Dating while overweight??

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  • tracer1808
    tracer1808 Posts: 10 Member
    I was 60 lbs heavier when I first dated my wife. Now, after 2 kids she got pretty heavier and I got much more in shape, but we still get along just fine :D
  • lolakinks
    lolakinks Posts: 431 Member
    I had lots of date, through online dating while I'm obese (I'm still on the border obese-overweight). I had dates with lots of cute, handsome, smart and even so much muscular or skinny guys. No need to be insecure, being confident is hot :)
  • Fflpnari
    Fflpnari Posts: 975 Member
    Im 23 and don't like to date because of my size, guys tend not to care but i do. Im very insecure
    I like these responses though
  • nFoooo
    nFoooo Posts: 136 Member
    edited May 2017
    MarvinsAMartian wrote: »
    Anyone who feels the need to comment about your looks during a date (or at any time) is a garbage human being.

    Well I agree about commenting but having a preference for non-fat people is fine.
  • MarvinsAMartian
    MarvinsAMartian Posts: 236 Member
    nFoooo wrote: »
    MarvinsAMartian wrote: »
    Anyone who feels the need to comment about your looks during a date (or at any time) is a garbage human being.

    Well I agree about commenting but having a preference for non-fat people is fine.

    That goes without saying (or should).
  • arcornell09
    arcornell09 Posts: 41 Member
    I feel incredibly insecure right now so right now it's all about confidence, I know it'll come back with time and I hope when i'm ready I'm able to meet the right one.
  • LilMissEtta
    LilMissEtta Posts: 14 Member
    i don't talk to men, im very obese, so no dating for me :(
  • DancingMoosie
    DancingMoosie Posts: 8,619 Member
    I dated and married my husband while "overweight". I gained even more in the first year. It was my decision to lose weight, and I did and do it for myself. He loves me at every weight. You have to love yourself and do what makes you happy. Find someone who will like and love you for YOU, not your weight.
  • Aarjono
    Aarjono Posts: 228 Member
    Since I've gained weight, men don't seem to see me as dating material. It could also be that I'm old...er.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,340 Member
    I started dating my husband when I was quite obese, got more obese while we were dating and have now lost a lot. At no stage did I ever feel that I shouldn't have been dating someone because I was overweight.
  • TonyB0588
    TonyB0588 Posts: 9,520 Member
    sarahthes wrote: »
    I say go for it. I mean, this is my wedding photo, and I got a bit heavier the year following our wedding. Coming up on 12 years of marriage in about 6-7 weeks. I was about that size when we started dating too.

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    Congrats on your 12 years of marriage. And you did look like a happy couple in that wedding photo.
  • bbell1985
    bbell1985 Posts: 4,571 Member
    I was overweight from the time I was 12-29 years old. So I did most of my dating overweight. Had no trouble.

    I am more insecure NOW actually, because a couple pounds can really show up in a dress. Or if I'm bloated and not feeling super lean, I can get a bit insecure. Before, it just was what it was.
  • TonyB0588
    TonyB0588 Posts: 9,520 Member
    AngelaOStrong wrote: »
    Hey y'all!,
    I was curious to see how people felt about this, because I have been offered so many invites to dates and I keep declining them just for this reason.
    1. How was dating while you were overweight/are overweight?
    2. Does it make you insecure to date while not feeling you look good?
    Please give me anything you can that will make me step out of my comfort zone!

    I am supposed to go on a date tonight, but I feel as though my own insecurities of my weight are going to stop me. This probably doesn't help, but I did look on Reddit and google and in general, the answers were not so pretty.
    Please no meanies! I am probably just your typical 20 year old girl who is full of confidence issues! :):)

    Is this a blind date, or has the person seen you before? If they've seen you and still invited you, then you've already passed the first hurdle. Please don't think negative thoughts of yourself if someone has expressed a positive interest in you.

    You didn't say how heavy you are, or how much overweight you are, but there's much more to a person than actual numbers. Let your personality show itself, and the weight may become a small detail of no consequence.
  • eyer0ll
    eyer0ll Posts: 313 Member
    The past 15 years of my weight and dating history is as follows: Was thin; met a person; got thinner/fitter; broke up after four years and lots of unhappiness/self-doubt; put on a few pounds; met a different person; put on some more weight; got married to the person; put on a lot (A LOT) of weight; still deliriously happily married to the person after 10 years; now I weigh everything I eat.

    There's no correlation between weight and the quality of a relationship. Dating and relationships are part of life and I didn't stop doing other normal, part-of-life things (working, paying rent, going to the store, going out with friends) just because I was fat, so I didn't stop dating, either. It's worked out well for me.

    Have fun this weekend!
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