People who pick a fight for no reason.
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It goes down at the fabric store.
A yard of polyester gets sold in this burg, I want in!
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A yard?! Sounds like my kind of porn!2
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At mall of america a woman who was hardly watching her 2 year old was sitting at the entrance on her phone. Suddenly the ladies child sits down next to my friend who strongly dislikes children. Friend does nothing until the child tries to grab my friend's bag. My friend jumped and grabbed her bag and the child starts screaming bloody murder and runs off. The mom flies over, starts yelling at my friend and accusing her of hitting her kid and being racist and causing a big scene. My friend yells back that if she gave two *kitten* about her kid she might actually keep her eye on her because she's headed down the escalator. Woman doesn't leave just keeps causing a scene and yelling nonsense. Tourists are watching and one came up and told me they contacted security. Suddenly the woman shuts her mouth and runs in the direction of the now out of sight 2 or 3 year old. Security shows up and we give her description and they leave. One person talked to us for a moment and says they think she taught the kid to steal stuff because the kid was very interested in people's shopping bags and purses as the mom was causing a scene. Just insane.3
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Broomstick_Boo wrote: »A yard?! Sounds like my kind of porn!
I should qualify that I actually get excited that people still know how to measure in yards. Not that someone whipping out a yard stick gets my motor going.
Unless it's Mr Boo, of course...2 -
At mall of america a woman who was hardly watching her 2 year old was sitting at the entrance on her phone. Suddenly the ladies child sits down next to my friend who strongly dislikes children. Friend does nothing until the child tries to grab my friend's bag. My friend jumped and grabbed her bag and the child starts screaming bloody murder and runs off. The mom flies over, starts yelling at my friend and accusing her of hitting her kid and being racist and causing a big scene. My friend yells back that if she gave two *kitten* about her kid she might actually keep her eye on her because she's headed down the escalator. Woman doesn't leave just keeps causing a scene and yelling nonsense. Tourists are watching and one came up and told me they contacted security. Suddenly the woman shuts her mouth and runs in the direction of the now out of sight 2 or 3 year old. Security shows up and we give her description and they leave. One person talked to us for a moment and says they think she taught the kid to steal stuff because the kid was very interested in people's shopping bags and purses as the mom was causing a scene. Just insane.
Would be interesting to hear the other side of this story - as your friend sounds OTT too - no need to yell back at the mother, just explain what happened or move on.
and 2 year olds are interested in everything and dont have social boundaries - I wouldnt want to assume that every toddler who has taken interest in my bag or whatever has been taught to steal.
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paperpudding wrote: »At mall of america a woman who was hardly watching her 2 year old was sitting at the entrance on her phone. Suddenly the ladies child sits down next to my friend who strongly dislikes children. Friend does nothing until the child tries to grab my friend's bag. My friend jumped and grabbed her bag and the child starts screaming bloody murder and runs off. The mom flies over, starts yelling at my friend and accusing her of hitting her kid and being racist and causing a big scene. My friend yells back that if she gave two *kitten* about her kid she might actually keep her eye on her because she's headed down the escalator. Woman doesn't leave just keeps causing a scene and yelling nonsense. Tourists are watching and one came up and told me they contacted security. Suddenly the woman shuts her mouth and runs in the direction of the now out of sight 2 or 3 year old. Security shows up and we give her description and they leave. One person talked to us for a moment and says they think she taught the kid to steal stuff because the kid was very interested in people's shopping bags and purses as the mom was causing a scene. Just insane.
Would be interesting to hear the other side of this story - as your friend sounds OTT too - no need to yell back at the mother, just explain what happened or move on.
and 2 year olds are interested in everything and dont have social boundaries - I wouldnt want to assume that every toddler who has taken interest in my bag or whatever has been taught to steal.
Oh she was nice at first. Literally told the lady what happened but the lady didn't care and had her own version of things. She was not watching her kid at all and just stood there yelling and my friend is not easily intimidated and yes she did fire back after a few minutes because she wanted the lady to go get her kid. I stood there watching this all in pure amazement and so were many other people. Also, I have kids. No way would I allow them at any age to crawl all over random people and try to go through their bags and run around a mall unnattended. Yes, my friend could have just walked away and said nothing but she too was caught off guard by this insane amount of over reaction.
