My not so positive side effects of massive weight loss.
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I don't know if this is a troll or not, but this is some real stuff and real issues and I appreciate the honesty. And I'm sure if some are really honest with themselves they can identify with one of his issues after losing weight and reaching their goals.
I agree. Therapy might be in order. And I appreciate how candid and accountable you are. Now I hope you can address these issues and make some changes.5 -
LOL @ $75 haircuts7
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Geocitiesuser wrote: »The community policy forbids me from giving my honest reply to this.
^^^^this also
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I'm surprised about some of the comments in here about HIS experience. It's raw and direct, but he is sharing his revelation. Maybe this could help someone else that is traveling down the same path.11
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Why is this in "Success Stories"?6
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STLBADGIRL wrote: »I don't know if this is a troll or not, but this is some real stuff and real issues and I appreciate the honesty. And I'm sure if some are really honest with themselves they can identify with one of his issues after losing weight and reaching their goals.
I agree. Therapy might be in order. And I appreciate how candid and accountable you are. Now I hope you can address these issues and make some changes.
I wholeheartedly agree. I see no reason to criticize this post. It's someone being brutally honest. How many of us have looked deep enough to be able to list out our character flaws the way he has? That level of self awareness is not very common, especially in a man. And the fact that he can recognize them gives me hope that he will do something about them.
OP, who knows? Maybe your next obsession will be on spiritual and mental self-improvement to go with your new body. I do agree with the others in that seeking out a qualified therapist may help you work through some of these issues.6 -
I like this post. I like that this person is acknowledging a lot of seemingly successful-on-the-outside situations as having other effects. Nothing wrong with someone sharing something they are feeling. It's not like he feels justified or okay feeling the way he does; he clearly struggles with these feelings. I find myself feeling this way too; I love those around me, but it's hard when you're restricting your diet and spending free time on fitness and not judge your "curvy" friends/coworkers who aren't giving a damn about their health.
I still love, them, but...really? Too lazy to even go on a damn walk? Come on.
Are me and OP the only ones who struggle with this dilemma caused by disciplined self-improvement?
If you don't like what OP is saying, then go read another board, maybe? I appreciate his brutal honesty with himself. I find it relatable in a few places and fairly insightful.15 -
I'm surprised so many people are so negative regarding your post. I think you have demonstrated self-awareness and have been honest enough to admit to faults. So many people NEVER do that.
For what it's worth, there are many formerly fat people who now judge fat people very negatively. There are also many people who have never struggled with weight who do exactly the same thing. So that piece of it is not shocking or unusual. Hopefully, you will become more empathetic, but if not...well, we all have character flaws.
As for the rest, I don't think you need therapy. If you want to do it (some people like therapy and benefit from it, others are much better off working through things on their own), then do it, if not, I don't see anything seriously wrong with you that would necessitate it.
The one thing that does concern me is the stimulants...you know they aren't good for your health. So you really should try to wean off of them. BTW, this is also not at all unusual. MANY people in their 20s and 30s take adderrall every day...not because they need it, but because it is very easy to get a prescription and it gives them increased focus so they can excel at school and work and it cuts appetite so they can easily lose/maintain weight. This is also abuse...but so common that most of these people don't see anything wrong with it. Be careful...we don't necessarily know all the health risks that these drugs pose with long term use.
As to the womanizing and the rest...you have had a major life change. You may just need a little more time to get used to being in your new form. If it persists and you find yourself wanting something more, you will change your ways. If not, perhaps this is just the lifestyle you want. As long as you aren't lying to/misleading people, that is simply a lifestyle choice.8 -
Someone (several someones, its a massive thread) in the community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10087100/what-nobody-tells-you-about-losing-weight#latest thread pointed out that losing weight will NOT solve all your problems. It may just reveal more.
Losing weight is a physical change in our bodies.
Your own psychological and personality issues that may be a response to change are a totally different thing that everyone has to deal with sooner or later, because the only thing that never changes, is change.
Most people choose to face the new challenges or problems rather than the ones they were facing due to being overweight.3 -
Hey show us the money!!!
