Not so nice...

I've always been tall and thin, average looking, and people generally are really nice to me, chat in stores etc. I have a couple of friends who are, and always have been very overweight, and when I shop with them, I can't believe how different they are treated than I am. They have a hard time getting clerks to help them. The clerks try to keep the interactions as short as possible. It's really annoying, because my friend's personalities are no different than mine, it's all about the way they look. My friends don't even realize they're being treated poorly, or differently, because that's what they're used to. Maybe they do realize. I hope not.

Next time you see someone in public who is not what is considered "steroetypically physically attractive", whether it's because of weight, scars, disease, whatever, make an effort to aknowledge them and be friendly if the situation calls for it. Maybe it will help make up for all the jerks that avoid them.

It still happens to me now after losing 50 lbs! I am currently 232 lbs and just walking last week when a group of teenage boys drove by, stuck their heads out, and oinked at me as they drove me. It's actually the most common thing I've had done. 7 years ago I worked really hard and with Weight Watchers, lost 140 lbs. I weighed about 165-170 and was in a gym working out even, and had the exact same thing happen! A group of young, um, jerks got on the ellipticals behind me and oinked for several minutes. The gym staff just watched and said nothing. I walked out crying and never went back. It was the start of gaining it back (other bigger issues though).

Those things will continue to happen since society seems to think it's OK. I will say that as I lost weight then and again now (after gaining 100/ 140 back with a broken heart that I didn't handle well), I had a confidence that did have most people treating me differently. I'll never be the girl that guys chase after or approach but at least they mostly stopped ignoring me once I was below 200 lbs, haha!

Good luck on your journey! Don't let them get you down... we can lose weight and they'll still be stupid!

My dad and sister are obese and had been since I was very young. It was very hard to deal with other people talking about them; although it was nice to make them uncomfortable by saying it was a relative of mine. I don't know how my sister puts up with stuff like that; she's way stronger than I.

People are just simply rude. I was out with some friends, we were going dancing and to karaoke night. It was a narrow walk way, so I was the last to fallow. As we walk by a few guys said "hey ladies, how is it going" and then I walked passed and I got..."oh wow, not you! You're ugly"

Awesome way to start the night lol, it hurt at the time but honestly why do I care? They don't know me, nor would I want them even if they had wanted me. I think the moral to all of the post is that being able to shake it off and be confident and cure all of those hurt words.

I know I have weight to lose, and I know it was be a struggle most days...but I also know that I am smart and that I AM BEAUTIFUL, just like each of you on here, and honestly that is what keeps me going.

Happy monday everyone!

That makes me so angry! Some people are incredibly mean and heartless. You do not deserve that! I'm sure you've heard what I am about to type, and however hard it is to live by, you need to. It's not what people say to you that is upsetting you, it's how you react. Make the decision to not to let it bother you. You have to know that you are a wonderful, loving kind compassionate person and they are scum. Their words mean nothing! Remember that.

i've never been overweight, but i put on weight when i was pregnant and because i started eating healthy and exercising i lost 10kg and got healthier than before i was pregnant. and everyone critises me saying i am anorexic and i lost too much weight too quick. it makes me upset that they cant support me and my healthy lifestyle but theres nothing i can do except keep going the way i am and they will see that its good and it makes me happy!
it can go both ways. but being critisised about your body hurts no matter what.
keep it up!

You are all beautiful.

I'm so sorry for everything that's happened to anyone who's posted here

I know one of my biggest motivations to stay healthy stems from when I was a little kid. From about kindergarten through 6th grade, I was always one of the bigger girls. (I think part of it was from an unhealthy lifestyle, but a lot of it was frankly just being an awkward kid.) Anyway, you know how people say kids can be cruel? Throughout elementary school, people I didn't even know would call me pregnant, or tell me how fat I was or how much my stomach was showing. It really hurt, and I remember crying alone in my room because I was too embarrassed to tell my parents. That's just something you don't forget, you know? Suddenly, puberty hit and I grew up instead of out, but I never forgot how I was treated. Later in life, a rude ex-boyfriend said rather hurtful things about my body, but looking back I know I was completely healthy and he was just mad that I was way too good for him

And I know this goes both ways too- my aunt is a runner, and she's extremely thin. She's very healthy, but I know she's become self-conscious due to snide remarks people give her about how skinny she is. Frankly, she's the healthiest woman I know, and it's awful to see someone who does everything right for her body get rude feedback.

Basically, from all of this, I've learned to never comment negatively on someone's physical appearance. No matter how mad I've ever gotten at anyone, I have never thrown out insults about being fat or too skinny. It can really hurt, and people do remember. I hope that karma comes around and gives whoever insulted any of you what he or she deserves.

The thing is that it doesn't matter whether you are skinny or fat people will always find something to make fun of you for. In school my friend was always big and the guys always made fun of her and I would stick up for her and tell them to f off. But they would also always make fun of me too even though I was small, they would call me Sasquatch and such, really don't know why cause this was before we hit puberty and I am not hairy.......

The thing is people like to find things about others that aren't "right" so they can feel better about themselves. I always found that in school the best and easiest thing to do was pretend you didn't give a s*** and they would leave you alone. As an adult I have found telling them to f off is much more satisfactory!!!!!!:drinker: :laugh:

You are all BEAUTIFUL and always remember that!!!!!:flowerforyou:

At some point in my life I personally started finding this sort of stuff amusing. I mean, I know I'm fat, its not a secret, its something I'm generally aware of, and the very idea that people had to announce it kinda struck me as incredibly stupid... how stupid do you have to be that you find it necessary to announce the obvious to yourself or your friends.

For good or ill they're idiots who are telling you something, its either A. True, something you're aware and either active choose that or are working on it/can't do anything about it, or B. Absolutely false and who the hell cares what some random tosser thinks.

But I'm a weird bird and had to deal with a lot of similar stuff in high school, except in high school it was primarily focused on my choice of clothing or hobbies.

The few times I've had someone call me a fatty or whatever pointless insult they can think of I usually rebuke it with, "Why thank you Captain Obvious, are you going to tell me next the sky is blue and the sun is hot?"