Basically, lady should have been watching her kid and not assumed that my friend's reaction (jumped and pulled her bags to her) to her small child grabbing her bags was malicious or racist. We didn't think the kid was doing anything crazy either but obviously the tourist was concerned about possible pick pockets or something because of how the lady kept going on instead of grabbing her kid and walking away. Also, we were 16 when this happened and this women, who looked to be in her 30s, kept telling my friend that she was going to take her outside and beat her *kitten*. She was hostile and we were just waiting for our ride to go home.0 -
Today I was at the fabric store, talking on the phone, and noticed this woman walking around me. She stopped to listen in on my discussion. I walked away and soon ended my phone call. Then I hear that nosy woman talking loudly to a store employee complaining about me and how she didn't like my attitude? I was never loud, angry, or rude. Then she continued to follow me even up to the register to pay. I looked and she was scowling. Very creepy!
Did you have a similar experience with some stranger in public?
Has anyone ever tried to start a fight with you because of your size (big or small) or because you have muscles or look strong?
Give us your thoughts! ☺
I will bring up the elephant in the room as I am curious about what you were talking about. Don't need specifics but was it political in any way, or otherwise controversial, or was it innocuous like, "Take the 9 bus to the Falcon St stop?" Could help to explain her. She could have been making assumptions about you based on your appearance.
But you didn't ask for me to dissect your situation. You asked if we have had our own nutjobs.
I've had pervs waggle their willies at me.
I've had beggars ask for money - and those dynamics are interesting because I have had everyone from people who look homeless to scammers who try to fit in with the people around them - like on a tourist strip.
But I've never had anyone actually try to start a fight. I think it helps that I am fairly attractive, carry myself with confidence (looks are deceiving aren't they) and will politely make eye contact with you. But it is also luck. I could be just the look a really crazy person needs to set off an episode.
I feel for you.
It's ok to ask what I was talking about. ☺
I was on the phone with my mother because she wanted to know if I could do some shopping for her. She also asked how I was doing and what I was up to. I didn't crack any jokes either. Really boring stuff but I can see why you would ask.
Looking back, I wasn't overly dressed or wearing anything offensive. Just a tank top, pants, and sandles. Maybe I looked like someone she hated? I don't know.0 -
Could you take her if you had to?2
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Broomstick_Boo wrote: »Broomstick_Boo wrote: »A yard?! Sounds like my kind of porn!
I should qualify that I actually get excited that people still know how to measure in yards. Not that someone whipping out a yard stick gets my motor going.
Unless it's Mr Boo, of course...
I hope he measures twice and cuts once.... a yard could mean a big gap...lol0 -
abitoftrouble wrote: »My husband and I were at dinner one night and we couldn't decide what to order. The table next to us (an obvious lesbian couple) was receiving their food. So we looked to see what they had ordered. The plates looked amazing so we stared a while to figure out what they had ordered. We ordered our dinner and we're enjoying our meals when the table next to us finished. As they were leaving the restaurant, the more insecure of the two came up to our table and said "why don't you take a picture, it will last longer". I was shocked! Mostly because she had all dinner to think of something to say and that's the best she could do. But also because we were only admiring their plates and don't care what they eat after dinner. Naturally, I caused a huge scene and embarrassed her more than she could do herself. Got them removed from the restaurant and got the dinner comped and laughed hysterically all the way home. If you can't handle being out in public, don't go out in public. But also don't *kitten* with me and my food.
