Is my marriage depressing me or is my depression ruining my marriage?
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Motorsheen wrote: »tmanfromtexas wrote: »work_on_it wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »
Therapists make you gay:-)
I can't stop laughing....
Yeah and some uptight *kitten* hole flagged it. What a pity...
some folks take themselves waaay too seriously
Thats true... or it may just have been a gay thing.0 -
tmanfromtexas wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »tmanfromtexas wrote: »work_on_it wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »
Therapists make you gay:-)
I can't stop laughing....
Yeah and some uptight *kitten* hole flagged it. What a pity...
some folks take themselves waaay too seriously
Thats true... or it may just have been a gay thing.
I don't discriminate when it comes to snowflakes.
they're all equally sensitive cupcakes in my book.....1 -
@tmanfromtexas wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »tmanfromtexas wrote: »work_on_it wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »
Therapists make you gay:-)
I can't stop laughing....
Yeah and some uptight *kitten* hole flagged it. What a pity...
some folks take themselves waaay too seriously
Thats true... or it may just have been a gay thing.
That's what my therapist said.1 -
SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »@tmanfromtexas wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »tmanfromtexas wrote: »work_on_it wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »
Therapists make you gay:-)
I can't stop laughing....
Yeah and some uptight *kitten* hole flagged it. What a pity...
some folks take themselves waaay too seriously
Thats true... or it may just have been a gay thing.
That's what my therapist said.
At my first session, my therapist asked that I take a seat on their sofa.
I replied: Ut oh....
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You can combat depression by recognizing the many good things in your life, the things that make you happy, make you positive, lift you up and keep you positive. Once you do this, you will be able to answer your own question.
Remember...We and only we can make ourselves happy no matter what the circumstances, Those around us who we can enjoy and Love are just a bonus!
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FabulousFantasticFifty wrote: »You can combat depression by recognizing the many good things in your life, the things that make you happy, make you positive, lift you up and keep you positive. Once you do this, you will be able to answer your own question.
Remember...We and only we can make ourselves happy no matter what the circumstances, Those around us who we can enjoy and Love are just a bonus!
.... I guess you missed the part about her being married, huh?
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Personally , Jesus is the one who truly makes me happy, even if I'm depressed or having a rough relationship in our marriage. Been married 44yrs6
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FabulousFantasticFifty wrote: »You can combat depression by recognizing the many good things in your life, the things that make you happy, make you positive, lift you up and keep you positive. Once you do this, you will be able to answer your own question.
Remember...We and only we can make ourselves happy no matter what the circumstances, Those around us who we can enjoy and Love are just a bonus!
Are you being sarcastic? Maybe you're being sarcastic.
If you're not, please recognize that this is possibly the most unhelpful and counterproductive piece of advice you could possibly have come up with.3 -
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OP, much love to you. I get it. I've been there. Depression lies to you. It's a never-ending cycle of suck. YOU have to break the cycle, and asking a depressed person to find the initiative to do it is asking way too much. I know. Call someone.
Your doctor is a good place to start. An Employee Assistance Service, if your employer or your husband's has one. Even your insurance company might have a hotline - and it's been 11 years and I still remember the lovely woman at the other end of the United Healthcare hotline who listened to me, found me a covered provider, and stayed on the line until I had an appointment. I wish I could tell that woman what a difference she made in my life when nobody else seemed to be hearing me.
You can do this.7 -
I truly appreciate your advice. Thank you1
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I'm definitely not gay, but I do have a therapist. I am medicated. I've been working on my depression for years, but I still feel so low. This is what led me to wonder if maybe it's just that I'm truly unhappy in my marriage. Which breaks my heart, bc I love him and want it to work. But I'm not willing to give up a lifetime of happiness for it. I spoke to my husband today. It was the most difficult thing I've ever had to do. He was understanding and supportive. He assures me my happiness is what's most important to him. (see why I love him). I'm going to my Dr on Monday and I'm going to try one last medication. I'm going to give it a few months and work really hard on it with both my therapist and my husband. But if in the end I'm still unhappy we will talk about separation. A few months ago it was mentioned by my Dr that I show alot of bipolar symptoms. Which would explain alot. So this new medication could be life changing. Who the *kitten* knows. I'll probably die crazy and alone.2
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Nicoleybh77 wrote: »I'm definitely not gay, but I do have a therapist. I am medicated. I've been working on my depression for years, but I still feel so low. This is what led me to wonder if maybe it's just that I'm truly unhappy in my marriage. Which breaks my heart, bc I love him and want it to work. But I'm not willing to give up a lifetime of happiness for it. I spoke to my husband today. It was the most difficult thing I've ever had to do. He was understanding and supportive. He assures me my happiness is what's most important to him. (see why I love him). I'm going to my Dr on Monday and I'm going to try one last medication. I'm going to give it a few months and work really hard on it with both my therapist and my husband. But if in the end I'm still unhappy we will talk about separation. A few months ago it was mentioned by my Dr that I show alot of bipolar symptoms. Which would explain alot. So this new medication could be life changing. Who the *kitten* knows. I'll probably die crazy and alone.
Let me ask you a couple questions and I don't want you to answer I just want you to think about it. . .do these feelings predate your marriage? Think back before you met your husband, before you were together, and really try to remember if you ever felt like this before. Is it just your marriage you are unhappy with or is it everything? Do the things that should make you happy make you happy? I would think about the answers to those questions if I were in your shoes.
My anecdotal story: I have struggled with depression all my life. When depressed everything seems 'too much' for lack of better words and nothing makes me happy. I have questioned my job, my relationship, my very existence because of depression, but then it passes (again for lack of better terms) and I realize none of that is really how I feel.
I would work with the doctor to get the correct medication and see if you can't at least break out of this depression before making any decisions.2 -
If your depressed than that will impact on your marriage. if your marriage isn't making you feel good then this could also make you feel depressed.
You need to identify the cause of your depression to make sense of it. Book a weekend away to think about it.
You will eventually get out of it & feel better. Although it might not feel like it just yet.
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My first marriage didn't work out because it got boring.. but boring is the word 90% of my married friends describe marriage as well... you need change!1
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@Nicoleybh77 wrote: »I truly appreciate your advice. Thank you
Who's? I think mine was the best.0 -
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