Not so nice...

I am so sorry that happened to you. The world is FULL of jerks and morons and they tend to say whatever they want (becaues, well, they are jerks and morons). Luckily the world is full of awesome people too, like you!!

I'm so sorry that happened to you! People can be so cruel.

I lost 35 pounds a little over a year ago (I've since gained it all back....). I was within 15 lbs of my goal weight and felt and looked great! I definitely noticed a difference in how people, mostly men, treated me. More people made eye contact with me, smiled, held doors open, etc. At first I thought it was simply because I was skinnier, but I really think it was all about my confidence and how I carried myself. I was feeling good about myself for the first time in a long time, so I held my head higher, probably smiled more and probably just gave off a more outgoing vibe than when I was overweight. I think strangers pick up on that kind of positive attitude and so they treated me a little better. I can't wait to get back there again!

Im so sorry; some people just feel better putting others down. but yes i have been picked on. a lot actually. by my dad, my step mom, and my little sister. it hurts but you do what you gotta do for YOURSELF and tune everyone else out. in the end, no one else is doing it for you, so eff them! right?! keep your head up and care nothing of what people think! you should be proud of yourself for doing what you're doing, going out and trying to lose weight. don't let anyone or anything discourage you! just some words cuz i know how bad it hurts, especially when you're trying to better yourself.

What a terrible thing to have happened to you... some people have no conscience.
You are a far more beautiful person than they will ever be! Stay strong xox

I am so sorry that immature jerks made you feel bad about yourself. But teenagers are so immature and are at that stage in life where looks matter. I promise you when they are older, they will remember saying that to you and feel bad. If they have a soul, they will...lol. But to answer your question....I have definitely noticed being treated differently since gaining a lot of weight. I've been normal weight most of my life, but after two children, I put on a lot of extra pounds and people do treat me differently. Mean people suck!

Oh, I've had enough that it's left me antsy and uncomfortable in public situations. "Sociophobic" is a term my friends use to describe me. I had two teenage boys follow me through a garden center, snorting and grunting like pigs. I've had girls (late teens, maybe early twenties) walk past, then burst into laughter just beyond me, once with a girl saying, quite loudly, "If I ever get that fat, SHOOT ME." It's been so bad and so wrenching that I've been known to skip an aisle in the store if there are skinny girls or younger men there. I once totally lost it--two younger (maybe early to mid twenties) men started on me as I was shopping, with one of them saying, "There's one for ya, Mike, ain't she fine? Mooooooo! There's enough of her we could ALL have a push!" This guy had a pot gut, prominant breasts, stained wife-beater, and was balding. His friend Mike, who was laughing uproariously, had rotting teeth and endless acne. And I came unglued. How dare they? If you're an ADONIS and you start in on me for my looks, then you're JUST an *kitten* jerk who needs a heart. But if you've got your own flaws going on, you're not just a jerk, you're also the worst kind of hypocrite. I let loose, actually followed these guys through the store, shouting at them, sobbing. They wound up fleeing the store, leaving their cart at the checkstand. Had I not had a cart full of groceries, I would have followed them to their car--I was that upset, that angry and hurt. I had people, mostly heavy like me, come over and hug me, tell me I "done good." Had one man in a motorized cart come over, take my hand, and thank me.

It was wrenching, and I don't think I'll ever get over it. I've BEEN thin. I could post pictures of me where I was so lithe and pretty it would make your head spin. And I NEVER went after someone for their weight. EVER. I don't even understand why someone would do that. I try to imagine approaching a perfect stranger who's done NOTHING to me and devastating them like that just for jollies. I almost cry in the contemplation, it makes me feel sick to my stomach.

Kris

I am sorry that you had to endure that...people can be jerks and so rude.

