss behaviors, but maybe isn't a great communicator and it sounds to you like she's telling you she doesn't like how you look.
Is that out of the question?
As a parent of a child who recovered from an ED, there are some spidey senses we have, but we love and care for you so much that sometimes how we express our concerns comes out wonky.
You could have a normal weight/BMI and still have problems with disordered eating.
If THAT'S what this is really all about, I would strongly recommend working with your parents to seek professional help.
@LaauraLoses I also think professional help is needed. A good place to start would be discussing your weight and goals with your doctor in front of your mother. I find her wanting to weigh you an intrusive desire for a mother of an adult.
Now, my own mother would not hesitate to get my brother on the scale if she thought he was losing too much weight. But then, he has neurological issues and other challenges which makes her inclination towards bad boundaries justified in her mind.LaauraLoses wrote: »I already have been doing different exercises and doing lower body fat whilst I was losing weight because I didn't want to be skinny fat but I think I can only get extra muscles when I am not losing weight I think? I do want to do that more but I definitely want to lose a bit extra weight so I can be happy and more comfortable with my body totally. I feel bad about telling my parents that I stopped my weight loss when I didn't because she will be able to tell anyway and she already keeps saying she wants to weigh me to make sure even though I'm 18?? I don't want to lie to her but I do want to lose weight too as well as get more muscles.
My mum is overweight or obese but my dad is always a normal weight or a bit higher maybe? My height is 153 cm and my weight is 50.8 kg I am pretty sure I did my BMI right I used more than one site to check it0 -
No I want to be lighter and less fat for my body because it will be more normal and happy for my body I have a very small frame so it will be better at a lower BMI but still healthy. why would it be bad for me to need to do both of those things to be better for my body? It will make me happy for my body to be better and more healthy and normal why would that be a bad thing. I don't have an eating disorder I am healthy and always eat healthy foods and I lost lots of weight slowly and did exercise to have a lower body fat. I don't know why people comment that I exercise isolated I don't do that I only do exercise with walking and dancing nothing else.2
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And I am 18 I don't know why you comment that something tells you I may be younger because I'm not0
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"I want to lose a little more to be really happy with my size" is an enormous red flag for me. There's no size that causes happiness..
I appreciate what you mean by this, but actually I find that when I was 16&17 I dropped all my puppy fat from a generous UK10 to UK6 (I am extremely short and according to my dr was at my physical peak with toned muscles, low body fat %) I was perfectly happy and honestly felt like I was exactly the way I wanted to look...I had never been so happy in my life and nothing changed in my life other than my weight loss.
OP if you feel the desire, I encourage you to pursue that goal! Just make sure that you aren't dropping below what's healthy!
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What they are trying to say is if you recomp and build muscle you will possibly weigh more but look leaner than if you just lost weight and are lighter but still look. . . squishy?. .kinda. That is if looking healthier is what you are after and not just a lower number on the scale . i would rather weigh 120 and look leaner than 100 and look pudgy still.11
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