Does your SO know your weight?

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  • rheddmobile
    rheddmobile Posts: 6,840 Member
    I recently passed my husband going downhill! For a long time we were neck and neck since I was cooking healthier food and he was eating it too - and being a man was naturally losing weight without any special effort, just to make me crazy :# but I did pass him eventually and left him in my dust! Seriously though, he has been supportive of me at every weight and told me I was beautiful when I'm pretty sure that objectively I looked awful. And right now his attitude towards my stretch marks and loose skin is, "You should be proud of those, they show how far you've come." So yes, he knows my weight.
  • inertiastrength
    inertiastrength Posts: 2,343 Member
    I don't wake up in the morning and tell him my weight, but he knows it as I've mentioned it before. He's pretty into fitness himself; he could probably tell me my body fat percentage and guess my weight within 5lbs.

  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    edited May 2017
    missvyris wrote: »
    My boyfriend knows and he's the one putting me on a diet. I'm pretty much fine with my weight and body, but he keeps calling me fat.

    He sounds like he's THE one!
  • Savyna
    Savyna Posts: 789 Member
    He knows because after each weigh in I have, I usually tell him (he knows I'm working on weight loss). I haven't told other people though, they just see the results.
  • amyr271
    amyr271 Posts: 343 Member
    I've mentioned it in conversation if the topic arises but I doubt it's information that he has retained. Not a bit deal. I only weigh half a stone less than him which I hate but I don't think he gives two hoots about it all
  • RAinWA
    RAinWA Posts: 1,980 Member
    Mine probably knows but I don't think I've actually ever told him. He's been to a bunch of medical appointments with me lately so I'm sure I've been asked my weight when he was in the room. Now, whether he remembers it or not is another issue. I think baseball stats may have crowded out that info in his brain.
  • hesn92
    hesn92 Posts: 5,966 Member
    edited May 2017
    I don't know. I'm not hiding it from him and would tell him if he asked but it's not something that comes up.
  • hesn92
    hesn92 Posts: 5,966 Member
    missvyris wrote: »
    My boyfriend knows and he's the one putting me on a diet. I'm pretty much fine with my weight and body, but he keeps calling me fat.
    Sounds like a real winner
  • WanderingRivers
    WanderingRivers Posts: 612 Member
    He does and then harangues me for eating less. Says all I need to do is just move more instead of cutting calories.
  • perkymommy
    perkymommy Posts: 1,642 Member
    My husband knows. He isn't with me for what the number on the scales says. :) I don't even think he remembers what it is lol. This is my thing anyway.
  • perkymommy
    perkymommy Posts: 1,642 Member
    missvyris wrote: »
    My boyfriend knows and he's the one putting me on a diet. I'm pretty much fine with my weight and body, but he keeps calling me fat.

    :( how sad
  • __TMac__
    __TMac__ Posts: 1,669 Member
    Yes. We're doing MFP together, and celebrate every new low.

    I can imagine, though, that if I weighed more than him, I'd probably want to keep that to myself.
  • crazyycatladyy1
    crazyycatladyy1 Posts: 156 Member
    Yep, dh knows what my maintenance range is because I've mentioned it to him.
  • livingleanlivingclean
    livingleanlivingclean Posts: 11,751 Member
    SCoil123 wrote: »
    He does. He also helps me take my measurements and vice versa.

    Yup, mine too.

    When I first started my weight loss journey, one of my biggest hopes was to be lighter than him.
  • elphie754
    elphie754 Posts: 7,574 Member
    Yes, both of my SOs know my weight and I know theirs.
  • chunky_pinup
    chunky_pinup Posts: 758 Member
    Uhhhh....yeah, he knows my weight...or a general idea I suppose the last time the number came up. We support each other. However, we don't subscribe to the social beliefs that your weight determines your value. We don't stigmatize a number, so it's never been something that we've had to associate shame or pride in.
  • elphie754
    elphie754 Posts: 7,574 Member
    missvyris wrote: »
    My boyfriend knows and he's the one putting me on a diet. I'm pretty much fine with my weight and body, but he keeps calling me fat.

    I know why most have trouble with this statement, but jumping right to telling them the dump them is a bit extreme. They could be comfortable in their body, but obese and their loved one wants them to be more healthy. We don't know the full story. Also-some people enter controlling relationships willingly, not anyone's place to judge.
  • LonniJay
    LonniJay Posts: 3,740 Member
    Yes he knows and I know his. We are working towards being healthier together.
  • MonkeyMel21
    MonkeyMel21 Posts: 2,396 Member
    He knows mine and I know his and none of it really matters to us, just that we're healthy.
  • purpleychick
    purpleychick Posts: 39 Member
    Mine does - we're going through this journey together. I've got the best cheerleader in the world and even when the scale goes up, he's very supportive and helps me work that much harder. I know that he loves me no matter what the number, but know the healthier we are the longer we can love on each other.
  • MizMimi111
    MizMimi111 Posts: 244 Member
    edited May 2017
    elphie754 wrote: »
    missvyris wrote: »
    My boyfriend knows and he's the one putting me on a diet. I'm pretty much fine with my weight and body, but he keeps calling me fat.

    I know why most have trouble with this statement, but jumping right to telling them the dump them is a bit extreme. They could be comfortable in their body, but obese and their loved one wants them to be more healthy. We don't know the full story. Also-some people enter controlling relationships willingly, not anyone's place to judge.

    There is a difference between entering into a mutually consenting controlling relationship and having your SO call you fat and put you on a diet.

  • roxskow
    roxskow Posts: 29 Member
    missvyris wrote: »
    My boyfriend knows and he's the one putting me on a diet. I'm pretty much fine with my weight and body, but he keeps calling me fat.

    Sounds like it's time for a new boyfriend!
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    missvyris wrote: »
    My boyfriend knows and he's the one putting me on a diet. I'm pretty much fine with my weight and body, but he keeps calling me fat.

    Leave him now.
  • elphie754
    elphie754 Posts: 7,574 Member
    MizMimi111 wrote: »
    elphie754 wrote: »
    missvyris wrote: »
    My boyfriend knows and he's the one putting me on a diet. I'm pretty much fine with my weight and body, but he keeps calling me fat.

    I know why most have trouble with this statement, but jumping right to telling them the dump them is a bit extreme. They could be comfortable in their body, but obese and their loved one wants them to be more healthy. We don't know the full story. Also-some people enter controlling relationships willingly, not anyone's place to judge.

    There is a difference between entering into a mutually consenting controlling relationship and having your SO call you fat and put you on a diet.

    Again, only part of the story.
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