instead of staring at someone elses table (which is abit weird) - wouldn't it have been politer/easier to just say "excuse me, sorry to trouble you but your food looks delicious, what is it? I'd like to order it too"
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When people do this kinda *kitten* to me I give them dirty looks back. If they're gonna be *kitten* and try to bully me, I'm gonna show them I'm not the one to *kitten* with.0
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Sigh ... I will even take half a yard3
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There is a crazy guy who walks around my neighborhood. He is a retired physicist. He will just walk up to people in the store or out on the streets and just start yelling at them about nothing, and I mean nothing. Like once I saw him walk up and corner someone to start screaming at the poor guy about our government, and to my knowledge the guy never said anything that had to do with the government, or even told him his political point of view. He just randomly started yelling at him. Sounds like she was a lot like him. Some people aren't necessarily provoked by you, they are just struggling with a thunderstorm in their own minds and they sometimes can't keep it to themselves and take it out on the rest of us... I wouldn't worry about it too much, chances are you will never see that woman again Sadly I will probably see Crazy McGee again, but I have chosen over the years to find it "entertaining"4
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abitoftrouble wrote: »My husband and I were at dinner one night and we couldn't decide what to order. The table next to us (an obvious lesbian couple) was receiving their food. So we looked to see what they had ordered. The plates looked amazing so we stared a while to figure out what they had ordered. We ordered our dinner and we're enjoying our meals when the table next to us finished. As they were leaving the restaurant, the more insecure of the two came up to our table and said "why don't you take a picture, it will last longer". I was shocked! Mostly because she had all dinner to think of something to say and that's the best she could do. But also because we were only admiring their plates and don't care what they eat after dinner. Naturally, I caused a huge scene and embarrassed her more than she could do herself. Got them removed from the restaurant and got the dinner comped and laughed hysterically all the way home. If you can't handle being out in public, don't go out in public. But also don't *kitten* with me and my food.
I am not sure what their sexual orientation adds to this post other than it's clear from the way you said it that, yeah, you noticed something aside from their dinner and they felt that you needed to be called on it. The sad part is that the restaurant took your side rather than theirs. Although, rather than complain directly to you, they should have taken their complaint (hostile eating environment) to the management. IMO had they done that, they would have had their meal comped -- not you.
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Breeticus87 wrote: »There is a crazy guy who walks around my neighborhood. He is a retired physicist. He will just walk up to people in the store or out on the streets and just start yelling at them about nothing, and I mean nothing. Like once I saw him walk up and corner someone to start screaming at the poor guy about our government, and to my knowledge the guy never said anything that had to do with the government, or even told him his political point of view. He just randomly started yelling at him. Sounds like she was a lot like him. Some people aren't necessarily provoked by you, they are just struggling with a thunderstorm in their own minds and they sometimes can't keep it to themselves and take it out on the rest of us... I wouldn't worry about it too much, chances are you will never see that woman again Sadly I will probably see Crazy McGee again, but I have chosen over the years to find it "entertaining"
This is very much along the lines of what my family said. I was a bit taken aback when I explained what happened. Later on, I walked through everything that happened, in my head, to see if I did anything wrong. I didn't. You are very right about the "thunderstorms in their own minds". I was in the wrong place at the wrong time.1 -
TannedTiger wrote: »happens at home everyday....
Me too. And I live by myself!3 -
I was in line at a Subway about three months ago, and I was two spots behind a lady who asked lots of questions about various combinations of fillings and their cost and whether they would work with some kind of promotional deal that was running at the time. Her order took really long to complete, so when she was finally done, the lady making the subs turned to the lady in front of me and said "Sorry for the wait, what would you like?" or something like that.
Well, the first lady just flew off the handle at that comment. She was screaming at the sub maker and the lady in front of me. "Why are you apologizing for!? Did I do something wrong!? I didn't do anything wrong! There's nothing to apologize for!" That went on for a solid minute or so, and the lady making the subs looked like she was trying not to cry.1 -
abitoftrouble wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »My husband and I were at dinner one night and we couldn't decide what to order. The table next to us (an obvious lesbian couple) was receiving their food. So we looked to see what they had ordered. The plates looked amazing so we stared a while to figure out what they had ordered. We ordered our dinner and we're enjoying our meals when the table next to us finished. As they were leaving the restaurant, the more insecure of the two came up to our table and said "why don't you take a picture, it will last longer". I was shocked! Mostly because she had all dinner to think of something to say and that's the best she could do. But also because we were only admiring their plates and don't care what they eat after dinner. Naturally, I caused a huge scene and embarrassed her more than she could do herself. Got them removed from the restaurant and got the dinner comped and laughed hysterically all the way home. If you can't handle being out in public, don't go out in public. But also don't *kitten* with me and my food.