Before & after photo, or I don't believe anything you said
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Why would you come back? Why would you care about any of this anymore? You wouldn't.4
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mom23mangos wrote: »
I wholeheartedly agree. I see no reason to criticize this post. It's someone being brutally honest. How many of us have looked deep enough to be able to list out our character flaws the way he has? That level of self awareness is not very common, especially in a man. And the fact that he can recognize them gives me hope that he will do something about them.
OP, who knows? Maybe your next obsession will be on spiritual and mental self-improvement to go with your new body. I do agree with the others in that seeking out a qualified therapist may help you work through some of these issues.
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I really respect your honesty. It can be confronting to admit to yourself that you're not perfect, and there are aspects of your personality that are not "nice". There are aspects of me that are not nice. I also hate fat people with a kind of pathological disgust, like they're weak and pathetic. I also hate "victims". The kind of people that "things happen to" that they "have no control over". I felt this way when I was fat, and I hated myself the most. I guess I'm just not a nice person.
I guess the bottom line is, really, are you happy with the new, hot, arrogant, stimulant addicted, shallow Charlie? It's okay if you are. Sounds like a bit of a lonely existence though. If your vanity and obsession is isolating you and making you unhappy, then you might need to make some changes. Talk to someone.3 -
I appreciate your honesty I guess1
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Thank you for your honesty. At the end of the day, being a healthy weight will make us a healthy person (most of the time--too many 'supplements' are bad news), and sometimes it helps us mentally. But sometimes it just gives us new insecurities, and new obstacles--or old ones in a new skin--to overcome. I sincerely wish you well and hope get counseling so you can find yourself again. At the very least, you have the self-awareness to look at yourself and see the parts of yourself that you don't like; having seen them, you can work on changing them.
The thing about hating fat people--I'll bet that's pretty common. There is no one so judgemental of Bad Habit XYZ as someone who overcame Bad Habit XYZ.6 -
Not sure why people are responding in an angry fashion, when the OP is clearly not. It's just an opinion.. or do people feel threatened by the opinion of a total stranger? Censorship is just as evil as the subject that it's trying to cover up.7
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There are downsides to weight loss. I know that without a doubt. I've lost about 90 pounds many years ago and just recently 70 pounds. I lost relationships both times. The first time I walked away from a fiancé. This time the long term ex boyfriend.walked away because he couldn't deal with the new me. And the attention. And my vanity. And the drastic change that ensued. There are downsides and they are painful but would I need to stay obese just to make them happy? Or did I change because I was ready to leave that life behind? I still don't know the answer to that question.8
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senor_jeff wrote: »Not sure why people are responding in an angry fashion, when the OP is clearly not. It's just an opinion.. or do people feel threatened by the opinion of a total stranger? Censorship is just as evil as the subject that it's trying to cover up.
It's a troll post, and he's getting what he wanted.2 -
I read your post. I'm sorry you arent't happy.2
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This is the third time I have been back to read this. I am neutral in my thoughts, however sounds like an awful lot of not so positive things which makes me think these underlying positions were already in the makeup of who the person really is inside.
I must add my thoughts says the very first part of the OP says I have not posted in MFP in a long time, etc etc. but this account seems brand new to me.. always leary of what I read online, this even more so (just my opinion).3 -
I believe that losing a significant amount of weight changes personality as well as bmi.
Thank you OP for sharing your experience here.
I'm going to take some time to reflect upon what I've lost and gained from body change.3 -
Seek professional help. ASAP
This is what weight loss did to you and really its not, this is who you are at your core. You see its ugly, now find a way to change it!
Its all you. Plenty of wonderful people here smashing their goals looking fabulous and being a decent human being.
I hope this is a troll post if not, seek help!2 -
leejoyce31 wrote: »I agree regarding troll. I especially don't believe the part about bringing in so much business the firm can't handle the influx. Sounds like a load of stuff to me.
It's not all that hard to believe. Stimulants pay off in the short term and kill in the long term In the 60s it was meth fueling wall street and advertising... in the 80s it was cocaine fueling wall street and junk bonds etc.
