Is getting a lap dance considered cheating?

badgyaljilly
badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
When your man/girlfriend gets a lap dance from a stripper do you think that is considered cheating?

(my old thread got deleted) :'(
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  • liftorgohome
    liftorgohome Posts: 25,455 Member
    Hell no. It's just a tease show. All this talk about strip joints, why don't you just give your man what he wants?
  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    Where's my deja vu meme?

    OP, what we think or say doesn't matter. Only you and your boyfriend can sort this out.
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  • RachelElser
    RachelElser Posts: 1,049 Member
    I don't think so
  • Muscle_for_Fitness
    Muscle_for_Fitness Posts: 2,198 Member
    If you tried to write off the expense it would probably be considered cheating on your taxes.
  • MonkeyMel21
    MonkeyMel21 Posts: 2,396 Member
    No, not to us. DH wants to buy me a lap dance next time we go to the club.

    Hmmm, I feel like I should add if it's from a stripper then it's ok, but if it's from a lady friend of ours that I didn't give the OK on, I might feel differently. Who am I kidding, I would always give the OK. Maybe even encourage it.
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.
  • kittkat789
    kittkat789 Posts: 111 Member
    No
  • junodog1
    junodog1 Posts: 4,792 Member
    Yea, I 'd have to stab my DH in the face.
  • Ben_there_done_that
    Ben_there_done_that Posts: 732 Member
    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    That just rocked my world!
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    So if your bf buys an escort you think thats not cheating?
  • liftorgohome
    liftorgohome Posts: 25,455 Member
    Is looking at porn cheating? No touch no cheat.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    tjkita wrote: »
    Is looking at porn cheating? No touch no cheat.

    A lap dance you clearly get touched though
  • StarvingDiva
    StarvingDiva Posts: 1,107 Member
    What your limitations are in a relationship are different from anyone elses. I personally don't find a lap dance cheating, cheating to me has more to do with feelings, intentions and of course the physical act of it.
  • liftorgohome
    liftorgohome Posts: 25,455 Member
    tjkita wrote: »
    Is looking at porn cheating? No touch no cheat.

    A lap dance you clearly get touched though
    Yes but you can't touch them.

  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    So if your bf buys an escort you think thats not cheating?

    My husband doesn't have to buy an escort. He can get it for free if he wanted.
    And if I knew about it and was fine with it, then no it's not cheating.


    And there is no sex in lap dance, just teasing.
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
    edited April 2017
    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    So if your bf buys an escort you think thats not cheating?

    yes thats is what he is saying lol
    if his partner had a full blown affair - that would be cheating.
    If his partner had a casual one night stand - thats no issue because no emotions are involved
  • liftorgohome
    liftorgohome Posts: 25,455 Member
    If you get oral under the white house desk, is that cheating? Bush said no!
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
    it's all dependent on the individual and the couples agreement.

    I personally don't consider it as cheating
  • Ben_there_done_that
    Ben_there_done_that Posts: 732 Member
    Emotions are lame and therefore unimportant to me. I'd be more worried about catching something.
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    So if your bf buys an escort you think thats not cheating?

    And then it depends on if I'm watching or not.
    Huge difference.
  • inertiastrength
    inertiastrength Posts: 2,343 Member
    It's not cheating but it is disgusting
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    So if your bf buys an escort you think thats not cheating?

    yes thats is what he is saying lol
    if his partner had a full blown affair - that would be cheating.
    If his partner had a casual one night stand - thats no issue because no emotions are involved

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  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    So if your bf buys an escort you think thats not cheating?

    yes thats is what he is saying lol
    if his partner had a full blown affair - that would be cheating.
    If his partner had a casual one night stand - thats no issue because no emotions are involved

    c2ysenpiz57x.png

    lol!
  • MrStabbems
    MrStabbems Posts: 3,110 Member
    ahhh but what about emotional cheating? what if he confides in this stripper his inner most thoughts and feelings but not you?
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    I thought we discussed this already.
    No, it's not considered cheating.
    Cheating more emotional than physical. You can cheat and not have sex. You can have sex and not cheat.

    So if your bf buys an escort you think thats not cheating?

    My husband doesn't have to buy an escort. He can get it for free if he wanted.
    And if I knew about it and was fine with it, then no it's not cheating.


    And there is no sex in lap dance, just teasing.

    So you okay with your man buying sex from a stranger? LOL
  • mechell007
    mechell007 Posts: 97 Member
    Every relationship is different, every relationship has it's own boundaries. You establish these in the beginning. If both parties aren't following through, there's underlying trust issues developed. Personally, I couldn't care less, I'd be right there enjoying the show. But my definition of inappropriate is obviously different than yours.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    Op this thread is gonna get shut down to, main thing is it doesn't matter what we think! We all would handle the situation differently. If YOU think it's cheating then dump him! There's nothing stopping you, just silly to seek out what others think. Because if you want MY opinion, no it's not cheating it's a guy going to a strip club, i go to them to so idc. I feel women who get angry about men going to stripclubs ether have major insecurities and do not trust there man, or it's religious. Ether way you look at it you're hoping people agree with you by making this thread... let's just rip off the bandaid right now. 1. If you don't trust him 2. If you hate how he goes to the girls joints 3. And anything else you have held over his head...DUMP HIM not science to figure out if you're not happy in a relationship or trying to change the other humans personality for your emotional benefit is just wrong....

    Lol girl he already told me he went and got a dance. He asked me if I think its cheating and it got me thinking
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