Do you have confidence in your body?

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  • abrubru
    abrubru Posts: 137 Member
    To quote Ronda Rousey, "there isn't a muscle in my body that isn't developed for a purpose".

    And to finish Rousey's quote..."and none of that purpose is for pleasing a man." Ironically, it is when you stop trying to please the people around you, and you start challenging yourself by doing new and difficult things that you develop confidence, and while most people here on MFP gain their confidence doing new and difficult PHYSICAL things, you can also increase your confidence by overstepping your emotional and mental boundaries. Good luck!
  • gamerbabe14
    gamerbabe14 Posts: 876 Member
    Stop worrying about what other people think of you. Life is too short to give a *kitten* and people are so self absorbed they don't care what you look like. Listen to the person that loves you the most, your boyfriend.
  • eszabo1
    eszabo1 Posts: 4 Member
    Yeah, I have a pretty good body. I'm comfortable wearing almost nothing. It's funny because the source of my insecurity has always been my small boobs, while most people focus on losing the fat that they have. There's always something to complain about.
  • michael1976_ca
    michael1976_ca Posts: 3,488 Member
    nope never had it. i felt this way even when i was skinny
  • Purplebunnysarah
    Purplebunnysarah Posts: 3,252 Member
    My self-worth is not defined by my appearance. Sure, I'm aware that I have a ways to go before I'm in a healthy weight range and I know that my physical form isn't conventionally attractive. But I'm so much more than what I look like. I'm smart, good at my job, a leader. I serve my community in a few ways. I set goals and I achieve them, even though I've experienced setbacks along the way. I'm proud of myself for the sum total of what I've achieved, and the presence or absence of a few pounds isn't going to change that.
  • slider728
    slider728 Posts: 1,494 Member
    edited May 2017
    God no. My biggest fear if I ever got divorced is not losing everything, but rather it would mean that eventually I would have to get naked in front of someone new again. That thought petrifies me.

    When it comes to physical strength, I am fairly weak and in bad shape (was injured in 2015) but I would have the confidence to jump into a Spartan Race or another OCR and get it done.

    As far as if I perceive if I am good looking and/or have a good body? I'd say my confidence is extremely low. I don't see myself as attractive and I sure as heck know I am overweight. The funny thing is that I thought the same thing when I was actually in pretty incredible shape.
  • AnvilHead
    AnvilHead Posts: 18,343 Member
    edited May 2017
    Yes and no.

    Yes, because my body currently looks the best I've ever looked in my life - even better than in my teens/twenties (and I turn 55 this year). I'm perfectly comfortable looking forward to spending this summer on the lake in swim trunks and no shirt. I'll be far from the best looking body on the beach, but I have nothing to be ashamed of either.

    No, because I know I still have plenty of room for improvement. I'll never attain perfection, but I refuse to settle for 'good enough' when I can aim for 'exceptional'.
  • neldabg
    neldabg Posts: 1,452 Member
    Yep. I have a ton of confidence in my body. Even when I was obese I had a tendency to think that I was the best. Of course I don't go around telling people I think I'm awesome on the inside and outside, but I do feel that way.
    As others have written, weight alone won't give you that confidence. At 160 lbs, you're likely not so huge that people are thinking poorly of you, and even if they were, it wouldn't matter. You can never please anyone and this is YOUR life so you deserve to feel happy and confident in yourself.
  • tlee278
    tlee278 Posts: 35 Member
    I don't think weight loss is the magic cure to "having confidence in your body." It requires loving YOURSELF for who you are within....that is where the confidence comes from!!
    Give yourself acceptance and know that whatever appearance that you have on the outside is the byproduct of how much love you have for yourself on the inside!
    I'm on this journey to change my health. As I get older and see the health issues that my parents have, it's about taking care of me and being the best that I can be so I can be there for my loved ones.
    It took me a long time to learn that and I still remind myself of that every day.
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