I am not sure what their sexual orientation adds to this post other than it's clear from the way you said it that, yeah, you noticed something aside from their dinner and they felt that you needed to be called on it. The sad part is that the restaurant took your side rather than theirs. Although, rather than complain directly to you, they should have taken their complaint (hostile eating environment) to the management. IMO had they done that, they would have had their meal comped -- not you.
I noted it because she was obviously insecure about it. I am a gay man, we can smell our own.
Not sure why you didnt just politely ask them what they had ordered - as it looked yummy so you wanted to order it yourself sometime.
Having somebody stare at my meal would make me uncomfortable too - I dont think that has anything to do with anyone's sexuality.
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paperpudding wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »My husband and I were at dinner one night and we couldn't decide what to order. The table next to us (an obvious lesbian couple) was receiving their food. So we looked to see what they had ordered. The plates looked amazing so we stared a while to figure out what they had ordered. We ordered our dinner and we're enjoying our meals when the table next to us finished. As they were leaving the restaurant, the more insecure of the two came up to our table and said "why don't you take a picture, it will last longer". I was shocked! Mostly because she had all dinner to think of something to say and that's the best she could do. But also because we were only admiring their plates and don't care what they eat after dinner. Naturally, I caused a huge scene and embarrassed her more than she could do herself. Got them removed from the restaurant and got the dinner comped and laughed hysterically all the way home. If you can't handle being out in public, don't go out in public. But also don't *kitten* with me and my food.
I am not sure what their sexual orientation adds to this post other than it's clear from the way you said it that, yeah, you noticed something aside from their dinner and they felt that you needed to be called on it. The sad part is that the restaurant took your side rather than theirs. Although, rather than complain directly to you, they should have taken their complaint (hostile eating environment) to the management. IMO had they done that, they would have had their meal comped -- not you.
I noted it because she was obviously insecure about it. I am a gay man, we can smell our own.
Not sure why you didnt just politely ask them what they had ordered - as it looked yummy so you wanted to order it yourself sometime.
Having somebody stare at my meal would make me uncomfortable too - I dont think that has anything to do with anyone's sexuality.
I just saw it as a descriptive element to the story; that's all.
Anytime we hear or read a story, we create an image of what the setting looked like.
I just pictured two ladies, wearing plaid flannel shirts, both with Rachel Maddow haircuts sitting at a small table in the middle of a Red Lobster dining room.
.... but I could be wrong.2 -
I live with someone who picks fights for no reason0
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There are many people in life that pick fights, on in the world, at work, on MFP!
best solution is ignore them, be polite (that annoys them) and carry on with your life. (unless they're violent etc)5 -
abitoftrouble wrote: »paperpudding wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »My husband and I were at dinner one night and we couldn't decide what to order. The table next to us (an obvious lesbian couple) was receiving their food. So we looked to see what they had ordered. The plates looked amazing so we stared a while to figure out what they had ordered. We ordered our dinner and we're enjoying our meals when the table next to us finished. As they were leaving the restaurant, the more insecure of the two came up to our table and said "why don't you take a picture, it will last longer". I was shocked! Mostly because she had all dinner to think of something to say and that's the best she could do. But also because we were only admiring their plates and don't care what they eat after dinner. Naturally, I caused a huge scene and embarrassed her more than she could do herself. Got them removed from the restaurant and got the dinner comped and laughed hysterically all the way home. If you can't handle being out in public, don't go out in public. But also don't *kitten* with me and my food.
I am not sure what their sexual orientation adds to this post other than it's clear from the way you said it that, yeah, you noticed something aside from their dinner and they felt that you needed to be called on it. The sad part is that the restaurant took your side rather than theirs. Although, rather than complain directly to you, they should have taken their complaint (hostile eating environment) to the management. IMO had they done that, they would have had their meal comped -- not you.
I noted it because she was obviously insecure about it. I am a gay man, we can smell our own.
Not sure why you didnt just politely ask them what they had ordered - as it looked yummy so you wanted to order it yourself sometime.