Pam

I've never been thin a day in my life and I've been tested like crap my while life for being fat too but all of that I can handle... What I couldn't handle was the attention I got when I dropped down to 190lbs. I'm very curvy and fairly tall so I was in a medium top and 14 jeans and every creep, including one of the *kitten* holes that used to make my life hell tried to hit on me. I absolutely hated it. I rather people be honest and a jerk than have ulterior motives and be horrible fake people. I was a babysitter at the time and had both of the dads trying to sleep with me even. Just repulsive human behavior. I MUCH rather be fat forever than have to deal with that again but this isn't about me and it isn't about looks... Its about being healthy and a good role model for my daughter and the little one on the way. I just hate people in general I guess... Unless they are awesome mfpers lol

Reading that makes me tear up.. People are so cruel, it's hard to believe it sometimes. Growing up, I was teased and called beluga whale. It still bothers me. I honestly think people are nicer to thin individuals. Idk why that is, but it makes me sad. I'm sorry that happened to you. They are obviously scum of the earth while you are an amazing human being So, smile just knowing you outshine them!

I guess I look at this from the "other" perspective... I've never been overweight. At one point, I even had six-pack abs, which is rarely heard of in women. I'm 5'4 & about 138lbs now. The biggest I've ever been was 172, the day my son was born. At my smallest, I was about 105. I am what many of my male friends call all "t!ts & *kitten*". The fact that I have always been thin hasn't changed the number of people who have treated me terribly... The men are pigs & the women are just straight up hateful. Rarely can a man ever have a conversation with me & actually look at my face... They seem to believe my eyes are located on my chest. I've been smacked, groped & cat-called at in public for as long as I can remember. A couple years ago, I left a construction worker speechless, humiliated & in tears in front of his buddies in the middle of a restaurant after he made some particularly obscene remarks. I've been called a b!tch & a slut by women I don't know, not only because of the attention I receive from men, but because they think that a person cannot possibly be both attractive AND nice. The worst incident came from an older woman who actually SPIT on me while I was walking down the street, after I had just ignored a truck full of men who yelled out the window at me. I really don't think it much matters who you are, what you look like or how much you weigh... People are *kitten* in general & they will always find a reason to criticize and treat you badly.

ys en i was a teenager I was trying to walk across the street, and i had to hurry but didnt want to run cuz someone would laugh at me but i did a little jog and someone in a car hollered "hey little biggy biggy get out of the road" And another time i was waring high heels, I was in the hall at school i took my shoes off a minute and some girl bigger then me i thought ask me "oh the big broke the heelo of her shoes she is so heavy ha ha ah is wha ti heard. It was hard that is just a little bit of the mean things i have heard.

I have never been "obese" but I have weighed 30lbs more than I do now. At my heaviest (172 at 5'5"), no one was outright rude to me, but I noticed that I seemed to have disappeared. Clerks began ignoring me, others began to discount my opinions...it was almost as if I was invisible. I HATED that feeling.

Like a previous poster, I don't know if it was because of the extra weight or because of my lack of self-confidence at that point or a combo of both, but it was really disturbing to me.

I'm sorry you've had to encounter such thoughtless people...those remarks can really stick with a person and replay over and over in your head. I can still feel the sting of a remark that some stupid punk-*kitten* loser kid made to me in junior high

Goodness, my heart goes out to everyone here who has shared an awful story. People are so cruel.

I was bullied nonstop through school for being overweight, and it really affected my self esteem. For years I was terrified to go out in public by myself because I couldn't stand what I thought people were thinking about me. I was very friendly, funny, and charismatic around people I knew, but I just lost it around new people because I assumed they were thinking what all the bullies were saying. I really, truly hated myself and I don't know if I'll ever recover from it. The worst part is that I was never even obese or even that overweight. I had a BMI in the highest range of normal, but still. After high school I gained a lot more weight and then realized how mean people were to me for just being chubby. Heck, I'm that weight now and I look pretty good.

But now, after loosing nearly 50 pounds and moving to a new city where no one knew me as an obese person, I can confirm that people treat me differently. Cashiers and salespeople are more courteous and helpful, I don't get interrupted in conversations, and people actually listen to my ideas and opinions. Plus a steady amount of looks and flirting from guys, and occasionally girls. When I was heavier I was aware that strangers didn't treat me as well, but I wasn't sure if I was imagining it from my low self esteem or not. I think, especially after this thread, that I was not.

Keep your chin up, OP and everyone else here. You are all doing really well to take care of yourself and no jerks deserve to even talk to you to make you feel bad.