Is getting a lap dance considered cheating?

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  • Ben_there_done_that
    Ben_there_done_that Posts: 732 Member
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    Emotions are lame and therefore unimportant to me. I'd be more worried about catching something.
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
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    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    So if your bf buys an escort you think thats not cheating?

    And then it depends on if I'm watching or not.
    Huge difference.
  • inertiastrength
    inertiastrength Posts: 2,343 Member
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    It's not cheating but it is disgusting
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
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    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    So if your bf buys an escort you think thats not cheating?

    yes thats is what he is saying lol
    if his partner had a full blown affair - that would be cheating.
    If his partner had a casual one night stand - thats no issue because no emotions are involved

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  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
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    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    So if your bf buys an escort you think thats not cheating?

    yes thats is what he is saying lol
    if his partner had a full blown affair - that would be cheating.
    If his partner had a casual one night stand - thats no issue because no emotions are involved

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    lol!
  • MrStabbems
    MrStabbems Posts: 3,110 Member
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    ahhh but what about emotional cheating? what if he confides in this stripper his inner most thoughts and feelings but not you?
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
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    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    So if your bf buys an escort you think thats not cheating?

    My husband doesn't have to buy an escort. He can get it for free if he wanted.
    And if I knew about it and was fine with it, then no it's not cheating.


    And there is no sex in lap dance, just teasing.

    So you okay with your man buying sex from a stranger? LOL
  • mechell007
    mechell007 Posts: 97 Member
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    Every relationship is different, every relationship has it's own boundaries. You establish these in the beginning. If both parties aren't following through, there's underlying trust issues developed. Personally, I couldn't care less, I'd be right there enjoying the show. But my definition of inappropriate is obviously different than yours.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
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    Op this thread is gonna get shut down to, main thing is it doesn't matter what we think! We all would handle the situation differently. If YOU think it's cheating then dump him! There's nothing stopping you, just silly to seek out what others think. Because if you want MY opinion, no it's not cheating it's a guy going to a strip club, i go to them to so idc. I feel women who get angry about men going to stripclubs ether have major insecurities and do not trust there man, or it's religious. Ether way you look at it you're hoping people agree with you by making this thread... let's just rip off the bandaid right now. 1. If you don't trust him 2. If you hate how he goes to the girls joints 3. And anything else you have held over his head...DUMP HIM not science to figure out if you're not happy in a relationship or trying to change the other humans personality for your emotional benefit is just wrong....

    Lol girl he already told me he went and got a dance. He asked me if I think its cheating and it got me thinking
  • plaidshirtgirl
    plaidshirtgirl Posts: 58 Member
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    It's not cheating technically but I have had problems with this and I am not okay with it. It is just my two cents. You should discuss with him and set rules.
  • StarvingDiva
    StarvingDiva Posts: 1,107 Member
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    MrStabbems wrote: »
    ahhh but what about emotional cheating? what if he confides in this stripper his inner most thoughts and feelings but not you?

    Is there a lot of deep conversations being had in the champagne room?
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
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    MrStabbems wrote: »
    ahhh but what about emotional cheating? what if he confides in this stripper his inner most thoughts and feelings but not you?

    Is there a lot of deep conversations being had in the champagne room?

    @israttt111 answered this yesterday.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
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    Op this thread is gonna get shut down to, main thing is it doesn't matter what we think! We all would handle the situation differently. If YOU think it's cheating then dump him! There's nothing stopping you, just silly to seek out what others think. Because if you want MY opinion, no it's not cheating it's a guy going to a strip club, i go to them to so idc. I feel women who get angry about men going to stripclubs ether have major insecurities and do not trust there man, or it's religious. Ether way you look at it you're hoping people agree with you by making this thread... let's just rip off the bandaid right now. 1. If you don't trust him 2. If you hate how he goes to the girls joints 3. And anything else you have held over his head...DUMP HIM not science to figure out if you're not happy in a relationship or trying to change the other humans personality for your emotional benefit is just wrong....

    Lol girl he already told me he went and got a dance. He asked me if I think its cheating and it got me thinking

    i thought he was denying it all and wouldn't admit he'd actually gotten one? wasn't that the problem yesterday?

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    Ye he finally told me after I begged him that he went by himself got one dance and left.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
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    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Op this thread is gonna get shut down to, main thing is it doesn't matter what we think! We all would handle the situation differently. If YOU think it's cheating then dump him! There's nothing stopping you, just silly to seek out what others think. Because if you want MY opinion, no it's not cheating it's a guy going to a strip club, i go to them to so idc. I feel women who get angry about men going to stripclubs ether have major insecurities and do not trust there man, or it's religious. Ether way you look at it you're hoping people agree with you by making this thread... let's just rip off the bandaid right now. 1. If you don't trust him 2. If you hate how he goes to the girls joints 3. And anything else you have held over his head...DUMP HIM not science to figure out if you're not happy in a relationship or trying to change the other humans personality for your emotional benefit is just wrong....

    Lol girl he already told me he went and got a dance. He asked me if I think its cheating and it got me thinking

    He finally admitted it? After 2 years?

    Ye I was actually relieved he finally told me, I was more pissed he hid it from me then actually lied about going
  • Ms_Sicilian
    Ms_Sicilian Posts: 531 Member
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    [/quote]

    Lol girl he already told me he went and got a dance. He asked me if I think its cheating and it got me thinking [/quote]

    Good! Now that he told you, you should already know your limits, therefore not need our opinions on the matter and make a healthy adult decision on what you do with this convo not blurt it out on the internet
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
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    lstrat115 wrote: »
    MrStabbems wrote: »
    ahhh but what about emotional cheating? what if he confides in this stripper his inner most thoughts and feelings but not you?

    Is there a lot of deep conversations being had in the champagne room?

    @israttt111 can answer this.

    I should talk to this @israttt111 and compare notes......

    jesus christ - 15 of you.



  • Ben_there_done_that
    Ben_there_done_that Posts: 732 Member
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    Wait, it was two years ago? Who cares now? What, are you guys keeping score or something?
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