Having somebody stare at my meal would make me uncomfortable too - I dont think that has anything to do with anyone's sexuality.
No, I'm pretty sure you are wrong.
What am I wrong about?
That someone staring at my meal would make me uncomfortable?? That whether someone staring at my meal has something to do with their or my sexuality?? That you couldn't just ask them what dish they had ordered??
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besides that, how was dinner?1
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A few years ago I was on a long line at the drug store. The lady behind me was talking on her cell phone, "You know what you did, you know what you did, you know what you did, YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DID!' Over and over again!
I finally turned around and asked "What did he do?"
She said "Do you mind, this is a private conversation!!"
I said "No, it's not, we can all hear you"
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FabulousFantasticFifty wrote: »I live with someone who picks fights for no reason
That sounds difficult and stressful.1 -
abitoftrouble wrote: »paperpudding wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »paperpudding wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »My husband and I were at dinner one night and we couldn't decide what to order. The table next to us (an obvious lesbian couple) was receiving their food. So we looked to see what they had ordered. The plates looked amazing so we stared a while to figure out what they had ordered. We ordered our dinner and we're enjoying our meals when the table next to us finished. As they were leaving the restaurant, the more insecure of the two came up to our table and said "why don't you take a picture, it will last longer". I was shocked! Mostly because she had all dinner to think of something to say and that's the best she could do. But also because we were only admiring their plates and don't care what they eat after dinner. Naturally, I caused a huge scene and embarrassed her more than she could do herself. Got them removed from the restaurant and got the dinner comped and laughed hysterically all the way home. If you can't handle being out in public, don't go out in public. But also don't *kitten* with me and my food.
I am not sure what their sexual orientation adds to this post other than it's clear from the way you said it that, yeah, you noticed something aside from their dinner and they felt that you needed to be called on it. The sad part is that the restaurant took your side rather than theirs. Although, rather than complain directly to you, they should have taken their complaint (hostile eating environment) to the management. IMO had they done that, they would have had their meal comped -- not you.
I noted it because she was obviously insecure about it. I am a gay man, we can smell our own.
Not sure why you didnt just politely ask them what they had ordered - as it looked yummy so you wanted to order it yourself sometime.
Having somebody stare at my meal would make me uncomfortable too - I dont think that has anything to do with anyone's sexuality.
No, I'm pretty sure you are wrong.
What am I wrong about?
That someone staring at my meal would make me uncomfortable?? That whether someone staring at my meal has something to do with their or my sexuality?? That you couldn't just ask them what dish they had ordered??
A. Her sexuality being her issue
B. Your assumption that we were gawking at their table for an absurd amount of time. We are talking a matter of seconds.
C. How little concern I have for your comfort in a restaurant
D. How much value I place on your opinion of my situation.
I didn't post my story because I was looking for creative solutions to avoiding this predicament in the future but I do find the irony in you picking a fight with me on a post about why I picked a fight for no reason very entertaining. Let's do this again sometime.
Ok, if you say so.
If you post something you invite opinions ( like, I don't know why you didnt just ask them) - but if you are this rude to everyone who responds I can see why you think people are out there picking fights.
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I'm a lover, not a fighter.
..... I thought you should know.0 -
I'd been up 28 hours, was pretty much asleep walking through a store with my ex and his 2 kids. We were standing in line(all 4 of us) and my ex asked me to grab something that had been forgotten. I passed by an older woman(late 50's early 60's) and was probably about a foot from her when I passed her. She hollers out. "You got no manners. Say excuse me!" I know I didn't touch her or get in he way. She just was being a jerk. I was way too tired and just said "You have a good day."
She was then talking to the manager but nothing came of it.....
Always perplexed me. I think a bigger girl wearing a cami was her big issue. I was wearing something like this.
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This didn't happen exactly to me, but I was with a friend and her mom in line at Target, or something, and my friend and her mom were speaking together, in Romanian. An older woman in front of them turned and basically shouted out, "If you gon' be in this country, you gotsa speak English!" She used a few choice slurs for Hispanics and then looked to the cashier for support. My friend's mother, in her awesome thick accent, then proceeded to correct the woman's grammar to general laughter and acclaim from others in line.1
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