Being able to work 25 hours a day is the road to success, It's also the road to addiction and hell.
I don't know whether or not the poster is being entirely veracious or not, but I've known people who lived like that. I also know that this sort of self examination is relatively foreign to someone who's suffering from these sorts of issues.5 -
stanmann571 wrote: »
It's not all that hard to believe. Stimulants pay off in the short term and kill in the long term In the 60s it was meth fueling wall street and advertising... in the 80s it was cocaine fueling wall street and junk bonds etc.
Being able to work 25 hours a day is the road to success, It's also the road to addiction and hell.
I don't know whether or not the poster is being entirely veracious or not, but I've known people who lived like that. I also know that this sort of self examination is relatively foreign to someone who's suffering from these sorts of issues.
He's making a big deal out of ephedra/ine and dmaa, boasting about how his career skyrocketed, and how upset he is that he became james bond with the ladies. I suggest reading OP's trolling with a critical eye. It was designed to trigger people into getting angry and goes to great lengths to hit multiple sensitive areas. None of it is real. And if it is real (which it is not), he has a victim complex. I've flagged the post, and I'm sure others have as well, but for whatever reason the moderators feels this is a "success story" (A bunch of complaining, humble brags, and baiting, to me, is not a success story. At least I don't find it very inspiring).
The worst part is all the people eating it all up, causing the infighting he was hoping for.5 -
Geocitiesuser wrote: »
He's making a big deal out of ephedra/ine and dmaa, boasting about how his career skyrocketed, and how upset he is that he became james bond with the ladies. I suggest reading OP's trolling with a critical eye. It was designed to trigger people into getting angry and goes to great lengths to hit multiple sensitive areas. None of it is real. And if it is real (which it is not), he has a victim complex. I've flagged the post, and I'm sure others have as well, but for whatever reason the moderators feels this is a "success story" (A bunch of complaining, humble brags, and baiting, to me, is not a success story. At least I don't find it very inspiring).
The worst part is all the people eating it all up, causing the infighting he was hoping for.
I don't believe you were justified in flagging his post...but I'll let the moderators sort that out. If they delete it, I think that would be quite sad as it would be censoring an interesting viewpoint. I don't know if it is true or not, but there is nothing there that proves he is trolling. And there is nothing there that should make reasonable people angry. He is critical of himself...not holding himself out as a shining example of what everybody should aspire to.4 -
You were fat, recognized it, didn't like it and changed it. Now, you're an asshat, recognize it, don't like it, so change it.12
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OP welcome to my world brother!!!!!0
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From what I can see, charliet2010 has only posted on MFP on 5 May 2017. Also, on his own admission, he hasn't logged on to MFP for a long time (in fact, from what I can see he has only ever posted twice and that was on 5 May 2017, so perhaps he's not being entirely truthful). His premise about MFP is wrong (in my humble opinion) and I don't understand why he even thought to use MFP to vent (that's not a criticism, we all need to vent sometimes) but it just seems odd. I suspect he will eventually come back down to earth when women start to see through him. He will probably then have a self-effacing period whereby he stacks the weight back on (as many of us, including me, have done) and will call upon us to help. I'm sure we will, as we are such a nice bunch of people.0
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From what I can see, charliet2010 has only posted on MFP on 5 May 2017. Also, on his own admission, he hasn't logged on to MFP for a long time (in fact, from what I can see he has only ever posted twice and that was on 5 May 2017, so perhaps he's not being entirely truthful). His premise about MFP is wrong (in my humble opinion) and I don't understand why he even thought to use MFP to vent (that's not a criticism, we all need to vent sometimes) but it just seems odd. I suspect he will eventually come back down to earth when women start to see through him. He will probably then have a self-effacing period whereby he stacks the weight back on (as many of us, including me, have done) and will call upon us to help. I'm sure we will, as we are such a nice bunch of people.
Re-read his post, he said he doesn't remember his old username.1 -
I actually think the honesty is refreshing...? So, you know.3
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